Kirstie Alley loved Patrick Swayze, but didn't sleep with him
November 6th, 2012
02:36 PM ET

Kirstie Alley loved Patrick Swayze, but didn't sleep with him

If you caught Kirstie Alley's interview on "Entertainment Tonight" Monday, you might be a little confused about her past relationship Patrick Swayze.

Alley was discussing some of the topics covered in her new book, "The Art of Men," when talk turned to the late "Dirty Dancing" actor, who died in 2009.

According to Alley, she and Swayze first met at a table read for "North and South," a 1985 TV miniseries, and they soon developed a relationship - even though both of them were married.

"We were creating a future together," she told "ET." "Both of us were married. We did not have an affair. But again, I think what I did was worse. Because I think when you fall in love with someone when you're married, you jeopardize your own marriage and their marriage. It's doubly bad."

To be clear, the 61-year-old "DWTS" contender tweeted Tuesday, she didn't have "an affair" with her pal Swayze.

And for that matter, their "story" "did NOT include SEX," she posted. "Like is complex. How we think. What we wanted to do but didn't. How we justify our mistakes. I tried to portray this journey in my book."

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  1. betty wilkerson

    They are only human i believe he did sleep with her and all of the other c0 stars even jennifer grey..... I know his wife knows about them all .... But loved him enough to stay... She is a great woman to stick by him .... He is all she knows ...... Maybe now she can move on with her life .... I sure love me some patrick cant believe he is gone .... Lost my husband in 7. 22 '2012 same way ..... So i feel lisa pain......

    June 27, 2013 at 4:28 am | Report abuse |
  2. MelissaBrown

    I don't see the big deal here.

    November 11, 2012 at 5:01 pm | Report abuse |
  3. symone says

    wow. i saw this little tidbit on a show yesterday (which show's name i will not admit in public, but it's in the morning and it's a bunch of famous women sitting around gossiping :-/) ... they mentioned this kirstie alley thing and .... i am flabbergasted. at first i said there is absolutely no reason on the planet to say something like this, about a man who has passed, whose loving wife is still living and allegedly is your friend.

    then i said, well, i guess if she's got a book coming out, i can see saying that type of no nsense, but still this is not the type of thing a person with class and compassion would say. and then i heard that in fact she does have a book coming out.

    kirstie, if you're reading, and i have to assume that you are since you appear to think the world is all about you: i have stood behind you and supported you with compassion and empathy even when you said and did stupid things. i supported you through your divorce. i supported you through that stupid oscar speech although i thought it was dorky-cute at the time, i supported you through the weight loss issues and even when maks dropped you on DWTS,

    you have absolutely used up ever single last drop of compassion and support that i have had for you. clearly, you have no compassion or feelings and believe that you can say such a potentially-devastating thing about a dead man and still lay claim to being close friends with his wife. lisa niemi seems like a class act, so i do expect to hear her come forth with some sort of statement about how she has compassion for you and blah blah blah doesn't hold your insensitivity against you, etc.

    to me, i will now just scoff when i see you on tv whining about something or trying to sell something. you svck.

    November 10, 2012 at 5:43 am | Report abuse |
  4. DJ

    Who didn't love Patrick. He was worth just looking at and admiring. Glad he was true to his marriage vows.

    November 9, 2012 at 2:24 pm | Report abuse |
  5. RobertM.

    i'd take her.

    November 8, 2012 at 1:15 pm | Report abuse |
  6. Nooooooooooooo

    maks is taking it...

    November 8, 2012 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  7. john

    Too little too late. You are going to tell me a red blooded American man said , "no"
    I highly doubt it.....

    November 8, 2012 at 12:24 pm | Report abuse |
  8. Jujubeans

    typos much?

    November 7, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
  9. Patrick S.

    is rumored to have been with demi moore..spare me...the man was georgous...he is rumored to have had affairs.
    deal with it.

    November 7, 2012 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  10. Jane

    of course she felt an attraction,but should not have told it to the public and thought of Lisas feelings.

    November 7, 2012 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  11. mp

    kirsty you are so low, hoping you will be voted off next week

    November 7, 2012 at 12:31 pm | Report abuse |
  12. Chata Dumas

    Kirstie should be ashamed of herself. The love and devotion between Patrick (R*I*P) and his wife is something that should not be messed with. Of course she fell for him, he was charismatic person. Whatever friendship developed between them, if there was no affair, then why talk about him in such a way as to have people assume that there may have been one, only to impress the point that there wasn't one? The things some people will do for attention. She is very disrespectful of his widow and his memory to his many adoring fans. Shame on Kirstie Alley!!!

    November 7, 2012 at 12:28 pm | Report abuse |
  13. maks

    i hope she bangs maks until he can't see straight for days

    November 7, 2012 at 11:00 am | Report abuse |
  14. David Trust

    Kirstie, please get into acting. Take classes, find an old wealthy, desperate director to take you in, and make lots of lots of skid row movies. And leave television alone. You're trying to hard to be Shelly Winters. You're not! Even she has more class than you do. It's sad when people like you hit so far down to rock bottom, that the only way up (they think) is through pulling everyone else down. I'm guessing they'll end up finding your body on the shore in Redondo some evening.

    November 7, 2012 at 10:10 am | Report abuse |
  15. KirstieAlleysBigButt

    Here I am, talking out loud again. This chick is always talking out of her big butt.

    November 7, 2012 at 9:32 am | Report abuse |
  16. Rock

    Id screw that chunky broad raw

    November 7, 2012 at 9:21 am | Report abuse |
  17. Meh

    how does Kirstie remember anything from the 80's with all that coke that went up her nose?

    November 7, 2012 at 9:16 am | Report abuse |
  18. Daverelentless

    Swayze was wise to keep Alley at the end of a 10 foot pole. What a mess she is.

    November 7, 2012 at 9:13 am | Report abuse |
    • Alpha

      Way to throw Swayze under the bus. He may already be dead, but he just got run over.

      November 7, 2012 at 10:09 am | Report abuse |
    • sally knauer

      kristie why in the hell would patrick swayze want to love her when he had a beautiful wife lisa lisa is more of a women then kristey get real what was he thinking

      September 7, 2013 at 2:23 pm | Report abuse |
  19. Love Kirstie...

    want to hear more about her affair with maks

    November 7, 2012 at 9:12 am | Report abuse |
  20. S Kyle

    Poor Kirstie. She's like the white Star Jones.

    November 7, 2012 at 7:38 am | Report abuse |
  21. its a cover up

    i heard they had a affair and now she's trying to cover it up...with the press....this is going to get worse and the truth will come out very soon

    November 7, 2012 at 4:24 am | Report abuse |
  22. musingsover40

    very disrespectful to his widow. Some things are best left unsaid. Kirstie you should have kept your big trap shut and stuck to dancing or something,

    November 7, 2012 at 3:38 am | Report abuse |
  23. Delilah

    Kirstie just confirmed my suspisions that she is a nut case.

    November 7, 2012 at 2:12 am | Report abuse |
  24. cj

    What a selfish thing to say! What is Kristie trying to prove? Get over yourself. You could never hold a candle to LIsa!

    November 7, 2012 at 1:34 am | Report abuse |
  25. Trisha

    Is anything or anyone sacred to this woman anymore?? She is so desperate for attention! First its Travolta and now its Patrick too? Whatever. I wish she had just STHU and let us have that dream that he and Lisa had the marriage we believed!

    November 7, 2012 at 1:00 am | Report abuse |
  26. Ana

    Just the other day she was talking about how John Travolta was the love of her life. I'm amazed that her marriage lasted as long as it did seeing how busy she was falling in love with every man she met. I suppose Ted Danson's next.

    November 6, 2012 at 11:40 pm | Report abuse |
  27. Tenew


    November 6, 2012 at 10:57 pm | Report abuse |
  28. myuntidydesk

    Did Kirstie ever stop and think how this revelation might make Patrick's widow feel? Even if she knew (if it was true... which I somehow doubt)... as usual she only thinks of herself. It is amazing to me how often she is saying she respects marriage... how hard she tried in her marriages. Give me a break!

    November 6, 2012 at 10:52 pm | Report abuse |
    • Suz

      Exactly. So self-centered, self-serving behavior. But somehow, I am not surprised.

      November 6, 2012 at 11:39 pm | Report abuse |
  29. Kathy

    Kirstie, You are now among the lowest of the low. Shame on you. You have now lost what little and I do mean "little" respect anyone ever had for you. What a mean low down dirty thing to do.

    November 6, 2012 at 10:49 pm | Report abuse |
  30. Delilah

    What a low class thing to talk about. Kirstie's marriage did eventually break up, but Patrick's did not. If what she is saying is true, and I have my doubts, the woman Patrick was married to is now his widow. Show some respect for the love that sustained them through the worst of times. No matter what Kirstie says, Patrick stayed with Lisa. To come out now with a tale like this, after the man has died and cnnot comment, is just tremendously poor judgement. Bad Kirstie, very bad.

    November 6, 2012 at 9:59 pm | Report abuse |
  31. Rachel

    You all took the words right out of my mouth! If this is true, why did she even bring this up? The man is not here to defend himself and now she thinks his wife is NOT going to say anything to her? On another yahoo article she says she is still friends with his wife but didn't think she knew about their relation ship with each other. Well Lisa knows now doesn't she.! Nice thing to do by giving this dead mans wife some ill feelings to remember him by.. What a witch!

    November 6, 2012 at 9:17 pm | Report abuse |
  32. Calvin Klein

    is having a sale for women's underwear at nordstroms–

    November 6, 2012 at 9:07 pm | Report abuse |
  33. kim

    No class all the way. Does anyone ever consider ANTHING private anymore? Why would Kirstie Alley bring this out now and risk hurting someone she says she considered a friend? Does she think that just because Swayze is dead and his wife is trying to get on with her life that all bets are now off and it is okay to make claims that NOONE can prove or disprove? From what I have read about Swayze, he was a pretty high class guy – who maybe just didn't want anything to do with a low class gal like her!

    November 6, 2012 at 8:38 pm | Report abuse |
    • barbara king

      I have always been a great fan of Kirstie, but this revelation is hurtful to many, probably extremely upsetting to Swayze's widow, and totally something, if true, that she could have and should have continued to keep to herself. It served no purpose by its design, but to show that she is mean, attention seeking person. There is something missing in her life.
      I'm truly disappointed in her.

      November 6, 2012 at 9:11 pm | Report abuse |
  34. Hllama

    nobody throws baby in the corner!!

    November 6, 2012 at 8:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • Rene

      That's "puts Baby in the corner," not throws! Nobody beat Baby up that I can recall.

      November 7, 2012 at 4:25 pm | Report abuse |
  35. No...never said it was right

    if I ever committed to an affair it would have to be totally "underground" .... no wife....the whole point of an affair is no strings and hot x.

    November 6, 2012 at 7:51 pm | Report abuse |
  36. martha

    so kiss-and-tell is okay? and she says she is 'friends' with Lisa? Doesn't matter if it is true and how far it went, Kirstie missed a good chance to be quiet–it's respect, courtesy, 'do unto others . . .' - shoe on the other foot, how would she feel? and if she really cared about Patrick, why is she besmirching his memory? ego trip.

    November 6, 2012 at 7:35 pm | Report abuse |
  37. frump

    he made the move..she wanted to clear it up by saying now....

    November 6, 2012 at 7:34 pm | Report abuse |
  38. Nope

    Nope you don't fake that stuff

    November 6, 2012 at 7:18 pm | Report abuse |
  39. Sandy

    I don't believe her for a minute. Anybody could say that. I think it was all in her own mind.

    November 6, 2012 at 7:15 pm | Report abuse |
  40. you women are so jealous of each

    other it just amazes she still wants x in her 60's ... her body looks great so what you people are a bunch of
    frump heads...a guy i work with said he'd take people are so jealous

    November 6, 2012 at 7:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • Rachel

      I know I am not jealous of her, but what she did is so unclassy. I don't know if you're married but how would you feel if the person you loved died and a person who is supposed to be your friend brings something up like this? There was no reason for it. I'd know I'd feel bad if someone told me they had an affair with my husband after he was dead and he's not here to defend himself. It's not Kirstie I am jealous of , what upsets me is because there was no reason to do this... now

      November 6, 2012 at 9:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • JDintheOC

      The guy you work with would probably do "anybody" from 8 to 80 because he's s shmuck!

      November 6, 2012 at 10:51 pm | Report abuse |
    • Grow Up Rachel

      he was a good looking guy. end of story–patrick is rumored to have a few affairs...demi moore was another

      November 7, 2012 at 1:08 pm | Report abuse |
  41. rumor around da city is

    she banging maks...

    November 6, 2012 at 7:06 pm | Report abuse |
  42. Mr.T

    Oh Kirstie you wacky Scientologist.

    November 6, 2012 at 6:22 pm | Report abuse |
  43. ironman666

    what a looser for a woman just a pig with lip stick

    November 6, 2012 at 6:17 pm | Report abuse |
    • WeeWeeWeeWee

      oink oink oink. Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!

      November 6, 2012 at 6:25 pm | Report abuse |
    • Rene

      She's a "looser?" Hmm...maybe there IS some loose skin on her since she lost a lot of weight. She's also a LOSER

      November 7, 2012 at 4:27 pm | Report abuse |
  44. disappointed

    My opinion of Alley fell long before today, started back when her publicity and yoyo dieting seemed tied to an increasingly yoyo personality. I'm thinking this "romance" was all in her head. Swayze a;ways struck me as a stand-up guy, I respected him for being in a long term successful marriage and respected his wife for sticking with him through to the end. When you have a good looking gentleman actor interacting with a flake, who's going to read between the lines of respect and joviality but the flake? This "news" might be great for selling a tell all book, but tell all books say a lot about publicity queens. The guy isn't around to defend or deny and it wouldn't help much anyway. I feel bad for Lisa. IMHO, no way Patrick would risk losing Lisa. Here's hoping any "sparks" Alley saw were from clicking flint in her trailer to light a cigarette.

    November 6, 2012 at 6:17 pm | Report abuse |
  45. katie

    tacky to bring it up now, Kirstie. He is not here to tell his side of the story and now his family has to hear this crap not knowing what the truth was. Kirstie is alway about getting attention for herself!!!!

    November 6, 2012 at 6:16 pm | Report abuse |
  46. susan

    Just lost a ton of respect for Ms. Alley. This is not stuff you talk about ever when there's a widow involved.

    November 6, 2012 at 6:13 pm | Report abuse |
    • symone says

      100% agree. as far as i'm concerned, she can just go back to that trailer in kansas. apparently she never really went very far from it.

      November 10, 2012 at 5:48 am | Report abuse |
  47. Why Now?

    Why does she have to reveal this so-called relationship with Patrick Swayze NOW? Just to sell a book? Have some respect. The guy passed away not too long ago and he was married for a very long time. How do you think his wife is going to feel reading about this? Maybe she knew, maybe not...but why say anything now? He's not here to verify her claim anyways. So, should we even believe it?

    November 6, 2012 at 5:58 pm | Report abuse |
    • Cheryl Harrington

      I agree! Why do this? Kristy hurt so many people, she is selfish and cruel. Or maybe she is just ignorant and stupid.

      November 6, 2012 at 6:13 pm | Report abuse |
    • Maude

      You are so right. I lost alot of respect for her now too. She's just trying to sell her book at Lisa's expense.

      November 6, 2012 at 6:37 pm | Report abuse |
    • Kirstie doesn't have to explain

      anything to any of you.

      November 6, 2012 at 7:16 pm | Report abuse |
  48. Susan Shields

    She is shameless. This is in such poor form. The truth is both Travolta and Swayze DID NOT choose her for ANYTHING. She is pathetic at this point and has lost a huge fan base because of this heartless self serving act. To what good end did it serve Kirstie?

    November 6, 2012 at 5:53 pm | Report abuse |
  49. No she bangs men...

    i'm fully aware of this

    November 6, 2012 at 4:57 pm | Report abuse |
  50. Emily

    I honestly thought she might possibly maybe be a lesbean. Don't know why. I thought she "came out" on one of the Cheers reunion shows. Guess I was mistaken.

    November 6, 2012 at 4:55 pm | Report abuse |
  51. There is not pain

    only screaming when the green light goes on

    November 6, 2012 at 4:54 pm | Report abuse |
  52. oh shut up

    kirstie is down to earth...didn't matter until peekaboo i see you

    November 6, 2012 at 4:53 pm | Report abuse |
  53. well--

    maybe she should have banged him when she had the chance–never say never.

    November 6, 2012 at 4:52 pm | Report abuse |
  54. SLG

    I agree with PMN, even it there is a thread of truth embedded in that statement, why would she be so wicked as to reveal this three years later? The fact of the matter is that her silly ass did not become the wife of Swayze or Travolta. Maybe that is where the true pain lies for her. I thought that Kirstie was more down to earth. What a disappointment. Is there anyone who will not sell their souls a buck?

    November 6, 2012 at 4:49 pm | Report abuse |
  55. your so paranoid.

    grow up already your like a 12 year old child

    November 6, 2012 at 4:45 pm | Report abuse |
  56. sure its true...

    kirstie doesn't "lie"...

    November 6, 2012 at 4:43 pm | Report abuse |
  57. why not...maybe patrick

    wanted to bang her. and she said no..ever think of that - stop blaming everyone..

    November 6, 2012 at 4:42 pm | Report abuse |
  58. my c-room was the room

    at the end of the first floor on the right side - before heading down 2 steps and there was pontootis shop area.

    i'm not reaching out to you because your still a witch...i just could not hold this in anymore–

    November 6, 2012 at 4:41 pm | Report abuse |
  59. Mary Gallaher

    What would make Kristie Alley bring up any attraction to Patrick Swaze now after all these years, especially giving no respect or thought to his wife at all? Who even knows if her comments were even true? I can't imagine Patrick Swaze even interested in her. She needs to get a life and that doesn't include using someone else's husband in any kind of context. She really is low class.

    November 6, 2012 at 4:39 pm | Report abuse |
  60. Kirstie

    can drop bombs like nobodys business

    November 6, 2012 at 4:30 pm | Report abuse |
  61. LOLOL--

    is potootie still in shop–i loved shop there was something about that word i knew would remain with me.

    November 6, 2012 at 4:29 pm | Report abuse |
  62. cookie hips..

    its the truth–check it out–still have my pic...i was cute.

    November 6, 2012 at 4:26 pm | Report abuse |
  63. Ling Cho

    Me too. I knew George Washington and Abraham Lincoln and John Wayne and Elvis. Me an Elvis berry berry good friends. Just ask him if you don't believe me.

    November 6, 2012 at 4:10 pm | Report abuse |
  64. you go ali and jo!!!!!!!!!!!


    November 6, 2012 at 3:51 pm | Report abuse |
  65. jo

    If you don't know any of them personally then you really don't know what went on in their lives. I've read books on Patrick written by him and his wife and seen interviews by them over the years and as I recall it wasn't always a picnic in the park. He wasn't perfect. Who is? I adore both actor and actress and don't know as I care really to know what went on in the bedrooms, but I wasn't there and I'm certainly not going to judge either one of them.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:50 pm | Report abuse |
  66. Ali

    Shameful and unnecessary. She's a washed up has been that's dropping names to draw attention to herself. She should have been one of the first voted off dancing with the stars both times -- she's not as good as most of the other contestants and doesn't deserve public support.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:41 pm | Report abuse |
  67. Kirstie Alley

    is hysterical and has loads of fun. not matter what happens she always has a bright outlook because her life
    is so positive filled with love and high energy.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:40 pm | Report abuse |
  68. If a person is cheating on you .. your need to speak

    to that person–this is a blog right–great shows on tonight.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:35 pm | Report abuse |
  69. gaga--

    get a hobby–a real one.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:32 pm | Report abuse |
  70. Actually she could have been a lawyer...

    as you can see....

    November 6, 2012 at 3:28 pm | Report abuse |
  71. Your just a blogger you have no idea who i am

    right? so therefore mind your own business.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:23 pm | Report abuse |
  72. Benzi

    Boy did I love her on Cheers,sometimes it's hard to believe she's the same person.Miss Alley was hilarious,and now she just seems crazy.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:23 pm | Report abuse |
  73. Now watch tv the rest of the night k

    and pray for your president...we'll all be watching while dancing a few hours away

    November 6, 2012 at 3:15 pm | Report abuse |
  74. No Sweetie

    we understand what he goes through–its gagah

    November 6, 2012 at 3:14 pm | Report abuse |
  75. Paul

    What a load of crap. The only future that was being created was in her mind. First she tries to put a polish on John Travolta's skeevy reputation and now she slings mud on a dead man. What is going to be tomorrow's claim? She has to sell that book somehow.

    November 6, 2012 at 3:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • M

      I agreet – although nobody knows if any of this is true – why would she have to hurt his wife at this point? The man passed away, had a loving wife and now bam she slams her and makes the wife think that maybe, just maybe he was in some way unfaithful? I hate her !

      November 6, 2012 at 3:18 pm | Report abuse |
    • No-

      no your paranoid.

      November 6, 2012 at 3:30 pm | Report abuse |
  76. kah00ts

    got it?

    November 6, 2012 at 3:08 pm | Report abuse |
  77. send to legal

    November 6, 2012 at 3:03 pm | Report abuse |
  78. nancy

    as if PS would choose her over his beautiful thin wife.....kirstie is obviously having a scientology one will ever believe that one...well except for maybe tom cruise.....

    November 6, 2012 at 2:51 pm | Report abuse |
  79. pmn

    Alright people I am first! You know I used to think Kristie Alley was pretty cool until she said this about P Swayze. I think she is daydreaming and probably nothing was there except on her part or a created fantasy. Really what is the purpose of even bringing this up. Have some respect.

    November 6, 2012 at 2:47 pm | Report abuse |

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