March 24th, 2010
07:37 AM ET

Sandra Bullock not 'lawyering up'

Sandra BullockSpeculative reports suggested Tuesday that Sandra Bullock and Jesse James have started interviewing attorneys for a potential divorce in the aftermath of the allegations that James was unfaithful to Bullock.

However, Bullock's representative told CNN that the best actress Oscar winner has not met with any lawyers.

Bullock also made headlines yesterday when word spread that the Berlin premiere of "The Blind Side" had been canceled because Bullock wasn't traveling overseas for personal reasons, according to PEOPLE. "The Blind Side's" distributor, Warner Bros., told CNN that they do not have a comment on the cancellation.

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    August 27, 2012 at 11:33 pm | Report abuse |
  2. lisa

    Maybe the wife just pretends to be perfect to the outside world and really cuts her husband down every chance she gets. I mean really this is Hollywood not real life. Maybe he wanted to be respected and loved for who is is not what she thought he should be, even more maybe they never should of gotten married to begin with, hello he's a man with real needs not pretending ones

    November 3, 2010 at 1:57 pm | Report abuse |
  3. lissa

    I honestly think that no man is capable of being totally faithful to his woman.. they just dont know what they got until they lose it.. sad, but true...

    March 28, 2010 at 7:31 am | Report abuse |
  4. Linda Baggs

    Sandra Bullock does not deserve any of this she is a very hard working superstar and to do this to her on the most important evening of her life.

    When did she find out and how did she find out??

    My feeling is that once a marrige vows are broken there is no fix-it the marriage is over.

    March 28, 2010 at 7:16 am | Report abuse |
  5. Linda Baggs

    I can not imagine what is happening to Sandra Bullock at this time.
    The thing is once the Marriage Vows are broken the marriage is gone. He has ruined the height of her career and does not deserve what has happened. When did she find out?? And how did she find out?

    March 28, 2010 at 7:12 am | Report abuse |
  6. Magenta

    Correct me if I am wrong on any of this, but I believe that Sandra is Jesse James' third wife. He was married with two children when he first came into the public eye with West Coast Choppers. This woman helped him to build his business and make a success of himself and then the marriage quietly dissolved for whatever reason(my money is on infidelity or violence, as those seem to be the dealbreakers in marriages with children). His second marriage was very tumultuous, appeared to be based on two unwell people finding common ground temporarily and again dissolved, this time in a very gruesome way. And on to Sandra. I seems to me that when we fall in love with a man who has issues, we want to believe that it was due to the situation, or the woman he was with, and that it will somehow be different with us. I've done it myself, and my heart goes out to her. No matter the nature of their relationship, the indiscretions have most likely robbed Sandra Bullock of the uncomplicated joy in her professional accomplisments. He should be sorry, and there is no way to give back what has been taken.

    March 27, 2010 at 8:02 pm | Report abuse |
  7. James B

    @ Victoria
    Keep your sexist comments to yourself, stop generalizing by saying "all men." The majority of men do appreciate the women they are with as the majority of women do." Women, if they are not in a position where they are financially dependent on a man, are just as likely to cheat. It has nothing to do with gender, just the mere fact that Jesse James messed up, and messed up big. She is way out of his league and he is ugly as hell

    March 26, 2010 at 1:16 pm | Report abuse |
  8. Steve Bonehard

    So "Pastor Smith", to wrap up all you said in such an eloquent manner into one sentence "Sandra doesn't take it in the dumper"

    March 26, 2010 at 1:12 pm | Report abuse |
  9. dd


    Dump the guy! Cheaters cheat over and over. I have been married to the same man 40 years and he cheated on me when we first married and still is.

    March 26, 2010 at 1:09 pm | Report abuse |
  10. Michael Wong

    Bob, maybe Sandra was foolish to go for the "bad boy", but that doesn't make James "the man" as you put it. It's also foolish to use an ATM in a bad neighbourhood at night, but it doesn't make the thugs who jump you any less criminal.

    March 26, 2010 at 1:07 pm | Report abuse |
  11. kaythompson

    Never much cared for her over-rated acting capabilities, but it seems Sandra is a better actress than I gave her credit for. Afterall, she stood up on several podiums and talked about what a wonderful husband she has knowing full well what was going on.

    March 26, 2010 at 12:54 pm | Report abuse |
  12. Bob

    I think that James is the man. Bullock is a complete idiot, she should have knew what she was getting into when she went for the "Bad Boy". You women talking about how she was so wronged are so stupid. If she didnt want the drama she would have gone for a nice respectable guy, but alas she went for the bad boy/jerk. She got what she signed up for.

    March 26, 2010 at 12:50 pm | Report abuse |
  13. Gary

    If Betty White says 'Sandy' is 'one of the special ones' that's enough for me!

    March 26, 2010 at 12:48 pm | Report abuse |
  14. BC

    If it walks like a duck... I hope your heart can heal, and you can love again.

    March 26, 2010 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  15. Christine

    I wouldn't say that Sandra Bullock has done everything perfect in her life and marriage, but in no way does any action/non-action give Jesse James carte blanche to live like a single man when he's made a marital commitment. It didn't surprise me that he would do this, the man is a 3x loser by his past divorces. Affairs are selfish, and Jesse and his mistresses did this only for themselves without caring how it would affect their own children, family and friends, or even their career. The sad part about this for Sandra Bullock is the Blind Side and her best actress award will forever be tainted by the timing of finding out about Jesse's mistresses. It's crazy to know that the other women absolutely knew that he was married, and didn't have any problem with having an adulterous affair. This does take a little heat off of Tiger Woods and his comeback.

    March 26, 2010 at 12:38 pm | Report abuse |
  16. rker321

    I wish Sandra all the luck in the world, She was obviously in love. But I do question her judgement in men.
    If it's true the allegations that this individual is a member of an Aryan organization. It's disturbing to me that she could have fallen in love with a man that has that kind of convictions.

    March 26, 2010 at 12:32 pm | Report abuse |
  17. Ray

    I find it funny when I read the women's comments who say she should leave and that they would NEVER put up with that. Yes, 'Death do us part, ...until the road gets rough, huh girls? Then it's the 'I'm too good for this. I'm all this and all that and he was supposed to be perfect! Now, I find out he's not so I'm outta here!' Oh... Okay. You're just so great. I wonder, if Ms. Bullock is figuring out what really is the STRONG thing to do. What would a TRULY STRONG WOMAN DO? Is it to run away like so many other women, who say they are too good for this? Or, is it to stay and actually rise above the chatter of all the loser women who think they are so great for leaving. It would be very easy for her to leave. She is quite powerful and needs no man's money. What would be the strong thing to do?

    March 26, 2010 at 12:26 pm | Report abuse |
  18. Ellie Rose

    The article says she is not lawyering up? I thought she was?

    March 26, 2010 at 12:21 pm | Report abuse |
  19. SorrySandra

    I love Sandra, however when you play with fire, you will get burned. Or in this case, when you marry someone who cheated on a Pornstar, expect someone to get screwed – and it won't be you.

    Seriously, Jesse is like the biggest A-Hole on the west coast. Props for a great shop, and amazing bike and car designs. Thumbs down on being a real Man.

    March 26, 2010 at 11:44 am | Report abuse |
  20. Wyatt Earp IV

    Actors in general tend to be nacissistic screwed up personailties, thriving on fame, applause and attention, ego and lots of money. After all they make a living out of pretending they are someone else. Basically in their mind "life is all about me". Unfortunately they miss the really important things in life. We all instinctively know that Jesse James is a low life and has pretty low moral standards marrying a porn star and all. Sandra may look classy and nice on the surface but if she was any judge of character would she marry a biker who was previously married to a porn star? It says something about her. If she truly wants marital happiness and fidelity she would be best to avoid the TV and movie acting crowd and the wealthy crowd altogether. How about getting out of acting herself? That would be a right step towards happiness. She is never going to meet people with much integrity in that business. She has the money and could do something else much more worthwhile and meaningful with her life. Some well known and very talented actresses have bailed out of this business before. (eg Kim Novak)

    March 26, 2010 at 11:42 am | Report abuse |
  21. hemnebob

    i wish they'd leave these people alone.
    let them resolve their issues with some privacy and dignity.
    you can target the villian, jesse, all you want but the finer details
    are hardly any of our business. as far as his sexual escapades and
    the details coming out, i say he is fair game one his sweeties decide
    to sell to the highest bidders...that is the consequences towards him
    that he deserves but sandra hasn't cr@pped on anyone so i believe
    that we should abide some privacy towards her and the issues she
    has to deal with. focus on the slimebag jesse and leave it at that!

    March 26, 2010 at 11:41 am | Report abuse |
  22. Spence

    Get real folks! He got bored with her. Yes, She's a star and semi-attractive and boring. Tiger got bored with his old lady too. Normal men want to mate with as many hot women as they can before death. God made us this way to continue the species. Most men stay with one woman more from fear of reprisal than any thing else.

    March 26, 2010 at 11:30 am | Report abuse |
  23. Confucious

    No matter how charming, how beautiful, how talented, how brilliant a woman is...Somebody somewhere, is sick of her crap.

    That being said, we don't know what's going on in that marriage. What happened was simple: Sandra was gone for months filming a movie and a dirty guy met a dirty girl who likes tatoos as much as he does. Guys are not that complicated. She probably didn't show up and say "Hey look at me in this Nazi picture," either so you can't fault Jesse for that part.

    March 26, 2010 at 11:28 am | Report abuse |
  24. EyeOpener66

    Question is: what was Sandra doing with a grease-monkey like Jesse James? Just look at him. His type is not class but trash because he is trash. A lesson for everyone, men or women: Marry your type and the chance of success is much higher.

    March 26, 2010 at 11:27 am | Report abuse |
  25. Bee Smith

    I feel soo bad for Sandra Bullock! She seems like a genuinly nice person and doesn't deserve this to happen to her!

    March 26, 2010 at 11:22 am | Report abuse |
  26. jacquela

    Get real everyone. There should be no blame to Jesse or Sandra about their life. We all not perfect and we all got some temptation in this world. Forgiven is what we should do. Sandra, if you love Jesse and beleive him asked for your for forgiveness. Forgive him then and move on! Follow your heart to the path direction where you can be happy and peace! Good luck!

    March 26, 2010 at 11:20 am | Report abuse |
  27. Pastor Smith

    It comes down to this my children, whether you want to accept it or not, Sandra was not providing Jesse the acts of deviant love he desired. Mrs. McGee allowed Mr. James full unrestricted access to her body temple, something Sandra was unable, unwilling to do. Mrs McGee is a demonic sexual tornado from the lowest depths of Hell who leaves Men feeling like they just got run over by a truck when all is said and done, a feeling many Men desire but do not get from their sacred one. This is when they stray to the female devils of this world, demon women who allow Men to defile them in any manner they see fit. Men do love a Women with a Halo shining over their head but often they desire the wicked acts that only a horned minion of Satan will provide. I pray for you Jesse, I pray for your soul as it has been tainted with the evil of deviant fornication.

    March 26, 2010 at 11:10 am | Report abuse |
  28. Annonymous

    I think the tattoo chick is HOT!!!! DANG!!! Me love her long time!!!!

    March 26, 2010 at 11:10 am | Report abuse |
  29. Sarah

    Sandra is pure class and there is never any bad press about her she has lived her life out of the limelight so I feel so sad for her. I hope she will see how loved and respected she is by everyone. She waited so long for the "right" man unlike so many Hollywood celebrities and it is so sad she had to fall for Jesse. It has been proven again and again and again that men who cheat never change. I suspect she is a strong woman and will get through this as long as it takes. I just hope everyone leaves her alone and the press does not follow her around or camp outside her home, let her find some peace.

    March 26, 2010 at 10:56 am | Report abuse |
  30. gsteel

    If you are going to be unfaithful aren't you suppose to upgrade to something better! If you can't do that why not just keep it at home and in this case where the real money is at! Some guys are just too stupid!
    I wish these women (Elin, Sandra, ect...)would just leave & make a stand for them selfs...I'd have alot more respect!

    March 26, 2010 at 10:53 am | Report abuse |
  31. Em

    I love Sandra Bullock she is very inspiring and talented I am so sad this had to happen to her especially now when she sould be enjoying one of the happiest times of her life.

    I am so sorry her husband had to humiliate himself and her it's very disappointing to hear a man who has it all would screw it up so bad.

    My heart goes out to Sandra.

    March 26, 2010 at 10:19 am | Report abuse |
  32. Media Whores

    I think it's despicable that others comment and wait with baited breath for the next bit of "news" on someone elses, especially a celebrities, personal life without having the slightest idea what is or is not true.

    March 26, 2010 at 9:58 am | Report abuse |
  33. Liza

    Sandra my advice: Divorce him. He will not change. You will find the right man, if you want another relationship in the future. If were married and my husband had an affair, I will divorce him because I will not be able to have a relationship with him knowing he cheated. Of course, that is my opinion. People have different opinions regarding this issue. Whatever you do, I think will be the right decision. Trust God and he will help you make the right decision. GOD BLESS YOU!

    March 26, 2010 at 9:48 am | Report abuse |
  34. In the same boat

    @hawkeye8080 – If Mr. James were unhappy with Ms. Bullock as a result of her not being such a "great" person then he should have left her first before skirting around on her. You are correct in that it does take two to tango, but unfortunately it only takes one member of a relationship to "step" outside of it for it to destroy it.

    March 26, 2010 at 9:47 am | Report abuse |
  35. RCannon

    Dear Ms. Bullock, you are in our thoughts and prayers. No one deserves what you are going through but unfortunately others have been through this. You will get through it and grow from it. You will be stronger from this experience. You are a wonderful example of how woman should like to be. We love you and send you our hugs.
    Keep yourself surrounded with family and friends that you trust.
    God bless!

    March 26, 2010 at 9:39 am | Report abuse |
  36. truthbedared

    You have to understand evolution to understand why man is like this. Evolution has hard wired us for millions of years it is only the last 10-12000 years that "society" and it's imposed "acceptable behavior" has tried to re-wire us. It will take 10,000's of thousands of years if not 100,000's of rewiring to meet current society's expectations.

    March 26, 2010 at 9:38 am | Report abuse |
  37. DLB

    Giny and Engineer
    It's is a very good thing you are neither one in the area of psychology! I believe most people can read and absorb more than one venue of news items. Just because someone reads about a favorite actor or actress doesn't mean they don't know or care what else goes on in the world. As far as Sandra being a bitch that was an unnecessary comment and obviously 'the source' isn't worth the paying any attention to. If you were both so turned off by the article why do you bother a) reading it and b) entering your infinitely small-minded blogs? If your are not interested don't read or waste space!

    March 26, 2010 at 9:11 am | Report abuse |
  38. Brea

    Okay... I am sorry but "some" of you are just down right shallow and making arses of yourself by pointing out if you were with Sandra you wouldn't have cheated due to her beauty etc. CHEATING IS WRONG NO MATTER WHAT!! Even if your partner is not that attractive, broke, disabled etc, CHEATING is wrong. If it gets to a point where you dont love them or want them, leave them..

    March 26, 2010 at 9:09 am | Report abuse |
  39. sarah

    True, we may not know what Sandra is like behind close doors. However, does that give Jesse the right, to sleep w/ 4 different women in their 5 year marriage ( On the radio this morning it is now 4). If you are not happy, move on. Especially when there is childdren involved. You would want your children to learn the right way of handling diffficult situations, by RESPECTING everyone that is involved.

    March 26, 2010 at 8:43 am | Report abuse |
  40. Barbie

    Sandra...put his skanky butt to the curb and don't look back. There is NO excuse for what he did. No poor lonely, depressed, in her shadow Jesse. He took an oath to be faithful. How hard is it to keep your zipper shut. This is a look at the real Jesse. The one who will NEVER CHANGE. Run to the doctor to get tested and then take he and his ex (porn) wife to court and sue for custody of Sunny. Please do not take him back like Tiger's wife did. It will always be in the back of your mind and you will never have peace. Take care of YOU!!

    March 26, 2010 at 8:41 am | Report abuse |
  41. Saganhill

    WHo cares!!!!!!!, IT's none of anybodys business. So all of you just shut up already. Same with the Tiger Woods debacle. What goes on in someones private life is no business of yours.

    And dont tell me Tiger is a role model or hero! He plays GOLF! So what! IF you think playing golf entitles him to hero stautus you have some major issues in your life. Same with Sandra, she's just an actor! SO WHAT!

    All you people need to get a life and stop living yours through people who act on TV or are in the movies. GET A LIFE losers.

    March 26, 2010 at 8:05 am | Report abuse |
  42. cec

    Why do people think it's ok to offer their version of what they think occured while knowing no facts that led to one or the other straying off the path
    It is possible to love someone for all the right reasons and love them for who they are but if something is lacking in the relationship more often than not they will seek that stimulus else where not out of disrespect or a lack of love but rather out of the need to satisfy an un met need
    As a friend once said to me after he left his wife one who had everything a man could want looks brains success all the attributes as it were problem was his physical needs were never met because she had little desire and ambition in the bedroom and had little to no desire other than to meet his basic needs because thats all she wanted her success and beauty were more important than him
    was Jessie right in his actions no never councelling would have helped him and her to identify and resolve the issue one way or the other but to judge on what we hear and not on the facts of it all is wrong communication between couples seldom ever deals with sex untill it's too late

    March 26, 2010 at 8:01 am | Report abuse |
  43. Carolyn

    To Engineer Bob: Are you for real? No one has said that Sandra is perfect. Everyone has their inperfections. But being in the public eye you need to behave better. Everyday common people are not in that spotlight. If he wanted to screw around, he should have asked for a divorce or at least a seperation so Sandra could make up her mind how she wanted to handle her situation. When you betray a trust as Mr James has, I think divorce is the only answer. I know that when my XXX-husband cheated on me, it was done. No way again, will I allow someone to put me through that humiliation. I am not a woman scorned either, as I now have a wonderful husband. If he cheated he would be done also. But you would not hear about it either. So people in the public eye need to behave better, sorry they put themselves there, and it may not be fair, but it is the way it is. Good luck to Sandra in whatever she accomplishes. If she chooses to forgive I will not judge, as she deserves that respect.

    March 26, 2010 at 7:59 am | Report abuse |
  44. SAY13

    You sleep with wake up with fleas.

    March 26, 2010 at 7:53 am | Report abuse |
  45. GID

    Both men and women are, by nature, designed to be unfaithful. Commitment to a single spouse is a restriction that is imposed by society and endured by many, but not all people. People get bored, they dislike routine, and start to look elsewhere. It's only natural. People who cheat do NOT thus prove they don't love their spouse, they only prove they are weak. I'll take a wife-cheater over a wife-beater (and that includes phychological violence) e-v-e-r-y time.

    March 26, 2010 at 7:24 am | Report abuse |
  46. whatthehellever

    First of all, why do we care? Secondly, I have a question. If we are apparently living our lives inside the imaginary skin of our favorite celebrities, how do we know Sandra's never cheated? Duh. It's none of our business, someone else'e pain is not entertaining, just give the crap a rest.

    March 26, 2010 at 6:21 am | Report abuse |
  47. Dave

    I was going to say something, but the post at the very top by Victoria says it all.

    March 26, 2010 at 5:37 am | Report abuse |
  48. castmaster

    fleetwood mac G.Y.O.W.

    March 26, 2010 at 5:03 am | Report abuse |
  49. Toddie

    I'm sorry, I can't stand it any longer...I have to post this. First of all let me disrespect to the troops and their family members...but when people KNOWINGLY click on Entertainment news and write..."who cares about this...what about the troops" it drives me NUTS. Some of us pull away from doom & gloom and read lighter news and that's OK. If you "don't care about this" then DON'T click on it, read it and talk smack. Jeez

    March 26, 2010 at 4:21 am | Report abuse |
  50. Athenaeus

    I have mixed feeling about all this.

    On the one hand it's always refreshing to see a Goodie Two Shoes Female Celebrity gush about how her relationship/marriage is The Rock of Gibraltar and then get a good slap in the fact to put her in touch with reality. On the other hand, though she didn't deserve that Oscar based on the strength of the performance or against the competition she was up against - if she'd been classy she would have refused it, taken a stand on principal, and given it to Gabby - she deserves better than and this and someday will turn out a performance that actually is Oscar-worthy.

    Far worse then Jessie doing some slut (in whatever capacity he did) is the fact that he LIED TO HIS SPOUSE about it and BROKE THE RULES of their marriage.

    Terms of a marriage can be renegotiated and can even include affairs and sleeping around but there needs to be honesty, discussion, consent, agreement, and trust.

    Jesse sucks now belongs The Lying Sociopath Club.

    All Sandra has now is an Oscar she doesn't deserve and her personal life in the toilet when she should be at her peak.

    March 26, 2010 at 1:18 am | Report abuse |
  51. Lynda Sebastianelli

    Just when things seem too good to be true...the boom falls on us. Life is strange. You did not deserve this, but believe me, you are not alone.. for me to write this must mean there are thousands of others who feel your hurt and dismay. I've been through it too...time heals. a hug from afar.

    March 26, 2010 at 1:09 am | Report abuse |
  52. john grissom

    get over it! unfaithfulness happens everyday on earth! In Switzerland you can marry on a term contract (5 years, 10 years, etc). I think that is more in tune with human behavior. I do not understand why people are so shocked at this guy being unfaithful. When the thrill is gone, it is gone! a man (or a woman) will look for a new thrill in somebody new regardless or whether the new found person is better than the old one. That is the way it is. I am surprised that people still get married in this new century. Marriage should just be abolished. At the end in most cases marriage is a game men lose.

    March 26, 2010 at 12:39 am | Report abuse |
  53. silverfang

    Sandra is who he needs, but Mcgee is who he wants! It's animalistic!!!!! Who can argue!!!

    March 25, 2010 at 11:24 pm | Report abuse |
  54. Tee4u

    Sandra Bullock should feel like a fool. After he used her for her money and her fame to take his daughter away from her mother. What goes around comes around. I don't feel sorry for her .... I feel sorry for that little girl.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:10 pm | Report abuse |
  55. Naturhuf

    Why marry if you cannot control your urges??!! If that's you spiel, by all means go and be merry with whoever is willing, but don't marry!!

    March 25, 2010 at 10:41 pm | Report abuse |
  56. laura

    I feel so bad it's as if I were cheated on. I can't believe it and don't want it to be true. I remember seeing interviews where Sandra talked about a recurring dream where she's walking down the aisle and gets to the alter and the wrong man is standing there. To overcome her fears and finally give in to love only to be betrayed this way has got to be devastating. But I know forgiveness is possible if they both really want it. I don't believe any of those 'women' meant anything more to him than a cheap thrill. good luck to them both.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:34 pm | Report abuse |
  57. Lt. Colonel John M Melton(Ret)

    Well, you see the problem is quite clear. Ms Bullock doesn't have any nice tattos. Now from where I sit see could use a couple tats across her blindside. Not to mention her fingers and neck. I think she should consider trashing it up a bit. I know right now it hurts,but he'll do much better once she inks it up a bit. Jesse should ashamed of himself for not being more supportive of helping her ink up. Remember its Jesse James for Gods sake-the man has robbed trains and killed people.He fought on the Souths side in the War of Nothern Aggression then became a outlaw with his brother Frank.However, when the Ford brothers show up for lunch-take the kids and leave!!

    March 25, 2010 at 10:11 pm | Report abuse |
  58. Froggie

    Is it possible, and I really, really hope that I am wrong, that he just used Sandra to get custody of Sunny? They had a hearing a couple weeks ago in which his ex lost custody of her because Sandra provided "such a stabilizing family influence." Now the ex is trying again for custody, since all of this has come to light. Oh, and btw, "he told me he left his wife" doesn't fly when you've supposedly been doing this nonsense for 11 months. How dumb is this "mistress" that she can't read a newspaper?

    March 25, 2010 at 9:44 pm | Report abuse |
  59. rjd

    When I first learned that Sandra married Jesse I was shocked and questioned her judgment. It seemed like a very risky relationship with his background. All I can imagine is that he makes her feel sexy rather than straight-laced and boring. He, on the other hand, must feel elevated by her celebrity status, respectability and money. This was doomed from the start.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:16 pm | Report abuse |
  60. killer in the sun

    Thats what happens when you get with trash (james)

    March 25, 2010 at 9:15 pm | Report abuse |
  61. Bobby Yarush

    Once again... lets blame the man for being a man. The idea of marrige goes against human nature....Period. Cheating on ones spouse has been going on forever... now if woman care to trick themselves into thinking that that is going to change... they are in for a rude awakening. It amazes me these days that woman ...and men to a lesser extent, hold dear the notion of a monogomous relationship. Having said that... I certainly dont mean to imply that some marriges cant work.... but the odds are better in Vegas than longevity in marrige. Woman need to get a hobby.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:00 pm | Report abuse |
  62. Sandi

    She will get thru this. Think back to the Oscars and their body language and she referred to him as "it" they knew the story was getting ready to break. He's the bad boy the good girl dreams of then........ Look at the calable of women he's dated

    March 25, 2010 at 8:47 pm | Report abuse |
  63. Dragginbutt

    I think we should throw him a party...

    March 25, 2010 at 8:46 pm | Report abuse |
  64. Dragginbutt

    All you bleeding heart know it all make me laugh so hard I peed my pants. She knew full well his reputation of wanderlust when she married him. Come on girls, you think you can change a guy... I don't feel sorry for her one bit. Forget changing men. They are what they are. A bunch of Dogs, ready to service anything in a heart beat. It is what it is. What is sad is to see Jessie being p- whipped and making like he is sorry... pfhhhh. that is bogus.

    Get your manhood back Jesse and tell her to take a hike. Beauty or not, there are hundreds more like her in the world just wishing they could have him. Leave the whinning "experts" to solve the worlds problems by castigating you. If it makes them feel in charge, give them the finger and tell them to P__s off..

    The only two people that have the right to have an opinion here is Jesse and Sandra. the rest of you shut up and leave them alone.. and get a life already.

    March 25, 2010 at 8:45 pm | Report abuse |
  65. Wolf

    It all seems so fitting. From the very first time I heard about and saw
    this Jesse James character, I though to myself: Something seems
    very fake and hollywood about the guy. Sure enough, his true colors
    eventually came out. He has no real depth, no soul, no character,
    no true sense of honor to live his life by. He's just another loser who
    won the lottery but didn't have the balls to hold on to it. He's clearly
    a dumb manboy, and possible a gross racist. Maybe it's better that
    Sandra found out sooner than later. I feel bad for her. She's
    managed to stay out of the tabloids and display class for the past 20
    years. Few people of her fame can claim that.

    March 25, 2010 at 6:55 pm | Report abuse |
  66. Tatoos are ugly!

    So many men do this and she does not deserve it! I would never, ever go back with him if I were she. He is acting cheap and low class!!!!!!! She may love him but love is blind. He was probably using her anyway for fortune and fame............How could you trust that again, people usually do not change.

    March 25, 2010 at 6:47 pm | Report abuse |
  67. DIsgusted

    To All the Sandra Fans on this board (particularly the women): Given what you knew about Jesse James at the time he married Sandra, would you have married him if given the chance? I'm betting 100% of you say no. Yet you idolize a woman who had poor enough judgment to say yes. Why is this?

    March 25, 2010 at 6:46 pm | Report abuse |
  68. Anne

    Dear Sandra:

    I have your birthday, July 26th. We are both Leos. In the catholic
    religion this day is called St. Anne's Day. My mom would say that I was so independent I even carried my own name. She had nothing to do with it.

    We Leos are very romantic. When I was single I would try to help people thinking that they would change or want to change. My mom would say, "Dear you are kidding yourself, they won't change, they will change you".

    I don't know what your relationship is or what your problems are, but I know if you allow yourself to be loved you always come out a better and more successful person. You always win.

    Take care. Stay Well.


    March 25, 2010 at 6:30 pm | Report abuse |
  69. lam

    What do you expect from people like her. You need to understand that less than 15% of actors have ever been to college. Not to say that college makes you smart but look around at all the people you know who did not go. They don't have good jobs and are gennerly less bright than people who didn't go.
    Having said that it is no wonder that she picked someone like him. They are cut from the same cloth, one of them was good looking and was able to say a few works in front of a camera, geez give her a Nobel Prize.
    To take from a famous movie, "stupid is as stupid does". And by the way, where were all her friends when she started seeing this guy. Look at his first wife for god's sake.

    March 25, 2010 at 6:10 pm | Report abuse |
  70. rr

    From what I understand James cheated on his ex-wife to be with Sandra. (she said that he told her they were seperated) As far as I am concerned until you are divorced you are still married. In this case however he was still very much still with his ex-wife.

    The old says goes once a cheater always a cheater. Why do women always think they are going to change the guy or he will be different with them. It just doesn't happen. I feel bad for her and his kids.

    March 25, 2010 at 5:53 pm | Report abuse |
  71. VOR

    Jessie James is a jackalope, but what exactly did she expect when she married a guy who was on his 3rd marriage before he was 40, one of which was to a porn star.

    Its kinda like going for a walk on a rainy day, and being suprised when you get wet.

    March 25, 2010 at 5:43 pm | Report abuse |
  72. WEJ27

    David L March 24th, 2010 9:07 am ET: TOTALLY AGREE. At 40+, getting married, should have taken in life-style 'red flags' before jumping in the frying pan with the bum. Blessings to you Sandra. You are supported!

    March 25, 2010 at 5:34 pm | Report abuse |
  73. Dutch

    He may have really loved her but I believe Jesse James feels out of her league. He hated going to red carpet things. She told Barbara Walters she had to drag him out of bed to try on the Dolce suit for the Oscars. He asked if he had to and she said yes, she didn't want him looking like a waiter. Tell me, would any man like to be told that, no matter how kindly it was meant? I believe he got that subtle message over and over. Plus, he cheated on his last wife, Janine Lindemulder with Sandra Bullock. Why should he not cheat on Sandra, as well? Perhaps he was just looking for a fling with someone more on his social level. Someone with whom he could scratch where it itched without being told it didn't look nice. Not that Sandra ia a nag or bitch, I don't mean that at all. Just that perhaps she tried to change the proverbial sow's ear into the silk purse and it wouldn't work. The revelations of his affairs certainly didn't do much to extend the high of winning the Oscar, did it? Jesse is what we used to call a cad. However, that sounds too classy for him. Now, he's just a jerk.

    March 25, 2010 at 5:32 pm | Report abuse |
  74. Jason

    Well men aren't the only ones that are unfaithful in relationships. It's human nature.

    March 25, 2010 at 5:29 pm | Report abuse |
  75. Talasin

    Sandra is not perfect, no one is, but she IS an awesome person, a superb actress, a HOT woman with more class than I have seen in Hollywood in a LONG time, and apparently she is married to a semi-stupid guy.
    No, make that VERY stupid.
    Seriously, look at the girl Jesse, then do the right thing, get on your hands and knees and beg for the forgiveness you know you don't deserve.
    Then stand up and be the man she fell in love with.
    Forget the media, we all love Sandra and you WILL catch all the crap, hold your head up, face the music and take it like a man.
    She might love you enough to forgive you, once.

    March 25, 2010 at 5:12 pm | Report abuse |
  76. barnett

    what is he thinking anyway? the paparazzi follows everyone everywhere, like no one was going to find out eventually??? duh! what a shame i really liked him till now. and good lord , look at the 15 minutes of fame mistress, yuck !!!

    March 25, 2010 at 4:50 pm | Report abuse |
  77. jolene

    go after custody of the little girl Sunny.with out you she will be as tattooed nightmare like her mom and Jesse.Your the perfect choice.take this in stride.Remember you can do anything.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:43 pm | Report abuse |
  78. Nikki

    Sandy can do so much better than an idiot like Jesse. The man must be brain damaged to pick that skankho over a class act hottie like Bullock.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:36 pm | Report abuse |
  79. Kate Remick

    Someone, somewhere must draw a line in the sand and grapple hold of some basic values before we all plummet into anarchy. If you marry, you stay faithful. If you are unhappy, dissolve said marriage and then (and only then) move on. When did it become so fashionable for men to cheat on their wives with the most lowly pond scum of the earth? I would say...about the time it became acceptable be unwed and to have 5 kids by 4 fathers. Our society has tossed away values and attempted a replacement with the fleeting idol of fame. And before you accuse me of any sanctimonius religious fervor, save it! Honesty is a hallmark of all religions, with the exception of the Money God who revels in dishonesty. Money, you see so plainly here, does not buy class. Equally, Sandra's talent, fame, beauty and money could not guarantee a her husbands fidelity. Just ask Elizabeth Taylor about that! Sandra, if you were my daughter I would tell you that you will survive this. There is no point in blaming yourself for someone else's self indulgent, self absorbed, egocentric justifications. IF his liaisons turn out to be true then he is a liar and a snake. You cannot love someone enough to make up for them not loving you. I am so sorry. I wish I could give you some kind of emotional relief. But time is the only thing that will give you clarity.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:31 pm | Report abuse |
  80. Amanda

    Ditch the loser Sandra. He is trash and hence will be drawn to trash. You are too good for him.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:28 pm | Report abuse |
  81. Rob

    Number one cause of divorce is marriage.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:28 pm | Report abuse |
  82. B

    I really hate that he has ruined what should have been a great period for her after the Oscar win.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:28 pm | Report abuse |
  83. me

    Married women should not have to worry about getting an STD! totally unexceptable!

    March 25, 2010 at 4:20 pm | Report abuse |
  84. Hawkeye8080

    You have to wonder, if she is such a great "person" why would he seek to spend time with anyone else? Maybe she really isn't and he was unhappy in the relationship and so he went outside. It takes two to tango and two to divorce.........

    March 25, 2010 at 4:19 pm | Report abuse |
  85. National

    My heart goes out to Sandra and to anybody who has every been cheated on. It sucks when it happens, but we must move on with our lives. I am not understanding why she is canceling appearances? When this happened to me and many other people we all have to get up and go to work. This is not a medical condition, nobody died, it is sad, but life will go on and Ms. Bullock will be fine with out this low life cheater in her life.
    Sandra show us your stronger than what the media is betraying. Don't let this fool ruin your life.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:15 pm | Report abuse |
  86. siren4song

    Yuri–you can't make this Sandra's fault. If that skank was miserable with her believe me, he'd have left in a minute.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:14 pm | Report abuse |
  87. miked

    She married bad-boy Jesse James, did you really think it would end any differently? He is what he is, marrying a famous movie start doesn't change that.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:13 pm | Report abuse |
  88. siren4song

    Funny...most cheaters who get caught are sorry for just that-they got caught. I think Sandra did the right thing. When you find out your spouse cheated, LEAVE. Let them face head-on what they did. Forgiveness will come but if the trust is gone, what's left?

    March 25, 2010 at 4:10 pm | Report abuse |
  89. jat

    everybody makes mistakes, and if we would all stay out of their business then maybe if they truely love each other it can be worked out , i'm not condoning his actions but if their were some regular joe couple ,would we even care? no i dont think so, everyone should back off and let sandra and jesse work this out because all this on tv and everywhere you look is not good for the 3 children.........we also need to think of them

    March 25, 2010 at 4:04 pm | Report abuse |
  90. cmbr

    Sandy, DUMP him! If you stay you will get nothing but heartache. He had his change with a wonderful woman but he preferred trash because that's what he is. I'm sure you feel an entanglement because of his children, but you cannot save them from the awful parents they have. But you can be a friend to them later on which would be a big help to them. Save yourself years of pain and get out while the getting is good!

    March 25, 2010 at 3:56 pm | Report abuse |
  91. Yuri

    Not defending Jesse or anything he had done, but does anyone know what she is really like to live with? What we see on the outside as actress and celebrity personality is not what is always on the inside and in fact is rearely really who they really are. They are actors, they make us believe they are a person for a part in television and movies and can easily do so in real life when they are not acting, but when they are home with their families and friends, they are not that person anymore so the acting stops.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:55 pm | Report abuse |
  92. thenorm

    i know what jesse did was wrong but let's face it he's got that bad boy persona that women go for so i'm not suprised he had an affair despite how good looking sandra is. I'd be more suprised of the affair if jesse was as ugly looking as me and still got some from someone that wasnt his wife.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:48 pm | Report abuse |
  93. Carl

    Your opinion nor mine mean squat for Ms. Bullock or Mr. James. This is between two married people and everyone should BUT OUT! NOODB.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:47 pm | Report abuse |
  94. Debi Babin

    I think Sandra Bullock is very capable of making her own choices and pray that she does not "take advice" from people that do not know she or Jesse. This is a matter between the two of them. If she truly loves him and he loves her, then even this can be overcome. And, just because he made this mistake, does not mean that it would happen again. Often people have to come close to losing what is most important to them before they realize that nothing else is worth it. So, I personally wish everyone would just let them have space and time. I wish them both happiness.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:46 pm | Report abuse |
  95. Duude

    Some very nice sentiments for Sandra, I assure you. Please folks, try and remember that Sandra Bullock IS NOT reading these.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:43 pm | Report abuse |
  96. Beach Girl Texas

    Showbiz tonight in regard to Sandra Bullock and Jesse James...
    She may be able to forgive, but she will not forget for sure.
    What Sandra will not be able to forget is Mr. James being with the tattoo porn girl then coming to visit Sandra in Atlanta while filming to be with her. OUCH! whatever that tattoo porn girl has, she gave to Jesse and he gave it to Sandra if they were together. And most likely they were. That is the ultimate disgrace.
    He will not change his way. The ex's have tried to let Sandra know that. I know Sandra hates the fact that she wrote a letter on his behalf so that he could have custody of his children and they took them away from the ex wife. All of his ex's – there is a reason –Sandra needs to dump the chopper tattooed ex druggie guy....he will not change – she need to get out of that relationship fast.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:37 pm | Report abuse |
  97. Connie

    These posts are truly frightening. How anyone can say "Sandra is a class act" and "nice person" about anyone they have never met is quite beyond me. How anyone can defend someone or takes sides or wish anyone the best of luck when they've not spent an hour with them is baffling to me. Big Sigh is right. Sandra Bullock is boring. She got married after 40. She "dated" Jesse James when he was married to someone, who at the time, and Sandra knew it, was pregnant. Do you still think Sandra is a saint? But now, it is unbelievable that he would date other women while married to her. People, wake up. Jesse is no saint, but neither is Sandra. Just because someone is in a classy dress doesn't mean she has an ounce of class. They sound like they deserve each other.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:35 pm | Report abuse |
  98. mary kelly

    Yes, there's something to be said for self knowledge. To know you are not the marrying kind; yet these types usually don't have that kind of insight. Impulsive, compulsive..whatever. The good thing is these days the recepticles are hitting them where it hurts $$$ with their big
    mouths and their greedy aspirations. Hooray for technology.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:31 pm | Report abuse |
  99. RCS

    Dear Sandy,

    Hang in there... you'll get through this. You're a strong woman-that's why we love you!!!!

    March 25, 2010 at 3:30 pm | Report abuse |
  100. Marj

    Oh Yah, and Magnum the tatoos don't make the other woman a skank. The fact that she not only knew what she was doing when she outed JJ, but she had no regard for how it would affect Sandra Bullock who clearly loved and trusted her husband. That makes her a skank. And wow, JJ knew Sandra made movies and the fact that she was working while he was playing around, he could have flown to where she was if he needed her that badly. I'm sure she could have and would have bought him a plane ticket. They did an interview where they talked around that time and he told her he was working...working on sleeping with as many woman as he could while she was gone. Supposedly looking for a model for an add he was doing. The only thing he is sorry about is that he got caught. He and Tiger Woods would have a lot to talk about, they would both still be doing as many woman as possible if they did not get caught. And getting caught was the only thing that stopped them. Their selfish pigs, who should have never gotten married.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:11 pm | Report abuse |
  101. Lori

    Sandra did not deserve this. Media coverage is making an already bad situation worse! She is a strong woman and owes no one an explaination should she decide to remain in her marriage. I would encourage her to do just that and not let any of those vultures prey further upon her marriage. I am praying for you, Sandra!

    March 25, 2010 at 3:04 pm | Report abuse |
  102. Marj

    WELL, Did JJ really think he was going to get away with doing something so vile and hurtful to a high profile person like Sandra Bullock. She is loved by many people that is why she is a top box office draw, DUH!! And she loved and trusted you. He did something so vile to Sandra, and with what a loud mouth, fame seeking pig...did he think no one would care? It has been reported JJ has had more than one affair since being married to Sandra...WHY did he even marry her if he could not keep it in his pants – OR – did he only aquire this attention from these women – AFTER – he married Sandra? Think about it, look at him....he is not the classic handsome man you would expect to see on Sandra Bullocks arm. I could see her more with someone like Hugh Jackman, Jude Law types.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:02 pm | Report abuse |
  103. GMC DC

    Jessie James ... down in flames.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:01 pm | Report abuse |
  104. Elisa

    Personal experience - I cried, pleaded, begged my husband to just tell me what was wrong - why did he have to cheat? Was it something I did (other than diet, exercise, (a quick pat to let me know I might have gained 5 pounds would send chills down my spine) - create a successful career, have the perfect house, you name it )– It wasn't until I decided to go rent a hotel room, stay there for the night without calling him, that he became furious and demanded a divorce because he was certain that I had cheated on HIM! I laughed and said - the papers are in the mail - and be prepared because I have just discovered that I deserve alot more than this - and you will provide me financially with what I need to live a very peaceful and long life WITHOUT YOU! And - I have - women and men who are married to "serial" cheaters just need to regain their self-esteem and move on - I have never looked back and have never been happier - Once a cheater, always a cheater - PS He married the person he was cheating with - AND has cheated on her– I know because she actually had the nerve to cry on my shoulder. Once again, I laughed a very evil laugh and told her "I'm just glad it's not me" -

    March 25, 2010 at 2:53 pm | Report abuse |
  105. her b sampler

    supposively ?
    Not a word.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:47 pm | Report abuse |
  106. mary kelly

    The relationship will never be the same. Some people don't respect their bodies enough to be selective about giving it away. To many, it's just physical activity and pleasureable sensations they're after and it doesn't go any deeper than that. Depends on how you look at the meaning of marriage.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:43 pm | Report abuse |
  107. Z-man

    Magnum=Ignorant bafoon and prob dropped out of jr high. Thanks for that psychological insight since you have so much creedance to talk about the human male species. Get a job you 50 yr old virgin.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:35 pm | Report abuse |
  108. Alaskan

    Gosh, so many people act like 'they really know Sandra' from her movies. She is an actor with nothing more than a great public image. You are associating with her characters, you don't see the private person. While everyone is condemning Jesse because his image makes it easy to do, go back and look at the way they met and the things Sandra had to say.............'they met over parties and booze', 'their relationship was based on sex, and lots of it, everyday'......and that's from her mouth.
    He is wrong for 'roaming' while she is wrong for 'her unhealthy choice of men based on a unhealthy foundation to build a relationship'. Either she knew what she was getting from the start or she was blind.
    Now the question is, Jesse says he always liked and 'likes' group was Sandra partaking in more than she lets on? Maybe there is a reason why she is not hiring a divorce there dirty laundry that could come out to shock all of you that know her so well? We don't know the facts.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:34 pm | Report abuse |
  109. Magnum

    By the way...why is the other girl a skank?? Just because she has tattoos??

    How judgmental!! She's gorgeous! If he was taken care of at home, he wouldnt be out looking for something else.

    TAKE NOTE OF THAT GIRLS!! There's a reason why your men cheated on you!

    March 25, 2010 at 2:24 pm | Report abuse |
  110. Z-man

    Unfortunately Sandra got what was coming to her. I don't feel that bad for her. You get what you asked for.

    Jesse James- Filthy, bad boy, bad past and that is somehow attractive to Bullock? I use to like Bullock, now I am indifferent. I know that POS cheated more than once.

    You women that are intrigued by the bad boy, eat your heart out and stop complaining and asking for pity when stuff hits the fan....and think about all those other worthy candidates you overlooked.....good people finish last and I know Sandra easily could have had a decent spouse.....Sandra's choice, Sandra's pity here.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:22 pm | Report abuse |
  111. Magnum

    WOMEN – get over it! No one "did" anything to Sandra.

    Men like variety. Its in our nature. Humans are the only male species who sleep with only one mate.

    Jesse went out and played around with a girl's body, and got himself some bootie. WHO CARES?? He wouldn't have done it if he thought he was going to get caught – so he didnt "do anything" to his wife.

    He loves his wife. The girl was nothing but a little plaything to have sex with. 99% of men would do the same if they wouldn't get caught. Its who we are darlings. Get over your Oprah moments and live in the real world.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:17 pm | Report abuse |
  112. Gottabeme

    Sandra, you can forgive him, but don't take him back.!!!! Just remember an unequivical truth " A leopard can not change his spots " . Given the right time and circumstance, he will cheat again.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:17 pm | Report abuse |
  113. JW

    I wish the media would leave Sandra alone and allow her to have her privacy. When or if she is ready to address this publicly, I'm sure she will. In the meantime, everyone should just back off!

    March 25, 2010 at 2:02 pm | Report abuse |
  114. Maria from Houston, Texas

    Noone deserves to be cheated on. I do not know Sandra but she seems to be real humble, nice, classy and beautiful on the outside and inside. I know she will get through this. Sandra is not the first or last woman to be cheated on. I hope Sandra will realize that none of this is her fault. She is not to blame for her husband's mistake. Her husband made a mistake just as many men do. They don't realize what they have until it's too late.

    Sandra, hold your head up and walk across that red carpet. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Don't let anyone guide you on your decision to leave or stay w/your husband. Only you can make that decision. Stay strong.

    March 25, 2010 at 2:01 pm | Report abuse |
  115. Derrick

    Sandra should count her blessings and move on. I was in a relationship where I was the one trying to keep forgiving, you will put yourself through so much. It's not worth it. This guy is nothing. He's cheating with nothing. My question is, did you not no this guy was like this. He was married to a porn star, has tattoos all over his body. This should tell he was a little on the freaky side. No one is that nieve. To boot, this lady that he is sleeping around with is a racist. He must share some of her views since they got along so well. We need to take a closer look at his tattoos to see what they mean. If any of his tattoos take on the same meaning as the mistress, then we may ask the hard question, if Sandra shared the same views. Things that done in the dark has a way of surfacing to the light. But as the saying goes "you have to take the good and the bad with fame". If you are in front of the camera as a means of living, you don't get a choice on what's being seen. Once again, I think he should just go jump off a cliff somewhere.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:40 pm | Report abuse |
  116. Sam

    First of all, I am a huge fan of Sandra Bullock and also like everyone else just feel so bad and sympathize towards her. I hope everything works out the best especially for Sandra on whatever is she wants. I do feel Jesse should be ashamed of himself and from reports he's clearly upset and ashamed (or at least it seems). I feel bad because I want everyone to leave them alone, but I can't help it wander how they are doing as if I'm actual friends with them (obviously not of course).

    I just want to say as I hear these reports and know how we all agree how amazing Sandra is and can't believe Jesse would cheat on her... you like Paul Newman would say, "why go out for a cheeseburger when I can have steak at home" when referring to staying true to his wife. I'm wandering if perhaps thats what got Jesse to cheat??? I know that sounds horrible to say nor am I saying it's an excuse. But, I work in psychology and its starting to become a pattern in relationship counseling. Sometimes a man feels not worthy to be with someone even though he is that he just breaks and messes up horribly with it.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:39 pm | Report abuse |
  117. Troy Tempest

    I like Sandra Bullock a lot so don't accuse me of blaming her! You go for the bad boy, you end up with a lousy man. Please 'splain to me what is up with some women.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:36 pm | Report abuse |

    It is difficult for anyone to restore the trust lost during such events. This is not a relationship that must be saved because of longevity, children or anything of the sort. It's relatively new and if he's carrying on at this point, figure out what he'll be up to in a few more years. I say dump him now and once you get over it, find one that puts loyalty and integrity above their own selfish moment of madness.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:31 pm | Report abuse |
  119. David

    I only know Sandra from her movies and TV appearances, but I've always thought of her as the perfect woman. She is funny and down to earth and from what I've seen an over all great person. Her husband is an idiot and I hope she dumps him because he has proven he doesn't deserve her.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:30 pm | Report abuse |
  120. Ktby

    You know what kills me in all of this? That the press is never gonna let it be. It is just gonna be thrown in his/her face for the rest of there lives. Just look at Jennifer Aniston! The press is still connecting her to Brad Pitt. HELLO! She has so moved on. I just feel so bad for both of them to have to deal with the paparazzi along with the News channels. OMG! The news channels! they are gonna have everyone and their brother on there giving opinions. Well, you know about opinions! Every one has one and everyones stinks! Ugh, I wish that respect could be enforced. Jesse and Sandra deserve that much.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:26 pm | Report abuse |
  121. Flor

    It took her that long to find the right man to marry. After all the choices he found a trash and look like a trash. I think that is what you call fate.
    Life does't end there. Look up and you'll find the good partner in life someday.

    You wasted your love and affection with this thrashy pig. he don't deserve it.

    Good luck !

    March 25, 2010 at 1:23 pm | Report abuse |
  122. Hp

    I hope Sandra gets a chance to read the comments posted here. For those of us who've gone through something like this, it can be a lonely time.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:12 pm | Report abuse |
  123. john

    I bet that chick had some techniques that good ole' Sandy has never even heard of. There's a reason for everything. And all you people with "open letters to Sandy"...she ain't readin' em', and she don't know you (nor would she want to). There may be a reason for the guy to risk so much, for seemingly so little.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:11 pm | Report abuse |
  124. Diane

    Such a spirit-breaking thing to deal with and in front of the world no less. He's as disgusting as the trashyy pigs he's hooked up with. Poor kids too.....

    March 25, 2010 at 1:04 pm | Report abuse |
  125. Stormy

    It's so hysterical how people seem to darned puzzled as how this could have possibly of happened to Ms. Bullock...Come on people. I say this with all senserity....especially since I have a few straight male friends who have talked to me about the whole '"cheating" thing. If men are not dreaming about another woman then they are thinking about other women, if they are daring enough, they will then find women to cheat with. It's in there genetics! That's the plain truth that most women will NEVER expect nor understand. That's why when people jump into marriage, it's mostly because the woman wants or expects it and of course the guy gives in but remember this ladies,,,,my best advice it to think like a guy too! you will be much more liberated and happy! Makes sense to me...

    March 25, 2010 at 1:00 pm | Report abuse |
  126. BuffaloMike

    Seen lots of comments about how could he because she is so hot...well....its simple. Show me a hot women, I'll show you a guy who is tired of b*&^%^& her !!!!

    March 25, 2010 at 12:59 pm | Report abuse |
  127. db

    hahahaha, finally saw a picture of the tattoo queen, gruesome.
    bullock is apparently not too bright to marry such a weeny to begin with.
    he is a shallow loser, and he's famous for what? seriously ,i do not know

    March 25, 2010 at 12:49 pm | Report abuse |
  128. Wow

    I've never read so many "believe everything they read" people in my life. I am not saying he is innocent, but I am also not saying he is guilty. To many pass judgement before the truth comes out. Whats come out so far are allegations from people who dont even look or sound credible.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:46 pm | Report abuse |
  129. Getch

    I wish I knew you. I am just an ordinary person. Not famous. But it would be nice to be able to sit and talk with you...make you dinner, and enjoy a bit of girl talk....hopefully you will be able to have some much needed downtime...Take care Be Well

    March 25, 2010 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  130. Dave

    She is just another lib. Didn't she shock everyone when she swapped spit with another female actress on stage recently. That hollywood group in California has pretty much caused a lot of problems in America today. Who cares about those folks.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  131. Robin

    Sandra was in over-her-head and should consider this situation as a blessing! He was living a lie and was putting on a front for society and his children; however, just like Tiger, a dog is a dog! If you do not want to commit, then don't!!

    March 25, 2010 at 12:44 pm | Report abuse |
  132. bruce

    Jesse, pick up the phone. Tigers calling.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:43 pm | Report abuse |
  133. Robin

    He was married to a porn star! Why would you want go behind that?

    March 25, 2010 at 12:41 pm | Report abuse |
  134. Lillianrenee

    I hate what she is going through , but , People need to realize Humans ARE NOT Monogamous creatures !! Im just saying !!! I didn't make up the rules !!! I don't even follow them, half the time , but , It is what it is !!!

    March 25, 2010 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  135. debi

    If its just about sex then use your hand, why hurt the person you say you love. Not only is a man cheating and having sex with another woman, but you bring that home to your wife, all those men that woman slept with its disgusting. If a man cannot stay loyal to the woman he is married to then don't get married!

    March 25, 2010 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  136. william

    Women are alwways going for the bad boys. they don't want to date down to earth, regular guys. i don't feel sorry for her, if you lay in the bed with dogs, you get fleas.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:31 pm | Report abuse |
  137. Kevin Collins

    Sandra, don't even THINK of forgiving this guy, for if it were the other way around, there's no way in hell he'd do that for you. Stay strong, girl.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:29 pm | Report abuse |
  138. Audrey

    What a pig! She is one of the classiest and most beautiful women in hollywood. He is an idiot! He should be shipped to the middle of the desert and dropped off!

    March 25, 2010 at 12:19 pm | Report abuse |
  139. LM

    No one knows what occurs in a marraige but the ones in it. We don't know what occurred or who they really are behind closed doors. I know what I see and hear in the public eye. Sandra make the best decision for you and your marraige. There is no excuse for being unfiathful. Get divorced first then play, but if you believe in the bible remember what it says about divorce and infidelity. God Bless you and forgive and move on if you prefer.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:17 pm | Report abuse |
  140. freeschwag

    Heh, small world, The boyfriend of someone I used to work with left her for that very same stripper a few years ago, guess she's moving up in the world.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:16 pm | Report abuse |
  141. In the same boat

    My heart goes out to Ms. Bullock. To anyone who has been cheated on view it as though he/she hit you and get out. Zero tolerance. There are good people out there who will remain faithful. To those who are cheating, do everyone a favor and just own up to your mistake, leave the first relationship as it will likely never mend and let the grieving process begin.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:09 pm | Report abuse |
  142. Jane Finnell

    I simply wish Sandra the best. It seemed from appearances that she adores Jesse James and he made her truly happy. Peopls make mistakes, some more hurtful than others. I hope she can find a way to make peace with this and move on with her life to even greater personal happiness and success be it with or without Jesse James. If she chooses to forgive him, then so should the media. Best wishes Sandra. Take it one day at a time with faith and a path will lay itself out for you.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:59 am | Report abuse |
  143. Frank

    There may be a few exceptions, but those posting here (me included) haven't a clue as to what these two are really like – only the personnas put forth in the entertainment world.

    That said, Jesse James has gone out of his way to be a purebred SOB while Sandra Bullock has done the exact opposite.

    At any rate, this is their problem and it plays into the entertainment world they live in.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:55 am | Report abuse |
  144. MB

    Sandra is beautiful and should have known better than to combine her class with his trash - just like Whitney and Bobbi..

    March 25, 2010 at 11:51 am | Report abuse |
  145. Mimi

    Sandra, Come back to Texas honey. We love you. You are a great lady and Austin needs you. Leave corrupt Hollywood behind.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:47 am | Report abuse |
  146. CAR

    Jesse James should cut his losses, get his divorce and never get married again. fool. Sandra will be OK. How does anyone really know someone? to bad she has to go through this in the media.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:47 am | Report abuse |
  147. Clairebell

    @freeskater – eeeeeeh. Yeah, but not all at one time. Male drive was to spread as much seed as possible to get his genes out before the competition. Homonid males didn't stay and help raise the offspring until much, much later.

    Unfortunately, your argument completely neglects the fact that while we are descended of apes and still carry the pack mentality, we have a bigger more complex brain and that kind of factors into the whole "he had a conscious choice." thing. Maybe he wasn't getting what he needed at home but please let's not make this about irrelevant and archaic biological drive.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:36 am | Report abuse |
  148. Elisabetta

    Sandra – You did not get what you deserved but you got what you asked for. There's an old 60's song that goes "You knew I was a snake when you took me in..." This is about you not about James. You made a poor choice and you are suffering the consequences. Here is my check list for avoiding heart break....if the "person of interest" has tattoos, rides motorcycles, smokes, watches porn, has children from multiple partners, rents, does not have a job with a future, is a musician, an actor....then stay away. Now if the "person of interest" has one or two of the check list items...that is okay...but if they have three or more...stay away. James is a snake....he will not change...but you can make better choices. Your are an extraordinary person with an extraordinary pick a normal guy.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:35 am | Report abuse |
  149. Ginmill

    Samantha needs glasses obviously, if that is drop dead gorgeous to her. Yeck. He's a slug who likes porn stars enough said.

    No matter what her profession, Sandra was his wife and did not deserve to be treated that way. If you want the tatto slut then divorce your wife and go get her. Don't let your wife make a fool of herself talking about how great you are on every award show there is.

    He is drop dead dirt.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:32 am | Report abuse |
  150. freeskater

    I wonder why the whole world is against the poor guy.

    Just my opinion:
    Sandra was not tricked into marrying him, she is probably an intelligent woman, quite successful professionally when she met him, with experience dealing with men, had probably more options to chose a spouse than an average woman has.

    Human species is polygamous (culture and laws cannot change this), Jesse has a strong sex drive, used to having a porn star at home, the wife is not at home for long periods of time, he is lonely, meets a woman who offers services in the oldest profession in mankind history, he has the money to afford it. What do you expect the poor guy not to do?

    They are living what they chose to live. Anyway this is none of our business, just let them go on with their lives. Nobody should feel sorry or anger to any of them. JMO

    March 25, 2010 at 11:28 am | Report abuse |
  151. Just Saying

    Ok. So Jesse James is a douche bag. However, has anyone ever considered the fact that knowing his track record how would any sane, nice girl would ever fall for a guy like him. People always complain when the so called "nice" girls fall for the "bad boys". However, one fails to realize that only the "bad girls" fall for the bad guys. Most nice guys will never bother to pursue bad girls. May be Sandra Bullock is not as nice as she is made out to be. I wonder what her response would be had she been approached by a genuine nice guy. All her past relationship suggest that she tends to go for the bad boys which doesn't reflect well on her personal choices. Usually women who tend to gravitate towards bad boys have serious issues and are in fact not so nice when some nice guy wants to date them. I bet she is one of the snickering bitch who thinks so highly of herself that if some average Joe asks her out she probably just rolls her eyes behind his back.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:27 am | Report abuse |
  152. eleanor

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. As you deal with life's BIGGEST and lil struggles.

    March 25, 2010 at 11:07 am | Report abuse |
  153. Paige

    I think if you have a subscription for People Magazine, you should cancell it. Don't buy it on the stands. Any celebrities have interviews scheduled you should cancel it. Do not agree to give any interviews. They are scumb for taking the tatooed woman's tell all! They should have refused her and not published that story. They obviously do not respect celibraties personal lives. They crossed the line, they are no better than the other rag magzines! Issues like this are private and should not be plasted on magizine covers for money! I hope celebraties realize this and just boycott them!

    March 25, 2010 at 11:06 am | Report abuse |
  154. tanya

    She should, that guy is a dirtbag !

    March 25, 2010 at 11:03 am | Report abuse |
  155. Susan

    There are 3 sides to every story: His, Hers, and the TRUTH! The best thing any fan of Jesse's or Sandra's can do is let them have their privacy. While they are both public figures, and media invasion is imminent, they are both human and do not necessarily lead perfect lives being celebrities. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Everyone wants to judge someone who has had an affair, but it goes on more than you think.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:58 am | Report abuse |
  156. Carol

    The reason that Sandra Bullock can't go to any awards show or into public is that the media would stalk her for comments about her personal business and wouldn't have the good grace to mind their own business and leave her alone. There is no way she will be able to do anything in public because the media thinks that everything is the people's business. Regardless of her being a celebrity, it just might shock the world to know that some things they don't need to stick their nose into or need to know. Just once, I'd like to see a media stream that had positive things to report. Instead they have to feed off everyone's problems or the negative and try and act like the public has a right to know. We don't. She should be able to attend an awards show but the media is the reason she can't. Perhaps we should know who every reporter sleeps with, how they pay their bills, what their doctor said at their last appt, how many people they have slept with, what is their credit score, how much money they have. After all, doesn't the public have a right to know? Sandra will deal with this in her own way because she has no choice and how she deals with it and what decisions she makes, are her business and she doesn't owe anyone an explanation. She deserves a right to privacy. The reporters who stalk her, they are no better than the tramps that broke up her marriage.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:56 am | Report abuse |
  157. Buck

    Wow....Sandra is rich, famous, intelligent, and freaking hot. She's practically the perfect woman so how could Jesse be stupid enough to mess that up? The fact that he did this just disgusts me, but in a way I think a lot of people saw it coming. He's garbage and it was only a matter of time before this happened.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:52 am | Report abuse |
  158. Samantha

    Perhaps its simply because of their jobs they get to spend way too little time with each other. People please, have none of you ever forgiven anyone for anything? Forgiveness should be in all our hearts. i also would not blame her for divorcing him if she doesn't feel she can ever regain the trust in him again. It seems he is ashamed for what he did and that he does love Sandra. But i'm sure among many of the haters that have posted on this topic have at one time cheated on their spouse.
    I do agree with one thing, why would you want to make love to a woman who could join the circus as the painted lady? oh forgot, jesse could be her copart in the act as the painted man.

    One more thing, I find Jesse James to be drop dead sexy and sorry boys so do almost everyone of my female friends. Sorry but he has IT, don't u wish you had IT?

    March 25, 2010 at 10:50 am | Report abuse |
  159. dgr4

    Unlike most in Hollywood, Ms. Bullock is a real lady, with old-fashioned views about marriage being forever. I'm sure she is trying to save her marriage. Whether that is wise or not is another question, but not one any of us have the right to decide.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:48 am | Report abuse |
  160. Patrick

    Sad story but wasnt Sandra the mistress in one of Jesse's previous relationships. No one likes to see this but if he cheated with you while in a relationship why would you expect any different.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:46 am | Report abuse |
  161. debbie

    my heart goes out to sandra. she should be basking in the afterglow of just winning an Oscar, instead she was forced to deal with a really bad decision her husband made that i'm sure was devastating to her and it effects every member of that family. it's heartbreaking and now they are all in the 'news' and not for the Oscar win as it should have been. i'm so sorry.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:42 am | Report abuse |
  162. SD

    Well said Clairebell!!
    He who is without sin, cast the first stone-no one is perfect and most people deserve forgiveness and a second chance. Even if she wanted to fix her marriage-the media and people with their opinions make it difficult, if not impossible. Get of their business and let them be!

    March 25, 2010 at 10:36 am | Report abuse |
  163. Sarah

    It's so sad how CNN gives 3 day old news. Please keep up with everyone else.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:22 am | Report abuse |
  164. Rose

    Sandy – You are a first class lady......get rid of Jesse, he is dirty!!!!

    March 25, 2010 at 10:15 am | Report abuse |
  165. jjboston

    No matter how different they appeared to be, isn't it "like attracts like" the universal law? Don't know it's those who support the "victim" are naive or the the "victim" herself was naive to fall on the wrong man – don't think it's the latter if she was smart enough to survive Hollywood!

    March 25, 2010 at 10:08 am | Report abuse |
  166. Christyl

    Sandra he doesn't deserve you. Keep walking and don't look back.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:07 am | Report abuse |
  167. dungdonkey

    There's never a reason to go and be with someone else..but there are always two sides to the story. Let's wait and see what they are.

    March 25, 2010 at 10:06 am | Report abuse |
  168. Linda

    She praised him throughtout these award ceremonies and the whole time he was playing her! That is so embarassing. I wish Sandra the best.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:49 am | Report abuse |
  169. Clairebell

    Hey folks, relationships are a two way street. This is, frankly, all we know and have no clue about what goes on behind closed doors. Also? they're actors and one of them is a REALLY GOOD actor according to the Academy. Please keep that in mind as you are choosing sides, portraying particular facades is what they do FOR. A. LIVING.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:35 am | Report abuse |
  170. Yvonne K

    Jesse in my opinion is a opportunist. He needed to clean up his image and he chose to be with Sandra only for that reason. He now has what he wanted, his child. Amazing how far a person goes to get what he or she wants. A loose loose for Sandra, WIN WIN for Jesse. Seems like he did not change, how shocking for his ex-wifes.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:31 am | Report abuse |
  171. Shawn

    What all of you don't understand is that it's about sex. It's not about how rich she is or how pretty she is or how good a person she is, it's about sex.....period. He needed more than what Sandra was giving him and that's why he did it. SEX.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:26 am | Report abuse |
  172. Faith

    Come on people, it wasn't just one skank, a second has come out and their affair lasted reportedly for two years. So now we have 3 years of infidelity....seriously!!! He was on the prowl shortly after being married. He's a dog that should be best friends with Brad Pitt and Tiger Woods! And their skanks should trade stories. No one deserves to be hurt like that. Jesse deserves every bad thing that happens to him. And he will certainly lose his children after all of this. If it weren't for Sandra he wouldn't even have his children!!! To Sandra, you are unfortunately living through your movie 'Hope Floats' will come out on top and 99.9% are on your side. You are so much better than what you have gotten. There is a wonderful loving man out there for you....keep living...'Hope Floats'

    March 25, 2010 at 9:22 am | Report abuse |
  173. David

    Can no one spell anymore? At least proof read your comments!!!!!

    March 25, 2010 at 9:15 am | Report abuse |
  174. Jim

    Beautiful/nice women hook up with "bad boys" all the time and get burned. No news there.

    Still, I feel bad for Sandra. I don't like to see people get hurt by their relationships. 😦

    March 25, 2010 at 9:14 am | Report abuse |
  175. RH

    Come on all you Sandra lovers, you have no idea what she is like! of course there is no reason for James to cheat but for you to write that she is Mother Teresa and perfect is silly. She has problems like everyone else, maybe she drove him nuts.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:01 am | Report abuse |
  176. Jamie

    I am sorry this happened. I am truly disappointed. I always thought they were the most interesting couple in Hollywood. I always admired how they seemed so content with each other, and how they mangaed to keep their marriage and private life private. I loved how she addressed him at her acceptance speech when she won best actress. I am hoping this is something they can work through so they can come back as an even stronger couple. Staying together in Hollywood requires alot of work I'm quite sure. Tempetation is around every corner. But the bottom line is this: the general public has no say in this. This is still a matter between a husband and a wife. Children are involved. I hope they can find enough peace to quietly try and work through this if at all possible.

    March 25, 2010 at 9:00 am | Report abuse |
  177. CherylS

    What can you honestly expect from a man who married a porn actress – someone who has unprotected sex with other men for a living?

    March 25, 2010 at 8:56 am | Report abuse |
  178. paul

    Why can't we just let this woman, and for that matter, this man, work their PERSONAL issues out on their own! Each and every one of us would be mad as hell if everyone was gossiping about their personal lives!

    I think she's a great person, a good actor and genuine and I believe she deserves privacy right now.

    March 25, 2010 at 8:55 am | Report abuse |
  179. Eric

    Even though she has zero talent as an "actress", I still feel bad for her because this will be played out in the public limelight. But let's face it. What did she expect? You lie down with dogs, you get the fleas. She made her choice with this guy. What was she expecting? That he'd be the Pope after they got married? You didn't have to be a brain surgeon to see this trainwreck coming.

    March 25, 2010 at 8:53 am | Report abuse |
  180. Karolina

    Sandra you rock girl! I hope everything works out for the best. I hope that this nazi ho doesn't wreck everything. All she wanted was all the attention and if what she said happen I think he knows he made a mistake. But from the way he looks at you I find it hard to believe he could do that trashy witch. Tabloids will post anything that sells especially if it ruins lives.

    March 25, 2010 at 8:46 am | Report abuse |
  181. kat

    Quite judging!!! We only know one side to this story! You know what they say....there are 3 sides to every story...his side/her side/ and the truth. It will all come out in time.

    March 25, 2010 at 8:44 am | Report abuse |
  182. T

    We are praying for both of you. May you find what you need to heal.

    For those of you being so nasty during all of this, tell me you have never made a mistake!

    March 25, 2010 at 8:42 am | Report abuse |
  183. Bob

    This is a matter between Sandra and Jesse. No one, other than them, can possibly know what really transpired. For me to even deem to comment on this matter at all indicates that I was bordering on mild shock when I first learned that Sandra had married Jesse. It certainly appeared to be a case of extreme opposites attracting. Now, while I feel sad for Sandra's personal predicament, I can't help but feel a sense of relief that maybe this episode will allow her to step back, breathe and hopefully extricate herself from a union she quite possibly shouldn't have been in in the first place.

    March 25, 2010 at 8:34 am | Report abuse |
  184. john oberzut

    I'm from your old neighborhood in Alexandria...been to your old haunt, the Italian Deli, where your picture with the owner hangs on the wall....great food. You should have defied your mother and gone out with guys at an earlier may not be as famous, but I'll bet you'd be happier. And, most of all, you would never have met Tiger Woods...oops, i mean Jesse James (or is that Wyatt Earp)???

    March 25, 2010 at 8:28 am | Report abuse |
  185. Turner

    Dear commenters,

    I think that it's rather interesting that a good portion of these comments are complaining about wasting time over nothing instead of worrying about our troops. However, if this is to be the case, then why are you guys even wasting your time to leave a comment. If you truly think that we are wasting time then you should not have left a comment in the first place. Also, seeing as how not all the information about the situation has been made public, we should all be cautious about making judgement on either sides.


    Turner 😀

    March 25, 2010 at 8:14 am | Report abuse |
  186. message in a bottle

    To quote the great Chris Rock, “men are only as loyal as their options.” For right or for wrong. In the case of Sandra Bullock, Jesse James simply couldn’t resist a young tattoo girl, and it probably would have stayed quiet had the girl not spoken up, etc. So what’s the lesson learned here – celebrities are normal people. Did Sandra deserve this, no, no one does and it’s not her fault. But now she’s got to decide, stay or quite. I’d recommend finding a nice guy…

    March 25, 2010 at 7:54 am | Report abuse |
  187. webbie

    a leopard never changes his spots

    March 25, 2010 at 7:38 am | Report abuse |
  188. mm

    NEWS FLASH! The reason that human cheat is because, as a species, we obviously were not meant to mate for life. I think it's only about 5% of species that do, so why do we assume that we are a part of that small percentage? Because we may be the most intelligent of all species? The statistics are clear: 50% of marriages end in divorce; another 30%-40% of couple stay together because of the kids or because they don't know what else to do; so maybe 10% of couples are actually making it work. It doesn't matter that Sandra is a great gal – we simply are not wired for monogamy. And BTW, I don't believe in God either.

    March 25, 2010 at 7:26 am | Report abuse |
  189. Julio

    ¿What else this guy want? He is married with a superb woman and is not enough? What a moron! There is a lesson for Sandra here, you don´t marry a loser.

    March 25, 2010 at 7:23 am | Report abuse |
  190. Benjolina

    I have no idea WHY Sandra picked him in the first place. Bad mistake. I hope she finds a better man.

    March 25, 2010 at 6:42 am | Report abuse |
  191. michelle

    real nice.....not only did he destroy her world but he has also denied her much of the glory that came from her well deserved Oscar. Lifetime achievement she can't fully celebrate because of JJ. Good luck making that up to Sandra!

    March 25, 2010 at 5:50 am | Report abuse |
  192. Ann Marie Lynch

    Sandra Bullock was robbed of her crowning moment of joy by a man she trusted most. She should be basking in Oscar glory instead of facing humiliation. This is a great American woman who does not hesitate to write millions of dollars in charity checks to victims of flood, hurricaines and tsunamis. We are right to feel betrayed by Jesse James, she represents us, bless her in this time of difficulty. It seems that we live in an era of moral ambiguity where an apology is all that is needed to go on and continue to bask in celebrity and make a fortune. I'm so sick of I'm sorry being a blanket agreement of an okay to go on and continue to get large corporate sponsors for tv. For men like Tiger and Jesse, those sponsors better think about who is doing in the buying of product in the household. As much as some men want our society to simulate the Stoning of Soraya M, it doesn't.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:53 am | Report abuse |
  193. Bo

    My heart goes out to Sandra Bullock. I wish her the best and hopes that after everything is said and done, she can find solace and strength and her spirit in tact. And as much as I'd like to condemn Jesse James, I will hold my tongue and reserve judgment. No one is perfect but I will say we know right from wrong. Jesse James like Tiger Woods was very much in the wrong. As for being evil or cruel behind closed doors, which one of us haven't had moments of being vindictive or just plain being mean? Unfortunately, we're all guilty of this sad truth.
    Sandra Bullock now has the difficult task of deciding is he 'worth' it, can he be trusted and does he deserve a second chance. I do not envy the situation she's been put in or the choices she will have to make.

    March 25, 2010 at 4:46 am | Report abuse |
  194. soru

    women know men, but then they don't: they always choose wrong! she could have had probably any other man in the world, but chose a "dog" because he was "exciting", "hot"...the law is simple; open your eyes before you decide with your vagina-all men surrounded with available, ready and willing women will use the opportunity, sooner or later-its the hunter and the prey and nothing can be done about it

    March 25, 2010 at 4:33 am | Report abuse |
  195. Colejk

    Jeez...give the guy a break. Of course he's gonna cheat. Girls throw themselves at him. Men are programmed to cheat.

    And besides, what did she expect marrying a guy like that? She should have known better. You get what you deserve and deserve what you get.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:43 am | Report abuse |
  196. chuck

    if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, walks like a's probably a duck. What did he look like to you? Devoted husband? Hardly. Sucks for Sandra but not at all surprising.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:27 am | Report abuse |
  197. misstem.again

    Although i am sure the lady has a mind of her own, as no one walks in the shoes she doth, she may use a phrase that she once heard many times starting out ...."Next", and dont look back, maybe for fun take her to court for alienation of affection and get a few million out of her life. she deserves it for putting her self in the middle of your love life. then write a comedy about the whole thing. make him the dancing naked fat guy. whatever. it stings today, but thats just a little hurt, think what a life time of getting away with it might have done to you.
    send her a thank you note attached to his suitcase..
    then again i could be projecting. ive never written to or about someone famous..but i have been the idiot in the web of a womanizer that was so good until one too many lies added up. and still.. he took the "who me. . it was nothing approach,,, you know men. we slip we fall but it is love with us.." like i said.. whatever. buy an island have a party eat pizza but noooo dont take his calls.

    March 25, 2010 at 3:20 am | Report abuse |
  198. daniboy

    ...mismatch from the very start

    March 25, 2010 at 2:04 am | Report abuse |
  199. Justina

    This is KARMA.

    March 25, 2010 at 1:08 am | Report abuse |
  200. Bo

    uhh moderators...lemme fix up my post so you all can clear it this time around. Lord knows someone posting about "swallowing" and they didn't mean a beverage get posted on the board and mine doesn't....


    blogs and msg boards are like a-holes.....seems they can be found in everyone and everywhere. Are you all polygamists with James and Bullock? I didn't know you were all married to them...that's why you have the right to comment on the sanctity of their relationship. I get it bad. Here I thought all this crap you commented on was just water-cooler daytime soap/crap opera. Use your time wisely. If all of you are all so righteous, then go to an orphanage spread the good word. Contact Pope Benedict and ask for that application for Sainthood. Part the Red Sea and ....or better yet, just part!

    March 25, 2010 at 1:07 am | Report abuse |
  201. nifty nancy

    Love knows no bounds. It strikes when we least expect it.Sandra will do what whats best for her and her extended family . Give her some air people and leave her alone to figure things out.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:52 am | Report abuse |
  202. hottmama1958

    I applaud Ms. Bullock for her style and her class. She could have said many nasty and vile things to get back at her low-class husband for his infidelities, but instead she took the high road and remained silent. I have nothing but the utmost respect for her as well as my deepest sympathies. She deserves so much better than this, but she will rise to the top because cream always does. My only hope is that the media will allow her to deal with tragedy privately and in her own way. What she doesn't need right now are thousands of flash bulbs going off taking her picture constantly just to get a reaction out of her. Respect the woman please! She deserves that and much more! Many women go through this type of betrayal daily without the media butting their noses into it, and just because she is famous doesn't mean she needs to share her feelings and her plans with the world. This is no one's business but hers and Jesse James, and whether she decides to leave him or stay with him is no one's business but hers. So to the media I say: BACK OFF AND GIVE THIS CLASSY WOMAN THE PRIVACY SHE DESERVES!

    March 25, 2010 at 12:43 am | Report abuse |
  203. ejatpsyche

    Ya know, hindsight is 20/20. I hope he is kicking himself, hard, in the groin.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:42 am | Report abuse |
  204. rytah

    Sandra come back to Austin, you will find solace here. Jesse needs to focus on his family and kids, he is no better at raising his daughter than his porn star ex wife.

    March 25, 2010 at 12:37 am | Report abuse |
  205. carrie

    Jesse James always gave me the creeps, now I know why!

    March 24, 2010 at 11:58 pm | Report abuse |
  206. klm

    It doesnt really matter who she is or who he is. if you make a commitment to someone..............keep it. If you aren't capable of doing that then just don't go there.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:45 pm | Report abuse |
  207. Georgia K

    Dear Sandra,
    I have always admired your work and look forward to seeing every new movie you star in. I am so sorry about your husband's betrayal and send you strength and courage to get through these tough times. You deserve better and you will get through this and move on to better things in life.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:19 pm | Report abuse |
  208. roger dean

    Give the guy a break already. Behind closed doors you never know what Sandra is really truly like. Need i remind everyone, she is after all an academy award winning "actress" that plays pretty good at pretending to be something she's not!!!! I'm just saying keep it in mind. I get so sick of it's always the guy's fault, maybe the both of them are to blame somehow.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:16 pm | Report abuse |
  209. scot

    Its about time a "man" actually used a "woman" for her money, instead of vice versa. She got what she wanted- publicity. I mean really, how could the guy put up with that mug of hers any longer, right? He got her career restarted, after she was in the dumpster, and he was on top of the heap. So now everything is back to status quo.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:38 pm | Report abuse |
  210. topjimmy

    jesse james, tiger woods, to all the men out there that have it made with what they have.......why?

    March 24, 2010 at 10:29 pm | Report abuse |
  211. steph

    Why do people comment on such personal issues as if they know either person involved? I do not know Jesse James, or Sandra Bullock nor do I know the entire story. I have much sympathy for different situations that may have taken place. I will not speculate whether or not "Sandy", of whom I am not privy to even refer to her as is a nightmare behind doors. Nor will I refer to how "broke", Jesse James is, for which he is being accused of marrying "Sandy" for, being that he was a millionare before he met her. Good gossip, learn to take it with a grain of salt.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:27 pm | Report abuse |
  212. Marialex

    Listen up girls: this is a cautionary tale of what happens when you date or marry beneath you. Clearly, Jesse is an oaf who didn't understand the implicit rule that when a beautiful woman marries ugly, she simply wants loyalty and security.

    It's better to be courageous and date men you consider your equals. At least you have a shot at an honest and transparent relationship.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:24 pm | Report abuse |
  213. John Tam

    I always though this is the wrong person for Sandra, I was surprise when I heard that hey were getting married. Jesse has been out with strippers married a porn star and all these trashy people, that is not who Sandra is, not by a long shot.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:19 pm | Report abuse |
  214. Big Sigh

    Said it once, I'll say it again: Sandra Bullock HAS NO CLASS. Any inkling of moral credibility she might have had was washed away the instant she married Jesse James. She's an incredibly poor judge of character. When there is a HUGE sign saying "DO NOT TOUCH! DANGER!" hanging over a cage full of rabid badgers, do you stick your hand in there? Do you? When there are such ample warning signs, you ABSOLUTELY deserve your fate when you casually choose to ignore them. Anybody who thinks Jesse James did not have such signs flagrantly displayed around him is completely kidding themselves. Sandra Bullock deserves every single bad thing that comes her way for making the incomprehensibly stupid move of getting involved with Jesse James.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:18 pm | Report abuse |
  215. ann

    Sandra is, how shall i put it?? DROLLLLL and plain. Jesse James is a MAN and surely Sandra didn't really think that her plain, boring, ordinary face, figure could possibly keep that MAN interested forever??? If she did, then on top of that she's stupid too. I sincerely doubt she had any idea how to keep a bad boy interested.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:16 pm | Report abuse |
  216. art

    I'm looking at all the viperish responses from the gals about another slob of a man. Ye Gads. The problem is you don't hear anything when it's the gal who steps out. So gals (and the guys too) give it a break. Let them sort out their own lifestyle. I'd love to hear your comments about couples who share their spouses with others and enjoy that. OMG Share and enjoy? MG how can that be? But it exists quite rampantly. Oh have you heard of Polygamy and Polyandry? That exists in fairly large numbers also. The observation is that you gals "assume" you know what their relationship is about, you don't. You haven't a clue. But you have made the unfettered assumption as to how their relationship should be based on your personal views of how you want all relationships to be, but they are not. Nothing is as perceived. So please stop the stone throwing. They only stone people to death in other countries. Not here.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:15 pm | Report abuse |
  217. Merv Puck

    Sandra Bullock should have known better. One needs to marry in ones own class, Bullock married down – many pegs lower.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:14 pm | Report abuse |
  218. Good Reasons

    Good girls swallow only before marriage, tattooed girls swallow when required or when they desire.....that's why J.J did it! Come on good girls, when was the last time ya'll took a drink.....

    March 24, 2010 at 10:06 pm | Report abuse |
  219. John Jinnings

    I still haven't seen anybody point out that Jesse James was married to a PORN STAR before he married Sandra. And now people are shocked that he's a cheater.... amazing.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:55 pm | Report abuse |
  220. Rob

    Dear, dear Sandra: you probably won't even read all this garbage, hopefully you won't. Even thought Jesse has done what he has done, I know it is painful when everybody is putting him down. You're still in that process. I've been through it. It was horrible, but it hurt my feelings more when everybody kept telling me what an idiot he was. I could call him that and more, but I didn't like everybody else ganging up on him – for a while. And you'll have to get through your feelings, too. We all love you and we do have your back. The best thing you can do is NOT to read into all this crap. Get your assistant or agent or press person to go through and pull out things that will be helpful. Maybe not even that, yet. Just hang in and rest. Love you, lovely lady.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:55 pm | Report abuse |
  221. Jodi Olesen

    Had Jesse only failed in upholding his vows ONE TIME, I'd have been rooting for Sandra to try to work out their marriage. However, seeing as how he's gone out and cheated on her repeatedly (I see a white version of Tiger Woods here who should be crying that he's got a Sex Addiction problem any day now)....Now I say...Sandra...Get rid of this loser and get a real man who will treat you with the dignity and respect that you offer and are entitled to. You don't have to stay married to that piece of crap. You can still have a relationship with the children. That is, unless he's truly lower than pond scum and keeps that from happening. Call his bluff. See if he really, really does want his children to have the best in life (you).

    March 24, 2010 at 9:51 pm | Report abuse |
  222. James

    Faithfulness is definitely over rated in America.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:38 pm | Report abuse |
  223. Callysto

    Think about it:

    Sandra Bullock = Jennifer Aniston = Good Girls

    Jesse James = Brad Pitt = Guys who left their good girls for:

    Kat Von D = Angelina Jolie = Bad Girls

    Notice a rhetoric theme?

    March 24, 2010 at 9:37 pm | Report abuse |
  224. Tom

    It totally boggles the mind how she ended up with this guy in the first place. What an incredible poor lack of judgement !

    March 24, 2010 at 9:15 pm | Report abuse |
  225. matty

    I love the blatant feminism on some of these posts. "Drop him girl, you don't need him." And, of course the "she's a class act" line. Just because someone can act their ass off doesn't mean they're a class act. And people seem to forget, saying Jesse married over his head however forget that when they were married, he was the more well-known of the two, leading the top motorcycle customization business in the world while she was cranking out the hits in Speed, Speed 2 and Demolition Man. One great role, and all of a sudden everyone thinks they're her best friend and should offer her advice. Should he have cheated? no way. But, does anyone on here know even half the story? also, no.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:12 pm | Report abuse |
  226. Samantha

    I completely love everything Sandra Bullock does. She's funny, she's extraordinarily smart, she's beautiful. And I don't understand what she saw in him, but she did and that was good for her. But it's not good anymore. Staying together could create the "strong united front," the right image and, yes, I'm sure there's love there (it doesn't just stop), but is it the right thing? Only she can decide but I"d be real careful making a decision "for" him. If she stays with him, it will do things to her soul. This kind of betrayal is damaging and he can never be trusted again. It depresses the person (her), it makes her turn in a little bit; be rid of him and return to you. Don't let him change you through this horrible tragedy. He's not worth it, YOU ARE. This too will pass.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:11 pm | Report abuse |
  227. mushymushroom

    Sandra, though I don't know her personally, I believe she's a good person that's why this is heartbreaking for everyone. Jesse is not thinking, I mean seriously he blew the only good thing going on in his life – his marriage with Sandra.

    Sandra, stay strong; this too shall pass.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:05 pm | Report abuse |
  228. elda

    My heart goes out to you Sandra. He not only disappointed you, he also disappointed all of us too. I do hope things work out for you no matter which way you go. Be strong.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:58 pm | Report abuse |

    I wonder if this was pre-planned by McGee. i saw a "special edition" of a tattoo magazine in the store on sunday, 3/21. McGee was on the cover and had a 5 page spread inside.

    Pretty quick publishing for an event that became publi late last week.

    I wonder if she was inspired by the Tiger Woods scandal and associated women and saw an opportunity.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:52 pm | Report abuse |
  230. Mona19595

    Now that Sandra is back in LA I am certain some decisions are going to be made. I feel for Sandra and Jesse's kids, he not only had an affair on his wife but his kids as well. As far as I can see Sandra is the only one in their lives with a level head. I think the man has some serious problems and will probably end up going to rehab. I think it's the only way to prove to Sandra and his kids he's worth it. I mean it's not like he's gone to her on his knee's begging for forgiveness, perhaps he has. No one here know's the details. But a step in the right direction is sex rehab like Tiger Woods. I don't think Sandra would up and leave his kids high and dry, she loves those kids as if they were her own. Sandra Bullock has a heart of GOLD and is a strong woman I think the skank's he's been with aren't so honest either. I mean would you believe any of the stories of a stripper, call girl etc, etc? Jesse you need to be honest with yourself and you owe it to Sandra to be honest with her as well. If you would rather have the playboy life that's fine but for God's sakes at least respect Sandra enough to initiate a separation or a divorce.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:46 pm | Report abuse |
  231. Lillie

    Sorry, but something is wrong w/this picture. SB is a smart individual. On some level, she chose to overlook the fact that JJ has no character to speak of. To satisfy huge sexual and emotional needs, she took the risk. She's also dangerously determined and will want to stay in the relationship to not be proved wrong. Who's to say ...

    March 24, 2010 at 8:41 pm | Report abuse |
  232. debbie

    At least the sluts Tiger cheated with look human! These wh**** Jessee slept with belong in trash dumpsters with the rest of the trash. OMG they are acting like they are celebreties. I hope they are reading all the blogs so they will realize what pieces of dirt they really are.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:39 pm | Report abuse |
  233. markmarks

    A close confidant of Jessie James has reported his belief that this affair is all about Money. The theory is… He is married to a woman voted as one of People magazine's 50 Most Beautiful People, who happens to also be the richest actress on the planet… He has an affair (for 11 months) with a porn star! Who is not the richest star on the planet… And is now well on his way to grabbing half of Sandra Bullock’s wealth if he gets his way in court.
    Its nuts she is worth 85 million and he could get 42.5 million for adultery!! This was also interesting…

    March 24, 2010 at 8:39 pm | Report abuse |
  234. Las Vegas Mom

    Sandra Bullock is not the sharpest knife in the drawer. Who would sleep with a man who was married to a porn star – oh come on! Somethings wrong with her too.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:31 pm | Report abuse |
  235. Michael

    He is a very bad man.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:27 pm | Report abuse |
  236. biker man

    maybe he just wanted someone with boobs

    March 24, 2010 at 8:26 pm | Report abuse |
  237. LARRY

    Sandra knew before getting married that Jessie was married to a porn star. So whats the big suprise people?

    March 24, 2010 at 8:20 pm | Report abuse |
  238. Liv

    Hang in there Sandra. Find another man with class. We're rooting for you. Love you and your movies.......

    March 24, 2010 at 8:18 pm | Report abuse |
  239. Polly

    What do you expect from Hollywood and a guy who calls himself "Jesse James?" She apparently fell for his "Marlboro man" image. She'll pick more carefully next time.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:12 pm | Report abuse |
  240. Jezmundberserker

    I hope she gets half his money. In cases like this one, it's a no-contest. He's lost in life and he'll lose in court. He deserves whatever's coming his way.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:10 pm | Report abuse |
  241. ozzy

    Here we go, always assuming that it's the man's fault. Nobody knows what went on in that marriage except for the two people involved in it. Nobody is perfect, and people make mistakes, but nobody deserves to be villified. Enough Jesse bashing already. Get a life people.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:06 pm | Report abuse |
  242. raymond

    Jesse's track record showed that he had the potential to cheat, so why did Sandra marry him anyway? Opposites attract? Of course, because it is less boring. Nevertheless, Sandra should not be so naive as to think that she could change him after marriage and live happily ever after. Like Tiger Woods, Jesse's condition can be treated but it can never be cured. Being a macho in any degree is part of being a man and lies in his nature. No amount of social or religious brainwashing will alleviate it because it is in his genes. If guys are supposed to be faithfull to their wives and girlfriends, then why is prostitution thriving in our society? Cheating is nothing new and will remain part of many relationships.

    March 24, 2010 at 7:57 pm | Report abuse |
  243. wildthang

    They should stay together, she oviously wanted a bad boy so what's the problem, enjoy...just make an agreeement and be honest with each other...

    March 24, 2010 at 7:49 pm | Report abuse |
  244. Prophet

    Americans are so preoccupied with sex. You make it so important and scandalous at the same time. Must be the Puritan heritage.

    If Jesse and Sandra love each other that is all that counts. Its love that counts. Unconditional love. FTW

    March 24, 2010 at 7:47 pm | Report abuse |
  245. bird

    who cares if Sandra Bullock plays a nice character in movies. maybe shes a condescending bitch at home. Not saying JJ is right, but how can any one defend either side, unless they were one of the 2 people involved. Anything else is BS, and you should keep it to yourself.

    March 24, 2010 at 7:38 pm | Report abuse |
  246. JJ Lyman

    Sandra Bullock, there are many many many people out here rooting for you during this crisis. I honor you and send you strength. Remember to breathe deep and remember who you are. You will figure it out.

    March 24, 2010 at 7:29 pm | Report abuse |
  247. Aaron

    I know how it feels to be disrespected. I also know that kind of betrayel is so huge especially when the marraige parnter takes in a children of the stupid partner. I can tell she was in it for the long haul.
    Sandra, please do not let this jerk interfere with your much-deserved fame by cancelling your junkets in Europe. We all have your back so you do not have to seek that from the creep you married. I am hopeful you will not go back to him. You have so much support from your fellow actors and your fans and obviously your sister. The young girls (and I am sure older fans) are looking to you to see how you handle this. Stay strong and come to the best decision for you. PLEASE DO NOT HAVE A CHILD WITH THE POND SCUM!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 7:27 pm | Report abuse |
  248. joanne

    All I can say is "Jesus knows."

    March 24, 2010 at 7:18 pm | Report abuse |
  249. Cat

    Sandra exercised poor judgment in choosing this low-life trash to be her husband. Hopefully she's smart enough to get out ASAP to minimize any more psychological damage to herself and any children involved.

    Oh, by the way – looks like JJ didn't take them into account, even though they are HIS children.

    March 24, 2010 at 7:17 pm | Report abuse |
  250. KEVIN

    All of you dogging Jessie need to chill. Until you walk a mile in his shoes you dont know squat. There are too many people, men and women out there that do not respect marriage. Think its a challenge to get a married person and dont care about the damage they cause.
    Do any of you understand how hard it is to be rich and famous and have sex dangled in front of you like candy. To have women lined up to have sex with you. Rock stars do it all the time and you dont talk down to them, so why is Jessie any different. This man rose from a poor existence to owning his own business and hosting tv shows and just happened to fall in love with a beautiful movie star.
    Temptation is around every corner the difference is whether or not you take it. He made a mistake, leave them alone and give them a chance to rebuild things together.
    Take a long look in the mirror before you start putting down others for anything and when you do point that sharp witted tongue at yourself first.....

    March 24, 2010 at 7:12 pm | Report abuse |
  251. Winnie

    When it is apparent that you cannot completely trust your spouse, it's time to reevaluate your values. Sometimes our expectations of ourselves and others are just too unrealistic to begin with!

    March 24, 2010 at 7:03 pm | Report abuse |
  252. Phil Ratio

    He messed up and now she knows she shouldn't waste any more time on him.

    March 24, 2010 at 6:49 pm | Report abuse |
  253. Andrew

    Sandra knew about the affair at the Academy Awards you just have to look at the subtext of her thank you speech. Some of it wasnt very subtext and and a few of her other thank you speeches sarcastically get stuck into Jesse James. Also when comperes wanted to talk to Sandra and Jesse on the red carpet where was Jesse indeed? The comperes even commented upon that. He is a little lapdog doing dutifully what Sandra wanted during the awards season. This isnt the first time either.

    March 24, 2010 at 6:41 pm | Report abuse |
  254. Sue Evans

    Hi Sandra,

    Please know that there are many people that respect you and understand your need for your privacy. Please know our prayers and big prayers are with you and we know you will do what is best for you.

    God bless you and watch over you during this most difficult time.


    March 24, 2010 at 6:34 pm | Report abuse |
  255. Midwest

    JJ is a D-bag. I've met him before and he's a bully and a chump.

    He's just reinforcing what I thought of him all along.

    March 24, 2010 at 6:12 pm | Report abuse |
  256. Ak

    David L said it right near the beginning. Biker dude with Hells Angels connections and a porn-star felon ex. What a spate of warning signs!

    But looks like a case of even a woman who is Rich and Famous not resisting the urge to take the Bad Boy and 'reform' him.

    The classic case of the beautiful, classy, well-dressed and smart high school girl pairing up with the hippie doper grease monkey with hair in his eyes, oil-soaked jeans unwashed from purchase, treats her like crap and she begs for more.

    'I'm gonna fix him...' ..yeah right..hope you read this, Ms Bullock, and it makes you you think hard on the next 20 years, and the decisions you make today, hon....

    March 24, 2010 at 6:11 pm | Report abuse |
  257. bjones

    Im sure Sanda will be reading all THESE POSTS!!

    Most men will be faithful, where it starts to fall down in when the woman wont sleep with the man- thats why this occurs most of the time. Lastly, most men are hoping for once a week in reality and if they don't get it for months at a time, then this is what can happen. So until we know what exactly is there relationship, dont get too carried away.

    March 24, 2010 at 6:10 pm | Report abuse |
  258. Sophie

    Sandra really married beneath her, first of all.

    Seriously, a white-trash biker boy? She must have had a thing for the blue-collar guy, the macho thing — but he's a punk. Most bikers are polyamorists — into many women, group sex, etc.

    For crying out loud, his first wife was a porn star. That should have told her something — he was as low class and characterless as can be.

    Guys like that feel entitled to the womanizing. So he goes for Lydia the Tattooed Lady.

    And Sandra was away making movies. He probably felt justified. What a low-rent scoundrel.

    But I hope she goes for a classier kind of guy next time around.

    March 24, 2010 at 6:03 pm | Report abuse |
  259. jross

    I read that the paperwork for Sandra to adopt Jesse's daughter was in the works when all this happened along with eyewitness accounts of what a great mother she was to her. Then I read she was filing for divorce.Then I read her reps said no, not filing. Are there any divorce/ custody lawyers out there who can say what her rights are prior to adoption if she does leave him? I cannot imagine how hard it must be for her to know she may have no rights to the little girl she loves and was ready to raise.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:59 pm | Report abuse |
  260. lynn

    Wendy wrote @ 12:30pm or so:
    March 24th, 2010 12:25 pm ET

    I, too can not understand why men can't be faithful. Especially in this case, Sandra is such a beautiful and classy woman. How can a man go from Prime Rib, to spam?
    Truly Love this ONE! 1!

    He is beneath her now and I am glad she got out of it ASAP, He is a Scum bag U can't get Worse than that, I would get a Tatoo on my butt that has "Lips & with Jesse in it,( Bottom lip) meaning to kiss my ass.
    A Man I presume "Alan" Wrote there are 2 sides to every story (COIN) OR Whatever?!! HELLO –U (They, made a contract Here In a Church I pursume or Whatever). Took voes. U make them as Loving each other Totaling & NO Sleeping with Whomever gets in UR Path. It's discussing and Thank GOd Sandra can get out of it ASAP. She probably has more $$ than he does-so I guess she didn't have to wait until the 7yr ITCH!!
    Get out of it before U get gray hair, she can get a classy man as well. Lynn

    March 24, 2010 at 5:52 pm | Report abuse |
  261. barry richard

    When will women learn to explore the maturity of a man. It is only because that Jesse James is emotionaly challanged did Ms. Bullock look with eyes wide shut. What did you see in this guy also, what did you have in common besides sex and what other attributes did you see in him. You need to grow uo and take responsibility for your failure to really get to know him before you took the ice tea challange.
    Best of luck.
    A professional therapist

    March 24, 2010 at 5:49 pm | Report abuse |
  262. mrose61

    Any man or woman who knowingly enters into a sexual relationship with a married person is a whore. Period. This is not's a simple fact. If you cannot respect yourself and the sanctity of an intact marriage, you deserve to be referred to this way.
    It does not matter if the person being cheated with is tattooed or not. Body art and jewelry are personal expressions. Screwing someone you know is married is what makes you trash. I don't care if Sandra Bullock is the nicest person on the planet or the worst, this level of public humiliation and embarassment is not deserved. If you have done these things, Jesse, you are reprehensible and undeserving of the loyalty and trust of any decent woman. Your children, deserve a better role model as well. Seek therapy, you need it. And find a good lawyer.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:47 pm | Report abuse |
  263. lori

    what I think is sad is that people think this is any of their business. men cheat on their spouses everyday. I feel for Sandra but what makes her any more special than any other woman that gets cheated on? This is a private issue and none of us have the right to judge either of them

    March 24, 2010 at 5:45 pm | Report abuse |
  264. Pat

    It is Sandra's FAULT. She wanted a bad boy and got EXACTLY what she wanted. Give Jesse 1/2 of what you own, divorce him and move on being a SHREW.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:44 pm | Report abuse |
  265. Jennifer Melear

    Sandra you would only know me as a fan of yours and a good ole Texas girl (born in Austin) but now I live in Florida for the past few years and wanted to give you some good old fashion advice. Jesse is the man that you fell in love with and all the bashing and hateful things is not what you need to hear right now. I know that from watching you in movies I have always connected with you and your personality and think that you are an amazing woman that all that really take the time to feel what you express through your work will actually understand just exactly who you are as a human being and a woman that has been hurt. No ONE out here knows the whole story and honestly it should be your business and your husbands but please dont stop who you are for us out here that enjoys you on the big screen and whatever you decide I am behind you as a fan and if you ever need to just go shopping and have lunch out here in Plant City Florida and just be a normal person for awhile please let me know. I am a mom of two great boys and it would be our treat to have you here as our guest no one will know you with sun glasses and pony tail. My prayers are with you and Jesse and please never say anything you cannot ever take back. I want to tell you also that I just bought The Blind Side last night and I think that this is probably one of your bests I have ever seen. Thank you Lots of hugs jennifer & boys

    March 24, 2010 at 5:39 pm | Report abuse |
  266. Shaw Girl

    I'm a fan of Sandra's so I'm speaking as a fan... how dare he cheat and allow her to adore him in front of the world like that! He could have at least kept his lying cheating butt at home during the most important night of her career! I mean he just sat his lying face in the front row knowing that things were going to come crashing down soon! He was tearing up because he knew that it would be his last time in the spotlight with her! Love you Sandra... you deserve better!

    March 24, 2010 at 5:39 pm | Report abuse |
  267. Hugo

    Show me a beautiful woman and I will show you a miserable man.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:38 pm | Report abuse |
  268. scot

    Sandra Bullock is not a very good looking girl-lets be honest people. Ever seen her without makeup–whew-very scary. Jesse has plenty of his own money and is very popular in his own right and has no need to worry about her money or popularity. She should have thought about what -making movie after movie away on location-would do to her relationship. This is all her fault and Jesse is much better off without her-Both of his exes are way hotter!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 5:34 pm | Report abuse |
  269. BC

    funny to think that Sandra marries a guy who was once married to a porn star and everyone is surprised he had issues....go figure...
    yes Jesse was stupid for cheating but has anyone thought she was stupid to marry a guy like him in the fist place

    March 24, 2010 at 5:33 pm | Report abuse |
  270. Mauricio

    Victoria: I will respond why this guy did it: He is what we call in Mexico Naco that trasnlates to White trash or a person with no education, moral or integrity.
    He could not leave his background and searched for some beans when he had caviar in his house.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:32 pm | Report abuse |
  271. JZ

    Just goes to show that now matter how good looking or successful, someone, somewhere, is tired of hittin it!

    March 24, 2010 at 5:31 pm | Report abuse |
  272. J

    Sandy's not all innocent. He ex-wife was pregnant when he left her to be with Bullock.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:28 pm | Report abuse |
  273. Jen

    At the end of the day these are just people with...sad to say.....everyday problems. People cheat all the time. I was married for 8 yrs together for 16 and found out my husband cheated for three years. As hard as it was you get an attorney and you move on. There is no rebuilding trust. I'm a firm believer once a cheater always a cheater. Plus I be damed if I was going to look over my shoulder the rest of my life and wonder what is he doing every time he left the house. I have better things to do like wash my hair!!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 5:24 pm | Report abuse |
  274. la

    It was so sorry to hear about this.. All my friends and I felt like we knew her and you never want even your worse enemy to go through this tragic relationship devastation. I have lost both my parents and it seems harder to go through a breakup sometimes than a death. Hang in their Sandy... you will get through this. It will either workout or you will move on and someday look back and think "THANK GOD"..Love to all. LA

    March 24, 2010 at 5:23 pm | Report abuse |
  275. Susan

    I just hope for Sandra's sake Mr. James practiced "safe" sex.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:22 pm | Report abuse |
  276. 1krr

    She got what she paid for.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:14 pm | Report abuse |
  277. joshia

    Jose... grow up... I bet u have no one at all in your life and is very lonely...

    March 24, 2010 at 5:12 pm | Report abuse |
  278. Joel

    He's a loser. He's an uneducated, fumble fingered, lazy, motorcycle loser. He's no good at his "career." He has no talent.

    WTF did she ever see in him? He was a real treat on The Apprentice. It was embarrassing watch him make a fool of himself on that show.

    I hope she dumps his can't-do-anything rear to the curb so he can go play with his alcohol and girls.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:12 pm | Report abuse |
  279. joshia

    wow... Jesse James is a pig.
    I cant believe he got with that whore.. Sandra is a such classy lady and deserves a classy man with morals. Who would want Jesse .. he is scum. No class !!

    March 24, 2010 at 5:09 pm | Report abuse |
  280. astounded!!


    you should look up Keanu Reeves. I think you and him make such a cute couple (on and off screen). it was said that you stated when you were going to pair up with him to film "The Lake House" that you were nervous. Maybe you were nervous (butterflies) because he captured your heart at one point. Anyway, I hope he's there to help you through this difficult time.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:04 pm | Report abuse |
  281. The Donna

    Pondering why a man like Jesse would continually self-destruct by making STUPID decisions seems to occupy most everyone these days. If we all live to be 100, we're likely to die without ever knowing why or how this man would be so careless with his children's lives. What is known however, is that there will always be a bevy of bimbo's whose only claim to fame is screwing someone famous. These incidious low-life hustlers have no regard for the families they destroy.

    Having said all of this, one thing is sure, Sandra's talent, beauty and intellect is not lessened by this act. Whether she forgives him for the pain and suffering he's caused is her decision alone. We will always view her as "a stand-up girl" that's made her way to the top with talent, hard work and professionalism.

    March 24, 2010 at 5:00 pm | Report abuse |
  282. Guy

    Ok cheating is wrong in any situation but even beyond that...How do you cheat on Sandra Bullock!!!!! I mean its Sandra Freakin' Bullock. C'mon man...

    March 24, 2010 at 4:54 pm | Report abuse |
  283. OMGWTH

    Ignorant ignorant heifers! I go and do some work for a few hours and you are still commenting that people with tattoos are "scum" or are "bad boys". Everyone is still writing "Dear Sandra" because you know she is going to read it. Only an hour left of work so keep the comments coming because it is entertaining...

    Oh...And Sandra...If you are reading this...I've got a pretty slick chopped up Harley and I'm all tatted up...But, I do have a master's degree so I'm not full blown bad-boy but you're welcome to romance me...I won't stray! 😉

    March 24, 2010 at 4:53 pm | Report abuse |
  284. Becky

    He failed the test. Kick the Nazi loving BUM out.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:49 pm | Report abuse |
  285. Memyself

    What makes any of you think you know what this couple's life was/is like together. People have public lives and private lives. We don't know what either of them might truly be like.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:48 pm | Report abuse |
  286. Cambretta

    @Moon Dog: you hit the nail right on the head, man!

    March 24, 2010 at 4:46 pm | Report abuse |
  287. cm

    Men cannot be faithful. I agree. Women can. That is the difference between the sexes. Women cheat, too. What is not cool is the STD thing. Someone having no regard for that is really disturbing. I don't believe that women and men can withstand the temptaions over time. It's just not natural. The key is being honest about it. Have an open relationship. Don't deceive the other person and do things behind their back.

    Marriage is an old instiution. Sandra will be time. She's a big girl.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:44 pm | Report abuse |
  288. mrose61

    If you are unhappy, dissatisfied, bored, etc., with your COMMITTED MARITAL RELATIONSHIP, why cheat and sneak around? Be a grownup and ask for, initiate, a divorce. If monogamy is not a concept you can operate under, why get married in the first place? What kind of a person has sex with other people and risks the safety of the people they VOW they love? Shame on Jesse and Tiger and all of the other people who pursue extramarital activity. What does this say about you, your integrity and your trustworthiness? Most of a parent, how do you reconcile this for your children. Does this tell your sons that this is an O.K. way to treat your loved ones? Does this tell your daughter that men lie and sneak around and it's perfectly fine? Sex is an amazing part of living the human experience. Yet it is so often a means to cause hurt and violate the safety and security of marriage and family. This is beyond selfish. It's cruel.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:41 pm | Report abuse |
  289. Jose

    Jesse James is a man and as a man we have certain needs that when not met are gonna lead to infidelity. Sandra B. was probably so busy making movies and kissing Keanu Reeves, that she forgot to satisfy her man. A word to all you ladies out there, make sure your man is satisfied or you'll get JESSE JAMES'D!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 4:37 pm | Report abuse |
  290. john the baptist

    Jessie James and bullock are two pretend people with just publicity good or bad in mind and I do not care a d m what they do

    March 24, 2010 at 4:30 pm | Report abuse |
  291. PierreFou

    Maybe some of us should get a life...

    March 24, 2010 at 4:29 pm | Report abuse |
  292. Kathy

    Dear Sandra, I am sooo sorry this happened to you. It is not your fault. You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. It's easy to see that he really loves you but, how do you get past this? I wish I had an answer for you. Do what is in YOUR best interest. No one knows what's in your heart. Please don't lose faith in humanity because more people love you then would ever want to hurt you! Keep your chin up.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:27 pm | Report abuse |
  293. Becky

    Oh come one saw this coming???? Geez...shall i run a list of jerks like Jon Gosselin, Brad Pitt, Jesse, etc. Some guys are never satisfied with what they have. And Jesse has a taste for sleaze (strippers, porn stars, etc). Miss Sandra hooked up with the wrong guy. Hang tuff hun!

    March 24, 2010 at 4:25 pm | Report abuse |
  294. Jessica

    Sandra leave that SOB, do not give him one red cent and move on.
    The warning signs however, that if a guy was married to a porn star and is carrying on with a tatoo queen, that says a lot about the man, HE LOVES TRASH.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:24 pm | Report abuse |
  295. Jason

    While I think Sandra Bullock is very talented, sophisticated, and 100% a class act, I still have to go with: what in Jesse's past ever made anyone think he was loyal, honest, or an overall decent person?! I think most of these women that are commenting are just upset that they've made another assumption that turned out to be incorrect.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:22 pm | Report abuse |
  296. Edwina Lee Tyler

    Hang in there Sandra you made it before you meant him and you well make it with out him. love is something what it can do to you but, you 'll fall in love again and it well be better than the last time
    you know that old saying one monkey dont stop no show or should i say a life to go on, peace and many blessings

    March 24, 2010 at 4:21 pm | Report abuse |
  297. Joel

    Leave it to all of us. These people are multimillionaires for playing "make believe." A school teacher, nurse, fire fighter or police officer has to beg to make an additional dollar. And now many of these public servants are being laid-off because of the poor economy and our broke governmental budgets. I don't wish anyone ill. But from the amount of entries to this story, the good ol' USA shows that it continues to have its head where the sun doesn't shine. The folks in Hollywood look down at we peons and we cry over their self-made "tragedies". God bless us, everyone! Someone has to, very soon!

    March 24, 2010 at 4:18 pm | Report abuse |
  298. todd

    If Sandra wasnt taking care of business at home then I don't blame the big swinging Jess to get some action on the side.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:14 pm | Report abuse |
  299. Abby

    I wish people would stop referring to these events as "tragedies." To label something as a tragedy implies that those involved were destined to have this happen to them. All the ancient Greek tragedies were based on a character flaw, so to call infidelity a tragedy indicates that this was bound to happen. Regardless of whether it's true, who is at fault, who is right, who is wrong; this is not a tragedy. It's a shame, it's heartbreaking, but not a tragedy.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:10 pm | Report abuse |
  300. Jennifer

    Sandra – run fast and take Elin Woods with you, don't look back, trust me, your marriage will never be the same – you will never trust him again......whenever he goes out, you will always wonder where he is, whenever his cell phone rings, you will wonder who he is speaking with.....he will cheat on you again and fast!!

    March 24, 2010 at 4:07 pm | Report abuse |
  301. TLM

    I think everyone should just leave Sandra alone and let her deal with this on her own. If she wants to forgive her husband that should be between her and her husband and no one should judge her or tell her what she should do.

    March 24, 2010 at 4:05 pm | Report abuse |
  302. mae

    Jesse James acted in a manner that was vile and indicative of his track record with women. He cheated, and got caught. If not for the fact he was caught, he would still be cheating with that piece of trash. Personally, I believe that Sandra married down and she should take this as her que to move on to a brighter and better future. However, that being said, this is her personal life and what she does or does not do is her decision. As for her not filing for divorce; you don't rush off to do that in the first 5 minutes. She is still reeling from the shock and needs to find her footing in this flood of deceit she has found herself in. I wouldn't give someone like him the time of day, but she now she is dealing with the disaster that has followed. If he cheated with one, how many others did he have. I hope Sandra gets herself tested for STD's.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:58 pm | Report abuse |
  303. Nurse

    Sandra!...Go now to the nearest medical clinic and get tested for every STD in the book!!...then burn everything that pig-man has ever touched including the mattress....better yet have the house fumigated and sterilized and SOLD!!..
    .Never look back!! and count yourself lucky to get out ALIVE!

    March 24, 2010 at 3:49 pm | Report abuse |
  304. Theresa

    This situation is sa....sad in the fact this is Sandra Bullock's year to shine. She was in 2 popular movies. awarded finally for her talent. Hubby accompanied her to most of the Awards presentation. Instead of being proud of his wife, he has an affair. Probably because his ego was damaged because she was doing so well.& Sandra was getting all of the media attention. She loves his children....helped him to get custody of the youngest...& this is how he thanks her. My daughter was engaged to someone she had dated for 6 & 1/2 yr. He was a grad. student ,getting his Master's in business. She supported him emotionally & financially. He repaid her by having an affair. They ended & then got back together for that 1 more try. It finally ended by my daughter's decision. She was devastated ,mortified. That was almost 7 yr. ago. She is newly engaged to a fine fellow this time. They're flying to Hawaii in 1&1/2 wk. to get married. She told me recently she thanks her ex fiance everyday for not marrying her because she wouldn't have met future husband. That is what I hope for Sandra Bullock...that she grieves the end of her marriage & then gets on with her life!!

    March 24, 2010 at 3:47 pm | Report abuse |
  305. Alexis

    Sandra – you are WAY better off without that class-less swine.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:41 pm | Report abuse |
  306. Jack

    Jesse was wrong period. But to say every man is going to cheat is just wrong. Women cheat too and most woman prefer the "bad boy" that you know is not going to treat you right to begin with.

    I dont feel sorry for Sandra. She is stunning, talented, and can have any man on earth. I cant understand what she seen in Jesse to begin with.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:39 pm | Report abuse |
  307. mskitty59

    Unfortunately, Sandra is in the spotlight, so everyone feels it is their business to make it their business. Not true. This is highly personal, sensitive and should be worked out between Jesse and Sandra only. I feel sorry for them both at this point.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:34 pm | Report abuse |
  308. Cathy

    Perhaps Jesse James will join Jon Gosselin in the has beens hall of fame. Both are colossial idiots.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:33 pm | Report abuse |
  309. Dave

    Men are pigs, we can't not look and looking becomes touching on and on especially when the other woman touches too. Women are for the most part just as bad. That said, Sandra, if you're reading this, give me a call............

    March 24, 2010 at 3:30 pm | Report abuse |
  310. Wally Slowik

    One never knows what goes on behind closed doors. These are two very public persona's, one could ask the question who are they really? Any relationship is hard work, you need to make sure it is important to you everyday, both sides need to do that. One can get lost very easy in this society we have made for ourselves.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:27 pm | Report abuse |
  311. Carla

    What is wrong with some of the male species when they can't stop thinking of their own sensual needs , be faithful to their wife and their commitment to each other? And then they think by apologizing it makes everything alright again. Why do they not think-this is wrong and I shouldn't do this and just not do it!!! They just admit it when they are caught that it was wrong and they shouldn't have done it.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:27 pm | Report abuse |
  312. Diana

    If she's that stupid to stay with him after all this, then that's her problem. She doesn't have any kids with him, she brings home all the money, and he looks like a slob. There's really no reason to stick around unless she's looking forward to being humiliated some more.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:25 pm | Report abuse |
  313. Cambretta

    You might want to read the piece on 'Male Brain': Why men obsess over sex By Louann Brizendine...

    March 24, 2010 at 3:21 pm | Report abuse |
  314. Sarcasmo

    She is a bit mannish.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:21 pm | Report abuse |
  315. Don

    Where is the media, "What no 24 hour coverage", isn't this as big as the Woods family saga.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:20 pm | Report abuse |
  316. Jean Phillip

    DUMP him NOW....he's scum......he will never change....certainly not for the better....only the worse.

    March 24, 2010 at 3:17 pm | Report abuse |
  317. Moon Dog

    She has no one to blame but herself. If you pick a guy who's already been married and divorced several times with baggage and who is tattooed from head to toe, what kind of person would you expect to get?

    Human nature much of the time reveals the kind of person we are on the inside by observing the outside. This guy spelled trouble from the get go! Sandra dropped the ball here and let it get the best of her.

    Women like Sandra will never learn or will always learn it the hard way. It's the classic beauty trying to mess with "bad boy" punk ass like Jesse when she could have had the "nice boring guy."

    I guess in a nutshell, we could all yell with one accord "we told you so."

    March 24, 2010 at 3:06 pm | Report abuse |
  318. Sparky


    Your exactly right. Their a bunch of loosers. LMAO! 🙂

    March 24, 2010 at 2:58 pm | Report abuse |
  319. ANAR

    Sandra- move on to the next step in your life, look forward and never look back. No regrets. Remember that the show must go on.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:58 pm | Report abuse |
  320. Lisa

    Sandra, we are praying for you, your step children and Jesse. I wish you all the best as you try to sort through all of this.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:57 pm | Report abuse |
  321. Futon Torpedo

    Now is my chance while she is vunerable..... SANDRA I LOVE YOU!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 2:56 pm | Report abuse |
  322. Mac1588

    Quite simply, men are NOT "wired" for monogamy. It is at the most basic primal level, as it is with many male species to procreate and "spread the seed" as it were...and has nothing to do with love.

    Marriage should be based on 3 yr. renewable contracts.
    It would make life a lot simpler for many many people.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:51 pm | Report abuse |
  323. michael gale

    What great emails and here is my personal answer to some of the rhetorical questions.

    What was he thinking? He clearly was not, not just once but in multiple ways and times. Text messages last for ever, and he seems to have kept going back to the well with this lady. This is the behavior of somebody who wants to get caught or feels he is beyond the rules of human logic.

    She should leave him? Yes or no but more importantly nobody knows what is going on. Bullock is an incredibly talented and very sincere person. We live in Austin and you never hear anything but wonderful things about her. But we do not know what has gone on. She was aware of his history so surely was not niave about this.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:45 pm | Report abuse |
  324. KeHo

    ...darnit, another reason for Melody to get upset...i meant one WORD!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 2:44 pm | Report abuse |
  325. KeHo work, CHILL!

    March 24, 2010 at 2:42 pm | Report abuse |
  326. Hans

    I lost all respect for Jesse James. What a piece of trash he is.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:39 pm | Report abuse |
  327. DR

    What a loser. Here is a woman who fought to help him get custody of his daughter by a porn star and he thanks her by having sex with the tatooed lady at the circus.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:34 pm | Report abuse |
  328. Marine57

    Take your losses and divorce that bastard, Sandy, and then move on. Adultery is the one thing that makes divorce legal.
    We faithful fans love you (in spite of your bad choice here), and we promise to never, ever, leave you for a younger woman such as Miley Cyrus or Taylor Swift or Emma Watson. You can't cry or get mad and rightfully say nobody loves you, because WE do.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:31 pm | Report abuse |
  329. Bob

    I love Sandra Bullock so don't take this wrong. I understand her pain and feelings but women need to start trying to understand men better. Men can separate sex from love. Women cannot do this. Men are not meant to be monogamous. Yes, men should overcome this primitive desire and need but it is difficult. Jesse probably still loves her but the other women was just a fling. If women continue to demand complete fidelity from men they they are going to continue to be disappointed. Again, I am not saying this is right, just a fact. Men that cannot be faithful should not get married or the women he marries needs to understand the grief he may cause her.

    One last point, why is the man always the bastard? Especially with a public figure such as Jesse, or John Edwards, these women had to know they were married. If women are such a fine example of virtue then where is their responsibility?. It takes two to cheat.

    Again, I am not saying this is fair or right but just common sense.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:31 pm | Report abuse |
  330. greenteagod

    She wanted to hook up with the "bad boy." Was this really so unexpected?

    March 24, 2010 at 2:25 pm | Report abuse |
  331. Elizabeth Decker

    Sandra Bullock should divorce Jesse James. A man who would have sex with that prostitute should not also have the honor of being Sandra Bullock's husband.

    A prostitute is someone who receives money or favors for sex. She fits the bill.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:23 pm | Report abuse |
  332. Barbara Rockwell

    Sandra, you have been one of my favorite actresses for a while. You do not deserve a man that doesn't respect you and a cheater doesn't respect any women. It also disgusts me who he cheated on you with. She could have AIDS or Hepatitis with all those tatoos and other men. Please think of yourself and take care of you. You are a beautiful, genuine and talented woman. I loved the Blind Side and was so happy that you received the recognition that you so deserved with all your awards, but especially the Oscar. Your movie Hope Floats is one of my favorites. I watch it over and over. It helped me when my ex-husband suddenly walked out on me and my daughter after 7 seven years of supporting his career and raising his 3 children. I learned the hard way how blind we can be when we are in love. Trust your instincts not your heart right now. I hope you are with people who love you and will help you through this. If you need a place to hide, I live by myself in Chicago. I hate it here, but that's a long story. I bet LeAnn Touhy could give you some good advice. Tap into that strength you showed when you played her character. My faith is was has sustained me. I will pray for you. God bless, barbara

    March 24, 2010 at 2:23 pm | Report abuse |
  333. Jackie Sparrow

    Be like Fergie, act like it never happened. She's still married and happy and continuing her career. She's never made one comment about Josh cheating with that one person. Jesse was wrong, but it appears to be with one person and not a dozen like Tiger Woods. Please consider your union and his children before doing something stupid.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:23 pm | Report abuse |
  334. shane

    What was this guy thinking?
    Why is she still with this guy. I believe in for better or for worse, but not when it comes to infidelity. What an idot. She is a beautiful person that deserves much better. Succesful, talented and good-looking, Who needs a biker-tatooed guy.That's why he went for the other woman. I'm sorry, but there is a different class level here. A duck don't stray to far from water. I'm sorry, but I beileve He'll cheat again. Once a cheater...always a cheater.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:17 pm | Report abuse |
  335. takethekids&run

    What can I say that I haven't said already. She should leave him and get full custody of the kids., or just accept him as he is and live with it. ( for the kids sake), or go back with him and you start having affairs, why not, happy marriages do this all the time, and it works.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:17 pm | Report abuse |
  336. Lynn

    men do it because they always have. If you don't spend every waking moment focusing on them, they feel neglected and use that as an excuse. If you have a life that doesn't revolve around their every little need, they will use that as an excuse. Or they are famous and know that many women will service them just because they are famous, so you idiot women that think you will be famous thru osmosis are just as bad. Or they are bored, or hungry or mad or a slew of other bs reasons to justify their behavior. Oh but then they are really sorry, didn't mean to hurt you, it will never happen again, blah blah blah.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:08 pm | Report abuse |
  337. GoSharks

    Brian- Thank you and I completely agree.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:07 pm | Report abuse |
  338. Buzzy

    Okay everybody, time to sharpen up your grammar skills. Brian sounds upset.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:05 pm | Report abuse |
  339. Bob

    I like this quote "When Jesse made his decision he was being totally selfish. He wasn't thinking about a wife that so obviously loved and trusted him and he certainly wasn't thinking about his children and their role models. ". It should also be considered that, single or not, the other person involved in the affair is just as bad. It shows a complete lack of respect for marriage and honesty as well as a lack of concern for any children or spouses that are indirectly involved.

    March 24, 2010 at 2:01 pm | Report abuse |
  340. miamimanfromcuba

    i don't know what the hell everybody is talking about, sandra bullock is 45 years old, her nose looks like she's gone a few rounds with pacquiao, and she's probably a bore. if i were jesse james i would've been a little more selective but i still would have cheated on miss sugar-mama.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:56 pm | Report abuse |
  341. Melody

    We married at the age of 20. We were in love. Love is Blind. So Sandra, chin up, blow him off! He's not Husband material. Don't stand by your man no matter how much it hurts, it's not worth it! Too, my ex filed for divorce, not me. I wanted to work it out. He didn't. I'm happy, healthy and I love my children dearly, 21 & 23, working, have a great home and where is my Ex?! In Prison for having sex w/a 17 y.o. at his age of 47! SANDRA RUN! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DON'T EVER LOOK BACK!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:55 pm | Report abuse |
  342. kevin

    When are women going to call out the women who cross the line of decorum. Clearly the men involved in these scandals are fools, Tiger, Clinton,kenndy now Jessie, but human nature is very strong, and just this sampling shows its a new thing or not just stupid or weak men fall.
    Women have been the keeper of sexual decorum for centuries and men have been trained to push the envelope. It is no longer PC to call a woman a Harlet or a SLut that encroaches on a married man. I think we should be a bit more vocal on both sides of the transgression and women in particular should step up and say Hay lady thats my man back off!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:52 pm | Report abuse |
  343. Melody

    No, it doesn't take 2 to tango! No one, I don't care who you are, doesn't deserve to be cheated on, no one! I know! I was married for 23 yrs., 6 major surgeries, 4 minor surgeries and I miscarried a set of twins to have my 2 children as of today. But the point I'm making is, after I had my 2 children, he went out and played while I stayed home and reared our children. Funny, he's the one that found the Specialists so we could have children. He handed me divorce papers on our 20th wedding anniversary and we spent 3 yrs. in court w/the last year of it being over custody. I went thru hell to have my children! He was stealing them from me, but he didn't succeed. He had a huge candleite church wedding 11 days after our divorce was final. 6 mos. later she left him. A homewrecker, left him bc my ex, her ex, was cheating on her w/their maid, her best friend. Cheaters don't change!!!!...We had everything anyone could ask for, 2 beautiful children, love, a 3000 sq. ft. lake home, 2 caddys, money, friends and family and he screwed it up...I met 9 of his bimbos going thru our divorce. He had one of them housed a mile w/in our home w/her illigiment child. He went on a cruise w/a stripper while I was in the hospital for out patient surgery. I drove myself 70 miles from home. I could go on, even write book, which I've been told to do and I just might...ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:50 pm | Report abuse |
  344. Chuck2009

    Bullock should've known better.She married a guy, who left his pregnant wife for her. Granted, she was involved in porn industry, but then again, that's the pool of women James wants to fish from.Bullock might be nice and sweet, but she's not what makes James click. Variety and wild orgy is what flaters his nature and satisfies his satiety. Bullock is not only not worthy of the last Oscar she snatched from Meryl Streep, she's also the most vain and naive in the entertainment business, if she expected anything different outcome from this marriage!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:47 pm | Report abuse |
  345. Kenyweat

    She wanted a bad boy, she got one.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:47 pm | Report abuse |
  346. Pat

    Ever think she might be fridge? How come it took so long for Sandra to get married? Home come it's his fault? Why are most of you convinced that she's so refined and cultured? HELLO, she's an actress. She makes a living making people believe she something she's NOT. Look at Heather Locklear, SINGLE AFTER ALL THESE YEARS? She certainly has the looks. She, like Sandra, must be Damaged Goods. Kinda like a British Car, cute from the outside but a mess inside. Maybe Sandra felt the need to "Change" Jesse. She obviously wanted a "Bad Boy." Is she so stupid that she didn't realize what that came with? When you play with a snake and it bits you, you can't blame the snake. Sandra, if you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen! Well at least now she can brag to her friends that she was once married to Jesse James!!!!!! Jesse, I feel your pain but don't worry, there's plenty of fish in the ocean dude>

    March 24, 2010 at 1:46 pm | Report abuse |
  347. nojo

    Their relationship gave a lot of women hope that fairy tale romances still exist and that bad boys can be tamed. My girlfriends and I were disappointed. We're not naive, we know reality bites, but still....coming on the heels of the Tiger Woods scandal, it leaves you feeling a little depressed and unfortunately disillusioned with men.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:45 pm | Report abuse |
  348. R

    If ever there was one, this is A Time To Kill. I'll sure she had no Premonition this was going to happen to her. And to think that While She Was Sleeping after a long day working on The Blind Side her husband was playing Loverboy to skanks.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:42 pm | Report abuse |
  349. Vicky B

    You gotta wonder WHY Sandra Bullock was even attracted to this tattoo-ridden, wannabe biker-type guy in the first place. From day one of coming out with the news she hooked up with this individual, it immediately made me question her "type" as a person. And, since then, I never saw her as a "class act" or a "good girl".

    Same as in the Whitney Houston situation. She portrayed this wholesome good girl image but, as soon as she hooked up with Bobby Brown, she had shown her true color and, of course, history dictated the rest.

    Ms. Bullock may appear as such in film and in pictures but there is no way she could have been attracted to Mr. James "unless" she is of the same type.

    I believe she is, and that trouble follows. Maybe not by drugs as in Whitneys case, but in some form of trouble, nonetheless.

    I don't buy Sandra Bullock's good girl image. Never did.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:41 pm | Report abuse |
  350. Cheryl

    I wish Jesse James would say, hey I was drunk, high or something, have you seen the chick, talk about fugly. Sandra seems like a sweet and fun person. I know that everyone isn't perfect and I am sure she has been busy with promoting The Proposal and The Blind Side, but that is no excuse. Jesse James doesn't deserve her and if she wants to quit than hopefully he will let her do so with grace and no fighting. She can do better than him, let Jesse go back to the ugly strippers, Sandra can move on and do much better. It is sad that such a crapy event has to follow such a glorious event, now she has gained an oscar but lost a husband, as sad as it is, who knows maybe after she loses Jesse, a.k.a. the dead weight, she can go off and get another oscar. She is a great actress and I enjoy her films, Sandra everyone supports your decision as long as you are happy.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:37 pm | Report abuse |
  351. Brian

    Holy Hell, people. Is this what America has been reduced to? If you can't type out a complete sentence without texting acronyms, I really fear for you. Read what you wrote before you go posting it. It's ridiculous the amount of idiocy in the posts on here.

    It's lose, not loose. There's a significant difference between your and you're as well as their, there and they're.

    It pains me to try and read some of these responses...

    March 24, 2010 at 1:34 pm | Report abuse |
  352. Mark, Southern California

    What the real shame here is, these people are conditioned to go out with like persons. Famous, rich, etc... NONE of these people can handle a normal every day person. It's the damn fashion pet thing, can't have a dog or a cat you can't dress up and bling out. I'm not trying to say ANYONE deserves this to happen to them, not at all. But when you date and ego, you get arrogance and selfishness. They need to date outside the norm, not date managers, press agents, directors, writers, actors, investors millionairs, sprot talents, just meet someone at the mall or the coffee shop or the beach like we low lifes do. We seem to stay married for LONG stretches and we don't have more drama then how to pay the bills and how to get the honey do's done 😉
    I'm sorry for Sandra and Britney and all the otehrs but, look at what they marry!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:33 pm | Report abuse |
  353. Hank

    'Big Sigh' stole my thunder. These women who like these 'bad boys' will only get this kind of treatment. Its such a shame– she seems like such a nice lady, but 'the tiger never changes his stripes'. He's a four-lane trouble highway, coming at her at 90 MPH. I hope she dumps him quick before he does her more damage. Thank God she had no kids with him.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:30 pm | Report abuse |
  354. lil d

    omg leave the poor girl alone...and big sigh just because she choose a bad boy does not mean she deserves that kind of betrayal.....

    March 24, 2010 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
  355. Melissa

    Divorce is the only option here. She will never be able to go away to film another movie, without thinking that he's running around behind her back. I adore Sandra Bullock, she's the only actress I wish I could be like; I would hate to see her settle for someone that isn't commited to her.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
  356. bfr34

    What kills me is all of theses people on here saying "dear Sandra", and dispensing all of this advice like she is going to be reading this. Also people saying she is perfect and she is great. Maybe in the movies and in front of the camera she is all of these things but behind closed doors she may be a completly different person. There is no excuse for him to cheat on her, but please reserve all of your judgemental, self righteous indignation for some other topic. She is no different than any other PERSON, not just woman, who has been cheated on.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:26 pm | Report abuse |
  357. bob guerrero

    very good and self made person, just listen to all these in perfect people trying to give you advice,they cant keep there mouth shutfor one second. i garentee you that whoeveris out there with thier mouth open does not know one thing about life.if thesepeople had so much mentality they would be in your shoes,of course i mean all your talent , vercitility of a 68 year old married person. and theresnothing more than i would love to talk to you. like a father. sandra a blind person could tell your a very decent person. my wife and i would loe to talk on the phone ..

    March 24, 2010 at 1:21 pm | Report abuse |
  358. Yermo

    Bombshell McGee is WAY finer than skinny, sexless Sandra Bullock! The online videos showing her dancing are mind-boggling and drive me nuts. If the overweight women writing these inane comments had half her charm and beauty, they would be too busy to post such silly, one-sided comments.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:18 pm | Report abuse |
  359. Kari

    I agree with Sheree - the person that the husband/wife cheats with does know exactly what a HO they are. Further, isn't there a circle of Hell just for people like these? If not, there really should be.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:18 pm | Report abuse |
  360. milly rivera

    I believe that the more the subject is mentioned the more it will keep spreading, please give Ms. Bullock the space she needs to solve this problem. Whatever she decides its best to leave it alone. Ms. Bullock is a very gracious lady, talented and everything nice under the sun, I believe that what she needs now is our prayers and hope that everything turns out for the best. Bless you SANDRA BULLOCK, from all your fans in PUERTO RICO.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:18 pm | Report abuse |
  361. Josh

    If any of you know the history of Jesse James, you'll note the relationship with the stripper and the porn movies that were filmed in his shop. He has a history of living on the edge and non-mainstream activities.

    Did you really think he'd be all for "settling down" and living the picket fence life?

    That said, Ms. Bullock SEEMS the perky, talented, good girl but who of us really know her?

    Besides, if she really IS as she seems, then Jesse simply wanted some of what Sandra probably wouldn't be down for. Snort snort, bang bang, etc.

    Think beyond the characters she portrays in movies, actors and actresses have many more issues than you will ever see.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:17 pm | Report abuse |
  362. Elisa

    That is the whole problem - Sandra Bullock is a nice, girl next door – In the past, he gravitated towards the "nasty girl", and apparently still will. You can bet he knew he had something good, he just didn't have what it takes to live up to the challenge -

    March 24, 2010 at 1:14 pm | Report abuse |
  363. Tony

    Sandra seems like a good person and I hate seeing bad things happen to good people. Having said that, James was a lowlife when she married him and she should have seen that. Did she think she could fix this bad boy? It can't be a surprise to anyone that this happened. Once a lowlife creep . . .

    March 24, 2010 at 1:13 pm | Report abuse |
  364. CFn

    Jesse couldn't keep it in his pants if his life depended on it. And, you can bet he is no relation to the outlaw Jesse James as he claims. He's prevert, a liar and a thief.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:11 pm | Report abuse |
  365. JT

    I feel so sorry for Sandra...I hope you don't forgive the guy. Once a cheater...ALWAYS a cheater! that's a proven fact. I do agree however with some of the other comments about Sandra being naive in not seeing the major red flags with this guy. He definitely looks like he has ties to the Aryan nation, his former wife was a porn star, which he had kids with and he owns a bike much more red flags can there be..really. Having said all that...I can't help but feel for her because she seems like a class act.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:11 pm | Report abuse |
  366. Marie

    At Oscars when she was accepting the Oscar and they flashed on him, I thought he looked a bit sheepish, now I know why.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:11 pm | Report abuse |
  367. jediris73

    I have to agree with Bulloch. I think it's awful what happened to Sandra, she seems like a very down to earth person. However people to get cheated on everyday, I don't know why this is such HUGE news.

    We have more important issues in the world like the war in IRAQ, what's happening in Darfur, etc.

    Can CNN stop with the articles every second about Sandra & Jesse? Not only for the sake of giving her respect and some privacy during this difficult time, but also to report on more important issues that desperately need to be brought into the public eye.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  368. Sian Rose

    Why are we weighing in on Sandra Bullock's personal life when many of us can barely manage our own. I am writing this comment simple because I am sick of seeing and hearing about this; every day this week on CNN, Facebook, Twitter, and whatever other media outlet I visit or choose to read...
    People pay attention to your own lives and stop obsessing aout someone who does not even know you exist and simply wants to be left alone!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  369. Sheree

    Everyone should let Bullock and James handle this in their own way. It is obvious who is wrong, who is hurt and who needs to live in Siberia. Any woman who will engage in intimacy with another woman's husband knows exactly what a HO they are.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:09 pm | Report abuse |
  370. LannieC

    Again, it is TRASHY women who will have an affair with a married man. I thought you women had a universal agreement not to interfer with another womans marriage. Guess not. I also feel sorry for Sandra but she married a "Bad Boy" did she think he would suddenly be a Good Boy? Jessie is what he is........a low life who cares nothing about family. He was out of his class with Sandra and her friends. He had to get back with another low life to be able to function at his level.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:08 pm | Report abuse |
  371. cislou

    i love jesse and sandra together... AND if it is true he did do this then she needs to follow her heart. they compliment each other.. what if what is being said about jesse could be false.. or could be true however should not throw him under the train yet. that women could be starting thing because he could have said No to her... Noone knows.... Time will tell. Follow her heart... and the truth.. up to you .. no one else

    March 24, 2010 at 1:06 pm | Report abuse |
  372. Chuck2009

    She hooked up with James when he was married with his 8 month pregnant wife! Granted, his ex was an adult movie star, but that is the choice James makes when it comes to women! Just because Bullock is perceived as such a sweetheart does not mean he won't stray from her. After all, that is not what arouses him in the first place. If it seemed too romantic and like the best choice at the beginning, it eventually became too suffocating for him. He had to go back to his roots. They were a mismatched choice to come together as a couple. Bullock should've known better. James should've known better. Now they have to sleep in the bed they made together.

    March 24, 2010 at 1:05 pm | Report abuse |
  373. Ya

    It is unfortunate that this has happened to her. Although I must say that just because they are celebrities doesnt mean that stuff that happens to us or them is any different. We all put our pants on the same way. Women should NOT be surprised that men happen to take there pants OFF differntly. I have been propositioned many times by married men.....cant even count! It happens! Get over it! Some men just cant resist the urge of how we behave when we are stimulated & they want to be the one there to enjoy it. THEIR IMAGINATIONS GET THE BEST OF THEM ALL!!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:02 pm | Report abuse |
  374. Jim

    What I don't understand is why women such as Sandra keep gravitating to the "Bad Boys" like Jessie only later to be surprised when they "stray" – just what the #3!! did you think was going to happen! You hook up with a dog and they're going to behave like a dog. If you don't want to get hurt then don't play with a loaded weapon!

    March 24, 2010 at 1:02 pm | Report abuse |
  375. Kari

    For some people (not just men! - hello!), cheating is like a bowel movement. They have to do it. And they get the same satisfaction out of a BM as they do from having sex with people other than their spouses. (I'll leave it up to the individual to gauge their own "satisfaction" level with this one...)

    That said, it doesn't make cheating right.

    The one thing that I don't understand is why one either gets married or stays married if they want to sleep around? Knock yourself out with other people - go for it. But don't be a lowlife about it - either don't get married or get a divorce.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:58 pm | Report abuse |
  376. razor

    her own dam fault for marrying a loser, this is what happens, no one to blame but herself.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:57 pm | Report abuse |
  377. jujumn

    Sandra- you are lovely. Jesse- you are stupid. Your only saving grace in this fiasco is that you realized that you are stupid, and apologised. I believe that he has been in emotional turmoil over custody of Sunny, Sandra was out of town working, and he just couldn't handle being alone. It's not like Sandra could talk to him whenever he wanted her to-she was working. He should have respected that and supported her- she has certainly supported him during his TV shows, life threatening accidents, and btw in the endeavour to gain custody of Sunny If he couldn't stand the separation he should have flown out to see her.
    @Hypocrites...yes, we pretty much do know that she is as great as she seems- many people who have worked with her have come out in support of her and said what a great person she is..people she's dated, keanu reeves, hugh grant, betty white, donald trump, etc. I think that speaks to her character and the person she is. Not at all like your tiger woods example- his publicity camp made him look good, which was more than evident by ALL the people coming out of the woodwork to say what a jerk he truly is- golfers, caddies, writers, photographers- so many stories of his crass manners and behaviors..
    Go Sandy! you rock! If you leave him I hope that Sunny still continues to see you-I believe she is the hardest hit of all by this...

    March 24, 2010 at 12:56 pm | Report abuse |
  378. DIRTY BOY


    March 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  379. Luthier

    takes two to tango...

    March 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  380. Howard

    "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" Not necessarily. I cheated on my wife more than 35 years ago, and I've never cheated on her since then. Some men do learn from their mistakes.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  381. PK California

    Any man who cheats, isn't worth keeping. It's like trying to hang on to an old sock. It 's used and stinks!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  382. Earl

    A lot of women see nice guys as weak and tend to go for the `edgy' macho guys thinking that they can `paper train' these puppies after marriage. Doesn't happen and this is another example.
    The woman who was `shagging' Jesse was just putting another notch on her bed post and didn't care who she hurts in her bragging to the world about her escapades just so she could achieve a few minutes of fame and a few thousand bucks.
    As for Jesse, you are just plain dumb and selfish. Like an undisciplined child who thinks it is all about you. More like a `junk yard dog' who just has to hump any and every bitch in heat!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:54 pm | Report abuse |
  383. justathought

    A snake is a snake, no matter how many times he sheds his skin. You can say that she should have seen that and ran the other way. However.... millions of people make similar choices to be with someone despite their flaws. Regardless of his lack of self worth, feelings of insecurity, or even if she isn't perfect, no one deserves to be cheated on. Get divorced and move on if you don't find yourself feeling fully committed to someone.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:52 pm | Report abuse |
  384. Chuck2009

    Bullock shows very low self-esteem by not only choosing James for a husband, married and pregnant with his pornographic acting wife at the time of their hooking up, but also sticking by him even after all this hupla! If she stays with him, while it would be a very common choice, she can not possibly pressure him to change! He is who he is, wild, unconventional and downright dirty when it comes to what excites him. The good sweetheart of a wife concept is suffocating to him, even though in the beggining it probably seemed like a dream come true to him. So, Bullock has to suck up to her choice and deal with it. She's no exceptional when it comes to keeping a man from straying; if he's wired that way, he'll do it no matter who he's married to! And there is no way she did not know his temperament, by the previous choice of his women/wives!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:51 pm | Report abuse |
  385. Annie Hendricks

    Sandra appears to have a great deal of strength. She will go through the various emotions of hurt, anger, sadness, etc., but she will endure and realize Jessie's lack of discretion and opting for infedility was HIS FAULT and not because of something Sandra did or did not do. That excuse that some men and woman use- "You weren't paying me enough attention....." " didn't have time for me...." "...I was lonely...." doesn't cut it. Sandra, take care.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:50 pm | Report abuse |
  386. Andrea

    Teach Jesse James a lesson- you don't know what you got till its gone! These boots are made for walkin! He will keep up his disgusting ways until someone teaches him a lesson! This guy likes porn whores! He puts them ahead of his wife and his kids! What more do you need to know about him? 11months? The question is how many more are there? Have you checked his accounts to see if he has paid any other whores large lump sums of cash? To keep quiet?

    March 24, 2010 at 12:50 pm | Report abuse |
  387. al goguen

    I hope she divorced him and sent him packing as quickly as possible.
    He is scum. He did not only cheat once but a whole year. Don't feel sorry for him, he is just like Tiger, Me, Myself and I – it only shows when you carry a monster garage in front of you, the blood doesn't have the chance to reach your head.

    Al Goguen

    March 24, 2010 at 12:50 pm | Report abuse |
  388. Guest

    I agree completely with what 'Big Sigh' said above. I am finding it very hard to feel too sorry for Sandra Bullock. She knew this guy's history and life-style and character more than anyone else here. And still, she bowed down to his level and married him. If I didn't know anything else about the guy, the fact that he was married to a porn-star is enough to give me insight into his moral character and his tolerances as to what he finds as 'acceptable' behavior. You know the old saying..."If you lay down with dogs, you get fleas."

    March 24, 2010 at 12:49 pm | Report abuse |
  389. Bill Smith

    Maybe he just wanted some strange

    March 24, 2010 at 12:49 pm | Report abuse |
  390. Wendy

    He and this other woman seem more suited to each other. Sandy, you are such a classy and talented woman, I know it's hard right now but in the long run, you'll survive and find love again!! He doesn't deserve you anyway!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:48 pm | Report abuse |
  391. Chill people!

    All the press is just going to make Sandra look like a fool if she gives Jesse another chance. She ain't no fool. He blew it. End of story.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:48 pm | Report abuse |
  392. Charlotte

    After reading through some of the posts I felt the need to post. Jesse James could have said no...he did not...I do believe Michelle is a manipulative woman, she knew what she was doing despite what she claims. The expose' of their affair was timed to give her maximum exposure and humiliate the other parties. Thus also turning her into one of the most hated people right now. Jesse, if he was unhappy for any reason should have stepped up to the plate BEFORE stepping out. At least have the common courtesy (this does not mean he has integrity) to let your spouse know, no matter how painful it may be, that you are not happy or what ever you want to call it.

    Jesse married a class act, Sandra Bulloch has beauty and brains. Too bad he obviously can't handle the fact that he will never be the one in the spotlight (unless it's negative), too bad he could not appreciate what he had. And kudo's to Sandra for staying private and taking care of this in her own manner and time.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:47 pm | Report abuse |
  393. L.A. from SWATs

    Amen Fred! We only know the ACTRESS Sandra Bullock from what we see in the media. She could be a totally diffrent person behind closed doors; that doesn't means she deserves to have an unfaithful husband. But...I'm just saying.

    I do feel that if a person gets to a point where they decide to step out on a marriage they just need to end it. It was cowardly, immature, and unconscionable of JJ to do this to his wife but it doesn't make her perfect!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  394. Dawn

    I totally agree Nancy. She should be able to sue both Jesse and his mistress for endangering her health too.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  395. Dawn

    Sandra = all class
    Jesse= all ass

    He blew it. If you look up "stupid" in the dictionary you should find his picture.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:43 pm | Report abuse |
  396. gloria

    The reason men like Jesse James cheat is to boost their ego. It is very hard to be with someone as classy and beautiful as Sandra Bullock so he need some trashy low class ho to boost his ego and make him feel good about himself and boost his self-esteem. He knows she is too good for him, same thing with Christy Brinkleys husband.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:43 pm | Report abuse |
  397. Linda

    To make this short and sweet..... I have been the wife cheated on and it hurts.

    Sandra I think you are totally awesome, beautiful and talented... so my words to you are:


    Love and Hugs to my favorite actress ever

    March 24, 2010 at 12:42 pm | Report abuse |
  398. OMGWTH

    Wow! What is wrong with everyone writing to Sandra Bullock like she is reading this and taking notes?! She is a grown woman with more money and more advisors on this issue than anyone here so I'm sure these small anecdotal comments and advice columns are useless.

    Second, how in the world do you all know these people?! Because Sandra has wonderful gowns she has class? Because she puts out great movies she has class? SHE IS AN ACTRESS HENCE SHE SHOWS CLASS IN PUBLIC. And Jesse is garbage because?? Because he rides motorcycles and has tattoos? Or because he's been married a few times? How about how he fought for custody of his kids?

    As for meeting "Sandy" and saying that you can judge people, heck, I live in Miami and meet people all the time but it doesn't mean I know their life story.

    Spare us all the Oprah and Dr. Phil nonsense and let them sort out their issues without jumping to conclusions about what kind of people they REALLY are.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:41 pm | Report abuse |
  399. Man

    Women will never understand the insatiable sex drive of the male species. Men will never understand the true needs of women. Sandra appears to be the perfect woman, however, she did choose to marry a tattoo laden, motor head who was previously married to a porn star. Once women accept the fact that they cannot change men the divorce rate in this country may sink below 50%.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:41 pm | Report abuse |
  400. Andrea

    Jesse James doesn't love you...he only cares about what HE wants...does not give a damn about your needs or your kids...he is selfish. I know you have self respect and dignity- don't let this scum drag you down. I too have been cheated on, a couple of times, I dumped the cheaters immediately to maintain my dignity and self respect, and to teach my kids that you do not tolerate people treating you badly- especially cheaters- I have now been with my current husband for 9 years- he is the greatest! He truly loves me and my kids- thank goodness I kicked the cheaters to the curb- I would never have met my dream guy if not- everything happens for a reason! Pick yourself up- dust yourself off- get on with your life- you deserve the best as well as happiness- do you really want to worry for the rest of your days with him that he will do this again? He has a history- don't ignore it! You can't change people!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:40 pm | Report abuse |
  401. John

    cheating is no excuse, but maybe sandra simply didn't "put out"...

    March 24, 2010 at 12:40 pm | Report abuse |
  402. Yermo

    Jesse – No worries, you did the right thing, the manly approach. The reality of most celebrity relationships is that, after the endless junkets, events, premieres and charity events, the husbands are left far in the background. Don't believe Bullock's Academy Award comment for a second. She is a sharp operator who loves the money, power and limelight way more than any spouse. Jesse was simply lonely and acted on the same impulse of any man surrounded by beautiful women - and denied day-to-day companionship from a women supposedly committed to him.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:40 pm | Report abuse |
  403. FS

    I haved lived through what Sandra is living through. There is so much more emotionally that she is going through besides dealing with the infidelity. I will pray for you Sandra......You will be better for it later!!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:40 pm | Report abuse |
  404. Faithnmyheart

    To Hypocrites:

    You are correct that women can cheat just like men. What you state could be a possibility that we don't know what Bullock is like behind closed doors. We all don't know what it is like. His kids would know more on that situation. I don't believe he would've been given custody if it wasn't a stable environment. Although, his 1st wifes statement of Bullock is sort of a plus for Bullock. She had made a statement on how much of a great relationship Bullock has for the kids. That she wishes she had that bond that Bullock has a a mother figure.

    Bullock is a remarkable actress and as for her personal life she's done a great job being out of the public eye until James messed it up for her. She's always one to keep personal and bussiness issues separate. As for comparing her public image to Tigers, you can't make a statement w/o having the facts first. We have the facts on Tiger but nothing on Bullock. Tiger was the cheater not the victim. I am not saying Bullock is 100% perfect but until we hear otherwise we can't judge her at this time.

    While there are always two sides to a story . . . a person doesn't deserve to be cheated on by their spouse. There are other ways to solve problems in a relationship. But then sometimes it can be issues that is with the cheater/scumbag alone and not with their spouses. Maybe James didn't really love her. He obviously had a poor track record with his previous two marriages. Bullock must've saw something in him that she thought was "The Right Man". I wonder why his previous marriages failed? Some say it was adultery. I don't know but until facts are laid out on what made him turn to another woman we should just let them solve it themselves. It isn't any of our business. We can lend support but that's it!

    March 24, 2010 at 12:38 pm | Report abuse |
  405. annie f.

    Andy- good points. That said, there are people who are serial cheaters (men & women). People get conned by these types all the time.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:36 pm | Report abuse |
  406. annie f.

    Andy- good points. That said, there are people who are serial cheaters (men & women). People get conned by these types all the time.


    March 24, 2010 at 12:33 pm | Report abuse |
  407. Lauren Wescott

    He's a jerk! Sandra dump him and get on with you life.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:32 pm | Report abuse |
  408. Kathy

    Hey Sandra, move forward and have continued success without Jesse.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:29 pm | Report abuse |
  409. GoSharks

    Too bad this didn't happen sooner so that it could have been included on last week's Southpark...

    March 24, 2010 at 12:27 pm | Report abuse |
  410. rob

    Maybe Sandra was a "dead" lay and didn't provide Jesse anything at all.... Maybe he wants excitement in the bedroom not someone holding and staring at recent award trophies. Fact is Jesse has been with these porn, tatted up whores way before Sandra. It was a matter of time before he returned to it. Her Southern, good girl persona doesn't fit in with his dirty, no respect for women type attitude.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:27 pm | Report abuse |
  411. Alan

    There are always to sides to a coin!

    We don't have all the facts.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:25 pm | Report abuse |
  412. Wendy

    I, too can not understand why men can't be faithful. Especially in this case, Sandra is such a beautiful and classy woman. How can a man go from Prime Rib, to spam?

    March 24, 2010 at 12:25 pm | Report abuse |
  413. Val

    That's what she gets for marrying a neanderthal. That guy is not gonna stop going from one female to another. He's just an animal. You want a wild guy; you suffer the consequences.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:22 pm | Report abuse |
  414. Rlg

    It took Sandra Bullock a long time to fall in love and when she did what she thought was Prince Charming actually was a frog. He's a cheater and once a cheater(he's cheated before) always a cheater. She's better off without him as he can't be trusted no matter what he says.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:20 pm | Report abuse |
  415. JVM Fan

    There is a show called "Issues" that will talk about this tonight. Jane Velez-Mitchell is the host and she is a bit outspoken about this issue and is definitely on the side of Sandra B. Whether or not they will get a divorce...etc. I think there will be more on this show tonight.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:18 pm | Report abuse |
  416. Aintitthetruth

    Not one of us has the right or the knowledge of their personal relationship to judge. We don't even know all the details, as we shouldn't. Maybe she knew it was going on and was okay with it, some couples have open marriages, fetishes, etc. that they keep between themselves. Could be, the only reason she left is because his fling with the whore got out in the media and for her to save face she had to. Could be she was okay with it up to a point. Whatever the case, it's their business and their business alone. What I would like to know is when are these celebrities who go out and have sex with strippers and porn stars going to realize that those type of women are usually only looking for a quick large paycheck and they will sell their story to the first rag that will pay.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:16 pm | Report abuse |
  417. Beverly

    Dear Sandra, I support whatever decision you make regarding your marriage. You are one my favorite actresses and I'm really sorry you are having a tough time right now. Take care of yourself and best of luck.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:15 pm | Report abuse |
  418. mark

    Instead of asking why men are so terrible and never appreciate what they have perhaps the real question is why do these woman keep going for guys like him. I know lots of woman who married good guy's that were faithful and they're still happily married to this day. I also know plenty of women that married D-bags that ended up cheating on them in a big way. In all those cases the women pretty much knew full well what they were getting in to. There were more then enough warnings, and anyone with half a brain could have predicted that he would cheat any time the opportunity arrose and the only thing that would hold him back would be his chances of getting caught.
    Stop blaming "men" and start blaming yourselves. Why would Sandra Bullock even go for a sleaze bag that has tatoos all over his body and hangs out with bikers (who believe woman are property) regularily. He already married a porn star and that fell apart. Isn't that a bit of a warning? Who feels sorry for Sandra Bullock? She knew what she was getting so she has no right to act suprised now. I'm sure she'll go right back to him anyway. He looks like the kind of guy that like to evoke pitty to get women and I'm sure that's just what she's looking to give.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:12 pm | Report abuse |
  419. Orville

    These people do not live in the same world that you and I do. To them, their place in society come with privileges, one of which is the audacity to think they are better than anyone else and can behave badly with impunity – it's Hollywood. I believe the shocker for most people is that Sandra seems to be more transparent and more "like us," more like a "normal" person and the notion that "something like this" could happen to "someone like her" is a bit much to believe. Like so many before him, JJ either lost touch with who he really is or perhaps re-discovered himself if the fortune and fame turned him into a nice guy for a while. Either way he betrayed a trust, ceased to be an important part of someone's life therefore, and somehow decided that what he wanted was more important than all that. A pity.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:12 pm | Report abuse |
  420. Mark

    Nobody can just sit outside the bubble and judge either of them. Both of them have persona's that they have to protray to the public and then they have their home lives. While proejcting the "perfect lady" in public, no one knows what kind of woman she is to live with nor what kind of guy is really is. I think it's funny that so many people are even worried about it. Get a life people.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:10 pm | Report abuse |
  421. KeHo

    I never knew so many people lived in glass houses and didn't realize SO many people PERSONALLY knew Sandra Bullock so well.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:06 pm | Report abuse |
  422. Carol

    You'd think after Monica Lewinsky men would realize certain types of women will do anything for their 15 minutes. It's sad that she is being paid money and getting publicity for this. The saddest thing in this whole mess is the innocent child who must be not only hurt but terribly confused. A cheating spouse is bad enough and one who refuses to wear condoms when cheating is downright scary. The cheating is bad enough but to blatantly disregard the safety of others would be totally unforgiveable in my eyes. Poor, poor judgment! For that reason alone I'd never look back.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:05 pm | Report abuse |
  423. JAVA

    I have seen Monster Garage enough to wonder what the heck Sandra Bullock saw in this goof. Sandra, move on. You can do much, much better and find someone who will work hard to keep you happy.
    Lose him while you have the chance. ps: I'm single :-}

    March 24, 2010 at 12:04 pm | Report abuse |
  424. DRR

    I want to respond to all of these people who keep saying, "But Sandra is so beautiful!". First, I agree – she is a beautiful women. BUT beauty is really only skin deep. Just because someone, male or female, is attractive does not ensure that will be a good spouse. Now I, obviously, don't know Sandra Bullock one little bit, but I wish that people would stop creating a culture that says that if you are physically attractive that you are " a great catch".

    Finally, I hope it goes without saying, that I deplore what Mr. James has done and he is right – he deserves everything that is coming his way.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:04 pm | Report abuse |
  425. gina

    Run, Sandra,RUN.......

    The pain will go away, eventually.....but the suspicion never will.

    It is comparable to falling in love with a beautiful stained window: the colors, the shine ,the light.....then the wind comes,a cold ,howling wind that shatters the window into a million shards...

    You can put the shard together again and illude yourself that it never happened....but you know the cracks are there and they always will.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:04 pm | Report abuse |
  426. Nancy

    Engineer Bob asked if divorce were the only solution. I can't speak for another, but here's my take. The husband had unprotected sex over a long period of time with a woman who has had many tattoos and a legion of other lovers. This shows a complete lack of concern for his wife's very life and well-being. Wouldn't divorce seem not only appropriate, but the most logical course of action?

    March 24, 2010 at 12:02 pm | Report abuse |
  427. dickon1

    Sandra, I wish you the very best and can't wait to see your lovely smile on the screen again.

    March 24, 2010 at 12:02 pm | Report abuse |
  428. wb

    I feel for her, but all of us go throught this stuff. We can't walk away,
    take vacation, she should be glad she can. Who would have him abways, only for his money

    March 24, 2010 at 11:58 am | Report abuse |
  429. Fred Calandrelli

    I'm amazed at everyone's deep understanding of what goes on in the hearts and minds of two people they only know from movies and TV shows. NO ONE knows what goes on in other people's relationships or behind closed doors! Stop trying to build empathy in everyday (real) people for media created images.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:55 am | Report abuse |
  430. Mara

    I'm amazed at those of you who purport that it is somehow Sandra Bullock's (or any spouse who is cheated on) fault that her husband cheated. That's like saying a person who was murdered, raped or robbed was at fault. Some of you speculate tht she did not give him enough sex?! Some of you say love and sex and are not the same thing – duh... Loving someone means you have respect for that person. A cheater is just a self-centered, self-serving immature sleeze. Why make excuses for bad behavior that occurs in society? Perhaps today's standards of behavior throughout society would be higher if people were not so willing to make excuses for bad behavior. Suggesting that we should make excuses for someone who indulges themselves at the expense of another person – what does that say wabout your morals? We could all just behave badly and treat others terribly because there would always be excuses to behave that way. When you're an adult it's time to grow up and take responsibility for yourself and others! Strength of character is having the resolve to acknowlege life's tempttions, but resisting giving in to all of them in the moment because it is the right thing to do. Have some respect for your partner – want to screw around? Fine, get single first and go at it!!

    March 24, 2010 at 11:53 am | Report abuse |
  431. Conny Van Dyke

    A spouse's behavior ( his/her actions and reactions) is the responsibility of that same spouse. How perfect, wonderful or how extraordinary the other spouse may or may not be should not be judged by ANYONE.
    Marital misbehavior is no one's business but that of the couple. Curiosity is better spent when considering the furthering of peace and harmony in your own life and in that of the lives of those whom you love. Just sayin'.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:53 am | Report abuse |
  432. LaBellaLuna

    Opa March 24th, 2010 8:51 am ET

    Jesse James may have been insecure, bored, lonely or angry at the time. Bullock is accomplished and highly successful. The fetish model was stimulating at a time where he wanted to take chances or maybe just create excitement for himself. After all, he's in his wife's shadow and always will be. Some men can't handle this.
    Jesse James has been well known for years and has had TV shows, Monster Garage for one. And his affair with McGee has gone for 11 months – it wasn't a one night stand, so blaming insecurity, bordedom, loneliness or anger as the reason he cheated on his wife is not only unfounded, but tantamount to giving him a get out of jail free card. If he was that bored or angry or whatever for so long then he should have gotten out of the marriage 11 months ago.

    Shame on him and shame on you for making excuses on his behalf for his unexcusable behaviour.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:50 am | Report abuse |
  433. Patricia C

    Why is it everyone on earth supposes to know EXACTLY what someone ELSE should do in a given situation???? Let's all stick to our own experience here.
    While I can appreciate most of the comments here, I don't think we're qualified to be giving advice to Sandra, unless we're truly a friend of hers (as in, know her personally). Let's not forget that this was a marriage and whether his behavior is disgusting or not, she loves him and needs time to make her decisions.
    To Sandra: I cried when this story came out, my heart really breaks for you. You are a class act and I have nothing but respect for you. I trust that God is with you and will lead you to make the right decisions – in time. I am praying for you every day. To Jesse: Sorry for you, Jess, you really messed up here. Though you may not realize it now, I believe you are going to regret this more than you could have imagined. Best of luck to all involved here – it's just sad, sad, sad.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:47 am | Report abuse |
  434. SandraFan

    Sandra, wishing you the best in life. You are spectacular in so many ways. Of course we don't know you personally, but your personality shines through everything you do. Know that you have the support of millions around the world. You are a precious human being. Sending you a big hug.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:44 am | Report abuse |
  435. Mike Tully

    First off I agree what Jesse did was wrong, that this girls is a skank etc. What I really don't agree with is where Sandra was away by choice for up to 11 months out of a year and half or so. I don't know Sandra but I'm pretty certain neither do the rest of you who act like you do so please stop the fanboy/girl gushing stuff. Again, cheating is wrong but so is choosing a career over your marriage whether you are an accountant, fast-ffod manager or global movie star. Everybody has to work but there's a happy medium for everything.. if you don't work at your marriage for more than one month out of the year you are as bad a life partner as someone who cheats no matter what Oprah tells you. With that said, good luck Jesse and Sandra...hopefully it all works out for you in the end.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:40 am | Report abuse |
  436. Marny

    you lay with dogs, you're gonna get fleas...

    March 24, 2010 at 11:39 am | Report abuse |
  437. Kathleen

    Sandra, you are pure class and he does not deserve you! Why don't men ever evolve? Is it testosterone poisoning?

    March 24, 2010 at 11:36 am | Report abuse |
  438. my opinion

    Why is Sandra so perfect? You people need a life. She made her choice from someone who use to be married to a porn star. No one is perfect and we all have to live with the choices we make. She has tons of money so she will move on just fine.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:34 am | Report abuse |
  439. BillyL1234

    Melliphant worte:
    Truth is we don't know what really happen in the relationship. I have nothing but respect for Sandra Bullock, but what if Jesse felt ignored and discarded while Sandra was off making hit movies."

    No, we don't know. But the truth is, it doesn't matter. Her being off making movies is not nearly an excuse to go and have an affair. In fact, there is never an excuse. If you want to sleep around for whatever reason, get a divorce. When you're single you can sleep with as many people as you want. But let's not assume that Jessie was a victim here, because that's pretty damn insulting.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:32 am | Report abuse |
  440. Brian Riley

    It often irritates me when I read other people's comments, and see the idiots on the news (you know who you are) condemning a person for "allegations" they do not know is true or not true. Last night on Headline news, I was watching CNN Headline News, and all I could hear is that Jesse James is a bad boy, and bad boys can not be trusted, and that Sandra Bullock should dump him. Then I see a caption saying that sources are saying that they both have lawyered up. Then the next caption says that Bullock's reps say that she hasn't. People, people, people, can we get the facts straight before putting them on the air? Must the news create controversy all the time? And really, is all of this anyon'e business outside of Jesse and Sandra? Everyone needs to get a life. All we have heard is the woman saying that she had an 11 month affair with Jesse, and people are upset because Jesse James hasn't commented on it yet. Have you people ever though... maybe it's none of our business what goes on in their personal lives? Would we want everyone in America to know our personal, especially hurtful business? The answer to that (unless you are a complete drama queen), is "NO!" Screw you news people, and your so called experts. What do they have an expertise in... gossiping? Get real. Get a life. Get another job. Humanity does not need people like you.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:31 am | Report abuse |
  441. carol kesling

    @ christy... well said. he didn't "have her back",he had someone else on their back instead !!!!! what a JERK !!!

    March 24, 2010 at 11:13 am | Report abuse |
  442. carol kesling

    sandra is and allways will be one of my favorite actresses'. i hate to see her hurt so much !!! she is trully a lovely person..take care and god bless !!

    March 24, 2010 at 11:09 am | Report abuse |

    pls pls and pls, lets stop making noise out of nothing, has sandra investigated the matter, the lady in questn is mentally derilled so sandra should't take her serious or she shld jus hav it in mind that the lady jus want to be heard and make news head lines.

    sandra jus pls go about ur normal business, y cancelling shows bcos of that ? u really amuse me.

    anyway here in africa our men are so bad that they bring their mistresses to their matrimonial homes and if u complian, ur parents will only ask if he beats u; can u imagine that

    forgive him, give him second chance, i hav always respected u, pls 4give him for wht he did

    March 24, 2010 at 11:07 am | Report abuse |
  444. Melliphant

    Truth is we don't know what really happen in the relationship. I have nothing but respect for Sandra Bullock, but what if Jesse felt ignored and discarded while Sandra was off making hit movies. I truly believe that Jesse is also a good guy at heart and I wouldn't be surprise of the two them work it out.

    March 24, 2010 at 11:00 am | Report abuse |
  445. mari

    I hope that Sandra closes this door fast. That she heals fast and doesn't let this terrible thing that she is the victim of does not waste any of her precious life. That is the worst thing. When someone is a victim and then gets stuck in pain. She is so worthy of happiness and love not this shit.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:57 am | Report abuse |
  446. A Hunter

    Sandy, was just desperate after dating gay hollywood. Anything looks manly , and tempting once you have dated MM, and other hollywierd types.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:55 am | Report abuse |
  447. christy

    Sandra, follow your what is going to make you happy and bring you comfort when everything is quiet. You are beautiful and such a class act. I am sorry to see that Jesse didnt "have your back" like you believed....his loss indeed.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:50 am | Report abuse |
  448. darlene d

    I think he's just not use to being with a decent, kind woman. He's use to trashy women and that McGee broad looks the part. I blame her the most. A man will go as far as a woman allows him to so she was ready, willing and able to do harm to his marriage. He was stupid enough to allow it to happen. Hope she gets rid of him soon!

    March 24, 2010 at 10:23 am | Report abuse |
  449. Jenn

    I hope this is not true. This girl can CLAIM what ever she wants to. She met James to do modeling work for his business. He says most of her claims are not true at all, it would be nice if that were the case. It's CLEAR she is looking for an opportunity to get any kind of press. I hope her claims will be checked under a microscope including the txts as they can be fabricated. If she is not telling the truth, I hope some kind of charges are brought against her for her false claims. If it turns out to be true, I hope everyone will support what ever his wife wants to do about the relationship. Most of all, it's private pain. I wish they would just leave her alone. I know the tabloids won't, but it would be nice if they did.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:15 am | Report abuse |
  450. Andy

    The public perception of Sandra's troubles puts Jesse in a bad light. In all fairness, in most cases infidelity has its roots associated with problems stemming from both husband AND wife. Jesse certainly took a wrong turn and his act was emotionally and moraly wrong. But. I'm sure he did it to fill a void that was missing in his life. Any actress that achieves an academy award, in part, received it because of tremendous personal sacrifice and commitment to career and work. Such sacrifice often puts a strain on a partner's insecurities and other emotional needs which can easily lead to infidelity.

    Often, the simple lack of communication of how each spouse may feel about their emotional environment can lead to social problems and eventual divorce.

    It will be interesting if we ever get to hear Jesse's side of the story.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:14 am | Report abuse |
  451. Pat in Texas

    Why would Jesse do this to Sandra?.....because there are scuzzy, trashy women who will open their "options" to men in order to get what they want and men, including Jesse are too weak to say no. I'm not sticking up for him but if Sandra really, really loves him, I would fight to keep him up would be the easy thing to do. And if Jesse is the real man he seems to be, he will do everything to make it up to her...........just saying.

    March 24, 2010 at 10:07 am | Report abuse |
  452. Matt

    Do any of guys claiming that shes the sweetest person actually know that? You guys have no idea what shes like behind closed doors, so don't sit there and claim shes the sweetest person, shes amazing and yada yada.. Shes an amazing actress yes, does she come off as sweet girl, sure.. Did she deserve what happened, absolutely not, but no girl does.. Jesse James is an idiot for what he messed up, shes beautiful.. If he doesn't already, he'll regret it sooner or later..

    March 24, 2010 at 10:04 am | Report abuse |
  453. Ron

    Its possible she did not have enough sex with him, and he has a very high drive, why else would he go after such nasty looking mates?

    March 24, 2010 at 10:02 am | Report abuse |
  454. michelle

    everybody can have an opinion, but nobody knows what you are going through but YOU. Stay strong.... take care of YOU, and do whats best for YOU and your marriage.. people can say what they want.. But ultimately you have to either love him or leave him. Stay beautiful!!

    March 24, 2010 at 10:01 am | Report abuse |
  455. Nancy

    I hope they can work things out, it never easy but it's truly their business not the publics.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:58 am | Report abuse |
  456. Liz

    Jesse was one those "bad boys". They always intrigue women. But they are called bad boys for a reason......cuz they are bad...they do bad things and they do not make good husbands. I was married to one. I know. You can be good as gold, but bad boys are still bad. We think if we get a bad boy to love us he'll change and be different. But that's not reality. So sad.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:58 am | Report abuse |
  457. suzy diamond

    Well, if she hasn't met with lawyers she should! Sandra is his 3rd wife. This guy (Jesse) has a pattern and it's not good. I don't see him changing anytime soon especially at 40yrs old. She could do much better. He's even ruined her Oscar winning celebrations! Please Sandra GET RID OF HIM!

    March 24, 2010 at 9:55 am | Report abuse |
  458. David E.

    Hey Sandra, as a man I can tell he is a jerk without class. Move on and never look back..

    March 24, 2010 at 9:55 am | Report abuse |
  459. Prophet

    If they love each other this is nothing. Sex and love are not the same as many here seem to imply. Yeah, Jesse was a bad boy. Did anyone think he was mister Rogers? I doubt he loves tattoo lady. I'd bet he loves Sandra Bullock. When a guy like Jesse loves a woman its a powerful thing. It may not be all smooth and quiet but if you can hang on to it your life will be an exciting ride. Its like a bored out, raked, souped up chopper . Besides, fairy tales are boring.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:52 am | Report abuse |
  460. kathy

    Dear Sandra
    You are an amazing women. I am so sorry that you have to endure this terrible situation.
    I don't know you, only what I see of you in movies and interviews, but you seem like such a wonderfully sweet and kind person.
    This is going to be a tough time in your life, but keep your head up and keep you grace and dignity.
    Whatever you decide of your marriage is your personal business, not no one else. Keep strong. Remember I am a huge fan, I will pray for you and your marriage. I am sending you a gigantic motherly hug. Keep your chin up sweetie and God Bless you..Kathy S.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:52 am | Report abuse |
  461. Mar

    Dear Sandra,
    Please take a good long look in the mirror. You will see a beautiful woman who has done incredible things and this is just a detour in your in your highway to life. I went thru something similiar and all I can tell you is I decided not to go back because if they do it once most likely it will happen again. I then looked at my new found freedom and decided to enjoy life as a single women with character. I went out with friends and kept busy . Think but do not dwell on this to long . You are not the first and you will be the last that this happens to but no on can take away from you that you are a great women. Keep your head up high it was his loss. ps I met someone 6 months later who I ended up marrying. You never know what is around the corner. Keep God in your heart and let him lead you to the right decision.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:51 am | Report abuse |
  462. Davee

    It's devastating to be betrayed, and is only magnified when a person is a celebrity. None of us really know the celebrities we read about and watch or follow; however, there are a few whom we feel are genuine, kind, gracious, and appreciative. Sandra projects that kind of sparkling image, and is one of the few celebrities I would want my children to look up to.
    As my aunt told me once, "true character is revealed in adversity." I believe Sandra will gracefully maneuver this difficult period and we will see her shining more brightly than ever in the future.
    As far as why some people choose infidelity when they have a successful and wonderful partner, my theory is that some people have such a low self image and do not believe they deserve such a gift that they ultimately turn to someone they believe is more damaged than they are. Somehow, it helps them to finally feel "superior" in a relationship.
    Selfish, needy, and sad, wow, what we humans do to each other.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:49 am | Report abuse |
  463. CW

    While you may never ever see this post maybe a friend of family member will pass it on........Sandra there are 2 books you need to pass to Jesse. Every Man's Battle and Every Man's Marriage (I've been there done that!!) . I'd suggest to any guy wanting to stray or revert to internet stuff to read those!!! Not sure if there are similar books for women.

    I don't know all the details but it seems to pretty clear to me that the tattooed fugly is only out for PR and to reap the benefits of air time. Loser, plain and simple.

    Whether you forgive him or not is clearly no ones business but yours, but again I HIGHLY suggest that you have Jesse read those books!!! Yes we are human and oh yes do we make mistakes; but that doesn't mean we can't be proactive to prevent future repeats.

    Nonetheless find your faith, keep your family close, and if you really have to completely forgive or there will be no forward momentum. God Bless

    March 24, 2010 at 9:47 am | Report abuse |
  464. vvg

    My heart goes out to you. I'm not a famous star like you but I know what you are going through i aslo was hurt but I came to find out 29yrs laterthat he had a mistress my life was a lie for a very very long time. so yes i know what your are going through. You feel like you were robbed; lost; confused; used, thinking if you ever knew the man and you also feel like a fool. But look in the mirror and tell that woman you love her, she smart classy and beautiful and know one will ever hurt you like that again.
    Pray to God to give you strength to move forward this should also pass we live in chapters. Turn the page and keep looking forward. Please don't abandon jessie little girl she has no fault.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:46 am | Report abuse |
  465. CitizenUSA

    One other thing, she should make her decision before additional information is made public that would further humiliate her. Timing is everything and that is one thing she does have control over in this entire mess.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:45 am | Report abuse |
  466. Hypocrites

    First of all, Victoria, it's not as if there aren't women who have cheated on their husbands. This isn't a male-female thing. It is an integrity-scumbag thing. Second of all, how do you know she is perfect? Behind closed doors, she might be a nightmare. That doesn't justify what he did. If he wanted to have sex with someone else, he should have gotten a divorce first. But for all we know, Sandra's friendly, public image is all a lie (see Tiger Woods for example).

    March 24, 2010 at 9:43 am | Report abuse |
  467. lebo

    fine what he did is bad enough, but you dont need the media sensationalizing your issues. do what any clever woman would do work on your marriage with your husband. nobody's perfect. dont leave you man because of pressure from people who think they know much about marriage. i for one am not married but i have seen a lot of people make mistakes because they listened to their so called "friends' advice."

    March 24, 2010 at 9:42 am | Report abuse |
  468. CitizenUSA

    I do hope that Sandra doesn't follow in the footsteps of other recently betrayed women. She needs to have pride and strength and walk away from this two-faced loser.

    "Stand By Your Man" is an ignorant outdated concept probably authored by a man.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:41 am | Report abuse |
  469. Dennis

    Dear Sandra: I understand that this is a very personal issue for you. My only hope for you is that you are able to sort through all the rumors and speculation to get to the truth and deal with that accordingly. You show so much grace under fire so keep it up and know that you are supported by many.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:41 am | Report abuse |
  470. xjdavid

    I just want to know, is it true that James left his first wife for Bullock when his wife was 7 months pregnant? I read that and I just want to know if that's true.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:41 am | Report abuse |
  471. Kimberly

    There is no such word as "supposively"

    March 24, 2010 at 9:40 am | Report abuse |
  472. jjh

    I feel so bad for Sandra, but there are a multitude of dimensions to this we will never know. While I will never condone a man cheating on his wife, I am reluctant to place blame in this situation because I am not privy to all the details.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:39 am | Report abuse |
  473. Tina C

    Doesn't seem to me that these two had a chance. He always looks dirty, and Sandra is an angel. She didn't deserve this at all. That dirty model he was with is his level, scum.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:38 am | Report abuse |
  474. Anna

    It's astonishing that he allowed her to stand at the podium of every awards show and rave about how much she loved him and how supportive he was. My heart goes out to her. Guys, if you want to do someone else, man up and leave first.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:38 am | Report abuse |
  475. T Capria

    Dude, what were you thinking....class act or classless trol.....

    March 24, 2010 at 9:38 am | Report abuse |
  476. Margaret


    You are beautiful and nice with alot of class. Jesse James is a first class jerk with no class no education, DUMP HIM!!

    March 24, 2010 at 9:33 am | Report abuse |
  477. jgmdgo

    mbsoho – I have had the distinct pleasure of meeting Sandy once (and yes, she asked me to please call her Sandy, not 'Ms Bullock'). In that case at least, I believe that you can indeed tell much about a person from a short meeting.

    She is charming, down to earth, self-depricating and just plain fun to be around. As a male, I think the man is a fool not to have realized what a prize he had and let go.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:32 am | Report abuse |
  478. Big Sigh

    I wish people would stop putting Sandra Bullock on a pedestal, making her an innocent, all-too-perfect saint. She's not. She did not consider the obvious fact that Jesse James is a loser. Fact: He married a pornographic actress, and had a child with that woman. Fact: He has shady business dealings and associations. Fact: His disregard for the law captured the ire of the State of California Environmental Protection Agency to the tune of $270,000 in fines. There are indications of ties with the Aryan Brotherhood and White Power organizations. If this isn't gigantic red flag to anyone with more than 90 IQ points, I don't know what is. In my view, she is more to blame than Jesse James. She was drawn to his "bad boy" image... did she not expect him to live up to it at some point? Did she think she was going to change his fundamental nature? One can't blame Jesse James for being what he is. But one can blame Sandra Bullock for being a gigantic idiot.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:30 am | Report abuse |
  479. Christy question is...why have dog food when you have a beautiful and wonderful wife that has stood by her man and helped him in his custody issues? This other woman is proving to be just as hideous inside as she looks on the outside. If I were that woman, I would get on my knees and beg for forgiveness..find a hole and never come out. She never cared if Jesse was married or not. She doesn't love him. She just wants to prostitute her name and get her 15 minutes of fame.

    If that is what "having your back" need to drop him like yesterday's garbage and move on.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:29 am | Report abuse |
  480. Joanna

    Sandra Bullock didn't have children with Jesse. He has 3 children from previous marriages that she loved and treated as her own.

    She is an all-around classy and gorgeous person, inside and out. She is sweet, talented, funny, and obviously beautiful, and Jesse has thrown it all away for some over tattooed slut.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:28 am | Report abuse |
  481. ray jeffrey

    She could do better.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:26 am | Report abuse |
  482. giny

    Give it a break people, cheat all the time. We do not know anything about their lives. Maybe she is a bitch in real life and deserved that oscar for being a great actress. If the media and gossipy people will just stay out of it maybe they can work it out or move on. Either way it is between them.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:22 am | Report abuse |
  483. Bulloch

    Who cares about this? Funny how US Soldiers dying from IED's gets 30 seconds but Sandra Bullock's half-wit husband gets a week's worth of coverage.
    You can't expect to marry someone like JJ and get Ward Cleaver. I'm amazed that ANYONE is surprised by this.
    PS, people get married, cheated on and divorced every day, so why's this news?

    March 24, 2010 at 9:22 am | Report abuse |
  484. Kathy

    You know .............. When Sandra married Jesse I thought it was the strangest thing. But as the years went by I thought maybe I was wrong to judge. I remember watching Jesse's show when it first hit the air waves years ago. I didn't like him then and had just started to think I had judged him wrong. Sandra gave him class, but apparently that class was just skin deep. He's still the same on the inside. Poor Sandra, she's a classy lady, she'll come out on top when this all blows over. Hang in there Sandra! We've all "got your back!"

    March 24, 2010 at 9:20 am | Report abuse |
  485. jeanne

    go out...look fabulous...don;t answer anyones questions pertaining to your personnal's none of our business.....scru him and not let him have a penny of your money....get the fastest darn divorce ever granted to a human....then start dating a younger male model and have a great physical relationship.....and move on......

    March 24, 2010 at 9:19 am | Report abuse |
  486. calvin

    Sandra is a class act. She is a very talented actress whom seems very real. She is not superficial like most actors and actresses. It is very sad that this has happened to her. At the Academy Awards you could see how much she Loved Jesse. I pray that God will bless and help her. I pray that God will help Jesse.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:18 am | Report abuse |
  487. Ellorysgirl

    No, Sandra and Jesse do not have any children together. He has a couple from a former marriage.

    Sandra, you're doing the right thing. Weigh the goods and bads, and do what your heart and head tell you. Best wishes, whatever you do.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:15 am | Report abuse |
  488. Jo

    My best to you and your familly. During this most painful time, may you have peace and confidence to face the future. No one has a right to intrude in your personal life. I truly hope that the media and public allow you to have privacy.

    From what you have allowed us to see, you move through life with grace. Thank you for the glimpse and inspiration. May we inspire you by giving you privacy.

    Best wishes

    March 24, 2010 at 9:13 am | Report abuse |
  489. David L

    Jesse James must be the stupidest man on Planet Earth for what he did. Having said that, however, I have to wonder about any woman who sees "biker dude, covered in tattoos and formerly married to porn star" and still can't tell a giant orange marital traffic cone when she sees one. Sandra: learn to spot a warning sign or pull over and let someone else drive!

    March 24, 2010 at 9:07 am | Report abuse |
  490. Terri

    EWE!!!!! OMG that creature is disguesting, and only hoping to make a quick buck. As far as Jesse goes, he's a man pig!!! I will never watch another show of his again. Sandra Bullock is a class act. I would be afraid to touch him with a 10 foot pool. It happened to me and trust me some can forgive, but YOU NEVER EVER FORGET.......I couldn't even stand the sight of him. My engagement ring was thrown in the ocean. END OF STORY. She is fine on her own. Drop him Sandy!!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 9:06 am | Report abuse |
  491. Engineer Bob. K

    I have heard all that and good thing i have been married for a long time. James messed up but b4 we crucify James, is Sandra that perfect!!! i mean she is a nice person, kind, rich etc etc but doesn't she have her faults also!!! Is James totally the only person to blame! an affair going on this long means there is a breakage somewhere, and by the way before we pass judgment, let he who has never sinned be the first to throw a stone. And Sandra do you think divorce is the only solution here!!!!

    March 24, 2010 at 9:06 am | Report abuse |
  492. Azcowboy

    Jesse definitely married out of his league. As my friends remind me in regards to my wife, "I married up." Before we were married, she gave me 3 Rules. 1. Don't leave me at home. 2. Don't give me orders.
    3. I don't share and I am not referring to separate checking accounts.

    Ms. Bullock is the only fantasy that I am allowed to openly discuss with her, because at 66 yrs. old I wouldn't stand a chance, even tho I am a handsome devil for my age.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:05 am | Report abuse |
  493. carol

    Men are programmed to impregnate the world? What a bs excuse. A man's need to procreate is not a defense for behavior that hurts women and children. When Jesse made his decision he was being totally selfish. He wasn't thinking about a wife that so obviously loved and trusted him and he certainly wasn't thinking about his children and their role models. This may have been Sunny's only chance to turn out more like Sandra and for her to be less likely to model her life after the tattooed porn stars who occupy Jesse's default position.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:04 am | Report abuse |
  494. maggie

    I'm so sorry that this has happened to such a class woman. It hurts, no matter who it happens to. I hope Sandra will follow her heart and do what makes her happy. My prayers are with her, and the three children that are also impacted by the stupid things Jesse James has done. Sandra was probably the best thing that has happened to them in their lives; a stable, loving Mother. Shame on you, Jesse! Thinking only of yourself, as a lot of people do.

    March 24, 2010 at 9:03 am | Report abuse |
  495. Rachel

    He is lucky to be even looked at???? he should be ashmed really ashmed as what he is doing to his kids the idiot.....A CHEATER IS ALWAYS A CHEATER. I don't care who says what but he will never change like what he was with the first wife and we all knew who she was like this other idiot that he's having an affair with.... they are both idiots and deserve each other. Sandra should leave this guy and run for her money as he is NOT WORTH looking at or ew living with grossssssssssssssssss – he is discusting.........

    March 24, 2010 at 9:03 am | Report abuse |
  496. nicuribe

    Sandra Bullock = class
    Jesse James = brass
    Michelle McGee = ass

    March 24, 2010 at 8:57 am | Report abuse |
  497. Ballz

    The poor woman looks like she is tired of being under a microscope. With any luck Jesse's Trash Garage show, or whatever its called will fail and go off the air and take him into obscurity. Then he can boink trashy women everyday.
    I used to like his motorcycles too....what a dope
    Like the doctor says, " a bit of strange a day makes the wife go away"

    March 24, 2010 at 8:55 am | Report abuse |
  498. Opa

    Jesse James may have been insecure, bored, lonely or angry at the time. Bullock is accomplished and highly successful. The fetish model was stimulating at a time where he wanted to take chances or maybe just create excitement for himself. After all, he's in his wife's shadow and always will be. Some men can't handle this.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:51 am | Report abuse |
  499. Tee

    Sandra we are all praying for you. Do what is in your heart. Some day you will forgive Jesse.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:50 am | Report abuse |
  500. mbsoho

    Sandra, I have never met you, but from all that I have heard and seen, you are a very nice person that did not deserve to be wronged by your husband. I hope that you get through all of this without becoming a victim of the tabloid press and that you manage to keep your dignity and mental well being intact. You deserrve more from people than you have received. My thoughts are with you for a successful and happy future.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:35 am | Report abuse |
  501. Yakub

    Did sandra bullock has a child with james

    March 24, 2010 at 8:26 am | Report abuse |
  502. Tina

    I can't believe Jesse James did that?!?!?!Especially with that creature!
    Sandra, I wish I could give you a hug.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:24 am | Report abuse |
  503. PJ

    She is much better off without that jerk. He is not only quite ugly, he seems piggy while she is a class act.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:12 am | Report abuse |
  504. Victoria Wintterle

    I don't understand why some men can't stay satisified with the only perfect thing they have. Sandra Bullock is beautiful, talented, and most likely the best thing Mr. James would ever find. There is no comparison to her and the other women he's supposively been unfaithful with. If she doesn't forgive him, I don't balme her. He should be ashamed. Sandra has such a great and rare personality. I know she won't let this get her down. In the end, this will make her stronger. I support whatever her decision is. Now it's time that the media gives her peace. Her tragedy shouldn't be a news story. She's just another person that happens to be amazing at what she does. Dear Sandra, you're an amazing woman, you'll get through this. This too will pass.

    March 24, 2010 at 8:05 am | Report abuse |

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