May 9th, 2011
03:17 PM ET
Chaz Bono: I don't doubt I was born this wayEditor's Note: Piers Morgan talks with Chaz Bono about his transformation and what it was like growing up with superstar parents on “Piers Morgan Tonight” at 9 ET Thursday night on CNN. Last year, Chaz Bono was legally granted a name and gender change, and now the 42-year-old is opening up on what he calls the "slow process" toward living his true identity and revealing it to the world. Knowing that as the child of Cher and the late Sonny Bono he didn’t exactly have a ton of privacy, Chaz opted to be upfront about his transition from female to male, he told Oprah Winfrey on her show Monday. He chronicles his change in the book “Transition: The Story of How I Became a Man” and in a documentary set to premiere on OWN Tuesday night. “When I was really little it was clear to me that I felt like a boy. In puberty, I felt like my body was betraying me,” Chaz told Winfrey. “I went from a straight up-and-down little kid to a very curvaceous woman.” Realizing that he was transgendered was “a slow process,” he explained. When he began to go through puberty and felt attracted to women, “I just made the obvious connection - I must be a lesbian,” he said. “That identity worked for a little while. But as I got older, there was always this nagging feeling that I’m still not fitting in. I had happy times, I went through periods of happiness, but life was always so much more difficult.” Getting older, getting sober, gaining maturity and seeking therapy helped to uncover the core of what he was struggling with, he said. “I always had this idea that sure, I wish I was a boy...but I wasn’t and so I’d deal with it. There were other lesbians that felt that way and so that was part of that community,” he explained. “But then I realized that that wasn’t being a lesbian at all, that’s being transgendered.” Nonetheless, he still held on to that realization for years before deciding to do something about it. "For me, it was about how I was perceived in the world," he said. "I wanted all of this [gesturing to his body] to match how I feel on the inside...I don’t doubt that I was born this way." When Chaz made the decision to transition, one of the first people he told was his mother, Cher. The singer had been honest about her adjustment to Chaz coming out as a lesbian – “I wanted her to grow up, get married have a child, get divorced and live happily ever after,” Cher said on a 1998 episode of “The Oprah Winfrey Show” – but Chaz said she was as understanding as possible this time around. “I [told Cher] I’ve been struggling with issues surrounding my gender for a long time, and this is something that I’m going to do,” Chaz recalled. At first, “she was shockingly cool, but as reality set in, she began pulling away from me a little bit,” particularly when his voice began to change. “The reality sets in and this is an incredibly difficult process for parents," Chaz said. "The hard thing for my mom is because she’s a public figure and because she has this personality of being so cool and progressive, people forget that she’s a parent. A lot of parents don’t speak to their transgendered kids.” That’s not the case in their family, however. “There’s no doubt of her love for me," Chaz said. "It’s getting better and better. She’s moving in the right direction, it’s just a process.”
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I guess there are no such things as FREAKS anymore. So i want to be a PONY. A pretty pink pony. She's a FREAK people. I love when they use the lie, I was born this way. Isn't that what pedophiles say.
Munching all the way
Glad Chaz is finally happy ....but DANG he needs to lay off the fries!!!
I believe that God's intent is actually a test for those around transgendered people, a test of compassion. We are all God's children and He loves every single one of us, even if we are gay, trans, of a different race, whatever. He expects His follows to do the same.
The post on here has gotten to be like little school yard antics!!! Oh wait!! Maybe that is who is replying on here. For some reason I thought it might be adults. My bad....
Lol, it looks like Val Kilmer.
Each cell in your body holds your DNA. Hers is still girl DNA. Cutting off or adding things won't change that.
Hey Chaz, don't let them get to ya. Just tie a weight to that little nubbin and stretch it out every night. Soon you'll be hung like a 9 year old, bro! Just tug that useless piece of flesh every night. Rub it raw, till it bleeds. Maybe do the peanut butter trick with the neighbor's dog. You are one sick phuck. I hate you. DIE.
Love,
EBA
Silly looking freak! People like this has waaaaaaaay too much wasted time and money on there hands!
So Chaz, how big is that nasty schween they gave you? Can you satisfy a Barbie doll? Or are you hung like a Ken doll?
I don't have time to argue with all you hateful idiots so I'll put it plain and simple: If you don't care, shut up. If you don't know anything about the subject, shut up. If you deeply believe you were sent here on Earth to dictate and decide the right&wrongs of society, you need help, shut up. If you hate these "freaks" or think this is not news why did you take 10min out of your life to comment? Ugh.
Dig up your dead father and show him what you did, you sick twisted abbhoration! Beg your mother for forgiveness, too.
Chaz, you should have kept the panuch too, that way you could f yourself, you freak!
This is what Cher gets for being such a lousy mother to that kid in "Mask". Imagine Sonny at Chaz's wedding, what would they dance to, "Daddy's Little.......Nightmare"? "Daddy's Little........Frankenstein"? Daddy's Litle.......Regret"?
The hell with pictures of Osama, I want to see a picture of this abomination she calls a DICK, and what she can do with it.
Probably looks like a cartoon wang.
Oh, come on, Chaz. You're a woman for God's sake. Not a man!
Take care of yourself, Chaz. God loves you and we love you too. All our best to Cher. Keep the faith!
If I could tuuuurn bayak tieeem,,,,
You can't change your DNA and your XX chromosomes ..u will ALWAYS be a woman,regardless how u look on the outside.
Why don't you let her be him and live their own life as THEY see fit and if you want to make the world a better place, take a look in the mirror and make a change in what you see looking back at you.
Male or female, I still love mangoo! I love manspackle! Especialy all over my bloated face!
Yuk! You GLBT's make me sick, ima puke in my mouth!
We need to be satisfied with ourselves and not try to be someone else. If you were born a female (or male), no matter how many surgeries, therapy, medications you take, you are still the same. You can change your outside but not inside. Love yourself as you are.
Is ther anyone out there who can satisfy my new peepee? I like men and women so it don't matter. I like th black schlong th best. I'm a size quen. Well, I used to be, now I'm just a power botom. Come to L.A. wit all the f@gs and we'll hammer that shyte!
"his" transformation? So genital mutilation can change your DNA now?
Ya know, Imay be a freak but I can sukkameandick. My pud may be small but I swallow like a champ. Don't make fun of me cuz I like to get it in the seat. F all you h8rz. Now me and my brother can go out trollin for ho's. Somebody put a bullet in my head, I'm such an embarassment to my dead father.
Chaz, I hope the doctors gave you a huge caulk for your troubles. So do you like to pack fudge now?
You don't see people in third world countries with these mental problems...I think "transgender" comes from people with too much time to think and poor parenting.
Sorry, but you were born a GIRL. A cute little blonde girl, who I still remember taking the stage, for the first time, on your parent's TV show. Doesn't matter how you think of yourself, you will ALWAYS be a girl, until the day you die. I'm sorry if you feel you got cheated, but you'll have to talk to your father about that, as he was the one that provided the spermatozoa that decided your gender. You know.....those little fishy things that guys can produce, but you can't, because you're a GIRL.
This is disgusting. how can you want to become a man? Can anyone say "psycho"???
I was born this way? Do you mean male or enormously fat?
The comments might sound hillarious, nevertheless,there is nothing hillarious about the pathetic topic and the low lives who conspired to inspire it to transpire.Speaking of pathetic ,transpirational inspirations,would any body like to follow in the footsteps of prolific fools?
Some of these comments were hilarious!!! Thank you for posting 🙂
You were born this way? So were Tweedledum and Tweedledee in Alice in Wonderland (2010)
I doubt if JESUS was going to allow himself to be brutallized for a bunch of criminals,no matter how special the criminals continue to vainly think they are. Evidently,the Power that transcends all powers will continue to comfirm that evil and wickedness will reap what they sow. For those who reside in reverant obediance to the original LAW OF THE COSMOS, I salute you sencerely.Ask me who I AM.
Stickin' feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken.
Like, how do you know? You were there, but . . . .?
I'm all for people being who they want to be. Why, though, does he choose to be so overweight? That certainly doesn't come with being a man...and it's not healthy. Does he think being overweight will make him look more like a male?
I only felt sad when I first read about Chaz now I am feeling sick and tired of seeing or hearing anything about it! Move on! I have not heard or read any comments on how his brother feels about this and I do wonder!
To Amanda and the other people who asked whats wrong w gays or called them freak shows, Chaz is not gay!! He was transgendered! Make sure u do ur research before u make a comment.
what woman wants to be with a man who was not a "man" until he went to a surgeon? seriously...
If your God doesn't make mistakes how do things like this happen http://abcnews.go.com/International/wireStory?id=13567178 So what you are saying is since God doesn't make mistakes, these two should have to spend the rest of their lives this way!
Everybody needs to read more on this. A person is borned this way , they do not choose it. God made this person so except them and love them. Shame on you if you don't......
thank u chaz for being such a freak,in a world that often is so serious,we need some comedy relief.thank you again. keep it up
what chaz has done and the way he has shared it has incredibly brave. I admire him very much.
All of the people making hateful comments on here just come across as incredibly ignorant. Do your research and then come back morons.
Best wishes chaz and cher! 🙂
BAA HHAAA HA HA BAA HA HA HA
She was born a woman but perversion has changed her nature. If she gets that demonic spirit cast out of her, her claims of being born this way would change. Some of you have forgotten about Sodom and Gomorrah but God has not! Evertything He made was good, but it was man's lust that has changed and perverted God's original design and plan.
Well, I won't judge. I am just glad I didn't have to deal with her situation. All I know is she was a very pretty child and I am sure she was very pretty as she aged. I guess unless we are Chaz, we will never really know. Best of luck to her.
What a foolish thing,you did with your body.You,were a beautiful young girl.Who,turned into a beautiful young lady.Now,look,at you you had ruined your body.There's no turning back.You, need God and really BAD.JoAnn
Look, Chasity not Chaz will never know how it feels to be a male because she was not created male but female. I don't care how much she butchers her body and stays in this delusional and lying mental state...she will always have the XX chromosone. Her man made genitalia (it's not even a penis that can become engorged because it's not real) will never work like a real one...she has to continue to take testosterone injections for the rest of her life. This woman has wasted so much time trying to pretend to be something that she isn't ...how sad is that? Couldn't she have done something more constructive with her life? Chasity was probably moletsted at an early age...Cher having her around alot of adults....Cher always on the road...Chasity left with other adults ..could have been family who knows? A tale tell sign is that she is as big as a continent..if she is so happy in the body (which is the same body minust parts) that she has now then why is she obese ?? I mean she looks horrible and sad and depressed. I don't know any child who loves going through "puberty"...so her saying that was a big cop out!!! None of us has any control over what happens physiologically to our bodies...so Chasity has to keep lying to herself everyday convincing herself that she is a MAN...although nothing in her body works as a man's does. A man can't be a woman...you know nothing how a "real woman" feels like...you go through none of the physiological changes a woman goes through that makes her who she is...all you will be is a damn FRAUD...a PRETENDER...same thing as a female trying to live as a man....you can't even get a hard on......because you don't really have a penis...A word to all the confused people who think they were born in the wrong bodies...YOU ARE IN THE BODY YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE IN. STOP ACTING LIKE WIMPS....
Check in to some counseling. You need it, little one.
All Chaz needs is a moustache and she would be the twin of D!CK Buttkiss.
If i ever encountered Chaz, Cher, Church or sonny,i will feel completely pre compelled to shoot first and ask questions later.
FREAK!
Roflmao!! These comments are too fricken funny!
This is gross. Chaz, you are not a man. YOu are a very confused woman. Just because you dont like it, doesnt mean you can have surgery and claim you are a man now. NOW you are just a even more screwed up woman.
The bible thumpers are the people who need to be examined. You say your "God" created Chaz, I ask why should she have to live in a body your "God" screwed up making?
Wish more people had the courage to live and become the person who they feel they should be.
From ugly woman to ugly "man" congratulations. I'm glad she is happy. She isn't a man, just because of some surgery.
Biology/genetics/DNA get messed up all the time. Autism. Downs Syndrome. And yes, people who are transgender too. There is no difference. And the point Im trying to make is, it couldve happened to anyone of us. You and me. If that was the case, I bet we wouldnt be so hateful and cruel. We should have more empathy towards others. Im sure these people didnt wake up one day and say 'Hey I want to be confused about my s*xuality'. Didnt happen that way. Let up. B/c it may be your children/relatives next.
This woman is a freak! We live in a country where you can be a freak and be famous for your crazy ass behavior. I think Chaz had a dream to be famous like her mother but instead of developing talent, he went the freak route. This is really a side show like the bearded lady in a circus. What a way to get your picture in the press.
She looks like a fat slob!
Did anyone catch Chaz on GMA this morning? Did "he" really have to do the 1 segment w/o a shirt on???
My concern is you have all these transgender then you have people going on dates thinking there going out with a girl, but find out it’s a man. That is messed up and not that I believe in violence but you’re putting yourself out there for it. If your going to be transgender great but you have to be honest to the person you’re dating its only fair. I’m all about being open, but it’s a two way street, you can’t not tell the person you’re with. I love my husband to death, but I couldn’t except him as a woman sorry I’m into men bottom line, and if I wanted a woman I wouldn’t have married him. You can change the outside of your body but not the inside, so you are putting people at risk if they think they can have kids, then they find out after they have fallen in love that that will never happen biologically.
Lol fatty fatty two by four, can't fit through the bathroom door...
There arent enough oysters to get someone horngry enough to sleep with this "Fat Thing, Chaz".
We are thinking of signing Chaz as our entire defensive front line.
These children of hollywood stars are almost always freaks. Chaz knew she never would be as hot as Cher and would never be as good a singer as Sonny so this is how she makes her claim to fame. By being an obese nasty thing. Plain and simple.
Gender isn't a defect, chromosomes don't lie. Deep down, on a genetic level, he's still a woman. Transgender people have deep emotional problems they think can be corrected w/surgery. It' s a superficial fix. Sadly, one can still see Charity's anguish behind Chaz' eyes.
If Chaz decided to jump you can be it would be a 9.4 on the Richter Scale and there would be worldwide tsunamis. God help us all.
The only surgeries this nut-case needed was bariatric surgery and a lobotomy.
From wikipedia – A delusion is a belief that is either mistaken or not substantiated that is held with vehemence.[1] In psychiatry, it is defined to be a belief that is pathological (the result of an illness or illness process) and is held despite evidence to the contrary.[1] As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, dogma, stupidity, poor memory, illusion, or other effects of perception.
I really think that people really need to mind their own business in regards to the choices that Chaz has made, this is his life not ours. I will say this much for his Mother, to treat your child like that is "wrong"!
Look MadMom. Chaz is a SHE not a he. GET IT STRAIT YOU OLE SLAG-HO!
Chaz, you weren't born that way. You had massive amounts of surgery, you freak-oid.
I dont doubt I was born this way ... I just didnt have a penis. Or testicles. Details...
How does someone that is not a boy ... know how a boy feels like? I dont think I have ever heard a boy say ... I am being betrayed by my body. Thats some chic sht.
One good thing is that when Sea Worlds Orca is feeling sick Chaz can throw on some black and white paint and swim around in the pools splashing for the Seaworld visitors.
As a woman I cant imagine having my mom pay thousands of dollars for me to come out looking like such a fat freak. Poor Cher. All that money wasted.
Then Ms Fatty comes out with this gem....""It’s getting better and better. She’s moving in the right direction, it’s just a process.”
Moving in the right direction? According to some freaky circus sideshow? Mmm hmm...poor poor cher. We can only hope fatChaz jumps from the highest building.
You demonic maniacs have skills that are nothing but privily set traps that are counter productive to your deceitful intentions.Reverbaration is all you accomplish for your exclusive vile selves."Continue on your personal journey to your own private hell."
I won't judge what I don't know and I didn't grow up like this person did so, as long as they're happy, that's all that matters.
If she wants to be a man, then should get a job and take care of her family. Enough crying about how Cher feels about her fat wanna be man body. Cher pays for all of that crap. She is supporting her crazy behavior. Cher should stop paying her food bill. Chaz is too fat and lazy. Chases should stop being so self centered and grow up!
Born this way?!?!?!?!?!? I've seen pictures. She was an adorable little blonde girl. Not a candidate for diabetes and heart disease. Poor Cher. She is doing her best to be loving and supportive but you can see the sadness whenever the subject arises
Why is Chaz so fat? Is it medications associated with his surgery or does he overeat and underexercise? His pillsbury doughboy image must drive his glamerous, health-conscious mother nuts.
@kindness: You are a dumb asz! If you can't operate a computer, please stay away. You said you are in a class and you still don't know w t f you are doing. How stupid can you be..jeez
Darn it, I got excited for a second. Thought I saw Jabba the Hutt's picture on the front page, and that a new Star Wars movie would be coming out soon..
"Expose them for what they are", is clearly articulated;"you will know them for what they are" "by your own words you shall be justified and by your own words you shall be destroyed" "NO EXEPTIONS!" Is Chaz Bono's immoral,sinful behavior being condoned? then it is being condoned by a society of damned demons whoms certain demise is inevitable.What ever has taken control of mrs.Chaz Bono's mind and body is drastically blasphemous by stating;" i was born this way."
Even though Im now a man with a very small weenee I do miss some womanly things. So Ive decided that ever 28 to 32 days I will wear tampon up my butthole then duush with Summers Eve afterwards.
I don't understand all the name calling that is going on. Its ok to express opinions, but does the name calling have to be there! To all of those who are judging Chaz...how would you feel if this was someone in your family?
Don't care what he/she is, but you have nothing without your health. Needs to worry about shedding weight.
Expose them for what they are.It is clearly articulated;"you will know them for what they are" "by their own words you shall be vindi2ted
Just as a reminder:
Jesus died so we could repent and be forgiven of our sins. He also died so we could have eternal life. All persons will be resurrected into their perfect form. So, no matter if someone decided to alter their body from male to female or vice versa, you will be resurrected as you were divinely assigned. Sorry Chaz but you are a girl no matter how you put it. Before this life, in this life, and after this life. God does not give us trials and challenges that we can not overcome. How would that be fair? God is not a cruel God and he is perfect and makes no mistakes...He is our loving Heavenly Father. Will he damn Chaz? NO because He loves all of his children just like a parent should. Do we make mistakes? YES but that is why we are here on this earth: to learn, love, and grow so we can someday become like Him and live with Him again.
What. Bible verse are you citing when you wrote...all persons will be resurrected into their perfect form?...I've never read that scripture please quote the verse?
Put that freak out of its misery, period.......
God makes no mistakes....What a bunch of hogwash.
If I let a man hump my hairy manButt does that make me gay?
My wife was watching an interview with Chaz on tv. His voice sounds a lot like her father Sonny.
All I need now is a yellow baseball cap a He-Man Truck drivers wallet and a Semi.
I eat so much someone needs to follow me around with a pooper scooper.
Why are people so judgmental? Public figures have public lifes. May uneducated citizens get educated and stop spreading hatred. We all have the right to the pursuit of happiness, no matter how hard they try y'all can never erase those words from the Dec. Of. Ind. Peace!
It looks like the ugly love product of Roseanne and Dan Conner from the tv show "Roseanne."
I don't know how some of you can be so cruel.
The first time I took a big ole man doo doo it hurt and made me cry. What a HUGE manLog of doo doo that came swirling out. I was so proud. I just hope the first time a man screws my manButt it doesnt hurt as much.
Way to go, Chaz! It takes a truly strong person to put themselves out there and be honest, and he's going beyond the call of duty by sharing this with us. Also, his compassion for his mother, who is considered by many to be a progressive person and who is now having a problem apply that progressive thinking to her own child, is really inspiring. He could get mad and demand that she accept him on his terms and his timeline, but he's not. I wish nothing but the best for him as he continues on this amazing journey.
Jenn, you are very sweet. Please send me some pix of you in the shower and perhaps in the future we could shower together and you suck my manGoober. I will pee pee on you. Love, Chaz.
Unless she has a "Y" chromosome, she is female. Am I the only person in the country that paid attention during biology?
The whole notion of being transgendered is ridiculous. Until such time as science can discover a way to change your chromosomes, it is impossible to change genders. Everything she has had done is purely cosmetic, no different than getting a nose job or boob job.
Clearly, she has severe mental disease. But instead of trying to fix what is broken our "doctors" tell he to embrace the disease. It's ridiculous.
Wow, fat, ugly, bloated, confused and mutilated. That's something all American youth should aspire to. And you pacifist liberals condoning it, yet at the same time you allow abortion. What a messed up in the head lot you are. You're also part of the "blame America first" crowd, aren't you? Think Osama deserved better treatment? A proper burial? Afraid that the terrorists are REALLY gonna get us now? The fact that no WMD's were found in Iraq but we still saved millions of innocent lives by hunting down and hanging Saddam Insane isn't a good enough reason for being over there? Why don't all you whiny weak stomach losers pack up and start your own gay&transgendered island somewhere where you can all be happy? And while you're at it, put a black and a mexican under each arm and take them with you. Except for fatties like Chaz. He can carry a black and TWO mexicans. THIS is why the terrorists hate America.
How do you like me now?
The other night I tasted my own doookie.
Excellent! There's hope for you yet!
God doesn't make mistakes-period. The suffering we go through is caused by all our sins. We need to accept the good with the bad. We rejoice when good things happen and curse God at the least bit of trouble. Suffering makes us appricaite what we do have.
Doesn't she say this once every three months? Just another attention grab.
NAY, NOT BIBLE TOTING; DOUBLE EDGED SWORD SLINGING WHILE SINGING SONGS OF VICTORY.
Why doesn't he lose weight?
Karen, Chaz aka IT cant lose weight and will never lose weight. Its now a transgendered hippo.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SVgO0rs2F0
I would rather be transgendered than an obtuse, bible-spouting, ignorant, uneducated and intolerant idiot.
Way to go, Chaz.
I agree No, Really. The worse would be if I was a ngger.
@frank-LOL THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYING:"FREAK"
I can down 4 Big Macs in 45 seconds.
If he is happy, he did the right thing. God doesn't make mistakes? Then why do we have the March of Dimes and other similar associations? Not to say that the children are mistakes, but something did go wrong. Thank God we can at least correct some of the problems.
As I told my son, when he came out, "Dr. Spock left out the chapter in his child-raising book about how to react when your child is gay. No one prepared me for this." As long as you focus on your love for your child, it will work out.
I agree with you. You are a wonderful person.
I'm so happy he is finally the man he always knew he was. God bless.
I bet Chaz wants to join he YMCA. I bet Chaz takes big le ManShyts now.
What a freak.....
There is no such thing as happiness unless you associate whth demons that will bring about your destruction. What will JESUS do? INDEED, Blessed are the outwardly simple for we are uncurruptible. And inwardly complex.
I hate to party poop, but she's a superfreak!
Yikes.
Chaz is such a huge lumbering beast that when it commits suicide it would need an anchor chain from an aircraft carrier just to support its fat ass.
Chaz is very ugly and fat. Chaz will commit suicide soon.
Why can't people just let other people be who they are and want to be? This does not affect any of you in any way so why do you even care? I say good for her/him whatever makes you happy do it and don't worry about what other people think or say!
FRAN. You are so correct. Will you make a man of CHAZ by giving it a bj or letting it hump you in the rump?
WINEPRESS NOW! Lets eliminate the dastardly dissident before the meteor strikes.
This story is something...but the comments on here are just plain messed up...
Mono. The only thing messed up is me. IM A MESS butt will still let you take dooookie on my hairy manchest.
Fake Chaz Bono masking an insult with humor is still an insult. You have some mental issues and should seek help because if you don't you could become a bully.
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CHAZ,
HATS OFF TO YOU! who gives a crap about what people think of you. YOU did what you had to do to live your life. and I am happy that you survived all the hoop la and came out in a better place. You just go and live your life and be happy. and your partner is gorgeous! and your Mom is awesome too...... God bless you....... and Screw the world!
I took my new Dell to a computer class for new PC owners last night. About midway through I leaned over and told a knowledgeable looking woman next to me that I couldn't make sense of it. She quickly observed my computer was a Mac, though "Dell" was clearly marked on the machine. Another student overheard the problem and laughed – "It's a Dell, idiot! They make PCs. Suck it up and learn this stuff." I tried to explain that I couldn't mouse down to the "Start" button, because I couldn't find it. I felt confused and embarrassed. "Look harder!" said the disgusted student. I told the instructor and after fiddling with the machine he had two suggestions. 1. I could run a emulation program so my Mac could run Windows – it would be slow, inclined to crash and may just not be able to run certain programs and I might loose all my data. 2. I could switch to the Mac class, perhaps with a bit of tinkering with the case it would draw too much attention (but really, why should anyone care what the case looks like?), and learn to operate my machine properly. Any advice about which is wisest?
Kindness. If you will let me make sweet buttlove to rear-end then I will help you.
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The truth is that she will never be happy or satisfied no matter what changes she does to her body!!!!!!!!!!!!! She needs a heart transplant to become a new person which only God can do. If anyone is in Christ he is a NEW person...2 Cor.5:17
Funny how people will read an entire article and comment just to say its wrong. Let me tell you something here, every male in my family,for as long as any of us can remember, has played football. Doesnt matter if we played for one season or ten,we all played,except one. Its pretty much religion here. My little cousin,from the day he could walk,would rather have performed with the cheerleaders..from the very start...not all male cheerleaders are gay,but in this instance it was the truth. Im proud of my cousin,because,unlike almost anyone I know, he has always been who he is,and always wore it with pride. People are born how they are born,and you out there hating because this freaks you out,why waste your time here?you change nothing,and most of us dont care about your opinion
DJMC. Thats nice butt we really dont care about your entire family growing up molesting one another and being gay doo doo eating freaks.
@Hairy Pooper
You might think you are funny but masking an insult with humor is still an insult. You should realize you have mental issues and seek help.
@angela..w t f are you talking about. you are speaking but all thats coming out your mouth is sh/it
MY GOD...where did this Chaz "THING" come from. Dad, come get me the hell outa here.
To all my fans. I will be starring in a new movie "The Thing that ate Minnesota."
This is just sick......And so very very wrong. She will stand before God some day and be soooo sorry. What is happening to our world. It is the end times for sure.
The THING that is Chaz should chop off its man nips, make them into earrings and give to Cher for a B-Day present.
You find it sick because you don't understand it, your fear is keeping you from learning the truth about this neurological and hormonal problem that people are born with. It's people like you who are too afraid and lazy to learn the truth is what is wrong with our society.
I'm GAY and I'm PROUD!
i remember an adorable little blond girl and the 42 year old face is exactly the same now as it was then, and ironically, it fits this grown mans look just as well as it fit that little blond haired child......i dont pretend to understand it all......but when i look at him, into that face, it seems there was something inside that knew if he stayed a woman the face would represent a woman and if he changed to a man the face could represent a man too.
not too many of us could get away with that.
Jeez – all you haters need to seriously get over yourselves. And then there's the religious nuts .. jeez – can't you think for yourselves? Do you run to the bible everytime you are confused? Which is probably all the time... Good luck to Chaz and Cher. Being a parent is never easy but being true to yourself is harder.
"Lyn...give Fat Chaz a piece of your Ngger ass and make a man out of "it"."
That is the most hateful prejudice remark which show you have some serious psychological issues. Your one scary person.
Bravo, Chaz. Bravo. God Bless you in your journey to authenticity. 🙂
Hey Linda. Why dont you make a man out of our Chaz and give it a piece of your ass?
Sonny and Cher and ASSociates always used to make me laugh out loud so uncontrollably, that at times i would inadvertantly FART. But i never smiled at how comidic they where.Which brings to mind, it is NO WONDER why she [Cher]em barked in her repugnent,ill concieved lifestyle escapades.
That's weird, the head line says, "Chaz Bono: I was born this way." I was almost certain I heard that there was surgery and hormone treatment involved. Hmmmm...
All you prejudice mindless idiots! The only person that needs to judge Chaz is God himself. It's Chaz's body whatever he did was up to him. He's an adult. So step off!!
I want wish Cher happiness and grace and may your future be filled with strength to carry on wayward sun and ignore such hate that we see here. I am the same age as chaz so Cher has been an talent I've admired most of my life so I would never say some of the hate. I've read here today geeesh.
Fat guy in a little coat, fat guy in a little coat! That still cracks me up.
I do not have a problem with someone being gay. I don't have a problem with someone who choses to live as a different gender. My problem is that everyone keeps calling her "him". She was born a woman, and she still is a woman. She can identify herself as a male, but the law should not classify her as one! I don't care what operations she has, she will ALWAYS be a woman.
So you do have a problem with it and pretending you don't won't allow you to take responsibility for your personal prejudice.
The amount of ignorance, intollerance, and just pure hatred shown here by so many people is what is sad, freakish, and sinful.
Judgement and hatred. Real Christian of you all huh? Before you judge someone else and act cruelly toward someone else maybe you should think about that.
How can you change what the Lord almighty has made you? I'm in no way judging this poor girl, I'm a God fearing person, someday we all have to meet our maker, I hope that the Lord as mercy on her soul. Good Luck Chaz, no matter what you've done, you're still a woman. Also, you're very lucky to have such a wonderful loving mother, some kids can never go to their parents with such serious issues.
It's called being born with a neurological and hormonal affliction that happens in the womb. It's to make us aware that we are all not born perfect and sometimes through science we can help people to become better in dealing with their lives.
By the way God makes transgender people!
It is my opinion that identifying with someone and/or being attracted to someone can be a confusing issue. As one matures, one sorts this out for themself. I wish Chaz strength, wellness, happiness, and love. When Sonny, Cher, and Chaz closed each Sonny and Cher show, this is what they showed the public. They made families smile.
Once I thought I wanted to be a dolphin, so I went to the same plastic surgeon that made my small white Jewish kid a 7 foot tall black kid with bad knees. I had the flippers, the fin, the blow hole, the long snout, but I was still unfulfilled. I eventually went back to being a mousy white greedy money-grubbing Jewish lawyer.
God made my son handicap and I do feel this was a handicap also, a correction was made. sometimes we can correct mistakes. This was a case God Bless.
Seriously...how do people get to legally claim to be a "man" and don't have a penis and never had one? Maybe the moon is actually the sun and falling down is actually flying? Who needs words with definitions anyway....
Why are so many people hating on transgendered folks? This is a SERIOUS neurological and hormonal affliction. Do you hate people with Down's Syndrome, ALS or any number of genetic afflictions which shorten lifespan and/or lead to horrible deaths? No? Then stop this cruel nonsense and be happy transgenderism has a cure - helping that person become who he or she really is! The hardest part of the process. It is mean, ignorant people on this thread which, no doubt, contribute to the high suicide rate of TG folks.
I just puked in my mouth. BTW: Sonnys death was no accident...I hear that the tree he hit was planted.
Addtionally, transgenderism is a real, horrifying affliction. Many people know since they were toddlers that they are in the WRONG BODY. This is NOT an OCD type affliction like anorexia. This is a serious neurological and hormonal dysfunction of the body. Thank goodness that we live in an era where people can change themselves hormonally and physically so that everyone else can see who they actually are as a human being. s
Chaz is happy....that's all that matters. I hate seeing all this bigotry and hate out there.
You calling me a bigot, does not actually make me a bigot. I can call you a chicken, but you won't be sprouting feathers anytime soon.
I'm not changing the game. The "trans" person is. I haven't done a single thing to alter myself in any way, shape, or form. I am 100% the very same person I was when "you" went into that operating room. YOU are the one that came back different. YOU are the one that is no longer the same person. To say that I am a bigot for not accepting you with open arms, is well, ignorant. Very similar to someone cutting off their own legs, and then demanding the world assist them in performing daily tasks. If I have the time, I'll help you out, but you did this to yourself. This is not a medical condition, and is in no way life threatening. This is a mental disorder, that affects the way you see yourself. If you treat the disorder, instead of giving in to the desires, who knows how these stories will turn out. I guess we'll never know, since we waste no time worrying about WHY they see themselves as something they aren't. We just hack away at anything they want removed. Oh, I have to dress like a woman for a year before I can become one? Great! When I was 5 I wore my superman costume everyday for a year- when do I start flying?
@James
"This is a mental disorder, that affects the way you see yourself." It might help if you educate yourself first before forming an opinion. The experts disagree with you. So, yes you can classify as a bigot with the prejudice you are stating here.
Ok, now that your 'transformed' into what you were born as? What are you going to blame your unhappiness on? I don't buy this kind of stuff at all.
Chaz does not strike me as a happy person. He looked uncomfortable and his eyes don't show any happiness. When he smiled, it just seemed forced and looked like there was a lot of hurt and confusion involved. I don't think the present relationship will last either. I am just sad for him, he seems like he still isn't comfortable in his skin. Too bad.http://bit.ly/kYIbgt
Don't worry Chaz. Obama can't help that he was born a stain on humanity either. So chin up kiddo
Looks like she likes the vittles a bit too much!
Looks like she just got a buzz cut and gained 50 more pounds
Just looks like a fat woman with a buzz cut...i agree cant change bone structure..still looks female..
and the beat goes on and the beat goes on.
Yes, blame your body, you're right; your flesh is one who has to blame. You're letting your flesh to take control of your spirit. But the truth here is that, you don't care about your soul and you don't care about the soul of other people. You and others like you wants everyone accept something that is wrong, and this is not so. Do you know why this is happening to you? Blame your mother and your father for this plague, your parents did that many idolaters them, and they idolize you, and give you all that headed you away from God. This created a plague in your family, as in much other family who are doing the same. The disobedience to God creates the plague on many sons and daughters of these latter generations, and many are losing their souls. Its fine if you want it to lose it, but no one has the right to change what GOD created, no one. No one can pretend to make other to accept what is wrong. To all out there I tell you this: take control of your flesh and feed your spirit with the WORLD OF GOD, because your soul is the one that will live forever, not your body.
Sorry I make a mistake the WORD OF GOD. LOL Oh, my GOD I now what you are going to said, you see, you to makes mistakes. But I can corrected but chaz not. lol
Were you drunk when you wrote this?
You know.. my momma always told me that if you can't say something nice, you should't say anything at all.
Jane. Last night I humped your mom in her smelly butthole.
In our society there really is no such thing as overall normalcy. We thrive on diversity. Like beauty, "normal" is in the eye of the beholder. Chaz like many others has made a life decision, since he is not the only person to have made this decision technically it is "normal" in that group of people and it is his right to speak about it and offer up inspiration to others who are facing the same issues. Your hatred and insults only further prove how brave he really is for speaking out about it.
Feeling brave behind your computer and insulting people who you may not otherwise even approach or notice in daily life is cruel and unnecessary. If you don't like something or disagree with others choices, it is your right to say so but it may i remind you of the countless people who have ended their lives recently as a result of this form harassment. Have compassion for the value of human life whether you agree with someones choices or not and stop spreading negativity because you subconsciously fear what you do not know or understand.
Interesting, but at the same time, in my opinion anyway, sad.
F R E A K
Purge it with fire and lots of it.
Jesus thought he was a woman; will he come back as a female Messiah ??
Will it take 3 days for (his / her ) resurrection ?
3 days = 72 hours, so maybe 72 virgins will be the Messiah.
now 2 religions will have a common bond !!
Peace on Earth. "cher (pronounced) share" the Joy !!!!
CHAZ! I would never disrespect you. And I accept people for who they you. Like attracts Like. Just surrond yourself by good people & be positve & move on to your dream. GOOD LUCK TO YOU, MAY YOU ALWAYS BE BLESSED ON YOUR JOUNEY!!
This thing is making me look bad. I'm rolling in my grave. The b**ch stole my look!!! and its not pretty!!
Time to call it a night. It's 1:30 am Tuesday morning. I got my laughs for the night.
Chaz, dont let agnorant haters try to tell you what you are, stay stronh and i want you to know... your no freak! there is no such thing as normal so i guess we are all weird lol oh and to all the haters go chaz.... and gay pride!!! and yes i am straight... thats not something i am proud of right now!
How butt-ugly can one person be in both genders? You need a strong stomach to look at her/him!
I was born to be a Hurricane. Were are those surgeons who can preform the operation.Lol
I was going to leave some sort of hurtful/insulting comment about this man/girl, but then I thought, why should I care what she wants to do? And why should any of you? Sure i'll give you one, its strange, odd, weird or whatever, but the world would be a much better place if everyone worried more about themselves instead of being so judgemental of others. Just saying..
We should all have empathy for Osama Bin Laden seeing he was born to be a terrorists.(Rolling eyes).
Sunshine Girl quoted: I never realized how many uneducated/ignorant people there are in this world.
I never realized how disturbing the news in this world was becoming.
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He really couldnt help what gender he was born! it wasnt like one day he woke up and just said i think i wanna be a man, he didnt choose to be born a girl and he didnt choose to be a guy he was born one! Chaz be strong and dont let those loser haters bring you down... you are free now from your "cage"...
you think that people don't CHOOSE to be gay or transgender. Time to move out of mommy's basement and grow up. No wonder people like you make $4,000 a year and then expect the government to hold your hand your entire life. Stop being a leech on society and start making a contirbution to the world.
With these big hulking obese nasty smelly Chaz-Men running around its no wonder that Osama Bin wanted to destroy this Country.
CHAZ YOU WILL NEVER BE A MAN. A HOGETTE YES. Man, no.
Sounds like some of you need to turn off your computers and call it a night. I don't care if Chasity changed her gender in to a male. It was a choice and her decision to become a male. It has nothing to do with being born that way. I get so tired of hearing that phrase being mentioned. The news we hear or watch is not going to get any better this day forward. Either blot it out or just don't comment on it. Nuff said.
Hey Jet, do you know a chick in Florida named Erin? This is not a joke. She is my g/f.
About Chaz...why not leave the judging to God? Just a thought.
No I don't know an Erin.
Jet
Maybe the next surgery can make this "human" which thinks she is a he, into a coffee table for her visitors to leave more donuts on. I don't "feel" sorry for Cher or her kid. I feel sorry that society slowly wants to accept the horror and freak shows like this one, to be "normal". There is nothing normal or acceptable about Cher's daughter. Mental Health should have been the only priority.
Cher's daughter needs to hide in a Marine Land amusement park, in the Whale tank with a warning to the public, Ugly whale exhibit. Cher, you are a rotten parent, and your child needs mental health care.
Just shoot yourself already and put us out your misery. Seriously.
I never realized how many uneducated/ignorant people there are in this world. Chaz felt she had a problem and she resolved it. Its not a big deal. Her biology/genetics were mixed up due to a malfunction during pregnancy. Couldve happened to any of us actually. And really why should it matter to anyone? How is it affecting your life? Its not. I say live and let live. Theres absolutely no reason for all the hatred/meanness/ugliness towards her. If you dont understand education is the key. Unlock the door.
Enough said and done,for now. Time out for some gratifying sleep. when i awake ,i will be nine percent wiser,nevertheless ,i will-low and be hold-in every way, always be me.
Then again, they are all partakers in the same secret society cesspool.
Chaz who? Cher looks like she sucked apple peels into her lips and ruined her face, wants to look like Michael Jackson. This kid of hers wants to pretend she is a male, not gonna happen. Surgery may transform a human to LOOK like a pig, but looking like a pig won't make you one. Eating those 15 chili dogs and 45 pancakes a day won't make you be an animal pig, but it can help you look like a pig. So far it seems to have worked for you. No tail on that pigs body yet? Mentally ill people always want what the imagine rather than reality. Chaz you are as nasty looking as a bowl of cat vomit smeared with lard. UGLY would be a compliment.
I DON'T KNOW ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT YOU WERE BORN THAT WAY. WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT YOU BETTER GET YOURSELF ON A DIET IMMEDIATELY OR YOU WON'T LAST LONG.
Sony Bono must be turning in his grave trying to get out and at cher and those who advocated for her by killing him.
So if people are born this way then wouldnt it be a birth defect? Born gay would be classified as a birth defect. Now treat it like one or not?
"I just wanted her to marry,have a kid,divorce and live happily ever after", hugh mother? well why did'nt you just turn her into mask ?
Lmao @ some comments. I honestly have nothing nice to say so I will keep it shut. Some of you said it for me.
The devil's children are simply pervertedly privaledged. They can have it how they want to have it whenever they want to have it. They are all miserable thrill seekers. They are worst off than the beasts in the field to be taken and slaughtered. "HEY!whatch that levy!"
To be a man you have to be a boy first. Just because you take pills and have surgery doesn't mean you're a man. GLTB wants me to call a square a circle but I'm not gonna do it. I wish him/her well, no hate, but I can see that the king is wearing no clothes.
What a freak. Not Obama's or Bush's fault this time. It's her parents fault. Drugs, eccentric parents & a poor upbringing is what did this to her.
The only penis i,want is in me...i cant imagine having one of those attached to my scrtoum..i hope she went for a size to fit her body...the bigger the body the smaller the penis......im just sayn!I feel for Cher..she had a pretty litttle girl....
It's sad. Of all the things in life that can be confusing, our gender isn't one of them. She might "feel" like a man, and she can masquerade about, trying to look like a man. But the reality of her body and her genetics state with total clarity - she's a woman. Rather than seeking high and low to gain acceptance, it's truly her who needs to accept her actual gender as a woman. It's unfortunate that some people buy into the PC BS and calls her a "he".
dear chaz,
you screwed with my design now burn in hell
You were born confused, screwed up, and morbidly obese. I think not. There were some really bad choices you made along the way. And I have no doubt your mom contributed significantly to who you are today. Very sad.
Somewhere, sometime, somehow in the depths of all the hate and ignorance posted here – I'm reminded of the saying "IF YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING GOOD/NICE ABOUT SOMEBODY/SOMEONE, THEN SAY NOTHING AT ALL ".
People, get over your bigotry and fear. Chaz has done society a favor by sharing his story. Chaz did not choose to be born to Sonny and Cher, his celebrity is only by birth. He's not out looking for this publicity. Nor did he choose to be transgendered. The only thing he chose was to be brave and live his life with integrity.
Many of the postings here are by uneducated, redneck bigots. That's disheartening and a sad testament in 2011. Grow up and get a life!
I'm done with it. He's attention starved and if she weren't Cher's daughter/son no one would pay any attention to him. He would have to deal with it just like the rest of my friends and the gay community. On our own with our friends and WITHOUT the press, maybe he should become a drag queen now, they seem to like the spotlights too.
I'm sure the pedophile female babysitter who molested her when she was a child had nothing to do with it.
It is sad when the mind and body don't match. Sad for all people that are involved.
There is no such thing as happiness.Contentment is what we ought to embrace.Chazy Bono was born, a beautiful lady.GOD clearly states that HE will give us up to a deranged mind if we continue to insist on trying to have it in our own sensless way.
GLBT people face a life of misery because deep down they know they are doing something wrong! Poor Chaz, one fugly ba$tard. It's okay, Lady Gaga loves you!
Gay gay gay gay.
I have tried several times to post something and it has not been shown! I'm NOT slamming anyone, calling people names or insulting peopLe! CNN is that the only things you post now? Insults, lies and misinformation? MARY~
Do not seek happiness because there is no such thing
Donald Trump and Chaz Bono will make a great couple.
I'm disappointed in the massive amount of prejudice and bigotry (as John said) that is showing up on this comment thread. Honestly, this just goes to show how uneducated and close minded some of this country is. No one here is to judge. Those who use religion as an excuse to discredit Chaz's journey or transition, isn't God the only one who could properly judge? Who is anyone to pass judgement on Chaz and suggest that he is a freak? There are a lot of transgendered people who have gone through gender reassignment surgery because body dysmorphic disorder is an actual disorder. This disorder actually gets treated psychologically (through therapy) before any surgery is done, those who also claim to have body dysmorphic disorder have to live a life as the opposite gender also, it can't be treated the same way as anorexia (in reference to a prior comment). I'm also pretty sure Chaz would like to be referred to by his proper pronoun. Also, becoming fat is not only about shoving food in your mouth constantly or being lazy, get educated please.
I do feel sorry for Chaz. How can you legally change from a female to male? What happens when she's not happy as a male and she wants to change back to a female. She's happy now but what happens next year? A new book?
who is this ugly hump?
This person's life is their own and no one has a right to judge or make this person feel less than human. But I'm curious; is believing you were born the wrong gender just a result of being told a gay/lesbian lifestyle is wrong? Is transgendering just an attempt to hide in plain sight in mainstream society? If you are gay/lesbian and tired of having to defend yourself from vocal and, even sometimes, physical abuse from total strangers and you have enough money you can just have this operation and fit in. Just a thought.
You were born "that way" after all the dugs your parents did...no problem man, as long as you're happy 😉
U gotta do what makes u happy in life or whats the point in living. If a person feels that changing gender is what it takes to be happy then so be it. I have a lot of respect for chaz making the desicion to go through with this because many people who feel the same way either just live with a secret that makes them miserable and bitter or they take the cowards way out and kill themselve rather than be true to their hearts desires. So props to u chaz bono for living ur life openly and honestly not only to yourself but not being affraid to be honest with everyone else. So cheers to chaz and good luck. I hope u achieve the happyness u r looking for out of life.
A real FREAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well...I guess if we were all the same it would be a very boring world. The only thing I can say is,"All the single people out there, be careful who you date"!!!
If I did not like people who are transgendered, or the opposite of hetero. I would not have created them. So you can all shut up, and get over it.
Please people pick up a book...the hormones that Mr.Bono takes increases his size...jimmy christmas!!! Any fifth grader can tell you that.
Hey people, if I hated Gay and Transgendered people, I wouldn't make them. So STFU.
I think we got the idea a long time ago. Go enjoy your life!
This is what turned me against "organized religion." So-called "Christians." It occurs to me that those who most LOUDLY proclaim themselves "Christian" are definitely anything but "Christian" in their practices. Hmmm, what was it Christ said once? Oh yeah!
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
My heart goes out to Chaz Bono and all the other transgendered people in this world. They face lives of utter despair and desolation as a result of this sort of ignorance and bigotry. May your 'God' judge you just as harshly as you judge others.
No, you werent 'born that way'. Sonny and Cher had a cute little girl. If God wanted you to be a man, he would have given you a penis.
Have you thought that this may be God's plan for him? No, you may not understand it or His plan. That's okay. Respect is the most important part.
I know there will be people who say God would never do this to somebody. No person on this planet knows God's thoughts or plans. Live your life as you see fit and let others live theirs. It will all work out in the end, and is not for us pass judgment. Whatever happened to the golden rule?
Chazz is hot, hot , hot.
Keep your bussniess to yourself.Meaning if your gay I dont want to know.Plus seeing it in public is gross.KEEP your closet closed
BALLS.
I hope that Chaz finds his happiness. But I hope that he looks outside of his changing body for that happiness. You body is material like clothes and cars. If that is ANYBODY'S source of happiness then they have a bigger problem than they know of. True HAPPINESS comes through the selfless giving of ones self. It just seems to me that in this situation, a lot of emphasis on material things.
I think a vast majority of the bigotted comments being made on here are by the same person. Some highly uneducated individual without even a BASIC understanding of Anatomy and Physiology? I am referring to the comments about "bone" and "skeletons." Yes, you moron, baby boys and girls come with different bones! (not true.)
Please at least educate yourself a bit before you make your mean-spirited, UNKIND, JUDGMENTAL, comments.
I am pretty sure Jesus is ashamed of you right now.
I like Lifetime, I better cut my d!ck off.
Freakish and fat. A double curse.
You are who you are on the inside, the outside is a shell. Our soul/spirt is within us all. you have to be true to who u r on the inside. At least he is BRAVE enough to be who he needs to be. If he is better for it and has fullfilled his spirit, he can live the life and be free. who are we to judge. Most people are so phony and NOT who they should be. Most people try hard to be like everyone else, a mold of the same hatred tword things they cannot undertand or are just too scared to even try to be who they should be. People that are making the bad comments are these people I am speaking of, say what you want, but I am RIGHT. I hope you find your inner spirit.
enough said
And you wonder why some people strap bombs to themselves to get to heaven? It's gotta be better than what we've got down here. This planet is in dire need of another mass extinction.
If you think he made the wrong choice, fine for you to believe that. But to sit on your butts and call him a pervert and compare him to pedophiles and murderers? that crosses so many lines. He didn't ruin anyone else's life.
Why not also change your name to Flab?
Chaz, your mother has always been my biggest inspiration. I have admired her for years because of her honesty and willingness to live her life the way she wants, no matter what others say. You have obviously fallen into her footsteps and I applaud you for that. Keep telling your story so that others who may be going through what you've gone through know that there is hope out there. Congratulations on being true to yourself.
I wish you the best Chaz. Good for you for being true to yourself.
To all those judgmental people out there-try to be understanding. Don't judge others because no one is perfect.
Hope you find happiness Chaz, now and for the rest of your life!
Why are people so mean? Anyone who said anything negative about this man or the way hehas choosen to live his life is just insecure with themselves. Anyone who posted something negative should take a minute and think about the way they choose to live their life. What if one of you is a vegetarian? What if you were made fun of for being a vegetarian? How about I start calling you a freak or weirdo or I tell you that you are gross becuase of the way you live. If anyone out there who has posted on here watches the show Glee you will know what I am talking about. You are all making fun of Chaz because "you are scared of how extrodinarily ordinary you are" ( Chris Colfers character Kurt said that when he was being licked on for being gay) I leave you with this... All of you who have judged this man for living the way it makes him happy I hope you all can continue to live happily in your judgemental ordinary world. When you go to sleep tonight I hope you can live with the fact that you judge others and that you are just plain old MEAN!
First she was an overweight woman, now she is an overweight man. What rotten luck. Oh well, be happy.
"I don't doubt I was born this way"
Obese?
I thought that Dom Deluise passed away?
Attention all losers!
Complaining about what Chaz Bono has done to make a better life only exposes your own shortcomings. When nature is imperfect we luckily have professionals willing to help correct the error to give the individual suffering a chance at happiness. Complaining about this person's courageous battle shows that you suffer from inadequacies far more debilitating than theirs.
I think a vast majority of the bigotted comments being made on here are by the same person. Some highly uneducated individual without even a BASIC understanding of Anatomy and Physiology? I am referring to the comments about "bone" and "skeletons." Yes, you moron, baby boys and girls come with different bones!
Please at least educate yourself a bit before you make your mean-spirited, UNKIND, JUDGEMENTAL, comments.
I am pretty sure Jesus is ashamed of you right now.
I think its normal for girls to wish they were boys at some point in their lives. Especially if boys have a more privileged place in society. I hope he finds happiness as a male.
All this hatred because of jealousy. 95% are jealous of Chaz because they didn't have the balls and the money to accomplish their dreams. For the others beware you will ended up with gay kids. I saw it!
Jealous of Chaz because they didn't have the balls??? I thought that is why one would do this is because one doesn't have the balls to begin with. XD
TALK ABOUT FAT AND ULGY, THIS HE/SHE IS A BEAST HOW PATHETIC....
TALK ABOUT a person not afraid to show how prejudice they are! Get help dude!
I saw an interview with Cher a while back and she was asked how she felt about all this. The interviewer (forget who it was) said that she no longer had a daughter. Cher said "Now I have two sons." I thought that was a great comment. I imagine this was a difficult thing for her to deal with, but she loves her children and wants them to be happy. That's as it should be. If only more people going through this type of thing had such support in their lives.
I never cared much for Cher but discovered that she is avery intelligent, caring mother from this.
"Why is there so much vitrol in the majority of these comments?"
Probably pushes the buttons of some men who identify as straight. You know, the Ted Haggard, Larry Craig, Mark Foley, Bob Allen kind of straight men. Doth thou protest too much?
I didn't read the article, went right to the comments. And sure enough was entertained for an hour. You have females defending this freak. Straight males criticizing this freak. Gay males defending this freak. Religious people criticizing this freak. Thanks cnn:)
Then we have people like you showing their prejudice by labeling another person a freak. Get help.
There is nothing normal about this. SHE was born a female, and will always be a female.
Trying to justifying this as okay, is like trying to say pedophila and murderering is okay.
Its disgusting.
That's right, gender reassignment surgery is JUST LIKE killing someone. You ass.
Why couldn't you get lipo along with your fake penis op?
GROSS
What is really GROSS is prejudice people like you!
ew, it is like a while with a person face!
First of she doesn't look like a man. It looks like a super fat lesbian. I can only imagine how messed up sonny and cher are to produce a freakshow like this. Sick will always be sick no matter how you try to rationalize it.
Let all men be liars and let GOD be true.Many peaple are so free, that they are given up to their own deranged mentalities.Sinister malevolent minds will always attempt to defy moral logical truth to their own demise. Satan and it's twice dead devils are financially well funded and not for long.
Chaz was no more "born" gay than "born" obese. These are behavioral maladies. At some point you choose to become/remain both. Those who believe otherwise are dilusional.
And you chose to remain ignorant.
People do not choose to become fat or obese. Get educated, the world is not so black and white or clear cut as you may think. I agree, you choose to be ignorant.
Is it still difficult for people to grasp that being gay/trans are not choices? /rollseyes What harm does it do to simply take our word for it? O.O Why is that so difficult? Certainly we are going to know far better than any of you aren't we? So what difference does it really make to just accept what we have been telling you for...EVER? And for those theological folk, "How many of us does God have to create before you finally realize that he wants us here?" O.o
Humm, well Chaz–should you happen upon this comment–I wish you happiness in your life. Keep smiling and treat others with kindness and respect.
Hope you find happiness now Chaz and for the rest of your life!
I get that this person felt they needed to be a man – but why a big FAT man? Geez, that just makes things even worse.
What really matters here is what Mr. Bono wants and whatever directions he is taking in his life....A lots of ingnorants in our society a lots....it's really sad. But, in the end is the individual decision not the viewers or readeres...so, grow up and educate your self in whatever subject you are gething into......GOOD FOR YOU MR. CHEZ BONO and I do appreciate CHER support is all what he needs!!!!!
I go to University with a friend who is currently going through her transgender process. She's told me some awful stories about the people in her hometown saying cruel things to her and calling her an abomination, which she doesn't deserve because she is one of the sweetest people I know and never has a harsh word to say about anybody. It just makes me so upset that here we are in the year 2011 and we still have intolerant people spouting hate at what they don't understand.
WOW! Who knew there were so many "Gods" right here on this planet readily available to pass judgement on everything! Isn't God the only being who has the right to judge anyone or anything? I'll have to call my Mom and tell her she raised me wrong! I was raised to accept and respect everyone, unless they do something to give you a strong reason not to do so. I suppose other Moms taught something else. Chaz is trying to live his life as best he can figure out. He hasn't hurt or endangered anyone, more than I bet I can say for most of the negative people who have commented on this story.
Wow. I remember the cute little girl on Sonny & Cher. Now (S)he is big and burly. Quite shocking. I agree that women are fine, and I see why a woman would want to be a lesbian, but come on Chaz. You are now hideous to (I'm sure) most people of any orientation. Good thing you're rich and famous.
It's one thing to be "transgendered" but do you have to be a FAT slob as well? LOSE SOME WEIGHT!
For those of you commenting on this article your stupid, for those of you commenting on other peoples opinions on this article your stupid, for those of you arguing back and forth about your opinions on this article your stupid. But I will say this, its very entertaining. I had no idea who "Chaz" was until I read this article.
You're = You are. But, yeah, it's us.
Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, Chaz, even if you WERE born that way. You didn't need an addadicktomy for that.
Well, if you say so, it must be true. Confusion, disorientation, and desperation are now marks of certainty. What a world.
God Bless you, Chaz, hope every thing works out for you
She didnt need a change of body ....she needed a change in heart. Only god can fill the voids we all search for in our lives. God loves Chaz Bono infinitely.
Born that way or a choice. Agree with his decision to have surgery or not. Right or wrong. Like or dislike. Something to think about, if it was your child would you be so quick to hate or make judgement, would you want someone saying the things that are being said here about your child?
Almost all hollywood people are nuts. Chasity/Chaz, Ophra, Elton John, etc.. They all share this in common defective, sick and perverted................. Wow this news?
Stephen being gay is not a mental disorder, it can't be voluntarily changed and it's not a choice. Scientists today agree that se-x-ual orientation is most likely the result of a complex interaction of environmental, cog-nitive and biological factors. In most people, se-x-ual orientation is shaped at an early age. There is recent evidence to suggest that biology, including genetic or inborn horm-onal factors, play a significant role in a person's se-x-uality
these people are repuslive to me.
"these people are repuslive to me."
Usually, that is a reaction by someone who hasn't taken the time to get know and understand gays or transgender people. Hopefully you are aware of your personal prejudice and will seek help for it.
Jaysus, that is one homely man.
What a sicko! pervert...idiot...who in the h e l l was giving you "therapy" you maggot looking jabba the hut! Must have been one of those liberal morons you paid a lot of money to so they would tell you what you wanted to hear. It's people like you that makes this country sicker by the day. You need real help.
WHY would you want to expose your freakishnish to the world-go back in the closet and PLEASE lock the door.
Why don't you go seek help for your hatred and prejudice. It's why he is talking about it to make people aware that there are people like you in our society. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Gag: You're one of them there narrow minded, ignorant bigots. Please go into a tiny, airtight room and close and LOCK the door. M'kay? Thanks....
Baby she was born to be Peter Griffin from Family Guy!
At what point in your transition did you come to the FAKE realization that any of us care. Pretty drastic publicity stunt! And before you folks comment- I read it to see how far Chaz was gonna take this.........
Gender transformation? Try gender mutilation!
Love how this article refers to her as "He". Just because you decide you want to be a man, doesn't make you one. You're a Lesbian trying to be someone you're not. Deal with it instead of hiding from it. Now you just look like a fat butch lesbian.
Whatever he, she, it wants to be is perfectly fine. It's getting ridiculously old to keep hearing and seeing it, attempts to justify it. It doesn't matter. Be what you want. People will either accept it or they won't – move on, please.
Thank you for all who have showed compassion and kindness towards Chaz. I admire him for his strength to tell his story. As we can read here, we know that it is a story so often mocked, riddiculed, and trivialized. I hope Chaz know how many people are here to support him.
That's good for Chaz; I always believed that people should just work with what they've got (I was born being attracted to the opposite s e x, but figured it was very likely that some people are just born attracted to the same s e x) – like Chaz had said he at would point had. If it really is a mental/physiological condition, and we have the medical technology to grant people gender changes if they feel this way, why not? Our brains apparently determine if we have Autism, I imagine this works pretty much the same way.
I am a gay guy trapped in a woman's body, that is why I am attracted to men
I am a lesbian trapped in a man's body, and I love women! Maybe we should hook up!
Good god... The ignorance of some of you narrow minded, hateful sub-human creatures is astonishing. Chaz is a man as certainly as any male posting here – and more man than many of you. You people need to grow the frack up – or do us all a favor and sterilize yourselves so you don't breed more ignorance and hate.
I don't know why Chaz's transformation bothers me so much. I've never had a problem with trans people before. Maybe it's because he/she looks so unhealthy. I think it's also in part because I can (just barely) imagine what Cher goes through seeing her little girl grown up to be like that. I can't imagine if my beautiful daughter did that to herself. It would break me heart.
well evidently you have a problem with trans people now...
I am in my 20s and in my transition. bot my parents are ok with it cuz most trans kids are very unhappy and have lots of depression issues and many end up commiting suicide. and i have a cpl friends that are f-m and are 18 their moms are happy with who they are becomin cuz they are not depressed anymore and one of the moms said they didnt no that their SON talked that much. if you dont understand what we go through as a child its hard to understand why we have to go through these proccesses
Here is the elephant in the room...her girlfriend was also "born this way" and is a lesbian. The lesbian girlfriend now is in a relationship with a MAN.
So how either of them say they were "born this way?" There is someone where I work in the same situation. Lesbian couple, one changes gender. They remain together.
"This way" seems to be whatever folks feel like in the moment. I don't buy any of this...not for a moment. They are just very messed up people.
Maybe his girlfriend loves him for who he is as a person, and not his gender.
Its easy as I am in a relationship with a "lesbian" and we have been happily to gether for 6yrs now and she is 100% with me on my transition (2yrs.. she puts it great..SHE LOVES ME FOR ME!!!! and now that I am happier with myself it has made our relationship better
As a straight male and a libertarian I'll say this:
Leave him/her alone. If he/she wants to hire a doctor to make her nose upside down, it's perfectly legal, ethical and fine. What is with people today and this mindset of "I don't like it, so.....make it illegal for EVERYONE!!!! Also, let's try to bring this person I don't even know down also!!!". Since when is it right to push your moral compass on others? I don't care WHAT side of the political fence you are on, both sides are guilty. He/she isn't pushing ANYTHING, they are only sharing. He/she isn't hurting anyone. I'm sure that a person would not go and change gender if they really didn't want to, and people don't CHOOSE to be a part of society generally frowned upon. I bet he/she has a job, pays her taxes (another can of worms of course) and contributes to society. Fine by me.
As another straight libertarian, I'll say yours is one of the few sane comments on this entire thread. Why are so many people obsessed with trying to control this guy's decisions?
When did America become such a politically correct, over compassionate, sissy faced nation? A girl transformed into a dude. That isn't normal. Our fore fathers weren't chopping off their weeners, and crying about how no one accepts them for their ideologies, and they built a nation. Just sayin....
there might be things physiologically that could make one be more masculine or feminine (although I seriously doubt it), however, God's design was one in which was perfect, hence, I strongly feel that these feelings that SHE has are more attributed to NUTURE not NATURE! When one is not steered in the right direction by parents who honor God with their lifestyle, this is what happens..."one day every knee shall bow and every tongue confess". Jesus loves everyone, but hates the sin and the destruction of ones person...so simple..honor God and follow Him and He will bring clarity to your perspective...it is for real.
Yo Bill – God makes transgender people!
"God's design was one in which was perfect, hence"
Then what the hell is an appendix for?
Honestly, I cannot understand how a parent would have trouble accepting this. A good parent loves a child selflessly. That means you are happy for your daughter when she decides to become a man because you know that is what she wants and needs to do, and that it will help her/him to find happiness. For a parent to "pull back" from a transgender child because she can't accept or deal with the change is a sign that the parent - the mother - is such a narcissist that she sees the entire world through her own experience. Perhaps Cher wanted a glamorous and (thanks to medical science) never-aging daughter to be a sort of "mini-me" for her. She didn't count on THIS type of surgical alteration. I've seen Chaz Bono interviewed, and he just glows with joy. I'm happy for him. His mother might learn a thing or two from him.
Fiona your so hard on cher. I didn't sense chaz being totally ostracized by cher from this interview. It sounded like she just needed the time to fully come to terms with such a big event in her only childs life. Cher probably made the resources$$$$ possible for her child to do this so that's a pretty big support right there. I just don't. Know if she's doing backflips over this becuz its probably a lil scary for her.
why cant we just be happy for people wanting to be happy? go chaz, follow your heart....i wish you happiness to your heart's desire......
no..you were born with bigger lips...
One word...Freak!
DTOM
One word – prejudice!
Never in my life did I imagine Sonny & Cher's cute little girl would end up looking like John Candy.
Anyone else notice how often CNN used the words "he" and "his" in this article? We get it CNN, you're trying to show everyone how extremely tolerant you guys are. Perhaps you can just be "naturally" tolerant and treat Mr. Chaz like a normal person, rather than going out of your way to show your alleged open-mindedness? Is that possible, or are you afraid people might not notice that way?
I'm pretty sure that, since the article clearly states that Chaz Bono was granted a legal change of gender in court, referring to him as "him" is entirely correct.
Just wondering....If you are born a female, how do you know what it is like to feel like a male (or vice versa)?
Val Kilmer looks so good!
whats next for Chaz?....................... lets see, he's been everything else so far, my guess would be coming out as a gay man.
+1
She had an atadiktamy
Why is there so much vitrol in the majority of these comments? Gender dysphoria is a medically recognized phenomenon. So much of how people relate to each other is based on gender and subsequent perceptions. Imagine how it would feel if every day you felt trapped in the wrong body. Not a much larger body or unattractive body...the wrong gendered body. What a nightmare! I wish Chaz all the best. I'm glad that he had the resources to correct his gender.
Shouldn't you understand there are many kinds of people, some more masculine and some more feminine, besides that there are a few with a genetic order that make them not so easy to say. So why jump into conclusions? Go and study things and stop complaining. I don't care if Cher's daughter is a boy now, he is not fishing in my pond, so to say.
Best is to not fancy anything, because everything has it's downsides. Bright ones too.
"Doctor, make me look like Kevin James!" – Chaz
Born what way? A hugely obese freak?
I was born transgendered........I take testosterone along with other supplements. I weigh about 190lbs. And I am 5'7"........my bodyfat. Is around 18% since I workout. I am very much into bodybuilding and I pass as male 100 % of the time. Freak ......maybe .......huge......yes ........obese...NO
Jet
Ok, first of all – you people are idiots. HE has fully transitioned and is now a man. If you can't deal with that, get over it. Obviously you do not know anyone who is transgendered. You have no idea the struggle that they have gone through, and if you can't accept them, don't bother them at all then.
I think Chaz is a courageous person for allowing people to know his struggle and try to help those who may be going through something similar. Only love for you Chaz. Bravo.
Oh, and no – I'm not gay or transgendered. Just someone who knows quite a few friends who have gone through this struggle.
And they are born this way. Trust me. And their not freaks. If anything – they've discovered more of their humanity than any of your morons ever will.
Very well put.
She has NOT fully transitioned to become a man. The only way to do that would be to change the DNA she was born with. DNA and chromosomes can not be changed. Therefore, the way you are born, is the way you will die. When the coroner does an autopsy and sends your DNA off for identification, it will come back that you are a woman (if thats how you were born) not that you had surgery to alter your body. I'm ok with gay/lesbian/etc.....but you just can't change DNA.
Erica,
Excellent post ....well put. I am FTM ....transgender just as Chaz and yes I was born this way. Society is cruel....I have dealt with people's ignorance most of my life.
Good luck to you Chaz....
Jet
Why do the sick perverts always insist they were "born that way"? Does that also mean racist KKK kids were born that way or does it only apply to the gays and transtesticles? I happen to believe you were born the way you were supposed to be. Having the influce of drugged out baby boomers as parents caused this freak to want to change because it doesn't know up from down.
"I happen to believe you were born the way you were supposed to be."
Oh good. You understand that if you were born gay, that's the way you're supposed to be. That's one mini-step in the right direction. If you were born to be transgendered, that's also the way you were supposed to be.
Kudos to Chaz for A) doing this, and B) being so open about it.
I don't see how using the men's restroom and wearing sturdy shoes is going to change even 1% of her life. I've been peeing standing up since I could walk and it's a highly overrated experience.-that made me laugh!! Is that all you think being a man is about? Sturdy shoes and peeing standing up?? Maybe you shouldn't have been born a man... think about it....... ;0)
all you people making cruel comments here are the freaks.
You, who are so quick to judge others, I say, unless you have walked in their shoes,( I have), but the surgery was not available when I was growing up.I have lived many years in the wrong body, and I know the pain. Have a happy life now, Chaz.
He was born a fat slob?
Were you born judgmental, bigoted, heartless, and ignorant?
She was obviously born obese, also.
No... she was not born this way, a money hungry surgeon mutilated her. She needs a good psychiatrist and the surgeon should lose his/her license.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3e-G4iUy0c
A rich "freak" with to much spare time to think rather than work.
I was born with FEELINGS too.Yes i was born this way. I never FELT like working. i never feel like going to work daily. What does that make me? I go to work because i have to survive.
You can learn a lesson from Mr. Spock and stop thinking with your glands and use your brain.
Some men feel like women! How so? You never had a period, never been pregnant... If you go by feelings you will always go downhill. What about people who have feelings to kill, rob etc? Self Control!
Where do you people come from? I am appalled at the hate and venom that comes out of these blogs. My God, are you like this around your friends and family, or only when you're hiding behind your keyboard?
they have to know that you can't hormone you original body to death it won't change you from being what you are truly male and female as your bones tell you
On the first day of biology, MOST people learn that men and women have the SAME bones.
Incredibly courageous, Chaz. Life is sometimes a very tough struggle and you were certainly dealt a unique set of cards. Stay positive and upbeat and helpful to others and your rewards will appear. Good luck.
life is short. he should be happy. i applaud his effort. does need to lose a pound or two.
who cares?
Not really sure what to think of this.
I guess what it boils down to is: it's your body/life, you can do whatever you want.
That being said, I don't really agree with it at all. I think something is wrong with you. The same way I think something is wrong with a person who over-eats to the point of not being able to get out of bed, or how something is wrong with people who self-mutilate for religious reasons, or how something is wrong with people who hoard possessions to the point where they can't walk around in their house.
Yes, everyone has the right to do what they want. No, I am not here to tell you that you "must stop". You are a free individual, capable of making your own decisions, and leading your life how you want.
But something is wrong with you. Not "different". Wrong.
well said......
@unsure
Something is wrong with you! It's called being prejudice without educating yourself. That is wrong! Obviously, you don't know much about transgender people and the fact you formed an opinion before learning about them is WRONG!
Yes, there is something "wrong" with us. And we're trying to correct it. How can anyone think we would choose this path? What's appealing about it? It's very painful and difficult. It destroys families and friendships. And yet we do what we must do – regardless of whether people "approve". The alternative for all too many is suicide. No one who does not live this life can understand it. Unfortunately, forums like this demonstrate that there are a great many people who opt for ignorance and prejudice. But I for one greatly appreciate those who learn enough to be sympathetic to our plight.
Glad Chaz decided to be a fat guy.. good luck..
If I was a little girl with two rich celebrity parents, that's what I think I would do, become a fat middle-age guy, DUH!
I suppose us poor people can't even dream, much less consider, a proposal like that. We must play the cards that God dealt us.
So let me get this straight: With no supporting conclusive evidence, people insist they are born gay. However, when they are CLEARLY born male or female, it's somehow "wrong"? Hmm.
That's the point – there is a disconnect between the exterior body and the interior soul. One's own soul and personal feelings are evidence enough. You make it sound like everyone in the world must accept their exterior as is ... why get braces, dye hair, shave faces, wear high heels to feel taller, change color of your eyes with contact lenses, Botox injections, etc? And the inner feelings that motivate thoss changes are nothing compared to the disconnect transgendered people feel.
You were not born that way because if you were you would have been born the way you had to pay money in order to become. Nature was changed when you decided to have work down. No matter what people say you can't say nature was wrong.
Thank God Sonny's dead so he doesn't have to witness this abomination.
Yes, Sonny would be shocked at how INCREDIBLY IGNORANT people can be about his child.
Hey Observer, your mother should have eaten you at birth, same with this Chaz-thing. That's why animals eat their young, to keep the breed pure.
@LOL,
Your level of maturity, class, and intelligence is certainly easy for anyone to figure outl.
@LOL
You need to get off your lazy butt and educate yourself. Your ignorance and prejudice is appalling
What a mellon head! That's a walking heart attack there! Still, I'd like to see the pseudo-peepee the doctors gave it. I guess she has those "koosh balls" for nads or something similar. Man or woman, it's fugly!
From a cute little girl on the Sonny and Cher show to a fat dorky manthing.
How screwed can you get?
Your the one screwed up with prejudice like that! You need to see a therapist.
You CHOOSE to eat and eat and eat....no one shoves food in your mouth EXCEPT YOU through your OWN CHOICE. So if you are fat and overweight, then you can expect criticism. How does your fatness affect me you ask???? Well, for one, I have to look at your blubber every day. Two, my health insurance premiums are higher because you can't CHOOSE to eat less - thereby raising all of our premiums to cover your diabetes exams. Outrageous!
So let's recap >> YOU shove food in your own mouth - it's YOUR CHOICE. No one else puts food in your mouth. So if you are a fat ass, don't blame anyone else for your condition and EXCEPT to be ridiculed for your overweight appearance.
AMEN.
Fat=cancer. Fat is a choice and the one thing that prevents being fat is EXERCISE. Also, where did this dumb idea come from that it is ok for people to let "themselves go" after having a child. Nonsense. You didn't see this 100 years ago when most people worked farms or agriculture, or in tribal societies. The lady had her child, raised and was back out helping and remained lean. Now, the problem is everyone is sedentary. I don't have ANY problem with Chazz's lifestyle except for the obesity. If it is "his" choice to be obese, then...ok. I accept that. But my guess is that isn't the case at all. No one would rather be obese is a fair assumption, so don't complain about those that work to be fit and healthy complaining when their insurance rates go up. I'll be the FIRST to openly blame the smokers and obese. Rule #1 – CARDIO!!!!!
This is a well-researched, biologically based phenomenon. People's cruelty, based on ignorance, is astonishing. Let people live their own lives, and be thankful that this is not a path that you have had to take. It is difficult, not to mention very expensive. This is not a choice that anyone would make. Have some compassion people.
Many of the people who are posting comments here are the future of America. pathetic.
I can't believe the comments people have made here. We boast that America is land of the free, home of the brave, and then mock and tease anyone who bravely does something others 'disagree' with.
Everyday I am more and more disgusted by the commentary of the 'average American joe'. It makes me wonder if anyone in America deserves to call themselves American. America used to be where people went to avoid persecution for their beliefs, now it's home to nothing but a bunch of insecure bullies.
america was a country founded on Christian principles. last time i checked, being ok with someones sin was not a Christian principle.... you need to wise up.
...and just to clarify, i have gay friends. i am not the one to judge them, but i will state my beliefs without hesitation.
Agree.....not necessarily with being 'American,' but being compassionate. No wonder we're in such in a mess in this country. Everyone seems to hate everyone else! 'You're not exactly like perfect me, therefore you are are not worthy' seems to be the mantra. Sad society....
@Chris,
America was based on old Hebrew principles like some of the Ten Commandments and the Golden Rule and other morality that pre-dated the Bible.
How cruel can people get? I am embarrassed that human beings can be so callous.
I do believe that Chaz has lived a difficult life as a woman. More power to Chaz for becoming a male. I hope that he lives more in peace now than he lived as a female before. Good luck to you, Chaz. I am happy in my body, but understand that not all of us are that way. I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this cruelty. Stay strong in your own self and allow your mom the time she needs to understand.
Bonnie stop using the term he. It will never be a man.
@Ten,
What an amazingly IGNORANT statement. Grow up and get an education.
I am what I is and I is what I am. So what if I enjoy filling snail shells with my own doodee and eating them.
I am so happy I don't care one way or the other how other people live their lives. I mean...there HAS to be something better for you to worry about..isn't there? If the answer is no...then all I can say is I am not really sure this thing called life is going to turn out too good for you. Just saying....
That thing or any other like it will never be a man. If you are born a man will die a man. If you are born a woman you will die a woman. No man made change can make you something other than what you were born.
If you read, you will learn. If you care, you will learn. Otherwise, your opinion on a subject about which you know nothing has no value whatsoever. Worse, it fans the flames of prejudice and contributes to a climate of hatred. The next time a precious child is bullied, harmed or even killed for being "different" in that way, look in the mirror. You – and your willful ignorance – are the problem.
When did John Candy make a comeback and change his name?
On one side we have all the gays who insist they were born that way and on the other side we have all the delusional people who claim they can read gays' minds and "know" they are lying.
Good thing research in genetics is bearing up one side of that argument with cold hard facts!
oh yea.... and i was born a narcissist killer... so that makes it ok.
@Chris,
So you don't know the difference between a gay and a killer?
i know enough to know that sinful nature is sinful nature no matter which sin it is. we are all born into sin. that doesnt make it ok for us to live a sinful life. i pray for "chaz". there is something she is searching for that she will never find outside of a relationship with Christ. when she stands before the judgment seat, she will be just as guilty as anyone else who never accepted Christ.
@Chris,
The Bible that you use to condemn him also supports slavery, the inferiority of women and discrimiation against handicapped people. You could have chosen to follow the Golden Rule, but instead you have chosen to support mindless hatred.
Chris – why do you care what Chaz Bono does? People who care THAT much about what other people who they will NEVER encounter do with their lives is really bizarre. Can you imagine anything more narcissistic than thinking your opinion about someone else matters THAT much? I can't either....
Ugh...enough already! Why are you still a story? Born this way, born that way...I was this..now I'm that. Put a cheeseburger in it (you look like you're good at that, Porkchop) already. Other than being Cher's son, what the heck else have you done with your life?
FACT; SHE HAD A BEAUTIFUL MOTHER...AND SHE THE GIRL NOT MADE TO FEEL BEAUTIFUL.
HER MOM TINY, THE GIRL NOT....MOM NOT HOME, CHILD RAISED HERSELF....
EXPOSED TO ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE AND FREE LIFESTYLES...
MOTHER SEE YOUR DAUGHTER, DAUGHTER SEE YOU MOTHER
MONEY, MONEY, MONEY.....
Wow, look at all the comments about body size, calling a human being an "it"...guess you folks are so unhappy you need to lash out against others. Sad...
This is what it means to be an American these days. Didn't you know? This is how young people express themselves. And this is why the political stage is a veritable circus these days. The USA is an a downward spiral thanks to video games, reality TV and religion. To think that thousands of our troops are in harms way right now to protect these people and give them the right to express themselves this way!
You weren't born that size.
When you make a CHOICE to pick up the candy bar and stuff your face all day long with sugar, pastries, etc - then you can EXPECT to be fat....and then EXPECT to be ridiculed. It's not that difficult to understand. Stop making the CHOICE to eat so much and it wouldn't hurt you fat people to run a comb through your hair once in a while and eat less. Honestly. Your DECISION and CHOICE to be fat increases all of our health insurance premiums. I look forward to the day when fat people will pay more for their health insurance premiums because of the POOR CHOICES they mmake.
Her size is actuallu pretty typical among lesbian woman who have been molested as a child. Bulking up to keep the men away is common side effect.
Dan you are failing life also.
Dan your post truly shows you don't know what you are talking about, you need to get therapy.
Obesity is throughout this country and it has nothing to do with se-xua-lity. It has a lot to do with adults reported getting no physical activity other than at their regular job as reported by the cdc.
I think Dan was being sarcastic... Duh!
Okay...so I'm really curious why so many people here feel like they can insult someone for their beliefs? I doesn't affect any of you, and I believe the only reason this is discussed is because of her/his mother, otherwise it wouldn't be a public issue. I realize that few people will ever understand this, as I do not. However, if I sit and think about it for a few minutes, I can't even begin to understand what it would be like to feel you are trapped in the wrong body. Like I said I do not understand it...but I can feel sorry for this persons troubles. I do not feel the need to insult something I do not understand or agree with, so it pains me to see that so many others feel it's okay to jump on the insult band wagon.
It is obvious that the gay community is becoming more and more accepted as we learn more about them and the misconceptions that most have about them. So why would this be any different? In my opinion if this is what makes this person happy, who am I to judge? The problem is that we now live in such a connected world that people feel it is okay to pass judgement on any topic that appears in front of them, with little thought or consideration.
Why can't we, as a people, grow up. If you can't accept this, then move along and leave this person to live in peace. He/she has done nothing to endanger your way of life, so why do you feel the need to lash out in a public forum. It just seems juvenile at best.
Excellent post.
But what if it doesn't make her happy? What if this is just another messed up attempt to find herself and she ultimately is harmed by this? The percentage of those who regret getting this kind of surgery is fairly high. What if she just can't cope? Will you then admit you were wrong?
Well-said Eric. Lotta hate in these posting, overall. Chaz is not a freak, not abnormal, but just trying to bring his body into alignment with his experience of himself. If he is a happier person this way; it hurts no-one. No one else should have a problem with it. I know G-d doesn't. It's a non-issue.
"Eric
I realize that few people will ever understand this, as I do not.... I can't even begin to understand.... Like I said I do not understand it.... I do not understand or agree with..."
So you're saying you don't understand... right?
Most intellegent post on this forum.
It's a sad day when everyone else can judge and torment someone over their lifestyle – the way they are happiest. Let him live his life the way he wants – he's not hurting any of you – if you don't agree with what he's done you shouldn't have read this article. I, myself, cannot relate with his situation and I may not agree or do what he's done but what gives me or anyone the right to come on here and call him an "it" or "freak" over something that does not affect us. Get over it.
Excellent post by an intelligent observer.
If she doesn't want people judging her....she should not write a book and she should not do a media tour. She is asking for people to judge, surely even the most liberal person can see that this is a fringe element of society that will incite the masses.
This is a perversion. I personally don't care, but i can see that this is not normal. Is a pedophile born that way. Is a bigot born that way. Is someone with any bizarre lifestyle that contradicts the norm born that way? If someone digs her up in a hundred years and didn't know a DNA test says she is a girl. Hormones and fake genitalia can't change that.
Wow, there's a lot of stupidity in this comment thread.
Eric is GAY!
I am straight, but I feel for those transgendered people who lack the resources to complete a similar journey. Judging from the nasty, ignorant comments on this post, their paths are difficult to say the least. Best to you, Chaz - and the rest of you can go jump in a lake.
@myworst,
Chosing to be IGNORANT is worse.
Yes... you are all accepting... equality and what not... but I noticed you started your post with "I am straight"... you wanted to clarify that right off the bat didn't you? Wouldn't want a bunch of total strangers on a message board to think you are one of "those people".. would you?
Too funny. Next time you want to call someone out.. look in the mirror, hypocrite.
@My worst
You obviously don't know what you are talking about. The A.P.A (is a scientific and professional organization that represents psychology in the United States. With more than 154,000 members, APA is the largest association of psychologists worldwide.) has stated that being gay is not a mental disorder, it's not a choice and it cannot be voluntarily changed. They have also shown that the reports that were done in the past were done by bias and prejudice people. You are the one who needs help, prejudice and hatred like yours is the worst thing for our society. Get an education!
I wish there were a way to know the heart of a person upon meeting them...not just a vibe. Somehow know the types of comments that person leaves in anonymity on message boards. A little neon sign above the person's noggin flashing their posts. It would be eye opening, and something we could pay attention to, rather than what the person looks like.
@Lourie
I do not think that they were trying to separate themselves from "those people" by mentioning that they are straight. They are saying that even though they are straight and will never fully understand the difficulties that transgendered people will face throughout their life, they still empathize with them.
Take a look in the mirror yourself.
It's a shame that she thinks so little of herself that she would have her genitals surgically mutilated and allow herself be slowly poisoned with male hormones.
Agreed, another fine example of modern man using modern science to defy the laws of nature.
10% of children are gay? Keep on drinking the Kool Aide people, they gay community wishes they has those kind of numbers and before long they will.
@ken : the gay community is not trying to gain percentage points. I would never wish someone else the irritation of having to defend themselves from people like you.
To all of you who are so mean about this- first of all, do you get points for being so mean? Secondly, get a life.
Please stop with the destructive comments! Chaz is trying to educate us on something very personal, and in the process help others with similar conditions. Bravo for sharing and for caring enough to explain!
Who could feel sorry for someone who CHOOSES to mutilate their genitalia???? Stop feeling sorry for freaks who make bad CHOICES. No one felt sorry for me when I made bad CHOICES in my life. Ostracize this freak!
Chaz is trying to educate us, so we should all stop to listen? Really? Tell yourself that the next time teh Jehova's Witnesses come knocking at your door.
this distructive sharing this is going agains the very hormones her body was formed with How can you force your body to turn against itself , she need to reverse to her normal body you just can't change the skeletal system please!
I don't see how using the men's restroom and wearing sturdy shoes is going to change even 1% of her life. I've been peeing standing up since I could walk and it's a highly overrated experience.
What's next? She decides she was a black person born in a white girl's body and gets her skin dyed. I'm pretty sure most people would think that is insane but it would be far less drastic than the "transition" (mutilation).
Peeing standing up is HARDLY overrated.
I am a god fearing man and I cannot believe the level of intolerance and hate I am reading. My god has taught me to accept and love my fellow man no matter what. Its disturbing to hear people spewing hate in the name of god. Those are the exact reasons people are turning away from the church. Hate does not live within my walls. I accept you Chaz and I support you.
all these haters posting comments because they "know" whats right /wrong/ up / down...when in reality I bet they hardly know who they actually are. bunch of reactionaries, children who comment without deeper understanding of life & empathy.
I say let this person experience thier own journey of life where they discover who and what they are without your childish banter.
To mr. chaz,, keep on keepin on brother.
/roll eyes
You lecture people on hate as you spew a mouthful of your own.
a man is born a man with his pelvis designed as a man , so is a woman, can you tell your bones to turn in the dainty fingers of a woman, or turn the rough and powerful bones of a man's hand to turn thin and small, people are in need of Yeshua ha Mashiach
That's right, we should all listen to you because you clearly "know" whats right /wrong/ up / down... oops! It works both ways doesn't it?
@cirilo esparza it has nothing to do with bone structure, it has to do with the chemical makeup of the brain.
Ron, you are absolutely correct.
So far, none of the hateful rednecks have said anything in reply to you either. They've just kept on hating.
And what, pray tell, does it matter what the person's skeletal structure knows? Several people here have been talking about skeletal structure. Well, I'm pretty sure Chaz doesn't care about his hips anymore since he's a man. Men don't worry about things like "hips."
I still feel that there is some thing that goes wrong, either during the process of development, in or out of the womb.
I don't think feeling like the other gender is a natural occurrence.Some how 'some thing' went wrong..
And I have no opinion, because I do not know what these people feel like.. Except to say, that I feel very sad for the people who have to go through this..
Most people seem to go through so much and are usually in their 40's before they transition and feel whole.
It's sad..
I only hope the best for anyone who is suffering so much, and that they make the right decision.. There is no turning back once the surgical process begins.
Thank you for understanding. Every time there's an article on this subject, people come out of the woodwork to demonstrate that they have no knowledge of the subject and proudly display their prejudice. I speak from the standpoint of a well-adjusted, intelligent transgendered person who will turn 70 this year and did not fully accept my situation until a few years ago. I fought it for a very long time, and you're correct in saying that it's a difficult and unpleasant way to exist. To those who don't "believe in" it, think it's "wrong", would characterize me as "twisted" or "sick" or living "against God's will", I say you are willfully ignorant. There's a wealth of information on the subject, but you choose to ignore it and spew your garbage instead.
SHE
You mean born to be fat?
And not one single crap was given on that day. Who cares what it thinks it is or what it thinks it was born as? This is not news!
best post on here
Wow, every time I see him/her, she's bigger!
That's because she is so much HAPPIER now... you see... drastic weight gain is always a sign of inner peace, higher self-esteem, and total agreement with ones genitalia...
@Lourie, you're my hero.
Way to go Lourie!
....and Leon's getting laaarger!
Judge not, less ye be judged, Joe!
Lets get rid of all the Judges...end of problem. Supreme Court should be turned into a Meditation Center......
She's a woman her skeleton judges her as a woman. the pelvis can't lie
Its so sad to see that we as a society are trying to heal body dysmorphic disorder with such radical surgery. We don't treat anorexia (another dysmorphic disorder) with bariatric surgery to give the anorexic the body they desirre, so why cave in to this?
Radical surgery? My brother stepped on a mine in IRAQ and should he have not gotten radical surgery to fix? All you people make me sick – you don't realize that some preferences are not decisions. Comparing gender surgery to an eating disorder makes no sense and is not comparable.
Who cares what these people in society are doing to try and heal whatever issue they have??? It's not sad at all, it's just the way things are. Did you have a crush on Chaz before he/she went through surgery and you're butthurt now that you'll have to swordfight instead of burying your steeple? You people commenting on this article sound MUCH more screwed up than Chaz.
Ammanda Flemming: You know exactly what I meant. Don't play that game! Radiacl surgery done to save a life is a far cry from surgery done to satisy a dysmorphic disorder.
Huh: You know nothing about me or me steeples. I love how people like you are so apt to judge other people all the while you are whining and crying about how judgmental others are.
Probably because stopping an anorexic from eating more will kill them, but helping someone to make their outsides look like who they really are does no such thing.
Not a good comparison.
Well said.
@Amanda. Your brothers surgery has nothing to do with a healthy person making a dumb decision. and yes, changing your gender is a decision. If you argue that you are dumb.
I don't think this person needs to be insulted, nor do I think this person deserves open armed acceptance. This person has a mental problem and they need help. The doctors who performed this surgery should be arrested. Wishing you were the opposite gender and subjecting your body to mutilation is not healthy nor is it indicative if a healthy mindset. It on the contrary is indicative of someone who needs help.
You really do need to hit the boolks and learn about the subject before spouting off with opinions which are as baseless as is possible to be. He has already had the phsycological therapy that is necessary in his situation. The real people who need help are those such as yourself which need to learn to live and let live. If you don't like reading about this issue, what are you doing here, anyway?
Lets switch from gender to religion.
I don't think this person needs to be insulted, nor do I think this person deserves open armed acceptance. This person has a mental problem and they need help. The pastors who preach lies from a 2000 year old book should be arrested. Wishing you were going to live forever in the clouds and subjecting your mind to mutilation is not healthy nor is it indicative if a healthy mindset. It on the contrary is indicative of someone who needs help.
Hey everybody! How about we arrest doctors for performing completely legal surgeries because I think it's wrong. While we're at it let's arrest everybody who does something that I think is wrong. I just got back from Catholic Church and I'm on a rampage to make the world the way I want it... I'm such a piece of crap!
Your worldview must not extend very far off your own block. Probably from your front door to Walmart, and back again. Congratulations.
@mm you are the one that needs help and a great example of what is wrong with our society. Obviously, you didn't do your homework before forming your opinion. A panel of experts in their fields disagree with you.
why does cnn only let you reply to certain articles and certain replies???????? still figuring this out! LOL
It's always easy to judge when you don't have the problem. mm – yours is like a person with 20/20 vision telling someone with glasses to just get over it, to just "see clearly" instead of blurry. Come on, just do it! It's not hard, look at me, I see perfect! You're a disgrace. If you were born in the opposite gender's body and you didn't want to be there, you'd be the first person demanding others adjust to YOUR situation. Guaranteed you'd be the hypocrite.
You have a lot of opinions, but absolutely no knowledge of what you are talking about. In polite circles that is called base ignorance. Do you make fun of children born with birth deformities too?
don't believe it! you were not born this way! Hollyweird messed you up. being Cher's daughter didn't help you any.
Yeah I'm sure you are really in a position to make that judgment.
So Cher and Hollywood messed Chaz up, huh? So do Cher and Hollywood get the blame for all trans people from around the world too? People without the capacity for intelligent thought really should never speak or write.
Big Chief take Big Poo Poo when Chaz Moon high in sky. Ugh!
Hollyweird and Cher did not mess him up. Stop blaming them. Were you with him every second of the day to confirm this? Do you know something we don't? People have the right to be what and whom they wish to be, including you, but you chose to be ignornat and an azzhole. I feel more sorry for you being such a cold hearted idiot, than a person that chose to go public over a very private matter.
You know, Chaz, I don't think anybody really cares about your journey. We all have our own to deal with and yours isn't even our radar.
hear ... hear....well said.
The can you explain why you took the time to not only read this, but also to comment on it? After all..don't you have your own journey to deal with? Just saying....
If you don't care then why did you click on the story *ssface?
But you know, a lot of folks DO care about his journey, because they are on their own, similar journey. So if you truly don't care, tune out and no need to comment. 'Nuff said.
then why are you even reading this story. go deal with your own journey then and shut up.
What makes YOU think other people don't care? If you had a gay or transgendered child you should care - one in 10 children ARE gay.
Amen!!!
For those who don't think that a story such as this is relevant, just know that there are many transgendered children out there who are scared of who they are and of telling the world who they are. Stories such as these allow them to learn that who they are is just fine, and just to be true to themselves. Sure, it may be a hard road, but it's an even harder one denying who you are because of how people might treat you. Please, Chaz, keep talking about your story. I guarantee you are inspiring many, especially those who are in desperate need of such inspiration.
Because he looked at it and commented on it doesn't mean he's concerned about his journey. Every once and a while, people have to look at the news and articles like this too see just how pathetic people of the world have become, like "D". People are never satisfied. Rims too small so have to get rims on a car three times a large, pant's not worn on your waist, so they wear them on their knees, women created as man's comforter now man needs to be comforted by another man, so on and so. If you agree with this article, you are loser. Saying you are born this way means if I say I was born a thief and steal your car and wallet, it would be ok cause I claim I was born this way. Get real noob.
Well that's funny......if you don't give a hoot, then why did you take the time to read the article and write a comment about it? You are a total A$$$$$$$$$.
A pointless, ignorant and cruel remark. Chaz Bono has already accomplished more in this world than you, and he started out with a handicap that you have no hope of understanding.
Hey Michele53, your statement that one in 10 children are GAY? You wish. You need to quit smoking that stuff, girl.
@Ed
You seem to have self esteem issues did it make you feel better insulting another person like that? You don't know too much about transgender people.
Clearly you must be interested or you wouldn't have read the artcle.
Yeah, but it is interesting, in a side-show kind of way...
Sounds like you care.
Actually....there are plenty who are interested and who care about this brave man.
If its not on your radar then how is it your able to comment on this subject? If you don't care about the subject then move on and don't comment!
Peace to Cher and to Chaz. May the naysayers here wake up to find they have similar feelings. That may be the only thing that proves to them that what Chaz and many others have suffered is very real. It takes far more courage to take action to change themselves physically to match their emotional self, than it does for you to mock them.
I wish happiness and peace to CHER.
This appears to be the epitome of what drugs and chemicals can do when administered through the medical system. At least street use of drugs leaves a person's natural gender intact. How sad.
Why do you care what other people do to their bodies? Do you have a problem with plastic surgery?
poor cher. Cute g/f by the way chazz
She was born A woman, you can't change the bones in your body.She's a woman but needs therapy your bones can't lie
"Chazz Bono changing from a woman to a man is kinda like when you live in one house, and then move to a house a few houses down the block" – Adam Carolla
Ignorant and cruel you are. If someone had bone cancer would you say the same thing.
If you were born that way then why all the medical treatments to make you look this way?
SAD
@cirilo esparza thankfully the experts in science and psychology disagree with you! It's sad to see such ignorance still exists in our society.
I don't get the bones thing.
I'm with you, Sami.
Maybe Cirilo thinks it's the bones that they change?? (Don't tell him it more the other stuff.)
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just sayin... We are fearfully and wonderfully made (psalm 139:14) . In my humble respectful opinion my God is an awesome God who doesn't make mistakes. He alone as in the book of Job decides even where the lines are on the shore and places the very stars where he wants them. I think His choice for our gender is the right one. It's not ours because we decide we don't like who we are. God ... In His mercy and great love cares for us just as we are where we are.
Agree with Cirilo. No way to change what nature created.
As the Aunt to a 14 year old niece who had the courage to speak up that she is Transgender, I applaud Chaz. Is it easy? Hell no. Am I glad that my niece has someone in the public eye to help educate people about this? Hell yes. While this is hard on everyone involved, I am relieved that my niece realized it early in life and I can see she is truly happy.
"In my humble respectful opinion my God is an awesome God who doesn't make mistakes." What about people that are born with deformities, diseases, or disabilities? Should they not receive treatment because they are "wonderfully made"? My guess is that if it was any one of our children born with a lifelong condition, we'd seek treatment and not just chalk it up to God's awesome plan. In MY humble opinion, God makes a lot worse mistakes than just being born gay or transgendered.
@Lynn
Why must being transgendered be a mistake? If your god created the heavens and the earth, and everything in between, then he also created plenty of things to help people learn. Sicknesses to overcome, disabilities to move past, and seemingly unfair situations to defeat.
Just because its not what you are used to, you believe it not of god? To turn the sermon around, who are any of us to question his work; gender dysphoria included.
-A Trans Girl
To Lynn and the others who go with the "God doesn't make mistakes" line... of course you are against fixing children born with a cleft pallet, repairing crossed eyes, braces for twisted teeth and other gifts that some children are born with. Oh, and that gray hair popping out on your head... better not dye it, God wanted you to show your age... and no perms or cutting your hair either, God wanted it natural and long. Best not to wear reading glasses either, God intended that as well. And since God created us all naked, well, I don't want to tell you to drop your drawers, but...
Or, perhaps you should realize that God would want people to be happy with themselves and gave us opportunities to change things. Just because you are lucky enough to be happy with your gender doesn't give you the right to cast judgment on others. that's something God mentioned too.
No sweetie you were born and remain a XX chromosome no matter how much you surgically alter your body to look like John Candy
Poor Cher?! She's probably thrilled that Chaz is finally happy.
You cannot change your DNA, if you want to look different then so be, but EXPECT to be treated differently as well, comes with the territory. West Coasters are used to a freak show so stay over there.
Chaz/Cher – Wishing both of you much happiness and success. Don't let the meaness get to you. We are all dealing with something, it's just HOW you deal with it. I am not a judge.
welll... No judgement here! That is def not my job! We have all sinned! But justifyimg sin is not the answer. I'm glad for the chance to say just how thankful I am that we have a God who loves us and wants us to walk close as we can in the light to Him. We all know in our hearts what is right and wrong. Encouraging someone else to do wrong might temporarily make you feel a lil better about your own sin but guess what... It's still sin and has it's consequences. So if you choose to dance with the Devil expect to pay the piper. Jus sayin! And btw... Jesus did pay the ultimate price for us all on the cross!!
@lynn
If your God doesn't make mistakes, would you get treatment for the cancer God gave you?
I agree with cirilo! @ Liz yes it is sad to see such ignorance still exists in our society because test her DNA it will show she is still a women. She will never be a man. Just a fugly women.
You have obviously chosen to be this way,which I have no problem with ,but you were not born this way..I used to watch you on the Sonny and Cher show and you were a little girl.
I refuse to cast any judgment on her choice. Life is too short and plus each of us will stand in judgment before God. As long as she is happy within is what matters.
I for one wish I could make some changes to my face but can't. God had me born with a crooked nose, and a big chin. Just those things have made me miserable. So, I choose to be happy for 'him' for wanting to just be happy in this short life we live.