Pop star Lady Gaga is aiming to make bullying illegal following the suicide of bullied teen Jamey Rodemeyer, and over the weekend played a tribute to the 14-year-old, who took his life last week.
"I wanted to take a minute, because, I don't know if any of you know this, but we lost a Little Monster," she informed the crowd. "I wanted to dedicate this song to him tonight because he was really young."
As she launched into the single "Hair," she explained to the audience, "I wrote this record about how your identity's all you've got when you're in school...Jamey, I know you're up there looking down on us. And you're not a victim, you're a lesson to all of us. So tonight, I know it's a bit of a downer, but sometimes the right thing's more important than the music isn't it? Let's do this for him - for Jamey."
On September 18, the 14-year-old was found dead outside of his parents home in Buffalo, New York. His parents told Anderson Cooper on "AC: 360" that he'd endured bullying for years.
Rodemeyer, who'd been harassed at school because of his sexuality, counted Gaga as an inspiration. He said in a video he recorded as part of the It Gets Better campaign that he'd found solace and encouragement in the pop star's message of self-acceptance.
Following Jamey's death, Gaga tweeted, "The past days I've spent reflecting, crying, and yelling. I have so much anger...It is hard to feel love when cruelty takes someones life....Bullying must become illegal. It is a hate crime. I am meeting with our President. I will not stop fighting. This must end. Our generation has the power to end it. Trend it #MakeALawForJamey."
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never say that your gay/lesbian in a christian school. never. people in those schools will transform into volcanos and erupt in your butts. just saying. wanna keep lesbians/gays safe!
So much trollss here. Hahaha! I just LOVE the whiny comments of mom's saying that their child is getting bullied. DONT WHINE ABOUT IT. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! What are you moms, 5 year olds??? BE BRAVE AND STOP WHINING.
I'm not sure some people realize exactly what bullying is like today. A generation or two ago, you were bullied at school or on the bus. But you could come home and find some peace for the night until it started up again. Today, bullying is done on the Internet and through texting, as well as at school and on the bus. It follows you 24 hours a day and you can't get away from it; and, because it's largely anonymous, it is meaner and more terrible than just a punch in the nose. Sometimes, you don't even know who is doing it to you to even respond. Sadly, adults are getting involved too, under the cover of anonymity. The result can be way more emotionally damaging than a school yard fight. I think many of these kids who are tormented to the brink of suicide would gladly take an old-fashioned beating over what's currently passing as simply "bullying" today.
I never told my parents I was getting bullied. I knew that if I caused a ruckus, being overseas, I couldn't go to another school if I got expelled for fighting.
But now, looking back, I wish I had taken a swing at those bullies, and I'm a girl.
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Kids are just weak these days....too much gaming and tv. If you get bullied, break the offenders teeth out and watch the kid recoil as he tastes his own blood running down his throat. It happened before E-bully'ing was the new thing and will happen for years to come.
And here's a helpful tip for the idiot kids out there who take their social media devices to school...DONT... that was theres less chance the head cheerleader gets your phone to tell the rest of the class that you're pregnant in a private message to someone else. And if she does, pull her skirt down in front of everyone...oh and take a picture so i can see – thanks
I was bullied for years in elementary and Jr. high school. You know what I had to do? Learn to stand up for myself. What was this kid's excuse?
The day that sees a person charged with verbal/cyber bullying will be a great day indeed. Quite frankly, it should have an equal and maybe an even stiffer punishment than assault. Bruises heal in 5 days. A character attack can have life long implications. People often (and reading a lot of the comments, the majority of people responding to this article) lump all violence into one category. Directed self-defense is a very useful tool to prevent further bullying along with trying to de-escalate with verbal communication. Why should we limit our options to defend ourselves. Ask the vast majority of people who have been bullied and see if they faught back against their bully and see how many were no longer bullied after the fact. Then ask how many took the "correct" routes and told teachers or parents. Getting someone in trouble generally makes them target the individual who got them in trouble even more. I have lived this scenario. I also faught back, and I didn't win the fight, but it showed the bully that I wasn't going to be passive anymore and my bullying greatly decreased, FAR more than when I "told" on the individual, which only made things worse.
The laws need to be adjusted to make verbal attacks the same as physical attacks. In the cases of cyber bullying they are so easy to prove there should be no hesitation. Kids need to be held accountable for their actions, be they physical or verbal/written/cyber or whatever. Schools also need to be more lenient with these zero tolerance policies for violence. Sometimes violence is justified and people need to stop pushing that you should always just tell on someone or solve things verbally, and others need to know that you can't always solve the issue by punching someone. Starting a fight because you are being bullying IS justifiable self-defense. The same way that telling your teacher is self-defense (or in a lot of cases, self-preservation).
Ultimately what needs to happen is that the laws need to reflect the world we live in today and all forms of assault are treated the same. The people that advocate one way or the other most likely were never bullied, or were bullies themselves. The law needs to protect the individual, regardless of how they stand up for themselves, verbally or physically, and punish those who created the scenario in the first place.
When does it become bullying as opposed to the normal banter that kids do?
I mean I can remember being insulted for a number of things growing up and insulting others.....but was it bullying or was it just the stuff kids do?
what MOST people don't understand is that this bullying isn't the same as when you guys were kids. it isn't just say, a punch in the stomach and then it is over, nor is it making fun of someone because they have glasses, it is SOO much crueler than that now. Those bullies now have the internet, which means when you get home, the cruel comments follow you, also, if it is just 1 person bullying you thats not so bad, but when you have more than half the school hating you, then it is hard to deal with. People please try to understand what this poor boy went through, and don't insult him. He is dead! he can no longer defend himself.
The issue is with parents and allowing our children to grow up with limited consequences to their actions. There are times when a "talk to", a "time out", a "go to your room" and a "scolding" are enough. However, there are also times when a young child crosses their parent at a young age a more serious consequence is warranted. I've seen many young children talk back to their parents and nothing more than the above is the disciplinary action. If a child grows up to believe they can talk back to their parents and the only consequence is " a time out", then don't be surprised if your child is one of those that verbally abuse other children.
Very nice for her to do such a thing. However, based on the sheer number of young "bullies" (I prefer to think of them as cowards) that I've met in my 15 years on the internet, I don't think it is going to end with Lady Gaga's and the younger generation any time soon. In fact, I think it is getting worse...but who knows...maybe things will change eventually. :/
Too bad the parents could'nt of done more for their Child, now they can live with that. Thanks Lady Gaga for doing more than the Parents could ever do and helping to spread the word about Hate and Ignorance and the Violence of Mob Rule.
Too bad the parents couldnt of done more for their Child, now they can live with that. Thanks Lady Gaga for doing more than the Parents could ever do and helping to spread the word about Hate and Ignorance and the Violence of Mob Rule.
To all those saying "oh these kids should just fight back and be tough"– bad idea. That was Columbine, and lots of innocent kids died (as well as bullies). When my dad told me to "just fight back" as a kid, I took his words to heart. If somebody hurts you, then hurt them back– only worse. I was smart enough to know that I was 125 pounds and I couldn't hurt a 200 pound bully with a punch, but I knew that I could with a knife or a gun, and I seriously thought about it.
Thank god I couldn't find one. That's the problem when you send kids the message that responding with violence is acceptable. Where do you draw the line with "fighting back"? Pushing? Hitting? Knife? Gun?
I agree that we need to teach kids how to manage bullying. It's a part of life– we have to deal with people who treat us badly. But we can learn to deal with them without retaliation or violence. Why can't we tell kids that it's okay to demand that somebody stop bullying, and that it's okay to tell somebody when that doesn't happen? And why can't we back them up when they do tell?
My daughter was bullied by a neighbor kid. One rock, 7 staples in his head and $800 later he doesn't bother her and likely won't talk to a lady that way again. Best money I ever spent. Love, peace, non-violence and harmony are great, but rarely work in the real world.
i have been reading some of the comments on here and im suprised that so many people have such negative things to say, i am a 48yr old woman that no not all of lady gagas songs are my cup of tea but i still can see that she is a amazing artist and if she cares enough to take a little bit of her time and use it for the better good and make a impression on the young minds that do follow her i think she should be applauded she didnt have to do it, you can see that this had a effect on her and that makes me like her even more ,to be nasty about her because you dont care for her music or the way she dresses or whatever the reason that is bullying so maybe you need to look at yourself a little closer.anything that can make a positive impact on our kids today is a great thing no matter what the package looks like and she should be applauded because when it comes down to it she could of just kept quite like most of us do in our life but she used her voice and her power as a entertainer to do good, and i thank her for it.
I personally don't care for her music but do admire her awareness on many issues ... Too bad we don't really have a government to look after us and have to relay on celebs...
If we relied on celebs for ANYTHING, we'd all be starving and even dumber.
You realize those of you who are yelling and insulting the commenters on here about there lives and words are bullying them right? You realize you're doing the same things these kids did at school, just on the internet? Just because they may deserve it doesn't mean it's not bullying.
I'm Canadian and I went to a summer camp in Ontario where there were some american kids. I was a bit of an outsider and picked on a bit by everyone but distinctly remember that the American kids being quite a bit nastier than everyone else(I think they were from New York state and Chicago or something). Maybe you people should try to be nicer to each other and your kids would follow your example?
Okay, lets stop here for a second. Kids are killing themselves because they are weak and they can't find ways of coping with stress from these so called "bullies". many times kids make themselves targets by doing certain things. These kids that are killing themselves over this nonsense are weak and pathetic. BUt hey natural selection was never any fun then was it? The weakest link is destroyed, end of story. Get over it!
I was bullied horribly too but I made it through because I had a stable home life. Kudos to Lady Gaga for using her celebrity to try to incite change. When I was growing up though there wasn't this thing called the internet that implanted ideas such as suicide into young people's heads. You just tried to get through it because you had no choice or so we thought, which was a very good thing.
One day I will make it illegal for anyone to make fun of gays. Anyone who makes funs of gays will be put to death. Forced tolerance and acceptance.
Gaga, seriously you should stick to what your best at and stay out of the political arena. Why do you want to be the poster person on gay rights when you yourself stated in several interviews given a choice you prefer men over women in a relationship. I like your music and your creativity and you are very talented and intelligent. If you really look at things to conclusion you are wasting your energy and talent on a hopeless cause. And btw you need to get a grip on your drinking. You are a closet alcoholic and thats not a good message to sent to your tweeny fans.
How is calling attention to the problem of bullying a political issue, especially when, too often, the result is a dead child? Calling attention to the issue is both the human and humane thing to do. Lady Gaga is no fool, and she seems more than savvy enough to direct to her audience to take action and raise awareness of the issue. More power to her. Fame is fleeting and transitory, if she can use her current fame to leave a lasting legacy that helps others, she deserves both praise and applause.
These days, if you throw a punch, the bully may be back with a knife. I have told my kids that I will not fault them if they fight back and I have shown them how. But I also said that there is no shame in walking away either.
I am 68, not a kid, but I adore Lady Gaga......I think she is the best thing to come along in the music industry in a long long time......she is the voice of so many of these kids...bless her. Wish there were more Lady Gagas out there.
I taught my boys from a young age that u stand up for the one's who cant stand up for themselves .... if they thought someone was being bulliled .. then they stood by the kids no matter who they were .. if someone was picking on someone else that they be there for this kid any way they could be .. it also helped both of my older boys were football players an no one wanted to mess with them .. but still to this day ... if they think somone is going to be hurt either by words or by action's .. my boys would be there to defend them no matter what ...
That is awesome. I posted something similar to that where in my sons school the coaches teach the players that they should have the backs of kids who are bullied. Not to fight, not to start, but if they see a kid being bullied they help him out. It has worked wonderfully.
At my sons school there is almost no harcore bulllying. One reason is that the coaches of some of the sports teams ( namely football, lacrosse, wrestling, etc) have taught the teamates that they have a responsibility to defend a fellow students who are bullied. This is pretty much ended alot of that because the bullied kids know the jocks have their backs. There have been no fights etc, just when they see something they come to the aid of kid. Has worked out really well.
I am amazed at the insensitivity that many of these comments show toward the situation.....a young man is dead!....
Kids are probably not thinner skinned than before. In every generation, kids have always been committing suicide for getting bullied and/or for being gay. It's just now there's the internet and youtube so that the whole country can find out the reasons they committed suicide, whereas before it was just the family which knew and usually kept it a secret. The message kids need to learn is to put up with bullying and excel academically. The kids who are bullied usually end up ahead of the bullies.
I was always the small kid when i was in junior school, and i was bullied terribly. Over the course of a year, I shot up almost a foot and a half, and became bigger than most of the kids that tormented me. Alas, the chip I had on my shoulder was too much to bear, and I became a bully to my bullies, and anyone else that looked at me sideways. I'm not proud of that in any way....in fact, I'm quite ashamed of my actions. when iI think of the friendships, relationships, etc, I could have had but ruined because of my anger.....I have seen it from both sides of the fence, and it's nothing but weeds.
These days the (Gen xYz) are quite disrespectful to the 10th degree....Boy back in the day dealing with these punk a$$ bullies, was to take them behind the ol' Woolco and take the boots to em...Although the physical bullying is still around, it seems as though it's mostly cyber bullying where everyone can view it.
– Parents take note(s) on your child....wether it be you think your child is the victim OR the bully...you almost have to be a pysch major...KEEP THE COMMUNICATION on bullying ongoing because the kids these days REALLY THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL....(There are SO MANY EXAMPLES OF THIS...But we all went through this stage....but KEEP REMINDING them that if you ever found out that they were bullying another kid, (physically or mentally) you would take away their ???? OR TAKE THEM BEHIND WOOLCO AND TAKE THE BOOTS TO EM!
I would hope that School Teachers are doing their best and keep approaching different and positive ways on bullying BUT again the (majority) of kids these days are so disrespectful, it seems almost futile. I wouldn't want to be a Teacher these days!!
For all the victims of bullying out there....PLEASE communicate to ANYONE and KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH..."YOU" ARE IMPORTANT AND LOVED BY ALOT OF PEOPLE....HANDS UP TO YOU!!
For all the Lady Gaga Bashers out there....IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO OR WHAT YOU / THEY ARE, IF YOU ARE STANDING UP TO FIGHT ANY TYPE OF BULLYING IN THIS WORLD, YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING....PERIOD!!
Children learn from parents and other friends. Being a bully and name calling has already been displayed from the responses about this article. A person accidentally enters "week" instead of "weak". Read the comments and look at how rude people in general really are. If your a parent and you have a bully child, look at yourself in the mirror first and analyze the problem. Most parents would see that they are partially to blame. Do you make rude comments to others? Do you down grade certain people for their beliefs, color of their skin, or simply because they are different. It all goes back to how you raise your children.
Ok seriously, enough people. My children will be taught that if you are bullied, beat the unholy he11 out of the person bullying you. Ill pick you up at school, fight the faculty for you, and then we will go get ice cream. And if you see another kid being bullied, and you beat the crap out of their bully, then ill still fight for you, and then we'll get ice cream, along with the kid you protected. On the flip side, if you bully someone, i smack the crap out of you. Thats how children need to be raised.
Btw that 1970-1995 Karate Kid crap wont do it anymore...If anything defending yourself physically can actually escalate situations nowadays. You also need to realize children when facing a bully no longer face one or a small group; bt large groups; where one on one isnt even consider unfair anymore. Most these kids that get hurt and no help for being bullied are explosions waiting to happen. But so are the bullys. Embarrassing a bully in the "Old days" would lead to justice. Today it only leads to increased chances of harm, even death. For schist sakes kids started killing other kids for jackets and shoes like its the normal thing to do.
hey blogger i never repeated this before you dummy get your record and facts straigth and stop your censor on me stop discriminating against me i will complain to cnn.
My son got bullied a few years ago and my wife wanted to take him to school and bus stop and just baby him. Of course the bullying continued until I pulled him to the side and told him, take down the biggest guy and punch the living crap out of him. Start kicking and don't stop until someone pulls you off. Presto!!! No more bullying.
I am glad to hear things worked out for your kid. I wish it was that simple for the rest. My experience was 6 kids twice my size and me alone. Bullies are cowards, and like jackals – they hunt in packs. My experience was many years ago (I'm 55 now) but my childhood was miserable thanks to these pieces of filth. Just being the smallest kid makes you a target. All of them were older – they had been held back a grade or two. The misery did not stop until high school and I hung out with the other 'eggheads' – having witnesses who were not afraid to speak up saved me. The consolation I have now, is that of the six of them – 2 are dead and 4 are in prison. I have had a successful life, but few good memories from grades 1 to 8. They were long years.
lady gaga follows doctrines of demons and has all the same beliefs as satanists such as the rituals, symbolism, self-exaltation but we can't say she's a satanist because she says she's "spiritual" lol
Many, Many responses in here are pretty sickening to see. Your solutions are no different then the bullying. There was no social media back in the day; cell phones at school etc. (Your school life, pressures, etc are 1000% time fold) When you get embarrassed its literally in front of hundreds or even thousands. Social monarchy is stronger then ever... On top of that every freaking place in this country is different. A gay kid will get beat up at school a; but if only live near school B would be 100% accepted. Or kid a who was taught to fight back as you all say n brake a nose moves to city C...and is dead in a week...Its about being wise (which obviously 90% of youth will not be) its about being taught to navigate life not black and white action/reaction which will in a grey area lead to more trouble... To call kids weak is just criminal, heartless and shows lack of humanity;its discussing and ignorant. It might be the "real world" but its not the cave man days. Kids are having mature lifestyles thrown at them far younger then ever. This has also multiplied all over; not just schools. Work place bullying and abuse has tripled. Regardless of what you think bulling is or isnt; or what a kid should or shouldn't do, bullying is "abuse" plain and simple, ts harassment...And in a culture that now has being such a "Cool" thing (in school and on the net) its a big deal. SKINS are not thinner; the BS is thicker... To walk over this subject so lightly is just so inhuman... To think people like this are the norm now (the bullies and these so called "realists") are saying these things while some mother or father out there somewhere is hold their child's lifeless body in their arms. Its a shame things have to happen to people in an extreme at a great loss before they can consider wearing others shoes.
Got to get that publicity Lady CaCa since there is little to no talent there.
Apparently a lot of you think that if you fight in school you get arrested and sent to Guantanamo Bay...just want you to know that I've seen countless fights in high school and it gets settled within the school and the worst thing that can happen is a small suspension. I mean, unless you absolutely beat the bag out of a kid or get your head pushed in, you really can't get in that much trouble...
Although I'm not much of a fan of her music, I think she's a terrific human being, doing what she can for humanity. Cheers, Lady Gaga!
The irony is that these kids are killing themselves because they are being bullied, be it cyber or in person. When someone speaks out about it, most of you are here on line anonymously bullying each other... this is why this stuff goes on, people never grow up, they are scared and feel in secure. Very sad.
NO LIFE IS WORTH TAKING .. MY HEART CRYS FOR THE PARENTS , FAMILY AND FRIENDS!
I am seriously begining to wonder what is wrong with people today. A child was bullied and felt he had no support or no where to turn. He ended up killing himself.
Yes I guess there is a lot to be said for old school tactics to bullies. But we are not dealing with OLD school bullies. Bullies today they are a different breed and often armed. We should be looking at ways to tackle this.
Where do we get off judging him for taking his life? .. those judging should be ashamed of yourselves. He may have know right from wrong.... but what good this when you face relentless bullying, with no help or support and no apprent end in sight.
If this is accepted as a normal part of life then we should be ashamed of ourselves. Society as a whole needs to take responsibility for this.
100% agree..something is seriously wrong...Im sure offline many reply's would be far more considerate. Im not Religious in anyway and I find this just disgusting; the comments in here. They are either to young to know how it feels yet (because everyone will have their time in their lifetime) or their to old and try an relate 20 years ago to now. Or simply ignorant to the facts... Suicide is not ONLY because of being bullied. The pressures on a child are far greater then ever. They are forced to grow up faster then ever. (and I mean in a bad way; as in superficial pressures are beginning at far younger ages.)
Yep. Just throw a punch, great advice. My son finally did that and he got arrested for assault. Now he's got a record.
BULLY'S ARE RUTHLESS, NO RESPECT AND NO TRUE LEADERSHIP. MY NEPHEW IS 10 YEARS OLD AND HAS GOTTEN BULLIED AND HAS RESULTED IN BULLYING HIM SELF TO SURVIVE IN SCHOOL .. IT HARD THESE DAYS .. NO LEADERSHIP .. AND MOST BULLYING HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GAY OR STRAIGHT . ITS ABOUT CLOTHING, FAT, TOO THIN .. YADA YADA .. ITS HOW A PERSON LOOKS. WELL GUESS WHAT NO ONE IS PERFECT NOT EVEN BARBIE AND KEN! TRY AND LEAD OUR YOUGTH . TO BE STRONG WILL AND BE THERE SELF .. THANK YOU LADY GA GA.. THANK YOU .. FOR TAKING THAT LEADERSHIP!!
So, I still think she's a freak. I have no problem with different orientations, it's just Lady Gaga is f*ing disgusting.
I came to this comment board expecting to read a lot of mean spirited and ignorant comments and I certainly haven't been disappointed.
WOW the great lady gaga....ok just because there are literally millions of morons who wouldn't know talent if it walked up and spit in their face, DOESN'T mean this idiot is an more talented than my turd. She is nothing but an act, yeah she has an ok voice, so do hundreds of thousands, but the act, the whole "im so weird and full of genius do not question me" act is SO LAME. WAKE UP! she is a fraud! BAHHH BAHHH you freakin SHEEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sucks to hear about the kid, seems like the parents could have done more, suicide is a way to get attention, BUT lady gaga......"we lost a little monster" please. die. lady. ga. ga.
Well...it could have happened the other way that's common nowadays. Instead of suicide he could have just got a gun, went to the school and shot them all because isn't that what causes most of the kids who have snapped at school the past two decades to do so. However, instead of the pity, he'd be called a monster. Humph, monsters are created not born.
Unwelcome physical violence should not be acceptable even for kids. There are laws against it. Start prosecuting them. Bullying does not make kids stronger. It makes society stupider. We end up with a population that thinks going to war will make their lives better.
i am sorry but i am on lady gaga's side on this one thats a freakin shame no one tried to step in and say hey kid you do have people who care and love you no matter what cause we all want to be accepted even i do and anyone trys to bully me lol thats funny these kids need educated properly thats all i am saying
Shes jumping on another bandwagon, how surprising. Why won't she just go away.
Bullying is a sign of instinct. People when they are young do not have the social constraints older people do. Therefore, they act on their instincts and instincts say, "reject that which is different." If they were animals, they'd toss a baby bird out of a nest, or a cub out of a den to get rid of it. The idea behind it is to not weaken the bloodline with what is perceived to be an inferior offspring. Truthfully, animals do it because in their group, difference or weakness IS a threat to the welfare of the family. With humans, there are too many of them to be threatened with extinction because on of them is inferior, or weak.
Based on the behavior of the crowd at the previous GOP debate, I can see why this behavior still exists. Grown adults shouting "let him die" and booing an American soldier because he is gay? Seriously, this is so sad. America is becoming the laughingstock of the world. How can we expect other cultures to abstain from crimes against humanity when we are so intolerant of others ourselves? And to say bullying is a "way of life" is wrong. It is a learned behavior. God Bless this young man. I hope he finally has some peace...something that eluded him throughout his young life.
bullying sucks but to outlaw it? rofl....wow. Sticks and stones.
Lets make a deal with her. Outlaw bullying AND bad dance music. Er, sorry, make that ALL dance music.
Yea words are one thing, but when there is physical violence then its got to stop.
Hey, the old sticks and stones saying. Did Grandma teach you that. Unfortunately, it's not true. Words do hurt. And when you're young and impressionable, and have no friends or people to turn to, words can end up hurting quite a bit and affecting you for the rest of your life. Understand a little better now. Nope? Not surprised.
I can't believe this kid send Lady Gaga a message via Twitter before he killed himself. These kids are bullied, which is wrong, but they lack any true foundation to live for. Lady Gaga is not a foundation worth building a life around. She is a substance abuser with horrible morals. The woman is the bride of Satan himself.
I hated being bullied in school so much i went through being whipped on my bare butt with a belt because i skipped school. sucked! it's ok tho. all those small town girls got pregnant in jr high. i'm serious. almost allll of them.
Its odd, i read through this and think back to my days in school. I remember the hell of being bullied, i remember hitting back only to later be attacked by groups for it. I think back to the days of rage that i felt, days where i wanted to come in with a bat or a gun and beat them till those people couldn’t walk any more or just plain kill them. I remember the days where i wished i would die.
When i saw the columbine incident i felt terrible but at same time i understood the feeling to get back at everyone.
it is in this sense of revenge and hatred, and self loathing that people seem to not understand. For some its just suck it up and drive on... yeah easy enough to do if you can, unfortunately some people cant. From schools, to military experiences, to basic life each experience can lead to a wide range of emotions. Some can be coped with some cant. Even if you have never experienced one you can’t handle doesn’t mean you won’t.
I love how people say it will get better after school, what a joke. People are crule, that doesnt change we just get more refined on it. At least in school it was obvoius.
We say oh it happened to me so its just normal... hey i know people who were beat by their parents guess its ok to beat their kids too, its just the way things are.. or mabey it’s because it’s to hard and would require some effort to think beyond the little bubble that we all live in and look beyond that.
is bulling bad, yes... should it be stopped yes, what gain is there in bulling... it makes you stronger.. lol well i guess next time some kid that was picked on and comes into the school and blows the bullies heads off.. got strong didnt they...
Oh wait that is bad, how could he do that... well simple you corner an animal and it will strike back or run if it can. Sometimes when they strike back they dont stop till the threat is broken or its dead.
Nothing is gained for bulling, that type of strength is a joke, its an excuse for those who dont want to bother trying to fix the issue. He was weak to kill himself.... funny to hear that one. another example of people never looking beyond their little bubble, there are things out in the world that can drive you to the edge and over it, would you say the same to a soldiers parent if the soldier killed themself.. hell we are trained to be as mentally strong as possible for the situation yet some of us break and kill ourselves.. are they weak, at least a soldier has some training what does a kid have.
yeah we cant get rid of bulling.. im under no illusion but we can at least work to try and stop it... have the courage to work towards something that is hard, not cower behind things like ... oh it happened to me so it should happen to someone else... oh they are weak how dare they kill themselves they had it coming....
Look around you, try and make things better, stop sitting on you rears making up reasons for something like this to be ok when there is no good reason for it.
Lady Gaga's message: Even though millions and billions of teens through the ages have been bullied, we should only care about this one because he was my fan, and more importantly he spent his allowance money buying my music.
Kids need to get tougher. Either live in fear like a pussbag or do something about it. I got bullied for a while, and it sucked. When you step up and do the unexpected is when you will earn respect and there is a chance the bully might back off. Play the crazy card or the intimidation card. Curse out a teacher in front of your class just once and you will be a God to your fellow peers, detention or a day or two of suspension will be worth it in the long run.
Violence isn't always the answer, especially when you grow up real skinny or real small, you won't stand a chance up against someone half your size, so winning over your bullies respect by doing something out of left field is your best defense.
Okay, this kid was reported bullied for years. I blame the parents for continuing to send this kid to a public school. They should have taken him out and home-schooled him or something. I know finances and such might have been a hendrance to doing so, but the kid is dead. Extreme situations call for extreme action. Take the kid out of school if it's too much for him. Not to mention school administration; any issue you bring to public schools falls on deaf ears, that's nothing new.
i got picked on and then beaten up pretty badly in middle school (we had to go to court and everything) and i have to say that i feel for what this kid went through. I just wish he had stuck it out a little while. I was TERRIFIED of the distance between the classroom door and my desk until i was in 10th grade. Then kids got nicer and i came out and shaved my head (which i think folks found a little intimidating, which helped) and things did GET BETTER. However, more than anything i remember how endless all of the bad stuff felt at the time... so i get it. I just wish there was some way for these kids to see past it in the moment. I know i wouldn't have though. My survival was a combination of luck and thinking of how hard my mom would cry if i commited suicide.
What's different from when you were a kid? I'll tell you what: Columbine, VA Tech, and countless other incidents that involve weapons at schools and playgrounds. Yup, my son was bullied and it took him a couple of years to stand up for himself. But I don't know if we would give him the same advice now, in this more violent society. Kids are less horrified and more facinated with violence. It's applauded by peers. Fight clubs, videos of beatings, etc. Laws aren't keeping up with this and in fact the penalties for the child defending him/herself are more severe than the bully's penalties. Been there, done that,... and we now need to empower the victims under the law. With the law.
Although I'm not crazy about Lady GaGa's music I have the utmost respect for her as a musician; and now, even more importantly, as a human being!
Sue the schools enough times for not protecting our children and they'll finally make laws protecting our kids from harassment, just like the same laws protect adults in the workplace.
unfortunately, kids aren't the same as adults.and yes, let's just sue something till it fixes the issue. What kind of law do u think is gonna fix it? kids will be kids, and there is no "law" that can be created that is gonna fix it. we just have to make the best of the situation and learn what we can from it.
Yeah, you're right. We should just let them run wild and do whatever they want to each other. Children can't be controlled, and the courts are too full of other important matters to bother. Just leave your kids at school and if anything happens to them, well, it's your fault for taking them there. You're a smart guy, Jake. You should run for president... in Libya.
We conservatives all feel bullied by liberals. All they do is call us racist names and belittle everything we believe in. Can we press charges against the Democrats for bulling???
bullying has been arround forever and no matter whats said or done or law passed it will not go away! My thing is this!! PARENTS need to pay attention to the kids and if the bullying is bad enough to make a kid suicidal concider different options or maby a move!! But most importantly make sure ur kids know there are different options and help out there for them and suicide is not an option!! be vigalent of changes in ur kids a kid doesnt just one day say F it im going to end it today it builds to that!! get kids help if needed!!
Once again, the ages ole addage is right:
IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY THEN DO NOT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL.
What's this - the kid is gay because he likes Lady Gaga?
Does it make me a lesbian if I like Ellen Degeneres? or Melissa Etheridge or Queen Latifah???
Live and let LIVE. MYOFB and keep yer yap shut.
I don't understand. Is it just the gay boys who are buckeling under pressure from bullying. Have the female gays not been harrassed? And if so, the girls obviously have more courage to endure. I don't remember hearing any stories about girls. Thought gays were strong and sassy about their life choice. At least all those I know. I'm from L.A. I was bulllied in school and in life, too. I am black. I survived as did many others who got bullied because we did not fit in with the in crowd-straight, blonde hair, blue eyed. SSDD. One thing we do need are parents that have enough common sense and strength to raise children that are able to withstand any kind of adversity. Yea, it hurts sometimes, but it is not the end. As a parent, we teach our children who we are and what we know. If our children are weak or bullies, etc. we only have ourselves to blame. God bless us...EVERYONE!!!
YOU SAID : "Thought gays were strong and sassy about their life choice"
You get that you are part of the problem, right?
Many of you are saying that bullying has always been around, so just fight back and suck it up. The truth is that bullying has been around. The phallacy is that fighting back is enough. It's not. Many of you who were bullied think that in the end everything was fine; but it isn't. In fact, you are the very ones who've let those experiences from the past run your lives now. You are so convinced that it made you a better person, that you now are encouraging others to respond in violence. Think back to that first moment when you encountered a bully? What was going through your head? Is the advice you are giving others now the same advice that resolved the problems you encountered? Is the advice you are giving good enough to prevent those problems from yesteryear from influencing your decisions and interactions today? I don't think so...
i would totally do justin bieber on a squaky cot.
I am in my sixties, but I admire Lady Gaga so much! What a great lady!!!
Amen!! I second the motion!! Dear Lady Gaga, Sly Stone, would like to work with You. I'll take You to Him. Call Me, in Hollywood, California, 213-458-2238.
For all the people that say "bullying makes us stronger" have not ever been bullied to a point where there was nothing they could do about it
There are many kids who go through life getting bullied for this, that, and the other thing, and 99% of the time, its something beyond their control.
Why dont you go to school, get bullied by your ENTIRE class,listen to your parents tell you "it will pass" and try to get through your middle and high school years without killing yourself
It isnt easy, at all. I dont think it makes you stronger by any means.
Dont act like you have been in their shoes unless you really have, I can guarantee you would be commenting something different
AGREE. You are 100% right. The feeling of complete powerlessness is something no one an understand unless it has happened to them.
My 15 year old brother in law commited suicide Oct 27 2010.
This is beautiful Lady GaGa.
Thank You for showing tribute to a young child, who indured so much torture hef felt leaving was the only way out. I'm glad to see awareness for bullying and suicide raised.
Kids have been bullied for years, did they always commit suicide and only in the internet age we have the ability to hear about every since one? Or is it because kids today are too weak to handle problems in their lives and choose to take their own lives rather than make the effort to deal with issues?
I treated school like a theatre stage honestly. I developed a whole persona outside of myself for dealing with bullying and in turn the persona one day became me as a whole. I started out weak and getting my ass handed to me but through years of training, discipline, and mental tactics I became the most feared to the school but loved by my friends. Yes, I've been shot but that's how punk ass kids deal these days when their group bullying and jump tactics fail horribly. I'm just lucky enough the kid didn't know how to shoot a gun properly or I wouldn't be typing today. Even so it'd be another lost headline.
This is fine for the classic Biff Tannen vs Mcfly cases, but don't think the courts are going to sit around listening to debates about who was bullying who. Never going to happen.
Maybe Jayme didn't fight back because he wasn't violent by nature and just wanted to have a peaceful and normal life. There is no excuse to treat a human being with enough hate that they actually feel the need to end their own life. Bullying can be endured by certain people but there are those that aren't capable psychologically to deal with it. There's a thing called empathy are caring for others, it's this that we should teach to all kids at a young age and if your child doesn't understand that causing suffering is wrong you are failing as a responsible parent.
I read in an article that he was telling his parents he was happy and everything was fine. That right there is the real problem. These kids are not telling their parents whats really going on and are hiding it from them. had his parents known his true feelings Im sure they would've done much more to stop this from happening.
The President has made efforts in the past to address the issue of bullying. In this case the idiots who were driving him mad should have backed off and let him be. This most likely would not have happened and they are just as responsible and should be given a dose of their own medicine by turning the tide and having them seem different or out of place. Bad behavior can be awful and if it doesn't stop it can be fatal, as was the case here. I seriously doubt this kid was a threat to anyone.
The kid was gay so he was already suffering from a sickness and that sickness is what led him to take his own life.
He killed himself because you gays kept lying to him, telling him he had an affliction he couldn't get rid of.
We need to start making our childern stronger (minded that is). Bullying has been around for ages, in fact me and my syblings were bullied for being different and I'm 50 yrs old now. I tell you what though, their bullying never made me want to kill mysef, and none of my siblings either.
Social Media has made bullying a whole lot worse than it ever was before. There is no comparison. Today kids can anonymously post about other kids on-line where everyone can see it and the bullied kids can't get away from it. Should kids be tougher, probably, but that doesn't make bullying right. I say kick them out of school if they repeatedly bully other kids, make them their parents responsibility to educate.
Such a fine line. On one hand, I do believe that bullying is a rite of passage. I don't know literally ANYONE who wasn't bullied and their experiences standing up to it (I never hit but I did have a strong backbone for it at a young age) didn't make them a stronger, better person. You learn a lot but overcoming words and standing up (or merely ignoring) taunting. But at the same time, this BREAKS MY HEART. I think there's a fine line between an incidence of bullying and when it becomes tormenting harassment. We will never be able to outlaw bullying but what we can outlaw is harassment and we can all keep an eye out for that point. On a personal note, be kind to the "different" ones- most often (especially when they're young), they need our love and support. I've always reached out to those like that though I was always the mainstream, outgoing student (not bragging, just depicting) and what would always be a lot of work in the beginning in getting them to open up, became a rewarding experience for me because I met so many people who I wouldn't have met otherwise. And don't come down so hard on Gaga for this, how can her intention be anything but completly pure and decent?
*I don't know anyone who was bullied and their experience standing up to it didn't make them a stronger, better person.
BULLYING IS FOR LOSERS!!
I think you mean that it's meant for losers.
Uuuuhhh... no I don't. D**chE!!
Most of the comments about being bullied and "just getting over it" and the "stand up for your self" "fight back " really don't understand what bullying looks like today. Its less physical and much more mental. coming to school and getting called names is one thing but when that taunting and attacking continues on 24/7 via social networks. it would be enough to break anyone. Also bullying tends to land disproportional high on GLBT youth, 8 times high rate of attempted suicide.
if we reduce bullying maybe children could spend more time LEARNING and less time trying to stand up to bullies.
I remember when I was bullied by a kid when I was 16. The bully would break off my side windows on my car while I was at work. threaten me in school and basically make my life miserable. He also let the air out of my tires while my car was parked near school. I told my dad what this guy was doing. 2 days later it all stopped and I was never bothered again. I didnt know why until a few weeks later my dad told me he called the kids father and said he would have his locked up if he kept damaging my car and threatening me. I didnt want my dad to do this and he never told me he was going to but later on I was verry happy he did. kids need to tell their parents about their problems. Don't just hold it in.
14 years old and he took his own life. very sad, but i do not think this should be top news. For one let gaga and all the other celebs stick to what they do best thats entertain. Who knows if this kid really killed himself because he was being bullied. Maybe he was being abused at home? Who really knows. Bottom line is there are 14 year olds with cancer who are dying and would do anything to live. Lets profile them and tell their stories
Gaga, is all bulling a 'hate' crime, or just the ones committed against someone that is gay? Also, last time I checked bullying was illegal but it sounds like you want it be be some type of federal crime. Hey, let's make it a 'hate' crime so it carries twice thew eight as some other bullying of some 'fat chick' cause she is not a lesbian.
My heart goes out to the family.
exactly. its more like she is trying to get these young kids to think its cool to be gay. If this kid was straight she would not even have heard about the story. She has millions of young kids that look up to her. Its pretty pathetic because she is going to corrupt so many young minds.
No. You guys are totally missing the point! Her message is to be proud to be yourself... which is a pretty good message. It isn't about being gay, or being fat, skinny, or WHATEVER. Kids are bullied by their peers for all sorts of reasons. No matter how you slice it, it isn't right. I don't think it should be a federal crime but, it needs to stop.
@Bob – Bob, it is okay to be gay.
All bullying. If you were familiar with her story, you'd know that she was bullied extensively as a tween/teen.
The U.S.A bullies the whole world and millions of people die but no one is crying about that
To those of you who suggest that Jamey should have had "the guts to stand up for himself" or that bullying has gone on "for ages" so it shouldn't be a big deal now- YOU ARE COMPLETELY MISSING THE POINT. Unless you have walked in the shoes of this young man (or any of the other countless gay youth) you have NO business minimizing their feelings or actions. If you are told that you are going to hell, are ostracized by an entire school of peers and feel attacked EVERY DAY OF YOUR LIFE, it's understandable how these kids end up taking their own lives. Was it the right choice? Of course not. Is it understandable, very much so. Even though we make videos about life "getting better," we all know that far too often, it doesn't. Gay people continue to be harrassed, intimidated, pysically assaulted, and even killed- just because of who they are. The kids who bully their middle school peers are the same ones who grow up to beat someone ruthlessly and tie them to a fence, leaving them to die in Laramie, Wyoming. Parents HAVE to teach their children at a young age, that bullying is unacceptable, at any age or for any reason. If we teach them to love their fellow human beings, the chances that they will grow up filled with hate are greatly diminished.
Well said. Thank you.
Those who go out of their way to verbally or physically attack someone who is gay is, as the Bible says, "pointing out the speck in his brother's eye while ignoring the plank in his own eye." Biblical principles like this, if instilled in our children, would keep tragedies like this from happening. Christians: you aren't the judges of the world, and you don't have the right to inflict harm on anyone for sin, since you sin as well (all have sinned and fall short of the Glory of God, no one is righteous, no, not one). No wonder people associate Christianity with violence and hatred, that's what is displayed by too many so-called Christians. You are an embarrassment to the gospel. But, since schools go and irradicate anything related to the Bible and God, what do you expect? When prayer is banned, Bible study groups are banned, and local churches are corrupt, what do you expect? When God, the author of love, is overwhelmingly rejected by society... what are you left with? You're left with tragedies like this, that's what.
No one should have to endure the hell of bring bullied in school. NO ONE!
A child is dead. Instead of all this animosity and hate, why don't we each ask ourselves, "What can I do to prevent this from happening again?". Let's forget about what our own parents used to tell us to do when we were picked on – it's a totally different world now and a child is dead. Let's forget about politics, religions and differences of opinions. Peolple! A child is dead! WHAT CAN I DO to make a difference that will save other children from the same demise as Jamey. RIP, little one....
SO whats the definition of bullying. I am see alot of poster's on here who are supposedly against bullying yet making bullying remarks towards other posters who don't agree with Lady Gaga.
I picked one little f...r up for his sweater, tolled him to "do not touch my kid" or he will have to deal with me. He said "Yes, mam" and I lowered him back to the ground. Sometimes parents have to do whats right "old stile school" thing. Don't stay and watch. ACT.
For her to give tribute to an underage child, she should do so respectfullly and with decent clothing on. What good is someone to honor anyone else, when you cannot do so without putting forth your agenda First and Foremost. Is it really about the teen...or her? Anyone who has an audience of such magnitude as her and does not have the respect for her fans to be a better role model in her own life............IS a bully themselves. Apparently she only wants to care about folks in the manner that SHE choses, however, she shows no interest in changing herself FIRST. Easy to jump on the bandwagon – however, it is better to be the bandwagon that everyone jumps on!
You're an idiot.
And you are a cyber bully
I'm glad someone taught me to stand up, earn a living quickly and retire young. By removing myself from "common society" I have never been happier than to live in a world where the only exposure I have to things like this article are hand selected by me and just as easily discarded. I find it peculiar the ones screaming for anti-bullying are in fact bullying in blogs. Now I'm going to be back to drinking my sage tea and rest assured tomorrow's articles will not pertain to me. Care to join me?
Someone needs to bully her into shutting up.
Bullying has been around for years. Get over it. Gaga is pathetic using the issue for publicity. Grow a pair.
Then don't complain if your kid bullies another kid, and he gets his clock cleaned. Tell your kid to man up and accept he got his teeth knocked in, take him to the dentist, and don't file a civil lawsuit to make your family feel better.
I give her credit for bringing awareness to such a tragic situation. Wake up, folks. Bullying IS a real problem, and it is not going away until we all make a stand. Raise your voices, band together, and remind them all: IT GETS BETTER.
Bullying has existed forever. It is called stand up for yourself and quit being a victim! Anyone who has endured it for years and is only 14 can blame the parents for allowing him to have 'gender issues' and for allowing him to be a victim.
Why the sudden fascination with bullied teenagers? And why are these kids who are getting picked on deciding that their only way out is by taking their own lives? As someone who went through high school in the late 1990s nerdy, overweight, and outside of the popular crowd, I understand what it feels like to be an outsider. I also know that, with the advent of social media that wasn't around when I was a teenager, bullies can harass their targets to a degree unheard of in my day. But I also know that I learned to confront the people who tried to bully me before it became a problem. I stood up to them, threw their insults right back in their faces, and I earned a degree of respect from them because of it. I never did hang out too much with the popular kids, but I was never a victim either, and I certainly never considered suicide. I learned to stand up for myself and be my own person, and I didn't need my teachers to defend me or an "It Gets Better" celebrity ensemble to tell me everything was going to be okay.
As well-intentioned as they may be, these activist parents who are trying to get schools to adopt zero-tolerance anti-bullying policies are simply making the problem worse. If my teachers intervened every time someone called me fat or uncool, it would only paint a larger target on my back for bullies who would not only see me as a weak-willed crybaby who can't handle his own problems, but they would further alienate me because I tried to get them in trouble. It's High School Social Politics 101. Granted, there are instances in which a target of bullying needs outside assistance. But the vast majority of them can solve their own problems without it.
Tragic though it may be that some of these teens have chosen to end their own lives, the hard truth is that many of them lacked the strength of character to stand up to their tormenters. Instead of focusing our attention and pity on those who have taken the easy way out (which is exactly what suicide is regardless of the reason), we should be recognizing those who have triumphed in spite of being bullied. Wouldn't their success stories be more of an inspiration to teenagers facing these problems?
Travis... that's awesome man!! You are right but, not everyone has the strength to stand up for themselves... maybe they are just too afraid or maybe, they believe what everyone tells them... that they are worthless or useless or [insert any derogatory comment here]. There aren't always people to stand up for them or tell them they can do it or not be afraid.
I guess the problem mostly is it is difficult for a child to understand it will all pass. Maybe it is because the thing they want most is acceptance... when you can't get it, it seems like the end of the world. Maybe parents these days don't reassure their kids enough?
Travis.... because this is not then, this is now. Times have changed. Technology allows bullying to reach further then mere whispers in the hall or bathroom. Most parents work now, and these kids are often pushed to the back of their parents day, to the back of their concerns. Parents do not realize the stress, the peer pressure and the bars that are being raised because of todays technology. Most of these kids were latch-key or raised in daycare. Most of them bounces between parents, are abused, neglected or just forgotten. Instead of saying 'well I took it why can't they' – stop, have some empathy and realize this is not about you... it is about them... they are fragile still and mostly alone in this. Instead of folding your arms and standing to the sidelines frowning – how about just reaching in – in support of them... and showing them that they to can survive...as you did.. and walk on to a better today.
Debbie...I'm not denigrating anything these kids are going through. As I said from the beginning, I'm aware of the fact that sites like Facebook and Twitter make it a lot easier for bullies to make like miserable for others. And I know that the parents cannot always be relied upon as a source of emotional support. I never said it was easy to be bullied. It's not.It happened to me in high school, so I have some idea of what these kids go through. The difference between what I did and what kids do now is that I took it upon myself to change my situation. I stood up to the bullies. I even made friends with one or two of them. I surrounded myself with friends who did not judge me. I took positive actions that improved my situation. And most importantly, I didn't lose hope. Even if all of my other efforts to stop the bullying had failed, I never lost sight of the fact that I was a worthwhile person.
What I DO blame them for is how they handle those feelings. A kid who gets picked on at school decides that the only way to handle mean classmates is to jump off a bridge or shotgun a bottle of sleeping pills? Come on, it makes no sense. The only possible benefit that a bullied teen's suicide will bring is the fleeting sympathy from the community who had ignored the bullying while the kid was alive. And the bullies themselves? Do you think they will feel ashamed? Not at all...they'll just quietly ignore the fact that the dead kid ever existed and move on with their lives and on to the next target. That's how sociopaths operate. So a kid takes his/her own life, and nothing is accomplished as a result. Maybe it's just the fact that I'm no longer a teenager and I've become more sensible over time, but if I were to kill myself, I would at least want to make sure that I had a good reason for it.
and the bullying goes on even on this reply page!!!
I can speak from experience from this because my younger brother whom I took custody of after our dad died was bullied, and eventually cornered by three punks in a bathroom. They assaulted him all at once, and he finally fought back and used what self-defense I taught him. In the end, one kid actually had to be flown to a specialty hospital for a ruptured voice box, and I was sued in CIVIL court by BOTH the parents AND the Insurance Company for his medical costs.
It took TWO court rulings, including an APPEALS court ruling, throwing out the suit because people injured in the commission of a felony (aggravated assault) cannot sue for injuries. Yes, we had to press three felony sets of charges, hire a conflicts of laws specialty lawyer (education vs criminal), and a lawyer specializing in Insurance appeals.
AND make sure all principals understand that State self-defense laws SUPERSEDE education and school resource laws so that when a kid does defend himself, he AND his guardians aren't taken to jail. Yes, even a kid defending himself against a felony assault can be arrested under local and state education laws, and charged/expelled when a clear self defense statute exists.
Shocking comment! Where is you heart? In your ASS?I would rather read or listen to a crack headed wasted space singer who knows how to care about a HUMAN BEING than read your short narrow minded comment!!Whatever she is doing..it has a purpose in life! And thousands of our youngsters find comfort from her words. While your comment sounds so selfish.. You must be one of those kids who was raised in a bubble,who had evertyhing in life! Oooooops wait! You are just simply a SMART ASS who has no HEART and lives the perfect life!!!God bless your soul!
Give the public the names of these bullies that keep killing kids. Let us handle them and their parents. After they've experience what they are dishing out I'm sure they'll decide to grow up real fast.
What are we going to do? Lock up every 12 to 15 year olds that bully? We would have to have cameras and microphones at every corner of the schools to prove who did it. Hearsay does not stand up in court. These are juveniles we are talking about. Bullying is awful. I was bullied because I was always the skinny new kid. I would have had to have a bodyguard with me 18 hours a day to stop it. Kids are cruel.
Yes we should lock them up. At home. It's call parenting and disciplining your kids, coupling that with teaching them to be compassionate and empathetic, but not weak and we might actually make a difference. Take away your kid's smart phone, pay attention to what they watch on television and at the movies or better yet, buy them a book. How kids are today is 100% related to the parenting (or lack thereof) in our households. Lead by example.
No.... but how about not standing idly by when a person is taunting another? How about talking up or walking off with the one being bullied to go do something? Because bullying is almost acceptable behavior and no one wants to step up least they be the new target – everyone dodges doing something. And what ever happened to people talking with each other? Not TO but with and not trying to out-QQ each other... How about people pause now and then and give a moment to actually care.. about each other...
It is not surprising to see posts from mean spirited people under the comments sections for the news articles. Obviously those mean spirited people have nothing better to do, (probably because no one can stand listening to them). Really, the media should get rid of the comments sections. It gives the rest of the world the opinion that most Americans are mean nasty people.
Barbara, if the Comment section was taken away, then you would not have been able to leave your comment. America has Free Speech, a lot of other countries do not. As far as the people who post hurtful, ignorant comments, the best way to deal with them is to just ignore them. If they don't get an response to their post they will just go away. You have to understand that there are people out there who don't have a life, and they only joy they get out of life is posting negative comments on the internet. Don't respond and they will go away!
OK, had this poor kid decided to fight back and protect himself, EVEN IF he complied with ALL APPLICABLE state laws on self-defense, he would have been suspended, expelled, and even charged with MUNICIPAL and state misdemeanors for fighting in school. Yes, even if a kid is defending themselves, most local and state laws allow the school resource/police officer to arrest EVERYONE involved, and take them to jail.
That doesn't even take into account the CIVIL lawsuits the other kids parents would have filed, because most bullies really cant fight, and will be fairly injured when their target comes back at them.
However, 110% of the time, it's better to be judged by 12 than carried by 6.
I think Gaga's right: bullying's a hate crime, and it shouldn't be written off as some "rite of passage" or a natural way of life. Bullying should not be tolerated at all.
I think your being rediculous, A hate Crime??? Seriously you and Gaga are being extreme. There is very little violence or bullying in society today. So dont say otherwise or Ill hunt you down and kick your ass.
Jack off charlie.. VVVVV
Another internet troll.. this site is full of them.. wow
I agree with you. I took my daughter on vacation for 2 weeks during Grade 9 and when she went back to school, all her friends decided she was stuck up and stopped speaking to her. Then they talked about her behind her back, then they talked about her in front of her. They cyberbullied her to the extent that I was seriously concerned about her mental health. I approached the principal, the vice principal, the superintendent of schools for our district and the government official for our area. I was told by one of the bully's parents that "they are 14 year old girls." Not one of the people I contacted did a damn thing. However we have cyberbullying laws in place, and I called the police. 6 girls were charged with cyberbullying and uttering threats. Suddenly I was hearing from all the parents of this horrible little cows, with apologies and promises to do better, and I was getting responses from the principal, the superintendent and even the representative for our area. 5 of the girls were convicted, and 2 of them were then charged with other offenses against other students at the school. When I was 14, girls were catty, but they weren't violent and they didn't try to ruin each other's lives. I weep for these poor children that think the only way to escape the bullying is suicide. Am I guilty of protecting my daughter instead of letting her deal with it herself? Damn right I am, and it is my job to raise my daughter to the best of my ability. If your kid is a bully, then you are not doing your job. If a parent calls you and tells you your child is a bully, don't swear at them, or threaten them or blow them off. They are telling you to stand up and be a parent! If your child is being bullied, then fight tooth and nail for them. Call the school every day! Get in touch with your government representatives. Make everyone aware that your child is being bullied, take on the parents of the bullies, get the police involved. MAKE SOME NOISE! Let the bully and his family know you will not tolerate their ill bred brat ruining anyone's life. As lots of other posts have said, stand up to the bully. But don't make your child do it alone. Stand right next to your son or daughter and let them know that you are with them 100%! Let them know that you love them.
I reckon she got to come up with some cause to make up for her lack of looks and talent.
And you are talented at; What?
Lack of talent?? Are you high??
HAHA Lack of talent? Shes won about 60 awards, between her singles and studio albums shes sold about 60 million, oh and she was voted the most influential artist by Time Magazine in 2010. As much as we (me included) hate to compare our mediocre lives to those who are actually making an impact on people everywhere, bashing them without any background knowledge about them makes you look stupid. So if she "lacks" talent after hearing just a piece of her resume, where do you stand in terms of talent? That's what I thought.... crickets.....
Larry you sir are an internet troll. Making us all comment on your "well thought out" comment, and in turn not replying.
Lady Gaga is one of the most talented artist around right now. youtube her live performance on Howard Stern, just her and a piano, and then let me know whether or not you think she is talented.
I reckon you are a redneck
Larry – okay, how about instead of tossing out a blanket statement at an attempt to troll, you say something constructive. Such as why does she suck – what examples do you have to lend to this? I am not a fan, do not know much about her, but from what I see, she is well known... and I guess if its for being as you say 'not-talented and sucking' then.. I'd say she's very successful at what ever it is she is doing.... I actaully do like her voice and creations... I think she allows herself leeway to be who she is.... and I think if more people did that and were less judgmental then maybe this world would be an easier place to wake to.
I can tell you from experience alot of this is brought on by the parents and you know who you are. I see it at sports events, school functions you name it I see it and no one does anything about it UNTIL it's too late. Parents can be just as cruel and the kids so in my opinion they pick it up from home that's where it ALL STARTS!! Are there that many people in this world that feel so bad about themselves that they have to take it out on other people!!! You all are pathetic!!!
They are pathetic and you are 100% correct. That hate crime in Mississippi, those kids probably picked up that bigotry at home.
Parents today... are the same bullying losers I went to school with 20 something years ago. As they say, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Seriously, these people should not be allowed to breed.
There was a kid that lived on our same block that was handicapped... of course he was bullied to no end because of it. One afternoon it was getting out of hand and my little sister in a total rage ran across the street and beat the living dog poo out of the boy that was doing the bullying. Funny; nobody did anything to help him. What is worse is the offending bully was being wailed on by a girl half his size. I The black eye he sported for a while took care of any further bullying because he never messed with the other kid again. Guess complete humiliation stops bullying in it's tracks? Violence doesn't solve anything but, in this case it sure did. I will never forget it because it was the coolest thing I ever witnessed!
I wish I could understand why people aren't just a little more tolorable of each other. We are ALL different is some way or another. If we were all the same, imagine how boring the world would be. Being bullied does not make you tougher, it just makes you miserable.
Bullying really has no place in the world. Didn't 20 something years ago... doesn't today.
Sandy... actually while it is easy to blame the parents, these teens and young ones do have free will. It is their voice doing the chiding, and their actions doing the harm. True, their parents gave them examples to live by – but it is still up to the person to follow or take their own path. Blame must be put on the right person – the one doing the bullying and blame must be put on the friends or people around them that give them an audience. It takes a moment to point out to your bud that their taunts of someone else 'really are not cool' and step away from them....
That is kind of her, and I'm sorry for this young teen, However bullying has always gone on and always will, I just hope people dont lobby to take away our rights over bullying.
Lady Gaga you have HEART and my respect.
Mark – A great deal of harm? What are YOU smokin?
The message of: Don't be afraid to be and express yourself? THAT is harmful? Seriously, you have no clue what you are talking about. Why don't you do us all a favor and ZIP IT!
Hahahahaha... oh wait, you're serious aren't you? Well, whatever, funny unintended joke anyway. Lady Gaga is a satanist, you know that right? Get a clue.
I agree. I've never been that much of a Gaga fan, but the Lady has spoken well.
@AwareAmerican- A satanist? She's actually deeply spiritual and tries to encourage love, peace, understanding, acceptance, and unity. Those are basic Christian ideals, and somehow she's a satanist in your eyes. So typical of you and your peers with your skewed view on Christianity and really humanity as well. Just because she dresses in a provocative way, makes music you can't relate to, and imagery she uses makes you uncomfortable, that doesn't make her a satanist-that makes her an entertainer. Her views on life and the teachings she is trying to encourage in everyone, that makes her a bigger/betterChristian than you.
I can't believe how cruel some of you can be. Just because you've never spent years being bullied and harassed, or maybe you have, i don't know, you think you can just make a rude and hurtful comment without knowing anything about a person. YOU are the morons. Cruel and vicious.
very well said...
It's true though, everyone is bullied to some degree during their life and it makes you a stronger person. It's a cruel world out there and if we constantly try to protect ourselves from it, it just makes us weak.
@Jake. How does it make you a strong person if you're dead. Kids are killing themselves right and left from being bullied nowadays because it's 10x worse than it was back in the day. When everyone ostrasizes you and puts you down and beats you up nearly every day of your young life thru school, it can go so far as to give a kid PTSD. Really, you have no clue what some of these kids go thru, sir. Walk a mile in their shoes (but you won't, of course). Stop acting like it's normal and it's ok. Are we animals or human beings? This is acceptable behavior in a wolf pack. We have laws in the workplace about harassment, but it's ok for kids to go thru this because some cavemanish men still consider it normal and character building?? It's unbelievable that we don't have laws yet protecting children from other peoples animals..ahem, children.
I was bullied as a youth and thought I had put it behind me .. until a friend told me about this young person that was being bullied and yet another friend told me about someone else. Both persons, so sad and past the point of hope – talked about ending it – so I wrote this: www. writerscafe.org/writing/doodler222/612032/ The thing is, as I wrote it, all of the memories flooded in and I doubt will ever go away. We must first realize the pain of another and if anything – pause, take their hand and just be there to listen, to acknowledge and to comfort....
If you've spent years being bullied and harassed, that says more about you than it does anyone else.
Natural selection exists. It IS real. The herd will be thinned one way or another.
If you're not strong enough to exist, natural selection will weed you out. Adapt or die.
What has happen to us, why have we allowed our children to become so week. I remember having a kid that bullied me in jr high. Told my parents and response from my dad. Punch the kid square in the nose and he'll leave you alone. That kid and I fought for a year almost every time we saw each other, but no one every bullied me again.
I agree. Sometimes one must simply take a stand and take matters into their own hands.
Unfortunately this kid was probably never tough how to do that.
That won't end bullying....the father and son will both be arrested for assault on the bully. That's the way it is today.
if you fought for a whole year, id say you kept getting bullied, and the punch didnt work out
Your dad telling you that actually did you a great disservice. He brought you down to the bully's level.
I always tell my kids if someone picks on you and the teachers or principal doesn't do anything then smack the crap out of them. Then they will leave you alone. As long as they see they are bothering you, they will continue. Stand up for yourself.
Man, there are so many ways to bully the bully I can't even list them here. NO, you don't have to resort to violence, but if you're creative you can F them up in many, many ways. Here's a few to inspire:: 1) Send a reeking ounce of pot addressed to the bully thru the mail. 2) Go to the principle and claim the bully pulled down your pants and fondled you in the restroom when noone else was there. 3) Call Crime Stoppers and make an anonymous tip that a large cocaine shipment is sitting at the bullies residence waiting to be distributed. etc
I think this is great advice. A broken nose will do the trick. Sometimes violence is the only way to solve issues. Our government does it all the time. We didnt sit back after Pearl Harbor or 9/11and lick our wounds. So if you're being bullied, I have no problem with any means to make it end. If you talk crap you get punched in the face. It's that simple.
Haha! I like your style JoJo. :)
Its weak not week. However, I do agree with you 100% though. Kids these days have no backbone. They have no idea how to stand up for themselves and fight for what they believe. Its really sad, they just want to run home and cry to mom and dad. Learn to fight back a little, it will help.
If you punch someone in the face, you are likely to get arrested in high school. My high school had a "no-physical violence" policy. It did not matter who started the fight, if punches were thrown you were arrested. Unfortunately, people who bully are often people who have less to loose. Even if I were getting bullied I would not punch anyone in the face. It's just not worth it going on your transcript and colleges looking at it. Please think things through before you give terrible advice.
So what you are advocating is a culture in our schools of escalating violence and reprisals as opposed to a cultural of peace and learning. What a sad and disgusting vision.
So, for all of you saying for the kid being bullied to fight back with violence (I'm looking at you EKIA with your broken nose comment)- if ANY of your children came home with a broken nose and you asked what happened, what do they tell you? Some kid punched me in the face. Then guess what, the kid that your brat has been bullying for the past however so long has become the bully in your eyes and you call the school to get the kid in trouble, you call the law to have the kids parents pay your brats medical bills. Violence doesn't solve anything in the case of being bullied.
Good for you. It was one against one. Those aren't always the odds when it comes to bullies and you can't fight everyone, especially not all at once. Sometimes the bully is just too big. Bullies don't usually care if you beat up another bully, so that part about 'bullies left me alone' doesn't always work. I defeated the bullies by outsmarting them. You see, many of them, like you, are not all that bright.
Hard to punch a kid in the nose when bullying these days can be done anonymously via the Internet (as in the case here).
I agree 100% with Brent. I was bullied in school. I was called names, picked on and pushed. But the day I hit my bully square in the face and told him to go **** off it stopped. Kids are weaker and more emotional now than they used to be. Parents are partially to blame the get involved every time little johnny has a problem instead of letting the kid figure it out on their own. So when Johnny is getting bullied his parents say turn the other cheek, or " play nice and be friends" Please
On paper it sounds great to tell your kid to fight back or punch him in the face or whatever. But you know some kids just dont have it in them to do that..They need an outlet or way to rectify it.
Worked to me.
We are raising a generation that can't fend for themselves. We are told to be tolerant, then they call the police. A minor issue with a bully becomes a suicide or a police record. You people are nuts.
If every American followed the no violence policy, we'd have a hole where the White House or Capital Building is (we don't know what the target of flight 93 was).
Warn the bully in writing, kick his a$$ then sue the school if they interfere.
Violence towards a bully may make you feel better for the moment... but you will stand there, continue fighting them instead of just walking on... Walk forward, walk on and remember that words of those you have no respect for, should never hurt you... and if someone you respect does hurt you with words, then reconsider them in your life. Bullying is meant to undermine and wound a person... the reason may never be clear to us but the intention is... Walk on... walk forward and continue past them is my advice...
I remember getting bullied; I remember i was not a good fighter. I took kempo karate when I was in JR high, I was not all that good but it did do one thing, it built my confidence. Bullies usually attack the weak, those who stand up, they usually leave alone. I also learned how to get hit in the stomach and not get hurt. One of the biggest bullies (and dumbest) decided i was his target. If front of his friends i gave him one shot to hit me in the stomach and see if he could hurt me, if he did not then I get one shot. He hit, i did not flinch, and he was worried. I turned and hit an iron pole holding up a steel roof. The sound it made was great and reverberated. I looked and said "I do not like hitting people especially those who are weaker than me. Go away. The school security person was laughing at him; I did not know he was watching. A was a different time in the 70's.
@ Jojo: LMAO!!!!!!!!
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This broad is an idiot! She'll do anything to grab some publicity at any time. What a dweeb!
You Sir...are a failure...
What an amazing life's ambition you have.....to be 'firsty'.
Here's a job-appication-form to Burgur King.
It's pretty much the best you'll ever do in life.
The boy's story is so sad! It is awful that this kind of thing still happens in 2011. I think parents need to take more responsibility for the bullies that their children become, but sadly most bullies have bullies for parents. The boy's mom said that she was going to bury him in his "Born this Way" t-shirt. That was very sweet of Gaga to dedicate a song to him.
Bullying is a way of life. It always has been prevalent in schools. Kids need to stop whining about it and giving up by committing suicide. They take the easy way out leaving all the people who care about them. They arent martyrs, they arent examples, they are cowards. We need to stop glorifying this. Being bullied and taunted really sucks, but remember most of the bullies end up flipping burgers all their lives and the bullied almost always make something of themselves.
I love how that Pliny kid tried to tell you off for being stupid when he mispelled "Burger". ..Idiot.
@Erin ...says the girl who failed to spell "misspelled" correctly.
I think all the people who are saying "in my day" "bullying has been around forever" "this isn't new" need to stop. Yes, bullying isn't new.. But when you were growing up did you and everyone else have cellphones? email? facebook? twitter? You think home is a safe place, someone can send you a text, post on your wall. What's worse though is that everyone see's it. I don't think I would want to be in school these days. We need to realize bullying has moved on and is much different then what most of us experienced. So we can't say go with the punches, because that might have worked for us, but I don't think it's working here.
real sensitive, Coyote. So you were cyberbullied at home? were you text bullied all the time? It is a shame he suicided, but I can only imagine the type of parent you/'d be.
For people who say kids should get over it bullying is part of life need to remember that when adults do this stuff its called menacing, stalking, assault, etc...
Shut your mouth you waste of space.......maybe you're the one on crack!
Because it is just so dumb to care isn't it? You must have been one of those people who cheered when it was suggested that people without health insurance should just die if they become sick. And one who boo'd a gay soldier when he asked a question for a recent GOP debate.
You're the one who should shut the F up.
...saild the bully.
He was 14. Your a pathetic piece of garbage.
You are obviously a bully, and your kids probably are too, or will be.
Let me guess, you are a christian.
As insensitive as your comment is, you're right. I was the target of bullies when I was a kid, but I learned to stand up to them on my own. No one coddled me and treated me like a victim. Frankly, I think that these so-called "concerned parents" simply want anti-bullying measures implemented in their local schools so that there is a legal mechanism for them to file a lucrative lawsuit if their kid gets picked on.
Harsh but true...
I'm in agreement that this guy must have been one of those meat head, jock bullies in high school as well. We can pass all the anti-bullying laws we want but the only real solution to bullying is a good beat down on the bully. Sorry folks, I know we all want to be sensitive and PC about things but some people just don't understand anything else. I can guarantee this will work every time.
@Ray – let me guess. You are a judgmental ass.
I feel terrible for this young kid, but I think us as a society are to blame. Kids have been bullied for years, bullying was terrible when I was a kid and Im 58 now. Thing is I wasnt told that my feeling were so important and that I should feel free to like myself etc.. Its not that way, not true and hurts kids. We need to toughen up our kids, even the ones who are gay etc... Gay men used to live their lives in hiding yes, but they really didnt have to suffer torment. Now we tell kids that its their right and to come out of the closet etc... wrong.. stay in the closet until your out of school or at least in college and pray the others dont find out or you will be tormented. Be tough, realize that because your different just like every other animal in the animal kingdom, something different will cause you grief. Bullying is and will be forever, we cant prosecute every 10, 11, 12 year old kid for picking on someone, Hell we cant even prosecute when they kill someone. So toughen up, shut up and get thru school. After highschool life changes. As for Lady Gaga your words hurt kids, you cause pain and your unrealistic view is stupid.
just beat his ass
people might think thats harsh but its true. I dont feel bad for people that take their own life. Some say 14 is young. Your smart enough to know right and wrong by 14. Its only 4 years off the legal age of 18. I hate celebs that push the gay stuff on young kids.
True, also what was this kid thinking by telling his classmates he was gay. I know when I went to school you didn't admit to anything potentially embarassing, you don't give your enemies ammunition and then expect them not to use it. People today are generally more accepting of gays but kids are kids and they will always be cruel, it's part of life.
Hey bob, If 14 is old enough to know right from wrong, look up the Lawrence King murder. He was shot in the back of the head twice in a school classroom, by his 14 year old classmate. Murdered simply for the fact that he was gay. Using your logic, this 14 year old should be tried as an adult. You can keep pretending the issue doesn't exist because it doesn't directly affect you or your family, but you have NO idea what it is like being gay in middle and high school. The same goes out to all of these haters. You all have absolutely no clue what it is like. and dan, you are a sick excuse for a human being to say something so disrespectful about a tragic situation
You're probably correct, everyone is so sue-happy these days it's sickening. They either want to sue or to throw a young teenage in jail for doing what kids have done forever. You learn to deal with bullies and it helps you become a stronger person.
I'll admit, kids skins are a lot thinner these days, but the level of disrespect I'm seeing has gone too far. Live and let live. Yes, there's a price to be paid for this new age of self-expression, but making fun is one thing, bullying and mental tormnt is another.
how is Lady Gaga's view hurting anyone? If you actually saw poor Jamey's video's you would realize that she was one of the reasons he stayed alive so long. She wants to help. She isn't hurting anyone.
I wouldn't even mind hitting it after you do.
Huh. This was supposed to be a reply to another post.
Two 3 year old are playing together, one wants the others toy, he just takes it, maybe one hits the other. Yeah if adults did that it woudl be theft and possibly assualt (or self defense depending on who did the hitting). So yeah something that might be a crime as an adult, might be viewed differently when done by kids.
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