May 5th, 2011
01:57 PM ET
Cameron Diaz: Marriage doesn't 'suit our world'
Cameron Diaz is definitely a catch, but don’t try to marry her: the 38-year-old actress tells Maxim magazine that she indeed finds marriage to be a “dying institution.”
“I think we have to make our own rules,” she says. “I don’t think we should live our lives in relationships based off of old traditions that don’t suit our world any longer.”
This isn’t to say she’s against relationships, though. Things with her reported baseball-playing beau Alex Rodriguez are “awesome,” she says, and even offers a little relationship advice.
“I love men more than anything. I want all men to be happy and have rad women in their lives,” Diaz says. “But guys need women who challenge them and don’t let them get away with their s-. Women, conversely, need to not be crazy b-– who blow up when their guys tell them something that scares them.”
Duly noted, Diaz. Her next film "Bad Teacher," co-starring her former boyfriend Justin Timberlake, opens on June 24.
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Of course she has to say this. She knows she is with someone that will not be faithful to her and any marriage with him would fail. And thats all the types of guys she picks. A bit arrogant to say marriage doesn't suit our world. You mean marriage does not suit YOUR world, is what she should of said. Then at least that would be honest, rather than speaking for the whole world. But I guess celebs like this are off in their own world. Role models right? I forgot we are supposed to look up to these people. Only good people have alot of money....
Marriage is a journey, not a destination. Getting married does not require therefore that you be perfect, or never make mistakes, or never falter or stray from your stated goals (the oaths of a given marriage), but rather that you be committed to "getting back on the horse" again and again as you pursue the benefits marriage has to offer.
Because marriage is not merely about the societal factors that sometimes get mentioned – stability, family, etc – but also personal growth. I think it is through the many trials of marriage that we suffer and, because of a desire and commitment to care for another person, we become more enlightened as we become more altruistic.
Altruism, true, love for another person, is something which is not natural in life. But because of our capacity to grow and change ourselves – unique upon the earth – it is a human birthright to choose a path which can teach your mind what true love and true giving is – if you so desire.
It is my belief that the best and most natural way of setting oneself on this path (again if one so desires) is through marriage. Where else can one put another's best interests first (truly)? Where else can one experience such incredible pain when another experiences pain, and learn what it means to want happiness and peace for another more than for oneself (truly)? Until you have stood by a person through their darkest hours (such as the loss of their parents), their greatest joys (such as the birth of a child you created together), seen the impact of your own choices on the long-term well-being of another, and crossed the mental line where your desires are distinct from theirs, then you cannot know true love and dedication.
Love is not about passion, or being "in love", or honesty, or faith, or partnership. Love is taking care of another life. Through this path of enlightenment you can achieve transcendence: transcendence beyond your personal thoughts, transcendence beyond your own petty needs, indeed transcendence beyond you as an individual.
This is the great reward: to achieve a new consciousness. Could you be Ghandi, or Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, by birth? Perhaps some are so lucky, but a state of pure love is available not just for the gifted few, but for all of us, if we wish it, if we commit to it, if we fight for it, if even after failing we choose not to despair but to struggle and to increase our commitment (not decrease it).
To all of you here today I say, marriage is more needed now than ever in the history of man. It is precisely because our callous disregard for others is so prevalent and so great that we need some amongst us to work to obtain a measure of transcendental love and altruistic thinking, especially in our leaders and role models. Perhaps marriage may not seem useful in a life of hedonism, selfishness, and adventure. But you must ask yourself if that is how you truly wish to spend your One Life on this Earth.
If you aren't ready today, or haven't found the right person, or are afraid, best wishes to you. But heed the thoughts that are now in your mind and you can also begin your journey towards enlightenment on earth through love.
She had to say something since she's pushing 40 and has no prospects. She has the body of a boy and men like women to look like women, she looks like a door hit her in the face.
Who'd really want to be married to this basket case anyway? Marriage isn't dying. Just for self-important, self-aggrandizing people such as yourself.
Who in their right mind would want Rodriquez????????????? He probably has to spend most of his free time at STD clinics.
don't speak for me you crazy ding bat!
well, scripture clearly states that in the last days, many will abandon marriage, do not be fooled, marriage is a noble thing, better than sleeping around and getting hpv which causes cancer in women, one partner one love, and God bless all you married people....hold on a little longer
How can anyone with a brain take this twit seriously? She and her Hollywood ilk make a mockery of marriage and relationships. Marriage doesn't suit the times? No it doesn't if you are about bed hopping like an Olympic athlete. These sad narcissistic morally void tramps cannot offer anything to a relationship but a fairly young over used body that in a shorter time than they will admit will be shapeless and wrinkled. That is what they fear. They know they have nothing substantial to offer in a marriage in terms of selflessness, honor, loyalty and giving. After all, that is what it takes to make a marriage from both partners. Men will take what they want from her and sooner than she thinks no one but the older has beens and the younger users will even want to be seen with her. A sad case.
toughcritic, you're obviously a married old tramp that's too scared of the words she said. Better watch your man or you will end up in a divorce too like millions others in America.
I was married 21 years and my husband cheated multiple times..would NEVER ever think of marrying again. I promote independence for men and women..
so you married a liar. blame yourself, not anyone else, or marriage either... marriage is for adults who know how to love... not twits who lie or their twittees who fall for them.
The worst part of this whole story is the fact that there are a lot of people out there that put stock into what this ignorant twit says.
I think this is actually a common sentiment from women who have never been married before, and don't plan on having kids. To each their own, but marriage is truly a great thing if you're lucky enough to find that right person.
Yeah, if Justin or A-Rod had popped the question, she'd be married and proud!! It's amazing how some single people speak for marriage, she only feels that way because she's not married. I love, honor and cherish being in a normal, happy and healthy marriage!
Cameron is not a dirty,or trashy woman as many of you are so eager to state as if you even know her. By all appearences she is a very pretty attractive, talented woman. Would love to see what all of you haters look like!! Your comments only confirm your bigotry, ignorance, and incapability to even consider another way of thought apart from what you are used to. No, it is not the end times, a women just said outloud what George Cloony has been saying and practicing for years! It is not Camerons fault you are all still in the stone-ages!! I wonder what else you have in common with the Cave Men!!
I say, Good for Her! At least she's not like some Hollywood people, getting married every other year to someone new like it's dating. She lives in a different world than most of us and at least she realizes it.
Whatever. you ppl are all pigs for hating so much. look in the mirror first before call someone ugly because I bet you are uglier. Just from your hatful comments shows you insides are ugly.
The only reason people give a crap about her is because of how she looked in The Mask and all those curves were fake.
I bet u r fat and live in a trailer with ur mama and your 10 brothers and sisters. i bet u have s/ex w each other to
When she is ready she will know it. Give the girl a break b***hes!
You people are blind and stupid. I seen much uglier women than her. Good gosh, you mean you men don't walk into a lot of ugly chicks every day? I mean UGLY?! Cameron Diaz put some of these women to shame. Maybe you people don't get out the house every day and see what some women look like..yuck
Are you 5? And yes cameron looks like a used plastic doll. Her wrinkly self isn't going to last much longer don't you know.
diaz is nasty ugly for someone who is supposed to be a beautiful movie star. expectations and standards are higher for hollywood actresses who portray attractive women. sure there are uglier women out there, but they aren't holding themselves up as glamour models. diaz is a gross, nasty, ugly butt, dirty hoe-bag... and i don't mean that in a good way. that's not really leading lady material, is it.
I DON'T WANT TO GET MARRY! I won't get married if I'm not in love with the person. Ugh..who want to live with someone that they are not in love with. You ppl are idiots! Good for her!
Good evening everyone. I hope everyone is fine. Ms Cameron Diaz is a wonderful woman and I know one day she will find her best man. Probably we outh to know that the body composes of a flesh and a spirit. One day that flesh will florish and fade and perhaps everyone may want to know where your spirit would end up. Probably knowing Jesus Christ as you friend, partner in life, lord, God and saviour could guide you where you want to go. Remember we only have one life to live. Make the best out of it. John 20:31 (Whole Chapter)
Well said publicpal! :]
Lol chin hairs
@Tommy correct. I pic most (not all, more so the haters) of the women on here in the big old house dresses and carring a ton of weight on them with chin hairs, hair all messed up and not taken care of, don't wear make up, etc..lol. Yet they come on here and hate on C.D. because she can look good in anything she wears. The face not great but im sure it better than what lurking on this blog. chain hairs and pimple face.lol. put a bag over her head and I would do her.
Fat women always hate skinny and in shape women. That's that's enough to make them envy. Have you never not hang around women and as soon as a skinny woman enters the room they have something mean to say? Most of the women that hate Cameron are most likely fat pigs. Women are evil and hateful.
I bet all you haters watches teen mom and thinks that's it okay to live that lifestyle but you come on here hating on this person because she doesn't want to get married. How do you know your husbands are not cheating on you with some s*** that he hooked up with on cr@igs-li$t and bring home an STD and give it to you
"hating on this person"? what, they have internet access in trailer parks now? o_O
Some one wrote she has a pretty figure. She has no legs no body no figure what's so ever. She most be a hell of a ride and lots of fun but that is it.As far as her views on marrige. It is her choice after all!!!
She had a figure in "The Mask" with Jim Carey. But not anymore...sigh
A lot of angry women on here for sure. Maybe the lady got hurt really bad and she is afraid to commit..once bitten, twice shy. Maybe she meant in the Hollywood world and as usual they write what they want to published. No where in the posting I saw anything about kids but I seen comments about it. I sure the he11 don't want any annoying little brats, that doesn't make me a bad person. I'm no fan of hers but the comments coming from the women...well lets just say it might be the green eye monster talking..huh
This is a "male-dominated world". If the majority of us women could have money to support ourselves we would NOT get married!
Right on, Rita!
pipe down, dervish, and go back to the 70s where you belong. you just sound like an idiot in this century.
I'm a woman in her mid-20's. I hated the idea of marriage. Then I discovered my husband. Not only am I married but I have a newborn. I married him not for money, even though he makes more money that me (but he's also older and has been in the workforce way longer). I married him because I love him and because we both knew we were the only people in the world we wanted to be with–especially since, I'm tooting my own horn, we're both hot, we have hot passion, but we also love being around each other when passion isn't available...So I disagree, on that aspect. Money is a driving factor. I know women who are poor and have never been married because they didn't want to be. And they weren't ugly, they just turned down marriage proposals...
I meant money *isn't a factor. At least not like it was decades ago.
This ignorant child has the audacity to call herself a woman? Lol.. Please, child, keep your ignorance and advice to yourself! Real women are not impressed by you, nor are real men. Sleeping with many men does not a woman make. You are just a mixed up child who needs a good swift kick on the Ass! That goes for all of you who keep pushing this garbage out, and for those who continue paying to see these morons! I wouldn't put a dime in their pockets! I have an issue with ignorance, and don't subscribe to paying for it as a source of entertainment This half witted child continues to grow because the demand is high for this crap..She, like many others is a product of her AUDIENCE!!!! So.who are the bigger idiots?
The BigerIdiots? They are sweet men like your dearly beloved husbands.
gay-ass interview. why buy the cow if you gettin' the leche fo free
And be honest! At least she is being honest....
Let's take a vote – who has always been faithful and is sure their spouse has been faithful? I think she is on to something....
I'm with you, Jennifer! I say, Good for Her! At least she's not like some Hollywood people, getting married every other year to someone new like it's dating. She lives in a different world than most of us and at least she realizes it.
need to not be crazy b-–
did she really say "rad" ? who says rad anymore?
She needs to just shut her mouth and take a chill pill
she's right on her way and you 're right on your own way,we are everyone have different world, different life,,that's a reason why all the famouse peoples they can do what we can't..
The fact that she doesn't want to be married is respectable in my eyes....cause I would just wanna tap it and go anyway lol!
All Cameron Diaz wants is for a man to come through and pipe her down real good and go back home (real talk). She doesn't need to be in any serious relationship cause she knows she probably isn't the marrying type or at least is so stuck in her ways that she feels marriage restricts her social life.
She has a right to her beliefs. I just wish the government would allow lesbians and gays to have what she can legally have by law as many times as she would like or not at all. It's her right as an adult to live how she wants to as long as she doesn't hurt others it's her life.
A friend of mine once said that he felt that we were never meant to be with just one person. which to a degree is true, cause look at how easy it is to find that you have a connection with another woman or man if you're a woman. marriage works when you have two people who can appreciate their situation, in a celebreties case you might as well prepare to be single for life cause the way they get married one year and in 6 mos to 5 years they are already divorced...why waste time and money?! If I'm a celebrity I'm not gettin married until I feel my career is over.
All of you guys are idiots with nothing to do with your worthless lives!!!
All of you guys are idiots with nothing to da with your worthless lives!!!
I wouldn't take advice from her, she seems too much about a good time, kinds dingy. She'd better hurry up and settle down, the clocks ticking.
I love how most of the disagreeable replies are from women. Ladies, marriage is outdated and Cameron or anyone else doesnt need to get married to know. Bravo Cam. Too bad ure not as pretty as you were when you were younger.
Okay, maybe married people are a bit more evolved than other people. The research has shown that married people are better off – even living longer. So we end marriage and all start dying faster – that's sounds great! http://www.psychpage.com/family/library/brwaitgalligher.html The benefits of marriage – done right – make it ridiculous to make the statement she made.
Shallow. Now there's a life with little meaning.
In other words, she does NOT deserve the negative comments.
You're never to old to get married. If she has no desire to get married, that is her right because we live in a free society. If YOU, however, do choose to get married, that is YOURS. All this negative commentary about a single, beautiful woman who flouts society's standards, and does so with grace, deserves to be applauded.
I hope no one reads this and has their views on marriage influenced by Cameron Diaz. She has a right to her opinion, but has no credentials that make her opinion matter on this topic. She began modeling as a teenager and has been in the entertainment industry ever since. In other words: not the kind of person whose views on life I would care about or take to heart.
Excuse me whilst I step on my pedestal for a moment:
I am married and believe that marriage and family are essential to a stable society, and that the most ideal and responsible situation in which to raise children is in a home with a mom and dad that love them, and each other.
Marriage is hard work, and is not so much about being "in love" with someone else as it is about acting the part. If both parties' goal is to love, serve, and care for one another, then marriage isn't some "old tradition that is not suited for our world", it is the perfect recipe for peace and happiness in a world that always seems to be chasing it.
Yeah – a world where people are trying to be happy, but constantly think of themselves. It's a trick of the mind to tell you to do what YOU want whenever YOU want and you'll be happy – and sadly many of us fall for it and end up with regrets that we try not to think about. A good marriage is better for your health than being single. A good marriage requires that you actually think more about the welfare of someone else (spouse, kids) more than yourself. If it's done right by two people, it is one of the most rewarding things for the mind and body that exists on the planet. Sorry – but it's never wise to knock something when you haven't REALLY tried it.
anonymous, that was very well said! Thank you! Truly accurate and honest! Good work!
I' married too, but at least she's not like some Hollywood people, getting married every other year to someone new like it's dating. She lives in a different world than most of us and at least she realizes it. Marriage isn't for everyone. I get sick of all the regular people who marry over and over and think it's because there are no 'good people' in the world. Being honest and truly knowing yourself and what you are capable of is SO much better than blaming others.
no, she doesn't realize it... she thinks everyone lives in her world, or should... so whoever isn't with the program yet, should live like the enlightened people in hollywood. don't you get it? that's why they make the movies and put out the records that they do. the entertainment part is about the money... but the core is not about entertainment, it's about philosophy... they have the pulpit, and they preach it down our throats. dizzy diaz really does believe that she's better and smarter than the unwashed masses outside of celebritydom... otherwise she would just date ordinary schmoes. yes... cameron diaz thinks you're an idiot.
Cameron is right. Humans are polygamous animals (just like 97% of the animal kingdom). However, we keep trying to hammer the round monogamous peg into the square hole set by nature. I know, I know.... how dare I bring up the obvious! Look at our divorce rate, our infidelity rate, and our single household numbers. I predict in 1,000 years or so, marriage will be looked at as a failed societal experiment. Just my thoughts!
in 1,000 years, no one will have ever heard of you, or know anything about your lame thoughts. but you go ahead and believe what you wanna believe, little shooter.
It's just her opinion. why is everyone so offended? you don't have to follow it. if you still believe in marriage great, if not then that's great too. it's about what's right for you.
moral relativism is so 90s... and such a lame house of cards. learn to read something good, instead of people or cosmo.
start with Augustine's confessions, or city of God.
I detect a lot of envy here that is sad and mean spirited
Huh? Honestly, what is there to envy?
She has been used by many, she looks older than her age, and she is clueless about love. There is a lot to pity, but nothing to envy. It's just rather sad.
She is an idiot!
Marriage is great if u find the right person. If u marry someone bc u feel like it or "it's time", won't work out! Finding the right person makes all the difference Cameron!
being faithful lover is prerequisite for responsible parent.
Yeyya... Call me.
What world is she from? Just cause it doesn't work for her doesn't mean it doesn't work. Maybe she just isn't the kind of girl a guy would want to take home to Mama. When your track record is that you've probably slept with every guy in Hollywierd what's left. One day she'll find herself too old to get laid and wish she would have been a little less provocative. Oh and nasty....
This is because she is fornicating her brains out and is psychologically trying validate it to the public as a new norm lifestyle. Cuz she's given up on a traditional one. Don't give it up on the first night Cameron.
Yet even more so; validate it against her own personal standards from growing up. In other Words.....(DENIAL – The Nile) ain't just a river in Egypt.
Readings all the negative comments, I realize there is a double standard, George Clooney has the same impression on marriage but everyone celebrates his "Eternal Bachelor Status". I'm sure she knows what is best for her. She looks she's happy and having fun.
George was married at least. Her saying that men need a challenge is very sophmoric. Using words like challenging and crazy b– shows she really has no idea what she is talking about. She either dates players or men 10 years+ younger than her. What does she expect.
Not wanting to get married is one thing. Her reasons are silly.
Good point, although I think many people is George Clooney as a rather sad character. Charming, handsome, yes, but also quite rudderless.
Another sign of the times. Its too bad she is conntributing to the decline of society. 🙁
If I had her money I would do the same thing, why put up with BS when you can have your cake and eat the cake to or vise versa....It is all about the mighty $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ which is OH SO SAD......
Why would she, If I had her money, I would just go to bed with all the men she does too! Why get married, you can support yoursel plus she has no disire to have kids...hummmmmmmm, wonder why, selfish needs maybe, don't want to mess up that pretty figure....please...........thats beverly hills for you.....they just switch partners....
FACT: DO NOT BE MISLEAD, THIS KIND OF TALK SPOIL GOOD HABITS.
THE BIBLE SAYS IN THE "LAST DAYS" PEOPLE ARE CAPTIVE TO VARIOUS
UNCLEAN HABITS, THIS PERSON NEEDS TO TELL YOUNG GIRLS ABOUT
S T D – I SAY THESE THINGS, NOT TO DISCOURAGE YOU, BUT TO ADMONISH YOU
AS BELOVED CHILDREN....EVERY IMORAL PERSON HAS "STD". BUT THEY SAY
NOTHING ABOUT IT, THEY JUST GIVE ADVICE TO DECEIVE YOU, THEIR THINKING
IS NOT GODLY BUT IS FROM THEIR FATHER THE "DEVIL".
Don't be spreading your crazy religious junk here. This is for the trolls and the people who take the bait.
Sky...Sweetheart. Not ever immoral person has a STD. Anyone could get an STD. You could be married and someone cheats and brings their partner infects their partner with an STD. Is it their partners fault? You are right, in the last days we will see immoral things and silly comments made by refurbished blonde such as Cameron Diaz. But a little advice for you...before you start spitting on the word of God, you better make sure you ain't wagging your finger.
Funny how you only "admonish" young girls to be chaste. I guess it's ok for the boys to be boys... but god forbid women have similar freedom... I bet you think STD's only affect gays and girls.
I loved the scene when Cameroon pinched out a steamy loaf ON that fat dudes stomach. I would love to sniff his hairy butt.
i just think that if you love someone theyre worth everything, and if a *dumb piece of paper* or *outdated rule* makes that love stronger or makes us happy then theyre worth it, warts n all..a sentiment that clashes with a largely *disposable* culture..
I loved the scene when Cameroon pinched out a steamy loaf of that fat dudes stomach. I would love to sniff his hairy butt.
um way to generalize cameron. just because most of the flighty hollywood scene cant keep themselves interested in eachother doesnt mean the whole world is like that. but what would a celebrity be without stupid generalizations..
When a guy in Hollywood says he doesn't want to get married he's a George Clooney
When a girl in Hollywood says she doesn't want to get married she gets comments like these....
Yes, but George was married at least. Her saying that men need a challenge is very sophmoric. A good real marriage is based on friendship and teamwork. Using words like challenging and crazy b– shows she really has no idea what she is talking about. She either dates players or men 10 years+ younger than her. What does she expect.
Totally agree. Espeically telling is how many of said commenters seem to be middle-aged women. Envy maybe? She gave the best advice I've read in a magazine about relationships. Guys DO need a woman to call them out, but I'd also give almost anything for a woman that doesn't go psycho the moment she hears something she didn't want to.
Her comment doesnt surprise me. Any film I have seen her in she plays a trashy part. I suppose she is like that in real life too, so marriage definately wouldnt suit her.
Fun to play with...but wouldn't want to own one.
she deifintly aint no mormon. they gots 57 wives each. naybe one would marry her so she could clean his floors or somethin.
She doesn't really come off as being the brightest crayon in the box does she?
I agree, completely!
Cameron...... you better grab a dude fast and marry him. You are not getting any younger sweetie. I'm a little shocked that your only 38.You may want to stay out of the sun as well.
Agree with you there. The last movie I saw her in(The Green Hornet) she was looking mighty old. In fact, I saw it in 3D and she was looking 3D old.
She always dates players look at the player she is dating now! Who hasn't A-Rod slept with? He goes from one hollywood starlet to another you would think they would learn! You get what you get when you date a guy like that. She will get married one of these days.
that is exactly why she will not date anyone of any significance from this point onward. Who would want to follow where A-Rod has been.
Her smile always reminds me of Nicholson's Joker.
I like her, but I agree... LOL
Evel – not a nice comment but i have to agree that maybe no one has asked her... I think she would have married JT if he'd asked her . She's a beauty to be sure but a bit flaky and comes across as a typical dumb blonde if you've ever heard her speak without a teleprompter or script.
she's not really blond.
That's because nobody would marry this hag.
HAHAHA @ Evel, I agree!!! She keeps getting dumped by all the guys she thinks she will stay with!!! hHAHA
This from someone who has never been married. How would she know!!
EVEL, you'r so evil let's see you live in LA, get married and live your oh so lovely life till death do you part
Couldn't agree with you more. Oh, and by the way haha, I've lived in L.A. my entire life and have been married 20 years maybe it's just you that sucks at marriage