J.Lo: I love myself enough now to walk away
August 2nd, 2011
10:34 AM ET

J.Lo: I love myself enough now to walk away

Following her split from husband Marc Anthony in July, Jennifer Lopez is opening up about the dissolution of her seven-year marriage.

The family she created with Anthony, including the couple’s twins Max and Emme, “was my biggest dream, and I really worked hard at it. We both did,” Lopez tells the September issue of Vanity Fair.

Read more about Jennifer Lopez's Vanity Fair interview

“Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad,” she goes on. “But I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love. It’s still my biggest dream.”

The 42-year-old, who is balancing movie roles with motherhood, her latest album and a new reality show, is keeping her eyes trained on what’s ahead, which will include Anthony in a certain respect.

“I am positive—determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person. I now look forward to new challenges,” she says.

As far as her relationship with Anthony, “We actually work great together, and he was always very supportive. He will always be in our lives. He will always hold a special place in my heart as the father of my children.”

Video: Behind the scenes at Jennifer Lopez's Vanity Fair cover shoot

Now that the actress and singer finds herself single again – following a string of high-profile relationships with stars like Ben Affleck and P. Diddy – she says that she’s gained a new outlook on romance.

“It’s not that I didn’t love myself before. Sometimes we don’t realize that we are compromising ourselves,” she tells VF. “To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself—if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now.”

Read the full interview with Jennifer Lopez when the September issue of Vanity Fair hits newsstands August 3.

Filed under: Celebrities • Jennifer Lopez

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  1. douginmi

    nice bum, nicely enhanced chest, shame about the complete lack of talent

    August 13, 2011 at 12:36 pm | Report abuse |
  2. Margarett

    Thank you Jennifer Lopez, my family and I, enjoy your movies, your music, your perfume and now seen you on American Idol is a bonus. Hope you come back to American Idol again. Don't worry what others say about you leaving an abusive marriage. You are a strong woman, a success lady and I am sure you are a great mother to your children. Take your time before you marry again. I can see that you have a kind soul, full of love to give, trust me, love will arrive to you at the right time. Enjoy being single for now. You deserve the best in life.

    August 3, 2011 at 7:50 pm | Report abuse |
  3. Kourtney

    It's great that Jennifer Lopez cares about herself; it is about time we women learn to love ourselves without feeling guilty or ashamed. We do not have to have a man to feel important, with or without a man, we, women, are so important and necessary to this male dominated society. More Power to Jennifer Lopez, for having the courage to leave an abusive husband and be on her own. Wish her all the luck in her life. She is beautiful.

    August 3, 2011 at 7:20 pm | Report abuse |
  4. Numyorangay

    they don't call her J-Ho for nuthin' y'all. Just another crumb that got lucky.
    She loves herself. . .yeah, I get it. . .maybe that's why Marc got coochy on the side. . .
    fly-girl too busy lovin' herself. . .

    August 3, 2011 at 6:48 pm | Report abuse |
    • Sonya

      don't we all wish we had that gorgeous body like Jennifer, wow, she is Hot and get Hotter by the seconds.

      August 12, 2011 at 1:56 pm | Report abuse |
  5. Tiffany

    It’s about time that women in this century don’t have to take any crap from abusive man.
    Jennifer did the right thing to leave Marc Anthony. I wish her well.

    August 3, 2011 at 6:47 pm | Report abuse |
  6. Calvin

    Look how beautiful JLO looks; she is an angel in this earth. An angel that can sing, act, a business lady, the whole nine yards. Love her. Mujer bella y exotica.

    August 3, 2011 at 6:35 pm | Report abuse |
  7. Mariam

    Jennifer Lopez is very pretty, talented, smart and kind, so do not hate her for beig beautiful.

    August 3, 2011 at 5:35 pm | Report abuse |
  8. MGF

    I still don't understand what she ever saw in that skinny, ugly little Marc Anthony!! She needs someone that SHE can look UP to, not down at.

    August 3, 2011 at 1:55 pm | Report abuse |
    • Kim

      your are exactly right, Jennifer Lopez needs a great looking man, kind and confident. My friends and I never liked Marc Anthony for her.

      August 3, 2011 at 6:38 pm | Report abuse |
  9. MELOKC-

    Im sure Jlo is not happy to have 3 failed marriages, she has to put on a face for the public, she is a business women and doesnt want to ruin her or Marc image, regardless of what the real story is on reasoning the marriage is heading to divorce.People may not like her, or her music, I admire the fact that she does not give up and continues to try to make a good living! As for her choices in men, i see her being the next LIZ TAYLOR, if she not happy she will just move on to the next. Men have been doing it for years. As for her kids, well im sure both parents will love them and do the best they can to raise them well,

    August 3, 2011 at 12:18 pm | Report abuse |
  10. The Urinator

    JBlow loves to suck the blood from her own tampons.

    August 3, 2011 at 9:44 am | Report abuse |
  11. Bettie

    JHo is so in love with herself she eats her own doodee and tries to lick herself.

    August 3, 2011 at 9:43 am | Report abuse |
  12. Millie Bea

    Gee- you think that's bit excessive on the Phoptoshop- she looks emaciated....please. Julia Roberts' photo- that caused so much ado in the UK was nowhere near as bad. Hey JLo- is that how Jenny from the Block keeps it real- blech. And she loves herself enough to end her marraige? For that reason alone I will not go anywhere near American Idol this next season ( in addition to they are bumping her from 5- 11 million...Nigel Lithgoe has lost his mind ).

    August 3, 2011 at 9:41 am | Report abuse |
  13. JLo

    I dont want anybody else
    when I think about me
    I touch myself
    I touch myself (I honestly do)
    I touch myself...

    August 3, 2011 at 8:06 am | Report abuse |
  14. ziigy

    Better live perfect or she's gonna hewerr around on ya.

    August 3, 2011 at 8:01 am | Report abuse |
  15. SKY

    WANT TO BE HER ....HOW SAD.....

    August 3, 2011 at 1:39 am | Report abuse |
  16. Ignoraphobe

    There's more Photoshop in these photos than an entire Adobe warehouse.

    August 3, 2011 at 12:14 am | Report abuse |
  17. Wayne Jones

    Her P.R. people must work 24/7 keeping her tired a** in the news. After all, she's just a former dancer from In Living Color.

    August 2, 2011 at 10:21 pm | Report abuse |
  18. Melanie Cortez Hall

    Jennifer Lopez is Gorgeous! She's a multi-talented entertainer & business mogul. It's easy to see why so many losers and uneducated trolls envy her. I admire a strong, beautiful hard-working woman who kicks ass in a male dominated world. This Latin Lady Is A Force To Be Reckoned With! More Power To J. Lo!! You Rock Girl!!!

    August 2, 2011 at 10:01 pm | Report abuse |
  19. me likey Lopez


    August 2, 2011 at 9:09 pm | Report abuse |
  20. Marie Soto

    http://jmjewel.com/entries/marie-soto/ VOTE FOR ME ❤

    August 2, 2011 at 7:35 pm | Report abuse |
  21. fernace

    We loooove to haaaate, don't we!? On this blog especially, the comments stay the same only the names of the c-lebs change! Another funny "phenomenon" is that the dudes are all up in JLo's junk, while the chicks rip her apart, with a few exceptions, of course! While I'm not especially a fan of Jenny from tha Block, I certainly don't hate her or say stupid sh!t like she's ugly, cause that would be a lie! I'm glad she left the well known control freak, her hu.b.by! He is supposedly also a skirt chaser, from the rumors going round about his last marriage break-up! Hope she finds a man who can hang with her, but if not she has her family, kids & career so she's good!!

    August 2, 2011 at 5:23 pm | Report abuse |
  22. Snarky

    I hope she keeps walking until she falls off the pier.

    August 2, 2011 at 4:01 pm | Report abuse |
  23. itsamemario

    i liked her better as a back up dancer on In Living Color. Shes said to be in the remake of Overboard, the kurt russel/goldie hawn rom com from the 80s. I hate when my memories are corrupted by crappy remakes..

    August 2, 2011 at 3:45 pm | Report abuse |
  24. Wrighteous

    Marc Anthony was a troll...short AND ugly. She could have done better, but she settled for this ugly Puerto Rican to father her children. She is as dumb as she looks. However, in terms of marriage...I say...keep doing it until you get it right!

    August 2, 2011 at 2:52 pm | Report abuse |
  25. Eaton Manasses

    I would like to be laying on my back lookin up her skirt when she notices and begins to pee in my face, laugh and hit me between the legs with a baseball bat

    August 2, 2011 at 2:39 pm | Report abuse |
  26. smokeee

    no wonder she thinks that, since she's the most high maintenance diva left in the movie/music industry, and her career isn't what it used to be. everything about her screams selfishness and all about her being pampered and catered to. she's one of the least talented celebrities i've ever seen make it so big.

    August 2, 2011 at 1:59 pm | Report abuse |
  27. MY Face

    @FCB if I hated her would I offer her a seat on my face?

    August 2, 2011 at 1:41 pm | Report abuse |
  28. FCB

    I'm not particularly a J Lo fan, but good grief, I'm on this page because I'm interested. If you aren't a fan, if you hate her so much, why the hell are you reading this article? You are so disgusted by her, why even spend the time reading the article, MUCH LESS taking the time to comment? What a bunch of losers.... Jealousy with a keyboard.

    August 2, 2011 at 1:34 pm | Report abuse |
  29. Taui

    I can't believe all the foul-mouthed comments I've just read. Has anybody thought about the children in this scenario?

    August 2, 2011 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
  30. Jay C B

    Girl you can love yourself at my place anytime,i'm a twenty one year old virgin and I think it's time to do something about it.The chicks at my school are definitely hot but I think i'd rather have a Mrs.Robinson my first time.

    August 2, 2011 at 1:26 pm | Report abuse |
  31. pennylane

    Why can't she just go away....

    August 2, 2011 at 1:23 pm | Report abuse |
  32. derp

    "I woke up one morning and realized I was married to an ugly effeminate talentless puerto rican, and thought wow how did this happen?"

    J Lo

    August 2, 2011 at 1:14 pm | Report abuse |
    • Claire

      They are both Newyorican so they definitely had a background in common. As for Marc Anthony being talentless...have you heard him sing? He has a better voice than she could ever have. As for him being not very good looking, I'm going to have to agree.

      August 3, 2011 at 4:37 am | Report abuse |
    • Nyna

      LOL.. Exactly!

      August 3, 2011 at 9:37 am | Report abuse |
    • Nyna

      Yeah, what a long nightmare.

      August 3, 2011 at 9:38 am | Report abuse |
    • FlowerPower

      Oh, I agree. His music is divine..but his looks not so much!

      August 3, 2011 at 3:33 pm | Report abuse |
  33. Suga Momma

    I want to see her and William Levy and me on black satin sheets.

    August 2, 2011 at 1:07 pm | Report abuse |
  34. Jean

    I'm sorry. I may have missed something. Has there ever been one iota of evidence that Jenny from the Block has NEVER loved herself enough?

    August 2, 2011 at 12:27 pm | Report abuse |
    • chele

      No, she does indeed love herself a whole lot, as she has made abundantly clear for years. Loving herself is seemingly not a real problem for this woman.

      August 2, 2011 at 9:15 pm | Report abuse |
  35. thetruth

    Figures J-Lo would say she loves herself.....We already know that with her ego. But can she love anybody but herself??

    August 2, 2011 at 11:56 am | Report abuse |
  36. Chell

    I can't stand this woman. She can't sing, she can't act. She uses what little looks she has and latches onto whomever is hot at their respective craft. Maybe someone will pay her to go away!

    August 2, 2011 at 11:53 am | Report abuse |
    • jujubeans

      jealous much? "what little looks"? take another look

      August 2, 2011 at 12:14 pm | Report abuse |
    • Robert

      maybe you leave in another planet, because this lady for sure is very talented, she is the smartest woman, ever, and beautiful as well. Good for her for leaving Marc, she deserves better.

      August 3, 2011 at 5:44 pm | Report abuse |
  37. george

    i want to watch her love herself. just sayin.

    August 2, 2011 at 11:46 am | Report abuse |
  38. Carly

    These stupid quotes annoy me to no end. "The person is not doing the right thing for himself" or "I love myself enough to walk away" blah, blah. People do what they want to do and then come up with any nonsensical drivel to justify their own selfishness.

    August 2, 2011 at 11:40 am | Report abuse |
  39. lala

    Jennifer strikes me as the one who wears the pants in any relationship. Maybe she got tired of Marc being a doormat. Anyway I hope Marc finds true love with a lady who is his equal instead of biotches!!!

    August 2, 2011 at 11:20 am | Report abuse |
    • Nyna

      I think he was jealous and insecure because JLo made good opportunities for herself, that was intimidating to Anthony. He then tried to control her success. This will make anyone unhappy in a relationship.

      August 3, 2011 at 9:32 am | Report abuse |
  40. Jerome

    Thise picture of her are going to "come in handy"

    August 2, 2011 at 11:06 am | Report abuse |
    • jujubeans

      x actly! quite the fox at 42. Turns me into a walking mass of erectile tissue.

      August 2, 2011 at 11:41 am | Report abuse |
    • Big Wally

      I'm going to take a Viagra and come back in an hour

      August 2, 2011 at 12:42 pm | Report abuse |
    • Eva

      Y'all nasty

      August 2, 2011 at 1:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • Nyna

      LOL...At least yall are honest instead of all that hateration and jealousy from some of these other folks. She is gorgeous, especially for her age.

      August 3, 2011 at 9:28 am | Report abuse |
  41. Steven

    this is for EVERYONE.....you are powerful beautiful brilliant resilient when you believe in you.

    August 2, 2011 at 11:02 am | Report abuse |
    • Doodee Rustler

      Yes I know, thank you Steven and please kiss me.

      August 2, 2011 at 1:59 pm | Report abuse |
    • Leroy

      You are a tool Steven............keep rooting for people who take your money and are paid to say you're their favorite fans.

      August 3, 2011 at 2:24 pm | Report abuse |
  42. Leroy

    THANK GOD!! Dont come back. At least Diddy and Affleck had the decency to walk away from you. That slob Anthony was the only one dumb enough to marry you.

    August 2, 2011 at 10:49 am | Report abuse |
    • Nyna9

      You wish

      August 3, 2011 at 9:25 am | Report abuse |
    • 8-S

      I think Nyna lives for defending celebs. Wannabe?

      August 3, 2011 at 1:11 pm | Report abuse |
    • Leroy

      You on the money 8_S!!

      August 3, 2011 at 2:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • SundayRose

      Leroy, I can see you are frustrated with your life and want to bully georgeous Jennifer, you wish you could marry this amazing lady, so beautiful that makes weak man like you feel insecure. Beautiful women, like Jennifer Lopez, can not keep weak man , take a look Jennifer Aniston, Liz Taylor, Maria Shriver to name a few. Jennifer will be ok , lets hope she finds a true love.

      August 3, 2011 at 7:33 pm | Report abuse |
    • Bjorn

      you are jealous Leroy, the fact is that not too many women in the entire world have a hot body and face like Jennifer Lopez , so she is a keeper.

      August 12, 2011 at 1:52 pm | Report abuse |
  43. Mendicino Beano

    Good, GREAT, please, walk away, go, leave, get out, exit stage left, see ya, adios, areeva derchee, vuyo con dios, take your dumpy butt and celione dion by the hand and disappear.

    August 2, 2011 at 10:41 am | Report abuse |
    • Nyna


      August 3, 2011 at 9:22 am | Report abuse |
    • 8-S

      Too bad she won't go away. People kiss celebs feet. Nyna, hahaha jealous of what?

      August 3, 2011 at 1:09 pm | Report abuse |
    • Helen

      wow, how hateful you are, I never imagine in country people will get so jealous of successful woman , such as Jennifer Lopez, she is the most amazing lady, talented, beautiful and kind.

      August 3, 2011 at 5:00 pm | Report abuse |
    • Princess

      I got on the mail Vanity Fair yesterday a nd I enjoyed every second reading about Jennifer Lopez, she is an amazing lady. Vanity Fair is a great magazine as well.

      August 12, 2011 at 1:44 pm | Report abuse |

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