Rihanna means what she sings in 'S&M'
March 30th, 2011
05:35 PM ET

Rihanna means what she sings in 'S&M'

Rihanna isn't lying when she sings about finding whips and chains exciting in her hit single “S&M.”

The pop star reveals in a saucy interview with Rolling Stone that those sort of accoutrements are a plus in the bedroom.

"I like to take charge, but I love to be submissive," she tells the magazine. “You get to be a little lady, to have somebody be macho and in charge…That's sexy to me. I work a lot, and I have to make a lot of executive decisions, so when it comes to being intimate, I like to feel like I'm somebody's girl."

Also on her list of turn-ons? Spontaneity.

“Sometimes whips and chains can be overly planned – you gotta stop, get the whip from the drawer downstairs. . . . I'd rather have him use his hands.”

Yet, truth be told, she's not getting a lot of loving right now. "I'm not dating," Rihanna admits. "I'm not even sexting. It's on complete nil."

Dirty talk aside, Rih was just as revealing when it comes to her personal life. On her decision to lift the "stay away" order against her former boyfriend Chris Brown, who assaulted her in 2009 and was subsequently barred from coming within 50 yards of her, Rihanna says it was her choice to make.

"That's my decision. It doesn't mean we're gonna make up, or even talk again. It just means I didn't want to object to the judge," she explains to RS. "[Chris Brown and I] don't have to talk again ever in my life. I just didn't want to make it more difficult for him professionally."

"What he did to me was a personal thing – it had nothing to do with his career," Rihanna continues. "Saying he has to be a hundred feet away from me, he can't perform at awards shows – that definitely made it difficult for him. That was the only thing it was going to change, so I didn't care. But you can never please people. One minute I'm being too hard, and the next minute I'm a fool because I'm not being hard enough."

You can read the rest of Rihanna's interview with Rolling Stone when the issue arrives on newsstands Friday.

Filed under: Celebrities • Music • Rihanna

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  1. Missa

    S&M=/= Abuse

    S&M is consensual, trusting, and fun
    Abuse is non-consensual, scary, and hurtful

    It is perfectly possible for someone to enjoy S&M and be abused.

    More info here:

    June 6, 2011 at 10:19 am | Report abuse |
  2. Anony

    That Sideshow Bob hair has got to go. I'd rather see that giant forehead of hers than that ugly a$$ hairdo.

    April 25, 2011 at 9:04 am | Report abuse |
  3. Chitown Jason

    Wow, what a pic...I'd hit it...

    April 20, 2011 at 6:23 pm | Report abuse |
  4. Nighthhaaawk

    This too, shall pass. Rihanna has talent .. but like anything else, they will hype it until there's no more money left, and cast her aside like a McDonald's burger wrapper!

    April 13, 2011 at 12:03 pm | Report abuse |
  5. anybody

    Wow derp, whats wrong cant fit you fat a s s into something like that

    March 31, 2011 at 4:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • derp

      Only if you want to see my butt hair. I'm sorry but she is nasty. There is not an attractive thing about her, and her music is average at best. Nice hair, is it naturally pink.

      Hey, I have an idea for a song that nobody has done before, Lets write a silly pop love song, run your voice through a synth, and have some dumb rapper lay down a few raps in the middle. Great idea huh, nobody ever thought of that before. Hey I have another idea, lets do it on every stupid song that you put out. That way, they will all suck, and sound the same.

      Rihanna, in a nutshell.

      March 31, 2011 at 6:12 pm | Report abuse |
  6. Chris Brown

    I miss her and want to beat on her some mo.

    March 31, 2011 at 2:43 pm | Report abuse |
  7. R Kelly

    I wanna turn Rihanna red hair a nice yellow stain.

    March 31, 2011 at 2:41 pm | Report abuse |
  8. melissa

    wow maybe she shouldn't admitted that,

    March 31, 2011 at 2:38 pm | Report abuse |
  9. Private Idaho

    I wanna put my potato up her tailpipe.

    March 31, 2011 at 2:29 pm | Report abuse |
  10. Devo

    Whip it good.

    March 31, 2011 at 2:28 pm | Report abuse |
  11. G.W. Snark

    @Michael, maybe take a couple of Midol, draw the curtains, take a nap. But don't go in the ocean, cause there may be snarks about.

    March 31, 2011 at 1:59 pm | Report abuse |
  12. derp

    Nice outfit. Is that part of the Kmart "Trailer Ho" collection. Somebody should tell her that if your butt is that big, you should not wear shorts like that. She's a pig.

    March 31, 2011 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  13. Lilly

    She just got more unappealing to me, GROSS!

    March 31, 2011 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  14. Love RiRi

    I just like RiRi. Good for her! her album is amazing and she is enjoying her life... Good for you!

    March 31, 2011 at 10:13 am | Report abuse |
  15. biber

    CHARLIE SHEEN IS BACK. no one coul d compare or take his place. he is one of a kind super talented guy,
    charm , you da man.

    March 31, 2011 at 9:49 am | Report abuse |
  16. Head Diva In Charge

    Didn't her publicist tell her this might not be the right comment to make at this particular time?

    March 31, 2011 at 8:52 am | Report abuse |
  17. WhippHer

    Ya...SH!TBrown went over the line. B D S M is lots of GREAT FUN!! Cuffs, collars, floggers, belts, ropes, padlocks, bars etc. Be careful guys, pay attention but at the same time...tear em up!

    March 31, 2011 at 7:45 am | Report abuse |
    • Superhiro

      -Shrug- Maybe she kept telling him "harder" and eventually, it was just too hard.

      March 31, 2011 at 2:02 pm | Report abuse |
  18. its true

    All though some woman like to get smacked orud a lil bit.....and it seems like a lot of those woman are adictted to it.....biatches won't leave...my friends grandpa rest in peace use to say, give a woman everything she wants and she ill leave you for some shmuck,but slapppp her around a lil bit and she ill love you for ever...lol..ill have to try that when I get married..lol

    March 31, 2011 at 7:03 am | Report abuse |
  19. its true

    If she was my gal...I would deffenetly flip it up and rubbb itt down.......I bet she looks good when she backs that thing up.........hmmmmmm yum yum

    March 31, 2011 at 6:53 am | Report abuse |
  20. its true

    She is so hot....can't belive she was getting kikd around by chris brown...what a fuxn looser.........

    March 31, 2011 at 6:50 am | Report abuse |
  21. G. W. Snark

    I know the difference between consensual fun and getting knocked around, Michael, I just like making smarta$$ comments to get people like you (with no sense of humor) all wound up. I am, after all, the Great White Snark!

    March 31, 2011 at 5:33 am | Report abuse |
    • @ G.W.

      What you did wasn't that much of a smart*** comment that got a response. It was more of Michael being on his period.

      March 31, 2011 at 9:45 am | Report abuse |
  22. tin tin

    I would slap all of you ladies arond like you were rag dolls, tie u up and ~ fill in blank

    March 31, 2011 at 5:24 am | Report abuse |
  23. Lace

    There is nothing wrong with a little s t e a m y r 0 u g h s/e/x just don't throw me out a window or down the stairs in the process.

    March 31, 2011 at 1:41 am | Report abuse |
  24. Like CB Like Rihanna

    Technology is great but it allows for every crappy opinion (included mine – sometimes) to be heard. Why are naysayers the loudest though? People get too involved in the personal lives of stars. Do we care what the customer agent at our telephone provider does? No, I think not. Yeah Yeah the whole role model thing but don't we have our own personalities and our knowledge of right and wrong. Oh sigh, I am so over this Rihanna Chris Brown thing. Rihanna has moved on, clearing Chris's fans have moved on. As Rihanna said – it was personal, not professional and the rest of us need to learn to separate the two. Do we want our co-workers or bosses all up in our personal lives, whether we had a dui or not? Seems though the media pick and choose who they want to keep hassling about wrong doing. They seem to glorify Charlie Sheen. Maybe if there was a picture of him holding a knife to his wife's throat there would be a different take on it though. Sigh. Good luck Chris, Good luck Rihanna. I do like S&M song. Very nice catchy rude girl tune and I guess no one cares whether I mean the words in S&M or not. One love all. Hatred and naysaying take up way too much energy.

    March 31, 2011 at 12:08 am | Report abuse |
  25. Michael

    Here's some education for you. Theres a WORLD of difference between consensual play between two adults and abuse and violence inflicted on a partner. One is fun, asked for and, if done right, safe and a turn on. The other, ie abuse, is not asked for, is not safe, and is criminal. I am assuming you arent old enough or wise enough to know the difference.

    March 31, 2011 at 12:00 am | Report abuse |



    March 30, 2011 at 10:54 pm | Report abuse |
  27. G. W. Snark

    So basically CB got arrested for committing foreplay. Fool, you got played! Now you get yo revenge by bein' number 1! For a minute, anyway.

    March 30, 2011 at 10:15 pm | Report abuse |
  28. Sunshine

    Great PR stunt. If she lifted the order,she must not have been that afraid. She did it for him professionally? Yeah ok. If a man beat me like that, I would care less what happens to him career wise/otherwise. I cant imagine people actually believe her.

    March 30, 2011 at 7:00 pm | Report abuse |
  29. Head Diva In Charge

    Being bi I love it rough too.

    March 30, 2011 at 6:59 pm | Report abuse |


    March 30, 2011 at 6:55 pm | Report abuse |
  31. mejazzbo

    Talk about playing on both sides of the fence. Sounds like she got the courts to play along. I'm not thinking she is a victim anymore. It's all about the money, honey!

    March 30, 2011 at 6:32 pm | Report abuse |
  32. Superhiro

    Lol touchy touchy.

    March 30, 2011 at 6:09 pm | Report abuse |
  33. Tropi

    You guys sure are ignorant. I guess you like to do it with the lights off and your socks on. Wow.

    March 30, 2011 at 6:04 pm | Report abuse |
    • Master Felix

      If she wants a real taste of SM she only need to descend into the basement of Master Felix. There she will learn a new definition of the word LOVE!

      April 25, 2011 at 9:14 am | Report abuse |
  34. El Jefe

    She likes to be manhandled and slapped? Maybe she did ask for it.

    March 30, 2011 at 5:48 pm | Report abuse |
  35. LBWl

    She is nasty.

    March 30, 2011 at 5:46 pm | Report abuse |
  36. Superhiro

    Hmm.. maybe Chris Brown was just trying to turn her on when he beat her ass.

    March 30, 2011 at 5:44 pm | Report abuse |

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