Neil Patrick Harris speaks out on anti-gay bullying
October 4th, 2010
09:45 AM ET

Neil Patrick Harris speaks out on anti-gay bullying

Following the tragic suicide of Rutgers University student Tyler Clementi – who took his life on September 22 after his roommate secretly broadcast a recording of him having a sexual encounter with another man - Neil Patrick Harris is reaching out to gay youth and urging them to "be proud."

In a recorded message for MTV, the 37-year-old openly gay "How I Met Your Mother" star - who is expecting twins with partner David Burtka – acknowledged, "When you're young, when you're in elementary school, when you're in high school, it's important to try and fit in and be accepted and to be part of the average. Everyone does it, that's the way it goes."

But, Harris added, those who get bullied or feel like an outsider should know things will get better.

"When you get older, you find that people are actually drawn to individuals with different points of view who are proud of who they are and who make interesting and different and unique least I am," he said.

Ultimately, he wants struggling youth to not harm themselves and hold their heads up high.

"You can act with strength, you can act with courage, you can act with class and stand tall, be proud of who you are," Harris said. "This is a good time that we live in, and we're being granted more and more rights, and that's awesome, and it will continue in that direction. And, yeah, be proud."

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  1. Sharon

    Anti-Gay bullying today is what witch hunting was in Salem, MA in the late 1690's. Those of us who are silent on this issue are just as guilty.


    October 29, 2010 at 10:40 am | Report abuse |
  2. Really?

    @Tired–Who gave you permission to speak for anyone other than yourself? I'm for tolerance, not ignorance. People like you keep hate well and alive and that de-evolves us as a race. Disagree with the alternative lifestyle all you like but it doesn't change the fact that another young person was lost and who knows what he could have done for this world. Perhaps you should look in the mirror. You will find that you are the sheep. I am a human being and I do not "preach" that one lifestyle is better than another. Everyone deserves to be happy and no one, not even you who so arrogently assumes he speaks for the majority, has the right to take that away from another human being. Open your eyes to the world around you. Hatred kills our children and no one wins in that situation.

    October 6, 2010 at 4:11 am | Report abuse |
    • Really?


      October 6, 2010 at 4:13 am | Report abuse |
    • @Really?

      You arogant POS. You're an opinionated blowhard that feels the need to force his opinion down everyone's throat. Too bad you can hide behind the keyboard to spout your lame rhetoric. I can only hope that one day I can meet you face to face and see how tough your Really? are. Moron!

      October 6, 2010 at 9:17 am | Report abuse |
  3. Khiry

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    October 6, 2010 at 1:29 am | Report abuse |
  4. citizenUSA

    Thanks Patrick, but let's just speak out against anti-anything bullying.

    October 5, 2010 at 1:39 pm | Report abuse |
    • samuels

      Of course any type of bullying is wrong. However, with the recent number of youth suicides related to anti-gay bullying, and the fact that gay and questioning youth are 4 times miore likely to committ suicide, now is the time for out gay adults to speak up.

      October 6, 2010 at 1:24 pm | Report abuse |
  5. Frank

    It can be hard to be gay, lesbian or bi but what about transgender! 50% of known trans people are either murdered or commit suicide before the age of 30 but I don't hear celebs talking about that!

    October 5, 2010 at 5:58 am | Report abuse |
  6. Jay the Athiest

    Adam Carolla is a genious. He has an uncanny ability to make fun of the gays without offending them

    October 4, 2010 at 3:25 pm | Report abuse |
  7. Joie

    I have heard a lot about this story, and there is still a lot of controversy if this can be deemed a hate in, would his roommate (who he was on at least decent terms with) have done this if he was with a man or a woman? WOuld it have been broadcast on the internet either way? No one knows – at least not yet.

    It is sad EITHER WAY that this boy took his life. And I agree that it is unbelievable that in 2010 we are still so simple minded that being gay is still "bad". It's ridiculous. Where I work, we have a lot of gay and lesbian folks...I am friends with them just as easily as I am with straight folks. I couldn't care any less. And I can't understand how anyone could.

    I think I will stay oblivious.

    October 4, 2010 at 3:03 pm | Report abuse |
  8. LoJenk

    October 4, 2010 at 2:55 pm | Report abuse |
  9. Bloom

    Tired – are you kidding me? Leave Murderers alone? What is wrong with you? Regardless of what you believe- a man is dead bcuz some idiot felt the need to tease him bcuz he is gay. You think that is ok? What if that was a family member? or your son?

    October 4, 2010 at 2:51 pm | Report abuse |
  10. Lou

    No wonder Vinnie was always sneaking into Doogie's room through the window.

    October 4, 2010 at 2:45 pm | Report abuse |
  11. Brooke

    I keep reading all these articles about these kids commiting suicide and I'm sad. I'm sad there there was no one they felt they could talk to, no one who would do anything to help them, but mostly sad that they took their own life. It's just wasteful especially with someone so young. It's become an epidimic it seems... I'm glad all of these people are coming forward and speaking up about it, its nice to see people rallying for something good for once, for something not about themselves. is a great website to check out, its plastered all over Perez Hilton.

    October 4, 2010 at 1:38 pm | Report abuse |
  12. Ann

    What happened at Rutgers is a tragity for all people gay or straight. NPH did not "come out" until recently however I do think that his heart is in the right place.

    October 4, 2010 at 12:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • Draith

      Ann, NPH came out publicly about his relationship recently, but if you read about it, both his and his partner's families have known for quite a while. Being "out" in your personal lives and being "out" in celebrity are not the same thing, certainly, but he wasn't closeted in his personal life. 🙂

      I'm just glad to see that, despite the obvious presence of tragedies, some of the world is coming to a better place where we can actually SEE responses like this to terrible events. When I was younger, the news might not have even carried the story of the Rutgers student, let alone any incensed responses. Thank you to NPH for trying to set a good example in his position, and to all others who seek to make things better.

      October 4, 2010 at 4:05 pm | Report abuse |
  13. jasonwolff

    What a horrible shame that young man took his life.People need to mind their own bussiness.All people should have their privacy respected.

    October 4, 2010 at 11:35 am | Report abuse |
  14. Megan

    neil patrick harris is the perfect human being.

    October 4, 2010 at 11:08 am | Report abuse |
  15. Head Diva In Charge

    It is sad that in 2010 people feel like they still need to hide or be ashamed of who they are. Thank you NPH for being someone who is proud to be himself.

    October 4, 2010 at 10:13 am | Report abuse |

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