Antonio Banderas opens up about his marriage to Melanie Griffith in the new issue of AARP magazine.
The Spanish actor shares about coping with his wife’s struggles with sobriety, and how they’ve managed to strengthen their relationship over the past 17 years.
“The secret is that we had failures before,” Banderas, 51, says of his longtime love.
“We discovered the value and warmth of family, and what is home — that we can be stronger together," he says. "That thing that you thought was gone comes back again, and you fall in love again.”
The actor says that he and Melanie, 54, have “never hidden” their problems, and worked through her substance abuse issues. “Even in crisis, we have been patient enough to detect that at the end of the tunnel was a light.”
“She has overcome her problems beautifully,” Banderas says of his wife. “I didn't know she was so strong. It makes me love her even more, because she has been an unbelievable lion fighting, and she got it. The last [relapse] was three years ago, and it just welded us.”
Banderas and Griffith are parents to Stella, now 15, and Griffith has two children from previous relationships, Alexander, 26, and Dakota, 22.
The actor says he has a great relationship with his stepkids. “They call me Paponio — Papa and Antonio,” Banderas shares. He says the family banded together to help Griffith with her treatment.
“The whole family participated,” he says. “We did all the therapies together — the kids, everybody. It was a very unique experience, not only for Melanie. It was very rewarding at the end.”
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A good man he is for standing by his wife and realizing that marriage is about life's ups and downs, but there is always a light at the end of that tunnel. I have to wonder if he is spiritual and has a relationship with God, because it's really hard to find a man with real substance these days. I think Melanie looks great and is not only beautiful, but a survivor as well.
Youngsters never think, that they will become old. I did not either. But age will come to all of us, if we live long enough, that is for sure, my friends.
ewwwww mg look awful she has never been pretty to me eekk
melanie griffin looks like a old dried up hag poor antonio run for the hills
we have take learn love, what is love, now read how long Melanie and Antonio is merried, and "smile all ways" is was lovly read, you story and you father, is wondeful, someone is stenby all ways, not give up hope. Nothing is not easy, but we is storng, love is ever. But sometimes is good talk docdor too. I was computer, i have not working, and i coming here, read and now i have to written somethng, take cear eryone.... Lord pless you.
Hello eryone, i written this, becouse i want say, don't give up hope ever....
I look tv-show, where Melanie tell dranking, she is very good fighter, one live.... My father is alcohol roplhem, and he got heart attac, and now, heart is half troy, i scear show lot, i'm not see to him, if he drank agen. But i don't give hope, i can get help, to him. But how i get to him fighter fith psycolotig, my dad scear show lot psycolotig. If you some roplhem, i say to you don't give up, never is not be late, and what is maysing, i left risiting, Sweden see my dad, and he open to me ofcorse darnk, then i undestund, good, i'm not give up, and say, i don't see you, but contact with my dad, is best what i have.
Wht is maysing to me, i have some experient what Melanie, i song, i play piano i like act, in teatre, but i am 26 old, and i go payting school, and mayby one year i study open university psycologith. Before i dream acting, but maby it is my bisnes :D And i was au-par Spanish, but now i not member of spanish language :D
Smile, live smile you.... written "fitghter one dad"
I can't believe he's still with her. I guess he needs work.
Wow, what a wonderful article - a great message of love, tolerance, and understanding...
I wish they would make a reality show with people like this in it. Thanks for reporting this CNN.
I think that MG has a lot of warmth and sensitivity. She is still beautiful. she comes across as very human and even vulnerable,and not many of these so called celebs or modern actresses have that kind of feminine and too real vibe. She might have some plastic surgery ,but her soul is very real. Can you say that about these Kardashian vapid ,useless vultures or even some of the actual talented women around these days....vulgar,untouchable and posers.
I give them both credit for their strength in fighting the disease of addiction, for going public with their problem in the hope that it will help others, and for sticking together and seeing it through. Most spouses today, celebs or not, would have packed it in long ago. They truly have helped save each other as well as their marraige and are much stronger for it.. Well done!
Is she seriously only 54??
As I tell all my pretty women: "Bottoms up!"
Antonio – What a man ! Just when I lose faith in men, one like Antonio comes along and proves me wrong ! You are very blessed, Melanie
I'm shocked at her photo. Only her mouth has a hint of familiarity, from her previous pictures. She looks so much older than before. She looks as if she's had plastic surgery and it changed the real HER. Even her hair looks dry & limp. I love her character in all her movies. She is definitely a star.
Wow. Melanie was so good in "Something Wild" and her earlier stuff. Whiskey wins again!
It's refreshing to see that there are still a few people that will work through thing's in a relationship. In a lot of cases nowadays, it's just as easy as changing your socks to change your partner.
Banderas is a quality guy. Congrats to the family for choosing to fight. Never give up. Great job.
I always wondered about her slow, slurred, voice that made her so adorable....
He's just too cute! All i can say...
I still remember Antonio with Tom Hanks in Streets Of Philadelphia. Great Great Movie.
She is blessed to have a loving, caring, patient, supportive husband. And-he is FINE! We should all be so blessed. Good luck to them.
Melanie and Antonio you are a beautiful couple. Congratulations for your achievements. Team up with God and go on. And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.Love.
I commend Antonio for sticking by his wife. They have a beautiful child together. But for God's sake, why does this woman look so bad? Other actresses have surgery but she has looked totally haggered for years now. Her Mom looks much better than her! She used to be sooo cute. What a shame...I mean really!
give her a break, for crying out loud! big deal. She looks fine for 54, actually, she is pretty. you can only stop gravity for so long. Look at some of the older actresses, they are beautiful. Why are so ppl SO afraid of wrinkles, omigosh, how ridiculous and shallow! Look at the lessons learned in her life, look at what Melanie has pulled from this experience, and how she has experienced the love and kindness of her husband. THIS IS WHAT MATTERS, NOT FRICKIN WRINKLES!! GEEZ
Love Antonio and admire him even more for being totally committed to his wife and children. You never here anything bad about him. Now that's a real man!! Some of you men could take a few pages out of his playbook. Melanie you are one lucky lady.
By the way, enjoyed the new Almodovar movie with Antonio enormously! Hope he makes some more Spanish movies like that!
I have just read some of the other nasty comments about this and some of you people really need to get a life. Hope Antonio and Melanie have many more happy years together!
Good luck to both of them. Congratulations to Antonio for being a faithful and supportive husband and to Melanie for overcoming her addictions. 17 years marriage in Hollywood is a long time. Antonio is a Hollywood star but also an old fashioned, faithful Spanish man who is very secure in his own masculinity and wants to take care of his wife.
I love them both. Melaine is a beautiful woman and always will be. Look at her mom Tippi Hendren is still a knockout at her age. I am glad they worked out their difficulties and stayed together all these years. And also always loved Antonio he is a great actor and must of watched "Assassins" at least 10 times.
She is very fortunate to have someone who is as caring as he is. Were I him, I would have kicked her azz to the curb years ago. I am not an enabler..don't even like the word. An addict is a sorry azz person...I say let them choke on their own vomit...dig a hole and dump them in it..one less piece of crap on this earth to take up space.
Apparently during either her last relapse or the one before it, he had enough and told her to get clean and sober or he was taking their daughter and moving out. So he does have his limits with her.
I don't know, you'd be pretty hard to choke down.
Geez thank God you are the minority..you should have been born in Nazi Germany!!
You are quite the azz yourself... Hopefully no one in your circle of family and friends ever has a problem – you are a rather cold hearted beeyotch....
you have faults, things to deal with, we all do, maybe yours isn't addiction, sounds you are an intolerant, unloving person with a chip on your shoulder. At least Melanie has her husband in her corner, for better or worse, that says a lot about his character. I understand you should not be an enabler, but sometime in our lives, as humans, we may fall down hard, and it takes some ppl a little longer to get back up. Antonio gave her a boundary and she chose to honor it, good for her! Look at Robin Williams, he was a serious addict and recovered. Haven't you ever heard of AA?? Without the sponsor's patience, the person would never attain sobriety.
she is blessed to have him, he is so fine, she looks really old, those bad habits have taken their tole – amazing he did not cut her lose on that last relapse, hopefully she can hold on to recovery – stop the plastic surgery Melonie, we all grow old not matter what you do – part of life w/a partner is to experience that together – the heart never ever grows old – hang in there Antonio – sorry you gave up on us latin ladies :(
It's been a lot more peacful without that been everywhere done everything know it all charlie crack.
Whatever happened to Don Johnson anyway? I read that she was drinking wine at the age of 10 like it was soda (his wife's struggles w/sobriety link). Nice that her husband/family were there for her.
He is in a new show this coming season, has aged, and looks really really good -
???? I just saw Don Johnson in Machete and he looked bloody awful :(
She is so old and ugly she makes snooki look beautiful.
she's not old, she looks fine. She's my mom's age. Maybe someday day when you're fifty-four some idiot will say something stupid about you being old.
Jeff – you are just a very foolish person who should probably say nothing but since you did, you've opened yourself up for comments on the ridiculousness of your statement. We can only hope you don't make it to "old"..........
what a mean-spirited thing to say. we are all just human, doing the best we can. let's put the spotlight on YOU and see what comes up.
Melanie is still a very beautiful woman who has struggled long and hard to overcome her additions. There should 50 million more men like Antonio, who has always been there for Melanie and obviously loves her. Congratulations Melanie and I wish you, Antonio and your children, the best life has to offer.
my sentiments !
Melanie Griffiths has always had great man-karma in my opinion. Don Johnson at his yummiest, Steven Bauer also at the height of his hottness and then she snags ANTONIO...one of my favorites! She must be doing something right and having some personal problems just make her more human. She attracts great loves because she is a positive and loving person herself I bet. Best wishes to them both for continued love and happiness
Did you see him in Tie Me Up Tie Me Down? Scrumptious! Kudos to Melanie; we should all be so lucky in love.
As usual, there are some really mean people on this comment thread.
Every time Antonio opens up about his relationship with Melanie and their kids, I admire him more. This is a real man, working to keep his family together and strong while facing real problems. Good for him!
Let's all buy them a round of drinks.
Who has had more plastic facial surgery? Joan Rivers of Melanie Griffith? YUCK!
Griffith has had more surgery, Rivers more plastic. I wonder what it's like waking up in the morning, looking in the mirror, and saying "who the flock are YOU", day after day. Just say no, age gracefully. But feel free to pump up the buubies if necessary.
Melanie Griffith has had more surgery, especially on her face; it has been reported on many different sites, blogs, etc. that Antonio beat her because she was constantly getting too fat... I haven't heard much of anything about his reaction to substance abuse, but I would suspect...
Latin men are known for their lack of emotional control and control of their women...
@Jean, you're full of it. It says right in the article "Spanish." Banderas is European, from Spain.
As a matter of fact that is correct
She is only 3 years older than he is.
you a sorry little troll!
She is a talented actress who is as the rest of us, aging...so is he. Why would men trade wives for new models ? they are not cars. Anyone who makes such a statement is an insensitive idiot who will never understand the highs of true love. They are unable to feel it since they are on the level of prehistoric men....many republicans fit that description.
I should look so good...........but then again – I never had plastic surgery........
he still wouldn't do you
@shawn -That was funny man !!!
Melanie was so beautiful in the film "Nobody's Fool".
They say alcohol abuse ages you prematurely.
She can come back from it and recover.
And you Tracie will one day be older too. Let's hope your partner decides that love knows no age and that "until death do us part" is real.
Why would any one call this beautiful man a liberal fool ? what is a "liberal fool " ? could it be a person who is open to others opinions and is tolerant and understands issues instead of being a brainwashed bully ?
Liberal fool is way better than retarded conservative...
Only scmucks with filth for brains make political comparisons to stories that have nothing to do with politics. But since you want to start crap with people, thank you for proving conservatives have dead dog sperm for brains. When you morons grow up, maybe the country can move forward again. Schmuck. Congrats to the Banderas for their recovery. Hopefully yours will come soon you intellectually and morally bankrupt unpatriotic and treasonous fart of an American.
A moderate Republican who is sick of obstructionist morons in his party
First said SHE not HE is a hollywood liberal fool.
Why do some idiots take any story just to comment on liberals, etc? Christ get a life.
That's a great movie.
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