January 25th, 2012
04:30 PM ET
Cynthia Nixon: Don't define my gayness for meCynthia Nixon's sexuality has become quite the hot topic. In an interview with the New York Times magazine about her role in the Broadway revival of "Wit," Nixon recalled giving an "empowerment speech" to a gay audience in which she said, "I've been straight and I've been gay, and gay is better." (The 45-year-old actress is currently set to wed partner Christine Marinoni, who gave birth to the couple's son close to a year ago. The two are also raising Nixon's two children from her previous relationship with Danny Mozes.) Although Nixon says some tried to convince her to change the statement because it implies that being gay is a choice, the former "Sex and the City" star says that's precisely her point. "For me, it is a choice," she told the NYT. "I understand that for many people it's not, but for me it's a choice, and you don't get to define my gayness for me." The remark has received criticism from some in the LGBT community, and Nixon seems to explain to the Daily Beast that if she had to label herself, she'd call herself bisexual - but she wouldn't, because she doesn't like that word. "I don't pull out the bisexual word because nobody likes the bisexuals," she says. "Everyone likes to dump on the bisexuals...I just don't like to pull out that word. But I do feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in any sort of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt." Nixon acknowledges that she understands why, "for political reasons...some people want to kind of squelch this idea that being gay might be a choice...But I don't feel the need to cede the definition of what a gay person is to the bigots. They don't get to define who I am." What do you think of Nixon's remarks? |
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04.21.11 at 7:15 pmFat Punk KickerRoyal Anteater just rebemmer to turn your heels out the 1st couple of times.
People who say being gay is never a choice are just as wrong as those who say it's always a choice. Some people are born into it. Some people get raped into it. Some people think, "Hey, I'll try that and see what it's like." Glad someone was honest enough to admit it. Sad she chose to do it, though.
Correct me if I'm wrong here, but don't you catch "gay" the same way you would catch a cold?
My gay friends were all born gay.
I thank her girlfella is kinda hot! She's a Repub too! Yeah!
Good! Labels belong on expensive wine and clothing. Not on people.
Following the short sighted reasoning of "he made some people black, some white, some smart, some not so much, some tall, some short, ..", can only lead you to "he made some people killers, some priests, some theives/rouges, some paedophiles, some good, some bad..." . Please, the line has to be drawn some where. God is not a confusionist.
stop abortion, have gay s3x instead.
Here we go again! To the ones that ask "who cares" or "is this news" You are reading the entertainment section! Now that I found her to be that entertaining!
Now that woman has GOT to smell like fish!
bravo, Cynthia. i agree with her 100% on how she feels on being defined. she says she's gay, so be it. i accept it. i'm a lesbian. i am gay. that is all.
Does anybody really care who or what she sleeps with??????
To quote one of the great funny men of the 80's...heads, it's hair pie – tails, it balls across the nose, whoa!
Yet another fatherless home...
Why does anyone care who she sleeps with? Its no one(s) business. If people would stop worry about other peoples bedrooms and start worring about thier own, maybe there would be a divorce in this country every 1.2 mins. Just like your mother told you...put your nose on your face and out of other peoples business.
Amen. When can we just get the heck out of one another's bedrooms already and move on with our lives. Let Cynthia sleep with who she wants and it isn't a big deal if it is because she's biologically driven to be attracted to that person or if she just chose to be. If being gay is a choice or not is moot next to the fact that consenting adults should be allowed to form relationships with whomever and however they want.
Wonder if she hooked up with any of the other girls on SITC – and if so why wasn't that an episode? Wouldl've been H-O-T with Charlotte 🙂
HOT? I dont know about that. Ever seen pics of any of the SITC in bikinis? They're all pretty hideous. Even Kim Catrell (Samantha) who was smokin hot back in the day is lookin "brown around the edges".
I think the best term for this is mentally ill.
Happy getting your trolling out for the day?
good for Nixon. Make your own choices and stand by them. Besides, to all you men dreaming of a three way, what would you do if the girls aren't bi or willing to try. Hypocrites.
Sums it up. It is a CHOICE.People CHOOSE to commit crimes. People CHOOSE to live a moral existent. People CHOOSE. You were not born that way. GaGa has made a TON of money off u idiots.
Fish
I love when she's t*pless on the "Big C." Could care less whether she's bi or not, just like her cans.
Jigglypufflove33 on August 9, 2009 I was tiiknhng on the final showing they would say:"This play! Was only for now..."
People in the entertainment industry are suprisingly damaged and immature. There are some normal ones, but they mostly aren't representative of any other group of people anywhere.
They may be more representative than you realize, its just that their skeletons all get put on public display while you and your friends and co-workers have more anonymity to keep your own hidden.
How very honest of her. Of course no one who is politically correct is going to be able to stand hearing that it is a "choice" for her. However, it sheds a bit of light, does it not?
Sheds a bit of light on what exactly? That for HER it was a choice? That's the only light I see being shed here.
Liberals and Liberalism is killing this great country. Ms Nixon you are trying to bend reality to fit you lifestyle and to validate your reasons and not TRUE Reality. Get help and seek the truth. Look up Cause and Effect and get for real!
Nah it's not. Times change, and Liberalism seeks to make sure our collective mindset changes with it. Change is important.
And conservative are uptight, scared and have no sense of humour. I love the name calling on this thread.
It's a choice...not in my DNA!
why do gay groups think they can tell people what to say? Gay can be a choice . Many men in prison are temporarily gay until they get out. Many poor men perform gay acts for money and have no shame about it.
"temporarily gay"? LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL...best line of the day!
Being free to love whom ever you choose is whats important. Not a label
Good god you people are so dumb I can't understand how you even manage to dress yourselves.
@LCB: hope for the human race? not if we all turn gay, stupid biotch!
Haha, good one.
You're disgusting,wanting men and women.
No, you're disgusting!
i agree with her being gay is a choice,god didn't make some people gay and others not,it is simply a choice people make.
But he made some people black, some white, some smart, some not so much, some tall, some short, ...do you see were I'm going with this? None of those things are a choice. Why would someone choose to be gay and act in a way that gets them ridiculed, hurt or worse killed? Because they don't choice to! No one is going to risk everything they have and are for a feeling they don't believe to be genuinely real. A feeling that’s just as genuine as your feelings are.
In a way, everything we are comes down to choice. Whether we are physically and emotionally able to love another man or another woman may come naturally and without choice, ENGAGING in a relationship is a choice. That is the part that takes courage and consciousness–when that choice is not the popular one. She could have denied either attraction, but she choose both of them. And since she has committed to this woman, I hope we all can wish her well, as we would anyone embarking on a marriage. Congrats, Cynthia!
oh please – enough already
I'm sure they know how to spell TROLL too!
Wow, you all do know that the correct way to spell "Lesbean" is actually "Lesbian" right?
Good for her!!!
Fewer 'labels' are so much better for fostering tolerance with differences, in our free and becoming enlightened (hopefully) society. I truly appreciate her ability to profess (and live) openly – her personal philosophies in her own life. Thanx for this article – perhaps there is hope for the survival of the human race, after all!
Well put! I agree completely and the more of us that agree the closer we'll be to a loving, excepting society. Yeah!
I'm not one, but it would be nice if people knew how to spell lesbian. She's not a les-bean.
I don't think anyone cares Cynthia, get over yourself.
Who Cares!
who needs to define gayness? I know it when I see it. skinny jeans on guys? G@y. short hair & tats on girls? G@y.
LOL. She's just looking for attention and the only way she knows how is to talk about her preferences. That's how a lot of them do it. There are many people who live their lives and stay out of the spotlight and that's respectable. These people are just trying to shove their ideas down our throats.
Trix...I got a nine inch idea to shove down your throat.
I think she is right to define who she is and how ever the good lady wants to lable herself is her bussiness. Its high time as gay people we allow all to thier own individuality.
AMEN!
In any lifestyle that goes against society's 'rules' you'd expect them to be more accepting of others, right? But no.. go onto any fetish forum board and see, they do the same thing to people that don't fit their own ideas of 'proper' behavior. It's sad. All people need to just accept people in their glories and faults, because by doing so we accept ourselves.
Ugh.. sometimes I really hate society. Leave it up to humans, to have to label every fricking thing that moves on this planet. People just refuse to be happy in their skin, and love whomever they want without the fear of finger-pointing.
brava cynthia nixon! i have always felt that way about myself and got abused for it. thanks for speaking your mind. you are not only a brilliant actress but a genuine person. i applaud your candor!
If anyone's messed up, it's you people! Labeling and stereotyping shows your ignorance!
Seems like the whole controversy is that refuses to be labeled by anyone. Including the gay community. LOL
She's a liberal stooge. A gay one, but still a liberal stooge.
This woman is messed up,she isn't gay just mad at her ex.She thinks she's hurting him but that kid is going to be hurt.
Your narrowness is showing – pathetically!
My wife is bi. Married 20 years so far.
My advice to other men – when your bi wife trys to talk you into a 3some because she just wants a woman again so badly dont do it. It is fun for the first few years, then the next thing you know there is a young stupid girlfriend living with you and your sharing your wife with her. One morning you wake up and realize that you now have two wives and you definately do not want one of them. Plus it is tiring as hell dealing with two of them, both s e x ually and emotionally. They gang up on you. NO, I do not want to eat at Chili's again dammmnit! Why can't we have bbq just once a fknmonth?
David in Corpus. You just summed up the meaning of life. There's yin to every yang. While a 3 way with two chicks is every guys fantasy the price you pay may be too high if you aren't careful. Now if you could figure out a way flip the reality and bang 'em 23 a day and only listen to the nonsense for 1 then you will have achieved enlightenment.
No tracie? I'll fill in.
I'll totally take a dump on a bis3xual lesbean.
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IMHO – Your series of 'rants' is so unbecoming to the species labeled 'human'! but also so 'telling'. Perhaps you might consider getting a real life? someday, when you get over yourself?
Well. I for one just think she is too lesbean. Im afraid children might catch gay from her. Maybe they could put her on an island with all the other ones.
They did. It's called Manhattan.
No biggie, monday wed. Fri. Sausage. Tues, thrus. Pie what's the issue?
I wonder if she has tattoos? She would be super gay then. All people with tattoos are gay.
Ok what an idiotic comment that is. Like really?
It's called a sarcastic joke. That's the kind of comment that is.
Say that to my face Jessica
"Can't we all just get along"? Born this way? Switch sides? I'm so confused!!!!
04.23.11 at 1:33 amMoose (the terahd ender)P.S. I thought you would have ripped me up for my "P.S. Slash is totally hitting on me." sentence.
HOOT ! HOOT ! HOOT ! She is a lesbeen ! She is a lesbeen !
Ciao, sono arministmatore di un gruppo chiamato . Ci farebbe piacere aggiungere l?elemento al gruppo.bella macro, bella la luce ed i dettagli
I think her remarks were GLEETASTIC !
I like her lesbean girlfriends name-Macaroni. I bet Cynthia likes to put cheese on her. Dang lesbeans.
YEAH ! People should leave her alone ! She is REALLY REALLY GAY ! A gay lesbean.
Ohhhh Diiiicccckkkkyyyy...!
I always knew she was a lesbean. Makes you wonder doesn't it?
LAB, she's a hasbean, not a lesbean
Sweet Jesus... Here we go...
Just let it go this is CNN's daily "its good to be gay" story
, and you don't get to define my gayness for me."
and no one gets to define my height for me I feel I am 13 ft 7 inches
In my world I define gay as happy or joyful. Not scissoring or taking one up the dumper.
Bring on the bigots. It's like the segregationists all over again. Very, very bad human beings.
Dave...that response was hilarious haha!
American Sam
No one mentioned whether she dug black chicks so we're all good.