October 20th, 2011
01:35 PM ET
For women who are concerned about having kids later in life, 40-year-old actress Nia Long is telling them not to worry about it.
Long, who is expecting her second child, tells Ebony in the magazine's November issue that child-bearing isn't something to rush into.
"The medical [profession] tries to tell every woman, 'Have your babies before 40 because you shouldn't have children after 40," according to People. But, Long argues, "You are not half the woman you're gonna be until you turn 30. You're not even half of that woman yet. So I think if we'd just take our time as women, and do what comes to natural to us and for us, we'd make fewer mistakes."
Not that waiting to conceive is an easy road, either. The actress, who is also mom to 11-year-old son Massai, says that at first she wasn't sure if she was going to be able to build a family with basketball playing beau Ime Udoka.
"I honestly asked God for this," she reveals to Ebony. While a visit to the doctor's office had left her discouraged because she was told that it would be hard for her to have more children, she and Udoka didn't lose hope.
"The next time [Udoka] came to visit," she says, he told her he didn't believe in the doctor's words of caution.
"And I said, 'You don't?'" Long recalled. "He said, 'No.' And I said, 'Good, me neither.' Then I got pregnant."
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