If you've been following the trail John Mayer's potty mouth has left all over the Web today, you've learned a few things.
You now know that Jessica Simpson was his addiction, and you also know that he regrets ending his relationship with Jennifer Aniston, but hey, he's 32.
What you may not know - if you have yet to surf over to a particular magazine's Web site - is that Mayer unleashed quite a few racially sensitive remarks, with one of them using the "n" word.
That comment is just one of the many that have started a social media backlash of sorts against Mayer, and he has since apologized via Twitter.
Around 4:50 p.m. Wednesday, hours after news first broke of his interview, Mayer tweeted, " Re: using the 'N word' in an interview: I am sorry that I used the word. And it's such a shame that I did because the point I was trying to make was in the exact opposite spirit of the word itself."
Mayer added that "It was arrogant of me to think I could intellectualize using it, because I realize that there's no intellectualizing a word that is so emotionally charged."
After a bit of rumination, Mayer once again took to Twitter - the same social media site that allegedly was a point of tension in his relationship with Aniston - and said around 5:15 p.m., "And while I'm using today for looking at myself under harsh light, I think it's time to stop trying to be so raw in interviews."
"It started as an attempt to not let the waves of criticism get to me, but it's gotten out of hand and I've created somewhat of a monster," he tweeted. "I wanted to be a blues guitar player. And a singer. And a songwriter. Not a shock jock. I don't have the stomach for it. Again, because I don't want anyone to think I'm equivocating: I should have never said the word and I will never say it again."
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Actions speak loudly that words. Stop your senseless talking and start showing the world, especially women, more compassion and respect.
Grow up John. It's not too late to find the real man inside of your juvenile self.
Any apology via Twitter is really lame. When will people learn that dropping the n word cannot bring anything good to them.
I think he acts this way because it's expected of him. When he started out he wasn't like this at all. I think deep down he's a decent person, he just got caught up in all the media attention and ran with it. He ran the wrong way, but hopefully he's realized it. We have all done stupid things, he's just in the media light so everyone gets to know about it.
Think what you want, it's a free country. If you don't like someone's album don't buy it. If you don't like what they say in an interview, don't read it or listen to it. It's your choice.
None of us posting here truly knows John Mayer, so again you have the choice of letting him ruin your life, or you can simply get a life and choose to ignore him.
I thought the only person to arouse John Mayor is his own voice....or his own hand....
To Linnet: Your observation is probably so SPOT ON that it will be misunderstood by many readers. This controversy WON'T have any legs in 25-50 years. The anger regarding the use, misuse and abuse connected with this word will forgotten by then. In other words, much of that angst surrounding this issue has it's foundation in generational points of view. Older people, black and white, conservative and liberal, are more sensitive because they still have certain images and imageries in their minds. Younger generations, also straddling racial and political groups have trivialized, minimized and downplayed the import and impact because of "hazy" imagery or not having a clue. This will die, slowly. Thank goodness.
I have been a fan of John Mayer since he came on the scene. I've seen him in concert numerous times and he his without a doubt, extremely talented.
But over the last few years it seems as if it's all going to his head. While I don't believe what you read in magazines is the "real" story, when he himself starts blabbing about past girlfriends, what he does in his spare time with his penis, who cares John? If you truly want to just play your guitar and write music, then do it! And keep your mouth shut, we are losing respect for you! Wean yourself off of twitter and interviews and go back to John the muscian!
So all this was an attempt to be "clever"? Epic fail! This guy tries so hard to sound smart because he knows exactly what he is: a completely average man in ALL ways except he has an IQ of about 90.
Let's be real here–no one really uses words like honkey, cracker, or whitey unless they wear bell bottoms, platforms and massive sideburns. Those words are ridiculous and totally 1970s and most people here know that. Get a grip and stop watching old reruns!
And I would also venture to say, I'm sure John Lennon had ulterior motives for using that word in his lyrics. The motive; bring attention to his song using that word during a time period when people died over it. Why "that" word and not the many others that could have been used to get the same point across? Because that word got him the wanted attention that the others couldn't. So, though he was a civil rights activist, even he hijacked the word and used it for his own selfish gain.
Donn: perhaps that word has a different meaning to YOU, but ask the average black person if they believe the word has been stripped of it's "complexion connotation" and I'm sure you'll be brought back to reality quite fast. And the fact that it is "now used", in this day, age, millenium is, in itself a problem. I, as a black man, do not use the word, in any form. And just because you believe it has a different meaning today, does not change the hurt and anger it conjures up anytime I hear it.
He just lost me as a fan!
I meant white supremacist
As a black person I didn't find John Mayer's use of the "N" word as offensive as it was just inappropriate and not thought out. I understand what he was trying to say, but he didn't say it and so he should have just left it off.
As a black woman though I wonder if he understands what a racist or white supremist thinks of other races. It brings to mind the words: hate, disgust, repulse. And if that's the way he really feels that's cool but why verbalize it? Take it easy on us, we have enough going on. I also think John Mayer's constant jibber jabbering is quite possibly a call for help.
Ummm, Hello. This isn't about "Black people using this word". It's about an arrogant, shallow, marginally talented white man using it. And all those who started their comments out with such a reference should have just ended their comments there because everything that followed was just "blah blah, blah blah blah blah.....". Once and for all, the reason white people can't use this word is simple: white people came up with the word to negatively describe black people. Just as you never get to make a second impression, sorry, white people can't possibly believe that this word coming out of their mouths in any way, shape, or form will EVER be viewed any differently than the way it was used from it's inception.
As for John Mayer, D-List artist who's mouth grossly overshadows the little talent he possesses.
Please stop saying "African-American" unless you actually are a dual citizen with an African nation, and even then it would be "Ugandan-American", etc. Besides, why not "Haitian-American" or "Jamaican-American"? And most of you PC crazy fools are also Darwinians, so you should "know" we are all "evolved" from the same African monkeys so we are ALL "African Americans". Geeze – its called "American" and if you insist on separating people by ancestry or color of skin then you are a racist.
When John Lennon announced in his well known song that "woman is the nigger of the world" we were a bit shocked...but black and white and all the wonderful varieties, most of us knew what he was communicating. John was a well known civil rights advocate as are most of the people who, while hating the origin of this word, also understand that it is now used differently and should now never have a complexion connotation....my former friends on the court called me this word all the time and I considered it a form of endearment, a compliment.....which of course it was.
Words are only as powerful as we allow them to be....we define them. Lets all get together and fight the real forms of prejudice right now!!
BTW- John Lennon was right and we still have work to do there too.
If we want we can get it. I wonder what frank Zappa would say????
Whenever these issues arise, I am truly sick and tired of the lot of those of you who love to state that the vast majority of blacks eagerly embrace and use the derogatory N word. I have never used it nor condoned its use by anyone and never will. I have also heard numerous intelligent blacks denouncing the word but their voices and concerns are rarely, if ever, relayed by the mainstream biased media which prefer to report the rants of rap artists and other entertainers in such a way as if their so called 'positive spin' on the word accurately reflect all blacks' feelings. I am just as mad at John Mayer as I am at rap artists and anyone else who use the word.
Black people have made the word "n--" as common as drinking a glass of water. There is actually a website (can't remember the name) dedicated to stopping the use of that word. They use it so much that the younger generation of white kids use it almost as much as black kids. Everyone (mostly black people) need to realize that this word was built on hate and they should take a personal look at their contribution to the word becoming as american as apple pie. Don't get mad when you hear a white person say it! Rejoice in the fact that black people are 99% responsible for keeping the tradition alive and well and passing it down to your children who in turn are sharing this loving term of endearment to a whole new generation of white kids. I'm white with bi-racial children who were forbidden to say the word in my house. I know they use it, but like I said, thanks to the black folk who don't find the need to forbid their kids from saying it.
I am half black and am not in the least offended!Blacks use it amongst themselves, in Haiti, they use the term...it derives from the spanish word for...well what do you know BLACK!!
Just take the word in the right context, the black community does not own this word!!!
IT truly amazes me that people's reaction to the word is so illogical! It is not degrading nor disgusting if taken in it's context!! please get over it! The way you fight racism is not by bashing whomever, it is to raise yourself, be informed. Do not spread the ignorance, again, NEGRO MEANS BLACK....IT IS GREAT TO BE BLACK!
I was taught very young to respect the black population & to be sure to use the respectful words: negro & colored person. So we grew up not giving it a second thought & to this day I've never been racist or prejudice. Now the words are used to hurt & put down cause that's what these generations have been taught. I truly believe you have to be taught disrespect of others & to put them down... such a shame!
I don't know what his intentions were when he did this interview but he commited "career suicide". Yes there will be some people who buy his music, and some people who support him, but in this world of "political corectness" that we live in even those who feel the way he does would be a fool to support him. Personally, (as a white man) I love my African American wife, so if he dosen't want to be with a black female then thats him, it doesn't affect the way that I feel about my Queen. Everyone is entitled to there own opinion but when you are in the public eye and say things of this nature you should expect backlash. Now the "N" word according to dictionary.com is described as "a person of ANY RACE or ORIGIN regarded as contemptible, inferior, ignorant, etc". So thank you Mr Mayer for describing yourself!
TO EVERYBODY THAT WANTS TO KNOW WHY BLACK PEOPLE CAN USE THE "N" WORD AND YOU (EVERYBODY ELSE) CAN'T.... My answer: The same reason I can call myself, my sister or girlfriends the "B" word, and you cannot!! The same reason you can say bad things about your spouse, and your friends cannot!! The same reason you can think you're a bad cook, but your husband better eat it (quietly and with a smile). So, if you are looking for a pass to do it because black people refer to themselves as that... YOU AREN'T GOING TO GET IT!!! I'm feeling like a lot of people are made because they can't use the word. "Why can you, but I can't?" I'm guessing you are all adults... so that's a very juvenile way of looking at things. My 3 year old knows better than to ask dumb questions like that!
Another thing.... I'm not sure what state you people live in, but the "N" word is NOT played on the radio UNLESS you have XM radio!! Editted verisons of this songs are played on FM Radio. VH1, MTV, BET also DO NOT AIR THE ACTUAL LYRICS OF SONGS THAT USE THE "N" WORD.
Now for a few life/history lessons: It should be noted that to add an "a" versus an "er" at the end also changes things a lot. I don't agree with the use of the word in either way. Everybody needs to dig down and learn where the word came from... it is a term that means ignorant and was used to describe black people during years of repression and still is in 2010! I agree that the black community needs to ban together and not accept the word to be used among one another and several icons in the black community have made a stance against it. But until that is done, the safest bet is for everybody else to refrain from using it.
HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH!!!!
@ Southern Gent..... as you said it is the USA and there is freedom of speech...for everyone alike....Ignorance is bliss..your the prime example..
"Intellectualizing" and making intelligent remarks are two different things. There are ways of speaking your mind without it sounding pompous and self-serving. Also, sometimes less is more. He should really think before he speaks his mind.
Yes, I agree with him that he's a singer/songwriter and should stick with that, or if he has something to say about a worthwhile cause. That's it.
What is just as despicable is Playboy having printed the word. While we should slam Mayer for saying it, I think it is far more irresponsible for Hefner to allow this sort of hate to appear on his pages, but what can we expect from a geriatric sleaze bag with a portfolio of exclusively white skank. PLAYBOY IS A RACIST INSTITUTION.
John Mayer is sleazy and needs a muzzle. Every woman should now consider themselves warned that any contact with him is tabloid fodder.
His use of the word just proves his ignorance and underlying racism. There is no excuse for using that word. It is not correct for anyone of any race to use that word. I am sorry to say so, but african -americans are part to blame for making this word a part of daily language. It has always been a word used to degrade african-americans. why it has become a term of endearment, I have no idea. This makes others of other races think this word is ok, since we use it to refer to ourselves.The word has always been wrong, and will continue to be wrong.
Since when are we censored in this country? If a person wants to say something he can. If you are offended by it, fine – but it is not disallowed to say it! In fact, by telling us we cannot say it you are violating my Constitutional rights – something only congress gets to do (sic). Adding further crime to your disallowing people to say anything, you only allow it when persons of a specific racial background say it and otherwise it is "taboo". Sounds like you are a racist; nay – you ARE a racist.
I L O V E John!!!
"My stupid mouth has got me in trouble.... "
Let it go people!
WTF – OMFG – STFU – N-word
If we all know what these mean , what is the difference than actually saying it? Are our ear that sensitive that we can't hear the acutual word? It's ok to think it , just don't say it
All the people using "N-word" in their comments are saying the N-word – how does changing it to N-word change it's meaning?
Will the real John Mayer please step up???
I love how he loves to play blues music but has the audacity to use the "n" word. Love our music but hate us! Such a disappointment!
Southern gent...just wanted to let you know that you just displayed the true definition of what the "N" word means! Kudos to you
stop buying his music because he used the "N" word??? Shut up. He's done more with his music than most musicians regardless of how "stupid" you think he is. Bet he's smarter than all the rappers you listen to, but I guess its ok for those rappers to use the "N" word and not him. I think he's justified in using the word and as you can see its pretty funny to see how people are reacting to him using it. The man can say what he wants and doesn't owe anyone an apology. If anything he was just as justified saying it as a black person.
He is the worst! Why is he always in the news? Please go away.
As a black man, I see absolutely nothing wrong with his use of the word. It is unfortunate however that the media is not displaying the entire quote but only one segment of it.
PLAYBOY: Because you're very?
MAYER: Someone asked me the other day, "What does it feel like now to have a hood pass?" And by the way, it's sort of a contradiction in terms, because if you really had a hood pass, you could call it a nigger pass. Why are you pulling a punch and calling it a hood pass if you really have a hood pass? But I said, "I can't really have a hood pass. I've never walked into a restaurant, asked for a table and been told, 'We're full.'"
Finally someone has the grapefruits to say the N-word, John Mayer I applaud you, this is the usa people, its a free country get over it, if he wants to say that word then by all means use it, people shouldnt get mad when they get called the n-word b/c thats what they are so they need to stop hating on this young man.
He's an spoiled idiot. Isn't it obvious? Get lost John.
This is what happens when white artist get to comfortable playing our music and are embraced to readily by the black community. I did like John Mayer, but now all I will hear when his songs play is the N word. So sad, I won't by our support his music again.
its funny at school we learned that he got his style of music from african american people singing the blues and other styles of music.
What a jerk.
I only have 2 words for John Mayer: DOUCHE BAG!
Regardless of what bad word he used this guy is a total imbecil. You can tell his lack of formal education. He's 32 years old and talks like a teenage boy. He tries to "intelectualize" and philosophize but ends up talking non sense about sex, bodily functions, clothes and watches. His sentences don't make any sense and instead of looking smart he comes out like an idiot. I think he is either mentally retarded or has a mental illness. His speech is pressured, has verborrhea, flight of ideas, hypersexuality, megalomania, narcissism. He thinks he is a womanizer but sleeping with women is something that comes naturally with fame, get over it. Truth is he may be a good guitar player but he's just a lame pop singer. He will never be a true rock star like beck, clapton, jagger, bono etc.. What a total douche bag.
hip hop lyrics are full of racially explicit words and these songs fly to the top of the chart. we need to stop vacillating on standards, either "one for all or none at all."
black people feel they have the right to say the "n" word whenever they want, but to come out and cry about a white person saying it is ridiculous. if youre offended by the usage of the word that badly, you shouldnt be saying it yourself. Funny how things work
Get over it people. I'm tired of people acting like we live in the days of slavery! The N word does not hold the same meaning that it used to. We do not even know what the context was and suddenly everyone wants to write John Mayer off as a racist, it's ridiculous. He's not racist, he used the word, he said he was sorry. MOVE ON!
There are much bigger problems in the world then John Mayer using the N word in an interview!!
I can't think of a dirtier, more degrading, or disgusting word. Guess it's not just me, what with all the uproar. Just a horrible word, and anybody caught using it should be tarred and feathered. Looks like most of you are taking care of just that.
This guy has NO CLASS. Never did, never will.
Since when do all black people use the "N" word? Most ignorant and poorly educated people, of all races, use the N word. Remember most rappers are not college educated men and women.
Furthermore, Hollywood and the music industry are really at fault because they'd rather give the ignorant ones a television show or record deal. Stereotypical shows like "Good Times" and NOT the "Cosby Show" were more true to life in most people's ignorant minds. The media loves to perpetuate ignorance. My point? The N word only SEEMS to be used so much because of what we hear in movies, print media, and in music, but NOT really in our personal lives day to day. John Mayer is a misogynist loser. I can't wait until he is found in a hotel room with a needle in his arm and foam in his mouth.
Bottom line is no one black, White , yellow or in between should use the "N" word. Me as a human being who happens to be black find the word utterly repulsive as well few other choice words people use. I cant stand the vulgar language that is used by some individuals today. They claim they are trying to be "down" be "hood". The derogatory terms used show the luck of respect people have for themselves and others. I grew up in the housing projects, was raised by a MOTHER AND FATHER. Was raised to treat others and myself with respect, went to college have and undergrad and graduate degree. I am a well spoken, well rounded individual, and Im proud of where I came from. Those who are generalizes and saying black people use the word and its okay is a gross mistatment. ITS NOT OK TO BE USED BY ANYONE. It just shows a persons ignorance and lack of expression when they revert to using such derogatory terms
lucid made a good point! i hear white people using derogatory words to their own race, as well as hispanics to theirs! (trailer park trash, wetback, spick, chink, etc) Also, Ive heard other races, hispanic, white, asian, and iranian, refer to EACH OTHER as "my ni**a"!
I really like John Mayers music and happen to think that he is one great guitarist and performer. Unfortunately though I think he needs to remember that the N word is never acceptable for him or anyone else black or white. I am not offended that he is not attracted to black women but the way in which he expressed it was honestly offensive. I wonder how many black rappers he thinks will give him a hood pass now? Oh and what is a hood pass anyway we all live in the same world like it or not. I will not be buying anymore of his music and I hope that he learns to keep certain things in his head from now on.
i use the "N" word, but mostly in reference to white people. look the word up in a dictionary. Comes in handy in traffic.
@shala: dont be offended by john not wanting to have sex w/ black women. Who knows why we are attracted to who we are and turned off by others? thats why there is hetero, bi, homo, asexual, and I dont dare bring up anything further....
think about this: alot of people say they arent prejudiced against blacks whites, or homosexuals... and yet: THEY ARENT w/ blacks, whites OR homorsexuals... Truly think about what they ARENT saying. Honesty.
Good call on John's part: apologize, SHUT UP in public, and tuck your tail... cuz you are officially on the Sh*t list until celebritydom has decreed you have repented.
Who is this dude, and why do so many seem to care? Rhetorical question of course, he's a b-level 'star' with an a-level dating history. My quick take is that he was not looking to 'use it' to degenerate people of color, but instead to make a louder statement of some sort allegedly favorable to the African Americans causes. However it's nearly impossible for a white guy to utter it in any context, even if academic. I don't know what the context was maybe he should try something a little bigger than twitter to explain himself.
Shocked, perhaps if I was standing in the room, and not really paying attention until the use of "the N-word"; Should I still respect him? As I don't really know who the hell he is, so he never had any special respect from me in the first place; I'll continue to respect him as a human being, util he proves to me otherwise but that I give to random people on the street. Should he be force out or ostracized? Personally, I think that it's best for the society when an honest mistake doesn't cost a man (or woman) the stability their family depends on.
The solution is to simple: stop buying his music, stop going to his concerts, and ignore him.
If I hear his music, I switch it off.
First of all, cracker and honky are so outdated. You will only hear older Black folks using those terms. As I mentioned in my previous comments. There are an array of new disrespectful terms to describe white folks.
whats nuts is...you never hear a black person in an interview refer to white people as honky or cracker or anything else for that matter. so because this is such an emotionally charged word, everyone is aware of what it denotes, so on and so forth...why is white people are always slipping up with it? why do white people always hide behind, "you say it, why can't we?" I'll tell you why, plain and simple, You are not "US". There are some things you cannot be a part of...and before you think I'm defending it, I'm not. I do believe it is ignorant to use, but at the same time, I'm not something someone says I am. I'm about to drop some knowledge, pay attention. You're not a nigger cause you're black, you're a nigger cause how you act.
If you want further explanation, check my previous post.
He needs some publicity for his tour, and you know what they say, any publicity is good. Its putting his name out there, love him or hate him, you know who he is.
I like his open interviews. He's a douche, but atleast you know it, verse someone who lets PR do all the talking for them.
By the way, I like it when people still say the "N-word" or the "F-word" or "H e double hockey" sticks. I feel like I am 7 again.
I'm a black woman and I'm all for freedom of speech but freedom is not doing what we want, bit it is the power to do what is right.
The bible say "out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks". If we change our hearts to embrace everyone for their differences , and threat everyone the way we want to be treated, then there will be no need to apologize for the words we speak. John has a right to be attracted to whoever he wants to be attracted to, and even though I'm not offended by his statement, I understand why some african americans are, and i also understand why some people are tired to hearing about racial statements. We may all stand here and condemn him for talking about what's in his heart, but i honestly don't think it matters how he said what he said, the media will find a way to make it seem worst. The bible also say 'he who is without sin cast the first stone'. I can't condemn him because i'm not perfect, his comments just remined me on how much more i need to work on my heart to treat others the way i want them to treat me; and I pray that he will understand that too
I'm a black woman, and John Mayer could not touch the ground I walk on. To all the White Ladies, stay away from him. He talks too much.
everyone needs to stop whining. who cares what he said. he has the right to say what he wants
But really folks , everyone knows its the most popular word today in rap repeated hundreds of times in all the rap jargon almost like there are no other words and when there aren't its there and yes its used exclusively and naturally among brothers when white folks aint around .when the call came to abolish it that just made it all the more popular ,if there wasn't a stigma attached white folks would be using it all the time.
It has nothing to do with being "PC" damn well grow up and just nut use any stupid words because "they do it", if "they" ate poison for breakfast would you do it?! We all have names so use names and not words that we ALL know has a racist origin. Stop trying to legitimize the use of it, I am Black and will not tolerate it from anyone of any race. It is not necessary. It amazes me how people are so desperate to find a reason to use it, come on people how old are you? "they use it all the time...rappers use it" so damn what?! They should NOT be using it, the same people screaming those reasons are probably not doing a whole of other WRONG stuff these rappers do so STOP using pathetic excuses to legitimize your use of it, ridiculous.
also...as far as everyone making a big deal about the "N" word, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but the initial blowup of the incident would be the article writer. Which....9 times out of 10, was a white person...think on it for a minute...
if you're incapable of recognizing the context in which a word is used, you aren't capable of credible pseudo outraged musings.
You had some crappy interviews. Happens to everyone sooner or later. Now do better.
Get over it. He apologized. People make mistakes,
I don't really like John Mayer... BUT – LISTEN UP PEOPLE...
If all these rap stars... and all these black people are allowed to N*GGA every 5 minutes in their songs or conversations.. then ANYONE CAN USE IT. PERIOD. You don't see white people get all bent out of shape when people call them crackers or whatever.
Heck.. you don't even see white people call each other Honkey! Heck, some are proud of being Rednecks!
People that get offended...(mostly black people)
If you want other people to quit using it because you're going to get all offended.. THEN QUIT USING IT YOURSELF. Or Get Over It!
It hardly has the same meaning anymore than it did 40 years ago anyway!!! Most punks who I hear using it say things like "Hey, whuz up my N|gga!"
So, the point is...
If black people get offended by it... then why do THEY use it so often?
GET OVER IT!!
It seems there are alot of white people upset about not being able to use the infamous 'n' word. They want to be able to use it like Dave Chappelle or perhaps Lil Wayne. Are they jealous because they think they can't without some kind of black reprecussion? The people who use this word in reference to each other belong to the same group that this word was assigned to. That is why in large, it isn't offensive when used. However when an outside race refers to them as such it is a problem because of the connotations that the word carries. lol. ridiculous. Anyway did anyone hear this guy said his penis is a white supremacist? Wow. This guy might have a problem. In any case, I believe the black mans great downfall is not knowing we were never niggers at all.
Use the word just like you would white tr*sh! They are one in the same, period. Both epithets infer that the individual referenced lacks social acumen, communal sensitivity, inner voice, and selfless inclinations that guide the better angel inside of us to do well by others and not be so grossly self-absorbed and hubristic. The ghetto mentality walks hand in hand with the deprave Appalachian trailer tr*sh mentality. Black people know who I am talking about and white people know who I am talking about. Both races, all races for that matter, have their respective deprave lower classes who, like ALL of us, have selfish primal inclinations, yet many wallow in such ignorance they perpetuate. Shame on us as such an unabashedly morally relativistic society that we cannot provide or agree on a common social code to which we can all aspire and help fellow humans to rise from the ashes. Get over the epithets, morons. Engage in the true work of helping others, being a role model, and guiding others by actions rather than whining about the words others use. Empathise. Don't be a sucker. Carry a big stick.
When I read the article, I wasn't bothered by the "N" word he used in his interview. I think he was actually "quoting" what someone else said to him. It was distasteful and a true lack of class and good judgement, but I mean if he feels the need to express himself like that, sad, but he has that right to show off his ignorance in whatever way he chooses. I was more offended by the fact that he seems to be "repulsed" at the thought of sleeping with a black woman (yes im black). I mean..john, have you not heard of "need to know information"?! I purchased his "Continuum" cd, however I will not purchase anymore of his work. I mean, he remade "Waiting on the world to change", but what are you waiting on the world the change to? woooow...
JOhn mayer is a meanface, he should go to jail for a bajillion years for this.
I read the quote from Playboy. He didn't say anything racist. Using that word doesn't make you a racist, its the context you use it in. He wasn't directing that word at anyone the way that Michael Richards did. He just used it in a sentence. Americans need to grow up and stop reacting to everything
It's a shame, b/c his Blues guitar playing is actually quite immaculate. I saw him at Clapton's Crossroads Guitar Festival in 2007 and he was phenomenal!
Thousands of KKK use it and nobody gets slammed all over the news...
Well I look at John Mayer differently. It's not the same. I am an african american woman who likes his music loved his talent and respected him as an artist. Hell I didn't want to jump into bed with him either but I am a fan and who wants to hear that. As a matter of fact I bought tickets to see him in Chicago on April 10. This was going to be the highlight of my year because I've always wanted to see him perform. But now I don't know. I look at him differently now.. and it’s just not the same. Those words that he said will be louder than those lyrics he wrote and songs that he sings. I don't get the point.. I've never seen him with a black woman so I would assume that he doesn't date black women. And that's okay. We all have our taste but what was the point of the David Duke reference and the use of the N word? It's offense and it has no place. And John's not 13 he's old enough to know better. Somethings are better left unsaid. I’m so disappointed.
Folks have got to tell the difference in sarcasm and serious intent. And folks need to learn the difference between prejudice, bigotry, and racism. They are not the same. John actually meant the opposite of what he was saying. I know it's hard to get subtlety sometimes.
Wow, and someone equating 'cracker' with 'nigger'? Ok. Someone needs to get in touch with their American history and language use.
I saw this guy in an interview a few weeks back and what an arrogant ass he is. I have never been a fan of his so really I could care less if it impacts his career. However, I have watched black comedies and stand up comics that use the "n" word every other word in there acts and find it disturbing. I am not black but find these remarks incredibly distasteful and offensive and can not understand why some people can find humor in such an seemingly offensive word. When will we ever get over this racial crap and stop finding humor at other people's expense?
You are not attracted to black women OR black women are not attracted to you? Do you have a mirror in your house?
Is his 15 minutes up yet ???? Over hyped and over rated.
As a comedian, I've used the word - within context. I think the issue here is not that he used a SINGLE word, but the interview overall. Look at Eminem. As "edgy" and as "disrespectful" as Eminem is, we take him for what he is and he IS the highest selling rap artist of the decade. We know his image. With Mayer, you can't be a sensitive songster, appealing to the heartstrings of teenage girls, then go to an interview and talk about your d**k...period. If you are going to do that, stand by what you say. Do black people use derogatory terms for white people? Some do. Do white people use the N-word? Some do. But if you're a public figure, your every action will be scrutinized. Why do you think so many people hate Kanye as a person? (And to tell you the truth, I'm not a big fan of Taylor Swift either.) Bottom line, pick an image and stick to it.
I wish all the people who are attacking him and are black would actually stand up against the use of that word instead of just attacking him. You can't even make a point about that word with the double standard that is put into place with it these days.
Maybe not the best analogy, but everyone attacking him is doing so cause of the word itself, not one is referring to the context. That itself is a sign of idiocy, not on his part.
Wow! I don't know whether to laugh or to be angry.
1. John Mayer being interviewed by Playboy? I didn't realize that Playboy and John Mayer fans were in the same demographic.
2. When I clicked the link to read what the sensitive comments were, I didn't see anything about the N word, but I did see that he talked about DD (and no, I don't mean Jessica Simpson's bra size). David Duke??? You compare a part of yourself to David-freakin-Duke??? I always thought John Mayer was a major tool (just my opinion) but reading a portion of this interview just put a big ol' spotlight on his ignorance.
Peggy Sue – while some African Americans may have derogatory names for whites, they have the good sense to not make such comments during an interview. What I am sick of hearing is whites asking the question: why can't we use the "N" word? What I want to know is: why do you want too?
People are upset about John Mayer's use of a word, and I get that. But, while describing him, they should think about their own choice of words that refer to and degrade the entire female population.
Enough already with the "N" word. I'm Black and could care less for John or what he said. Although he expressed himself the best way he probably know how, which was pathetic......what worse is apologizing. That is weak.
Freedom of speech!! If Blacks can use that word, anyone else should be able to. Get it right.
Initially I was upset at the derogatory comment he made about black women, but it really is no different then some of the music that is on the radio these days. The only difference is he is a white douche bag. He could have just simply stated he does not date black women. What bothers me is that these celebrities, black, white, hispanic run off at the mouth or break the law then expect the world to feel sorry because they apologize. I beleive in second chances, but stop being ignorant and think before you act or speak.
John Mayer is disgusting and acts like a 12 year old.
I read the article entire article on playboy.com. The whole idea of what he was saying was ridiculous. The idea that he possessed some "nigger pass" as he put it was really out of left field. He needs to understand that he has done some songs with the three most main stream rappers out there Jay Z, Kayne, & Common. They are three individuals and they do not represent anybody other than themselves.
As a matter of fact everyone could learn that each and every solitary black person is indeed an individual. There are plenty of black folks on both sides of the issue regarding the use of "nigga" , which is different than "nigger." I personally don't like that Jay Z and Kanye use nigga in there music. I don't have a problem with white people saying what they want to say. But that's just me, one black lady.
Why apologize? We have freedom of speech in this country, and until the black community stops using the N word then they have no right to take offense to its use.
Who really cares. I feel worse for those poor women he has dated and then talked about because that is more personal than him saying some stupid racial comment. He is an idiot and we all know it, would we expect anything different from him???
Two other observations: a person you disagree with is not necessarily "ignorant," i.e., less knowledgeable than you, about the matter in question (the apparent attitude of more than one commenter); also, the calendar is not a reliable barometer of where people should be morally, so comments like "Hey, people, it's 2010!" could not be more irrelevant. There was slavery thousands of years ago, and there's slavery today. There were also enlightened people thousands of years ago, but enlightenment is not passed on genetically.
John Mayer is a very skilled artist and I have purchased his music. After reading his comments in Playboy, I will not buy and I will encourage many of my friends not to purchase any of his music. It appears as if Mr. Mayer has gotten "too big for his britches". As far as I'm concerned, he is just pure white trash with a big mouth! Furthermore, he does not respect women! What a waste!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Isn't the biggest tragedy the fact that he's sexist! He's talking about his penis and how it doesn't respond to black women. It's so unnessarily vulgur. Look at his objectification of women. I think that's worse.
I really do not know what Aniston saw in him. I feel so sorry for her. I dated men like this in high school and quickly learned my lesson. I would think that at 40 you would know better.
John Mayer has exhibited that he is the definition of the "N" word just a really ignorant person is he 32 or 2?
John Mayer made a mistake and said something that just isn't going to make a difference in any one life. He's a passionate person. He was expressing himself and perhaps chose a word that most people think they have to become offended by. We've all been passionate at times and overspoke wishing we could somehow take back what we'd said or done. I'm quite positive that not one person that has posted their comment here can say differently. John Mayer, don't worry about this. You know who you are. Keep singing. You have great contentment and joy to offer us through your music. May we all choose to focus on the positive of that truth.
African-Americans use the 'n' word more than any other group. They should stop too.
I agree 100 percent with Henry!
It is more than his use of the wrong word, he's completely disrespectful to women for no reason at all other than to be an arrogant hateful jerk. He's shown his true colors and unfortunately they aren't nearly as pretty as some of his lyrics.
The question is why is it okay for black people to say racial slurs about white people, such as cracker and honky, but not okay for white people to use the n word??? Personally, using racist terms is never okay, but all you black people dont feel the same, because most of you constantly refer white people by those racist terms. If you want white people to stop using racist terms, then you must offer that same respect and stop using racist terms about white people. Respect is a two way street, if you dont give any, you shouldnt get any, period.
If you read the entire interview, these comments are only a few of many offensive comments. I will give him credit for being non discriminatory when it comes to offending people–he manages to anger genders, races, and different socio-economic groups as well as be a self absorbed individual who feels compelled to make inappropriate statements. I appreciate and admire his musical ability–his personality, not so much.
As a Black American, I champion the freedom of speech, no matter how ignorant. That's one of the beauties of this country of ours. Another beauty is the right to respond to his racist and sexist remarks, accordingly.
I'm not a fan of his music or his celebrity, but in defense of him and every other non-Black person who uses the "N" word much to the chagrin of Black America, we as Black Americans need to stop using the word ourselves. Trying to pass it off as a term of endearment is more offensive to me than when some ignorant person who thinks he is so "accepted" by the Black community, he has carte blanche to use it.
Everyone needs to grow up it is 2010 it will be 2015 before you know it. The dates do not represent any metaphors just i glimpse of hope for the future that everyone stop being so sensitive to everything that people you dont even know say!!! If someone wants to use the N word let them, everyone else is saying other "so called" offensive words but its water under the bridge. I am fine with it and so should all of you.. i am white, not a racist just someone who does not live in the 1950's also bored of traditions so lets get out of this era and make our own. Its probably because im not a baby boomer hippy why i feel this way, no we are the Facewitter gen and we like to blog!
John Mayer and intellectualize...oxymoron!!
I think it was a ploy by Playboy. They are slumping in sales, and needed some reason for people to buy the magazine... to read the quote. Notice it's very hard to find the quote anywhere.
That's one thing about America, do and say as you please, but be sure to "APOLOGIZE"
I am black and I like John Mayer's music, didn't know he used the N word though...anyways I don't think ANYONE, no matter the race should use that word but there are always going to be ignorant people out there and frankly the more people stop to pay attention to ignorance it gives it more of a platform. On the other hand I think being in the spotlight gives you a moral responsiblity to set a better standard for others, not be superhuman and perfect, but really John, come on. I am well aware that if I choose to stop buying John's CDs then my one little purchase isn't going to put John in the poor house but I think he is witteling down his fan base with every interview and soon it will start to cut into his pockets...so much talent going to waste, this is not the John we the people first paid attention to :(
Come on....is this really news worthy? So he used the "N" word....I've used the N word, i also used the A word, B word, C word, D word....etc. Get a life, there are much more important issues then this!
if a word is bad to say, then let it be so for everyone. Instead of acting all shocked and offended, consider dedicating that time to removing all media available to people that contains such profanities...
He is friends with Dave Chappelle.
Plus did the N word have an A or and ER at the end? That will determine if we should burn him alive.
From what I've heard (from his own lips in interviews on TV) this Mayer person is an idiot. He thinks it's all right to blab about personal relationships without considering the feelings of others. Does he think his so-called conquests are that outstanding? He apparently thinks he's a real stud. Saying the things he does will bring about bad feelings from the public in a hurry. I don't even care that much for his singing. What a loser!
When President Obama was elected, I had such hi hopes. Thinking that just maybe race was somehow behind us. Now to see the utter disregard and disrespect for him. YES – SOME OF IT IS RACIAL. And now this guy...sometimes I wonder if electing the First Black President brought out the worse in some people.
Who does John Mayer think he is, that anyone would care what word(s) he used/said in reference to his professional life. He's a bore, much on the order of Jon and Kate Gosselin. He needs to focus on being creative, if that's possible, and move on with his life. Your 15 minutes have long since past.
I find it strange when white people complain that black people can say nigger, and they can't. Well, my view is this , this is America and you can say what ever you want based on the First Amendment. But, when you are attacked physically for using the word, the First Amendment won't be there to help you from getting your ass kicked. Freedom is not free, it comes at a price. As children we are taught sticks and stones and that words don't hurt, well that's a lie....words do hurt. As a black man, it bothers me more when black people say nigger than when other groups use it. Why do "certain" people continously degrade themselves by using this word. If that what's u want to be fine, but I want nothing to do with niggers or people who wish to use it as a term of enderement or in all of hatered and violence. As for John Mayer...good luck trying to spin doctor your big mouth.
lol "The N word". I could never be a celebrity because I wouldn't be able to handle the Policitically correct BS. Do you think anyone was actually offended by what he said? No, only the media is and then everyone jumps on the band wagon.
Nevermind his use of the 'n' word. What about his obvious complete lack of respect for women? Anyone that blabs about previous relationships is not only extremely immature but disrespectful as well. I pity any woman that has to deal with this idiot.
I am a Black women, and I read the John Mayer article. I was not personally offended by his comments, they were ignorant, but not racist. He is entitled to sleep with whatever woman will have him. His lack of interest does not take away from the beauty and appeal of Black women. Personally I am offended by all the folks leaving comments about Black people calling each other the N word all the time. For the record, Black people do not sit around calling each other the N word. Also, we do not sit around calling white people Crackers, either. Wake up people. It is 2010!
Here's my question to everyone...Why can a black person use that word when speaking with another black person BUT if a white person uses the word it makes headlines across the country and around the world? I'm not a proponent of the word or would ever use it but aren't we missing something here? Doesn't this border on discrimination?
ok people... lets let this issue die. As a young woman I hate to hear negative remarks about any race. I have a wide variety of different races mixed in my family and friends. We are all humans and that is the only thing that should matter.
We dont know this man so we shouldnt judge him. He made a remark, he apologized, if he does it again then shame on him... his dating prefrences shouldnt matter to anyone but him.
Its done, lets move on...
John Mayer is a great musician, a great looking guy, and a complete total jerk. Too bad he has thrown away what could have been a long and outstanding career b/c he can't keep his zipper or his mouth shut. A waste of real talent.
........he should thank jennifer anniston for making him kinda famous....
I have never heard the "N word" used as much frequently as "rap artists", along with use of every profanity you can think of included, while we are discussing this matter. I am looking for public condemnations by those who profess to be so offended by the word, as well they would be expected to be, and come down on rappers for using it in every line of their "lyrics". Hypocrisy to high heaven!
Wow, apologizing on twitter is a new benchmark in human interaction. It's about as heart felt as an athlete reading his apology that some pencil pushing friend of his agent wrote for him.
Who cares? This guy is an arse, lacks class and tact. Run, women, run.
Who's John Mayer?
People need to stop buying his albums, going to his concerts, covering him and feeding his ego
This is why our country is tanking. Politicians are allowing, even assisting, the destruction of our country and people are more upset because some marginal musician used the dreaded "n" word.
I am white and I never use that word. Word is used it means you think it. Just shows the kind of man he truly is underneath his agent's media make over.
As a black women, I don't care if John Mayer isn't attracted to us because we don't find him attractive either. Maybe that's why he doesn't like us. :)
What an idiot! Does he ever shutup?
John Mayer Music = FAIL
I admired John when he first hit the mainstream. He's an arrogant, womanizing pig now! What a waste!!!
Here is what I dont understand, why are people offended by a word. It is just that a word. it has no meaning. All races have there racial names for each other. It is petty crap. I am italian I am not full blooded but that doesnt matter, the word dago or wop does not offend me in any way. call me what you will I am proud of my hertiage and a word does not define me. People that let comments like the N word bother them have issues. Does honky or cracker really define who a white person is no. So john spoke his mind big deal. So he isnt attracted to black woman, do black woman of america really care if john wants to bed them or not I doubt it. The only reason this is a big deal is because he is a celeb. If he was an unknown person this wouldnt be in the news. As a once famous person said " life is like a box of chocolates. you never know whats ya gona get" quoted from one forest gump that all i got to say about that.
People listen to my music?
Hey, if you are a songwriter (i assume he is) and can't write your way out of a paper bag, what better way to keep his fans(?) attention than an interview full of b.s.?
Now that he has your attention, go out and buy his product and keep him from getting a real job.
Good agent you got there John.....as long as you are in the news, you can sell product.
The guy is a douche bag and a lousy musician.
As a black person I would say, stop using the word entirely! And to the posters that say black people use the N-word more than whites do, that DOESN"T mean the majority of blacks like it! It's true rappers, comedians, sports stars use that term often but if you truly ask a majority of black people about it, WE DON"T LIKE IT! Just because black celebrities use it doesn't mean the entire black population embraces it!
I wish I could erase the word entirely for our vocabulary.
And to John Mayer, we black women don't find you attractive either!!!
If I had to date me a white boy, bring on Channing Tatum! Hot!
Face it !!!!!! There are consequences for using the 'N' word. It will never go away and everyone pays, no matter who uses it. For those who don't know, Race Will Always Be An Issue In America.
Oh please a mistake like that should not ruin a great artist like Mayer. The "N" word to me is one of the most ugliest word for me. But come on, all these young fools (black and white) that use it don't hae a prob with it and we don't castrize them. Maybe we should ban the word from ever being used by anyone and not worry about banning an artist just b/c he is simply an artist.
so what, I would not grovel at anyone's feet
I'm not excusing Mayer's use of the "n" word but it sure seems that we have a real double standard in its use. It's acceptable or at least tolerated when blacks use it to describe themselves or someone else but it's off-limits for anyone else to use it in any context – even as innocuously as the context in which Mayer used it..
He apologized for the use of the word and tried to explain why it was a bad choice on his part and I accept it at that. Unfortunately, some of the small-minded and rather ignorant people choose to ignore this and label Mayer as arrogant, a "douche lord", a douchebag, narcissistic, a racist, or a jerk. A few others used the opportunity to use this as an excuse to tell people they dislike Mayer or his music. To you and others like you...GROW UP! He may have acted immaturely but most of you are acting even more immaturely than he. Put aside your false outrage for a minute and take a look at the good he's done in this world, including his charity work. Judge the man by what he's done, not by the occasional intemperate remark he makes in an interview. I'm sure most if not all of you self-righteous people have said things in your lives you wish you could take back. Give the guy a break!
For those of you wondering why you can't use the "N" word, call me the "N" word to my face, and I'll explain to you why. I promise you'll never want to use it again.
The sad thing here is that the only power words have is the power that people give to them and the lack of recognition of this by the thought police.
I am fan of his music and I do think he's a very talented songwriter and musician. However, I am not a fan of this public persona he's created. To some extent, they all need to do it (celebrities, that is) but I think he's gone overboard. Honestly, I think he's lonely and confused and he doesn't know how to be a celebrity, I mean, who does? He needs to find a balance between being honest about himself with his fan and saying too much. It's not cool to kiss and tell. I think that's insensitive of him and says a lot about the quality of his soul and his past relationships.
As far racism goes, well I don't think he is actually a bigot or a racist but his comments were insensitive in general. And no it wasn't the use of the N word but more about the whole sentence. Then again, think about the audience he was speaking to, it was a Playboy interview! Is he really expected to be completely politically correct in a hussy magazine? But then again, he should think before he speaks. I know he reads this stuff, so John here's a message for you-take some time off and get real with yourself. Read some books, learn some new things. Life isn't just about the party, it's also about growing as a person. Don't kiss and tell, it's bad taste. Don't objectify women, don't be arrogant. Grow up. I'm 32 too, btw
what is the arguement about?
I think we all need to stop hammering celebrities into oblivion. He came out honestly, whether it be twitter or whatever, and honestly apologized for his actions. Let it go.
And I don't think he should stop being so raw in his interviews. I find that to be one of the more intriguing things about listening to him. There is no script, John Mayer is John Mayer on camera and off.
Music is unbelievable and look forward to seeing what unleashed talent he has yet to offer. Lets see a full blown blues album!
Nigga, I be Spiked out, I made you hot nigga,
Catch me at the X with OG at a Yankee game, These are lyrics to a Jay-Z song that was sung before the World Series. I'm supposed to be offended when John Mayer says nigger in an interview?? They actually don't even explain how he used the word.
I think the comment that he made was unnecessary. He could have used better wording in describing what he is sexually attracted to. He used the "N" word, yes thats wrong and talked about how his "little fellow" is like David Duke?? What is right about this comment? I see alot of people saying "Oh he said it, whats the big deal?" The big deal is that he has offended more than enough people by using such racist remarks. It was a big deal when that African American actor from Grey's Anatomy said FAG, it was a big deal when Kayne West said Bush hated black people, but when John Mayer says something, oh its not a big deal. Wake up people, insulting people no matter of race, creed or sexuality should not be tolerated, period!
oh shut up people. such a double standard with this stupid word. black folks can use it but no one else can? and how was it being used in context? NO, you cannot intellectualize the word Mayer, you idiot. please really people, get off your high horses and get real.
His comments were stupid, and as a result offensive. But you have to admit his biggest offense is that boring, bland, pointless, dull, uninspired, mediocre, focus group approved, crap music that he plays. You could even say he is the People Magazine of Rock. Yes he should shut up, but not just in interviews. He should burn his guitars and perish the thought of ever producing that junk again. Then we could forgive him.
Jennifer deserves a real gent, not this girlie-man.
your song writing is sub par and your guitar is just ok. cute voice though. "waiting on the worl to change" rubbish
It's not that a white guy used the "N" word. It's that JOHN MAYER used the "N" word. Trey Parker and Matt Stone were the only people capable of using the word in a socially accepted way. With everyone else, it just comes off as hatred.
Why is it that black people and Hispanic people can use use the terms "whitey" , "honky", etc... with no repercussion but if a white person uses "the N Word" they are subject to being crusified? If we are going to demand racial sensitivty, let's do it across the board.
This guy is the ultimate publicity whore. It seems like everything he does or who he sees is to keep him in the spotlight. Pathetic to say the least.
I too get sick & tired of all the apologies that go forth after someone as insulted what they think is the black race, quite frankly I am not impress by these apologies they are only expressing their true feeling & the apology is only to keep the fans happy, as for me I have never thought John Mayer attractive so his remarks & those like him just makes me smile it is expected.
so will CNN always report when black rappers use that word? No not all blacks use it but a higher percentage use it then whites (because us "honkys" or "crackers" are racist if we use it) Get over it – it's a stupid word that people shouldn't use, but if they do then it shows their ignorance. Why do you refuse to discuss it?
Political correctness is using ignorance to fight ignorance – if you are stupid enough to not talk about why the word is still used by blacks, whites and all others then you you should grow up. What about all the sexist degrading language to women that no one seems to care about? You use the N word and everyone freaks out, but call a woman a sl*t, wh0re, sk**k or bit** and no one bats an eye – these are just as insulting as the N word (anyone who thinks otherwise is obviously not enlightened on women and their fight for equality – some of you will cry racism if the n word is used but then in the same sentence use the word "ska*k to describe a woman)
This comment does not make him a KKK member, just a very stupid man. Let it go and let the double standard drop – you cannot have a word that only one race can use but not the other – if this offends you then perhaps you should crawl under a rock because life has a lot of worse and evil things stored for you
My goodness people take it easy, John Mayer is not this horrible monster just for that. He is I think not a bad person, and is one of the greatest guitarists of his generation, and maybe in the future one of the greatest ever. Lets not crucify him, he made a mistake. You people on here are much worse than he is, so negative and critical, probably jealous. I still like John Mayer even though he tweeted the N word for Gods sake.....
Anyone ever heard a rap song? If the 'n' word is so offensive then those famous people who are using it daily need to stop. Double standard anyone?
He doesn't regret saying those derogatory remarks. This is simply damage control per his publicist.
What a dork.
I'm sorry, who is this moron? Why is CNN carrying this? How is this man news worthy?
Narcisstic at best. Bottom feeder. Actually, I really can't "see" why any female would find him attractive. When he opens his mouth, it's all just garbage.
john mayer is a bighead. I would never want him as my babys daddy.
John, still waiting for the world to change??
Wow...I just read this whole string of comments...and I feel sorry for the human race. The fact that someone (who is white) used the 'N' word, and it has resulted in all this drama is amazing! This is not news, this is not exciting, and this is not anything new at all! This is plain stupid. How come anyone you ask automatically knows what you are talking about when referring to the 'N' word? Because people like to keep this same concept going and going. I imagine in two hundred years people will still know what the 'N' word is. Who cares what JM said...really? Everyone living has done something stupid, and what does it really matter anyway? "I am not going to buy his music anymore"...who cares? Here is a new letter for this....its the 'S' word.....it stands for STUPID people. Besides, why buy music anyway? Its easier to download it for free :)
I have been done with arrogant J Mayer for a long time now. The sound of his voice makes me ill and I am white just in case you were wondering.
You have a right to say what you want. You can belittle woman. You can kill yourself too. Are whites really upset that blacks can say the N word to each other? Is that a topic that happens every night at the family dinner table? I never thought they felt so repressed. I guess the liberal media is not addressing this issue enough. Does this make John Mayer like a white Rosa Parks? Good luck with that!
John is a musician...He's not a comedian..Im sure he realizes the difference now..we should too. Honesty is the best policy..Don't trash for poor choice of words...Trash him because he is just not funny without Dave Chapelle...
This is an outrage!
As a black woman I'm offended and furthermore I...I...zzzzzzzz
we invented the damn word .. why cant we say it?
I can't believe anyone really cares what celebrities say.
I am very confused at why our society pays any attention to people whose entire lives are built on trying to deceive us and make us believe they are someone else.
If this were the President, then this story would mean something.
Ease up people on your desire to hate. Any little thing doesn't go the way YOU would like it to go and you start spewing forth hate. Give the knucklehead a break and don't be so sensitive.
This was totally taken out of context. Read the actual interview and you'll understand. He was basically saying if you can't use that word then you can't claim to have a "hood pass". I read the entire interview and it's actually a really interesting one.
If the point he was trying to make was in the opposite spirit of the word, why is it a problem he used the n-word? Oh, but of course its perfectly fine for african americans to use it daily? Give me a break.
To all those who say the "n" word is just a word and nothing else, how would you like it if I went up to your mothers and called them "f'ing c*nts"? Same difference because they are just words, right? No. It's insensitive and disrespectful. Just because we have freedom of speech doesn't mean we can say whatever we want to whomever we want. Tact and respect seem to have disappeared behind the facade of "rights".
However, I think what's worse was his complete lack of respect for the privacy of his past relationships.
This is not even a big issue. People and the media are just making a big deal out of this. Thousands of people are discriminated each day. Please stop making big deal out of petty issues. Have you ever heard a black rapper rap, they say all short of things that should be banned.
My only point is, IT IS NOT A BIG DEAL. let us focus on the real problems of society. Black people don't want to always feel like they are persecuted, in this case they are not, and people just blow it out of proportion. gheez.
If anything I would say that CNN.com writer Breeanna Hare, who submitted this story, is twisting a story to feed the flames of racism and hate. She does a much more effective and reaching job than some white supremacist screaming hate on a street corner. Not once does she mention the context of his conversation when he used the word. Again, because I say the word murder, does not mean I'm a killer.
Twitter is for self-aggrandizing, narcissistic douches (in the gender-neutral sense of the term)...
I don't understand the logic that some say he's racist for using a word that some black people say it's ok for them to use but, not if you're white? Just because I say the word murder doesn't mean I'm a killer. I guess some people, no matter what color, are too ignorant to look for the context of a conversation rather than the color of the skin of the person saying it. This is totally against what MLK was saying and is racist itself?
John Mayer is a smart guy who understands that you have to be controversial in order to be noticed. He's not as clever about it as Prince or Madonna were in their day but the effect is the same; tons of free publicity and a place in the public consciousness.
I wonder how many people on this comment board are subconciously jealous that they haven't accomplished squat in their lives.
John Mayer is an angry man who knew that saying the "N" word would upset people. Any white person who tries to minimize that word is doing so to justify using it. John Mayer is a racists when he refers to his privates as "David Duke" I and think we all realized how attached to White Supremacy he really is. This man always looked unhinged and angry and his rants do not surprise me. Jennifer Anniston walked away from this maniac so she could find a real man and not some wimp who takes cheap shots at minorities and also looks to be one step away from a mental instiution.
Sherri, congratulations for being such a stalwart bigot. If you have no problems with the "N" word, perhaps you should come right out and spell it then?
FYI: Two wrongs don't make a right.
I won't even get into how whites have used that word to denigrate black people in all facets of life, so clearly there's an imbalance in your assessment.
As far as "deal with it or don't", and your "caring less" about a human respect issue: It's your soul you have to worry about. Deal with it or don't, I couldn't care less.
The fact that Jennifer Aniston dated him suggests she is also trailer trash.
John Mayer has always been a jerk I am not sure why it took people so long to realize it. Jennifer Aniston is too good for him. He needs to go back to the trailer park he came from.
what I find most disturbing is that an apology via twitter is an adequate response
This man really is a cad. Very disrespectful to all women; he obviously considers his girlfriends only worth their celebrity factor. And I'm sure most black women couldn't care less about his thoughts. Such a sleazy man-whore. As for the N-word, most blacks don't use it and find it disgusting and shameful, so stop watching the rap videos and Tarantino films and maybe get to know a real black person. If the N-word double standard really bothers you, go ahead and use it–start at work or at church,or your kids school, maybe on your kid's black classmate. Just don't adopt any Haitian orphans since the word doesn't exist in French.
he said he is sorry
He said sorry. I am over it. Hopefully Rev. Jackson wont start marching outside his house.
the masses are stupid.
In my recent experience, most of those I've heard complain how PC the world has become, are white. Why that is, I can only theorize. At any rate, while I agree that censorship may not be a healthy way to overcome racial barriers, neither is name-calling by those of ANY race. Only rational exchanges between intelligent, open-minded individuals can help break down those barriers. As for Mayer, he apparently suffers from both race envy and penis envy - as if he wished he were a black male stereotypically depicted as being well-endowed - and I'll dismiss his comments as such.
I read the original comment, and part of what he was saying was that he couldn't have a hood pass because he hadn't walked in the shoes of people who have felt racism for being black. And if anybody believes that it is okay for a black person to use the n word but not a white person (as is a common opinion), then I think they would have to agree with what he said about "hood pass" not making any sense even if they don't agree with him actually using the n word to make his point. Although I think he shouldn't have used the n word that doesn't change whether what he said about a "hood pass" not making sense for a person who isn't black was true or not. Maybe I'm not understanding what he meant, but it seems like he was trying to say something against racism and because he used a certain word people took it as racist.
What if somebody said about another race, "You shouldn't use the x word to refer to people of that race because it is just another way of saying y" and y was a word that was unacceptable? Would telling people not to use x that way mean you should get trashed because y is considered unacceptable and you used it? I realize this isn't exactly the case here, but I think there is some similarity.
Thank you Summerbaby84. I've immersed myself in this "pandoric" fantasy for so long that I almost forgot the harsh realities around me. People still think like David Duke. And that scares me. I hate the idea of race. I really do. Race is a figment of a collective imagination. It was developed as a way to simplify and organize similar people. It's a stripping of ones heritage and culture and "coloring" you. It's disgusting. I wish colonialism never happened. Then maybe the word NIGGER wouldn't exist. Then John wouldn't use it, and he wouldn't have his gangster pass, and his penis would remain vulnerable to his preferred air-headed bimbos :D
"The transformation of the spanish word "negro" into the word "nigger" was like turning an arrow into a bomb."–anonymous
This type of thing keeps happening over and over again and we talk about it being a "Teachable Moment". So, What can we learn? How about not getting so wrapped up in the "word" being said, and hear the message being portrayed, before we go off the deep end. Are we thinking about Who Said what, or Who Did what? John C. Mayer Has done How much for People? Regardless Who they were?!
One word, has only the power, One gives it. ~P.P. Bump (pretty sure)
"Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open." ~ J.K. Rowling
(I tried to find out Who said these so I could give credit, but it wasn't me, i'm borrowing them.)
If You don't like the way something is, change it. If You Can't change it, then Change the way You Think about it.
If You change how You look at things, things You look at change!
We can Change The world, Simply by how We look at it! Be Well All.
@ LBW re LilyWhiteBand. You need to take a look at the other guitar player in his band. David Ryan Harris. I am more concerned about what he has to say about Mayer now.
so he said the N word, big deal. Nobody would give it a second glance if he was black and said it, they say it all the time, with each breath.
Essentially, we can only agree to disagree. I wish everyone with the juvenile and insensitive comments about the N word would shut their mouths. Until you and your family have suffered THE EFFECTS of 250yrs of American slavery you won't understand the weight behind the word. How many times must that be reiterated? Sure it's easy to say "big deal" when it doesn't target you. I think its funny how people say "words are words" until the day someone offends you or someone you love with a derogatory term...still doesn't offend you? John Mayer made some inconsiderate, ignorant, arrogant, and pig-headed remarks. I've been an avid Mayer fan since "Room For Squares" and as a black woman I am very disappointed. I believed in a kind heart and a knowing mind...someone who sang about the power of love and the strength in humanity. But his lyrics don't mirror his words. He has proven me wrong one too many times and this one takes the toll. I can't respect someone who likens white supremacy to his feelings (or lack thereof) toward black women. His comments were ruthless and unsettling. Mayers an amazing musician, but I don't respect him anymore. And Maggie if you're so comfortable using it why didn't you type it out?
Essentially, we can only agree to disagree. I wish everyone with the juvenile and insensitive comments about the N word would shut their mouths. Until you and your family have suffered THE EFFECTS of 250yrs of American slavery you won't understand the weight behind the word. How many times must that be reiterated? Sure it's easy to say "big deal" when it doesn't target you. I think its funny how people say "words are words" until the day someone offends you or someone you love with a derogatory term...still doesn't offend you? John Mayer made some inconsiderate, ignorant, arrogant, and pig-headed remarks. I've been an avid Mayer fan since "Room For Squares" and as a black woman I am very disappointed. I believed in a kind heart and a knowing mind...someone who sang about the power of love and the strength in humanity. But his lyrics don't mirror his words. He has proven me wrong one too many times and this one takes the toll. I can't respect someone who likens white supremacists to his feelings about black women. His comments were ruthless and unsettling. Mayers an amazing musician, but I don't respect him anymore. And Maggie if you're so comfortable using it why didn't you type it out?
I used to like John Mayer, even bought his first CD, but the man is a total IDIOT! He is like a 13 yr old boy trash talking about the women he dates (who are MUCH better off without him!) and now this bulls**t! If Mayer would keep his nasty little mouth shut and try to improve his nasty little mind, he might grow up to be a big boy someday. He is the definition of a pig, and I no longer find ANY of his music entertaining. I even change radio stations when his songs come on. I truly hope this damages his CD sales. Only when it hits his inflated bottom line will his inflated ego die. There are too many good singers out there, leave this jerk in the landfill. Go suck an egg, dirtbag.
I saw this insufferable dimwit unleash his insipid drivel from his mouth and guitar for a very, very long hour between outstanding performances by Neko Case and Willie Nelson at the Hollywood Bowl a few years ago. This interview simply further confirms what a complete and utter waste of human tissue he is.
i'm a black woman – i still love ya john.... don't like it – and i'm shocked you said it but – i forgive ya!
People, whites especially, crack me up because black people are not offended by his comments. Mayer has always been a genuine person with a good sense of humor. Hollywood people love him and he makes friends easily. Everyone says things they regret but luckily most everyone doesn't have a microscope on them
you people really need to calm the hell down. who cares what he says, and worry more about important issues. like you're going to lose any sleep over the fact that john mayer said the "n" word. grow the hell up people. you guys are just as big as douche bags by caring about a topic that probably has nothing to do with you. get real you idiots.
When Oh When are we going to stop going "OH My God" when someone drops the "N" word. Yes there is still people who don't like black people, just like there are people that don't like white people. Get over it already.
As a black woman I was more offended on how John Mayer disrepected Jennifer and Jessica than his use of the n word. Its clear he has none what so ever respect for women. Its beyond obvious.
Using the N word is a double standard and African Americans say it all the time. And more than likely it will be a double standard until blacks in the media refrain from using it.
In truth though I don't really accept his apology. If you meant what he meant what he said he should of said so and not apologize. Im sure that he only apologized because his PR people told him to.
I'm black myself and I say If you're going to burn Mayer at the stake for using the N-word then fine, go ahead. But unless you hold the black music/entertainment community and yourselves to the same standards then you're nothing but a hypocrite. There is no "It's okay to say it because you're black but not if you're white." Either it's wrong for everyone in any context or it's okay to use regardless of your race. You can't play the "race card" then turn around and use or condone the same language you're crying out against.
Heck, who cares. You can call me Cracker, Doughboy, Honky, Jerk, Butthead, who cares. But if you want to remain healthy, it wouldn't be wise in backwoods America to call someone a Homo.
I've always wondered how Jennifer Aniston could hook up with such an immature child. But then it struck me: she is the same!
Let the truth be told John Mayer. You can't cover it up now dude. You have been exposed! Take a long freakin break John. You'll need it after this little episode. How stupid can you be?
I'm black and not offended. John Mayer always gives back with his music. I can understand why alot of women are pissed more than black people. John Mayer is just getting back at all those pretty women who ignored him in high school. Now he is rich and can afford them; should we tear him down for that. I think not.
John Mayer is a talentless piece of crap, why does anyone care what he says
Several of you are casting stones.......everyone makes mistakes........Everyone needs to take a step back and look in the mirror, and if you can look in the mirror and say that you have never made a comment that you wish you could take back.......then Kuddos to you.....
But reality is....we have all been there.....
Having now read the article, let me first say "wow, JM has a serious case of verbal diarrhea." I swear, he uses 84 words to say what could be said with two. Now, with regard to the N word, in the context of that particular rambling, i think i understand what he was trying to illustrate: that only if someone has true acceptance by the African-American community, is there an of understanding and "permission" to use the N word. This was a misjudgment of his popularity on his part, but I believe an honest mistake. He didn't use the word in a derogatory fashion. This has been blown way out of proportion to the offense.
It is all about equality in my mind. I do not entitle myself to any language, behavior, etc, that I am not willing to accept in or from others. To say that one particular race can use certain language that another can't is the same to me as saying that one particular race gets to sit in the front of the bus, and another race has to sit in the back. White on Black, Black on White, Blue on Purple, holding separate standards of behavior acceptible in society is discrimination and it is wrong.
C'mon people. Get over it. Why is it appropriate for certain ethnic groups to use words that other ethnic groups cannot?
I just do not get the Twitter BS. Who gives a crap what John Mayer or any other celebrity thinks about anything?
There is history on the issue of gay rights. Gay marriage is just a part of it, but consider that homosexual acts were criminal offenses in most (maybe all) states at one time and probably still are in some. Discrimination in jobs is rampant. And as for beatings and lynchings... where have you been hiding? Of course gays are beaten and murdered, some brutally. And lesbians have been subject to rape simply because of their choice of partners.
It is not just an intellectual issue. It is a civil rights issue, on par with rights for african americans or rights for women. Whether you believe gays deserve the right of marriage or not is a topic reasonably worth debate, but there *is* a historical context.
john mayer is an idiot. why women like him, I'll never understand.
It's really only white people that get offended when someone uses the "n" word. They get offended "for" black people. It's really quite pathetic. If black people want to get offended, that is up to them. And no, I didn't say "African-American people", I said black people. Yes, I know they aren't really black, and I'm also not really white. And I don't go around making people call me "German-American". If I don't get up in arms about it, why do we think they would? White people- let it go and maybe the race issue wouldn't be an issue.
I thinks it's funny how nobody sees through the veil of "science fiction" in the original Planet of The Apes movies. The apes were captured and used as slaves, then learned the language, rebelled and there was a nuclear war after which, for a short time human and ape survivors tried to live together until one day in school a human teacher says "No" to the Ape (No being the word humans used, along with cattle prods, to train the ape-slaves). When the wronged ape gets vilent, the leader of the apes (Played by Roddy McDowall, explains that "Ape can say the 'N' word to Ape but Man must NEVER say the 'N' word to Ape" Seriously, the Planet of the Apes movies were the most racist ever made. They came out during the civil rights struggles in the 60's and 70's and were the authors attempt to show what he thought would happen if we made the African Americans equal. Too Funny.
FIRST OFF– I think everyone who has "no problem" with this should actually read the playboy interview instead of hearsay. Personally I think Mayer was high on something because his remarks, however racist, did not make any sense.
Also, can I just say that its not the problem that he used the "n word" so much as how he used racist remarks to say he wasn't attracted to black women. He called his penis David Duke (KKK leader). WHO THE HECK refers to ANY part of themselves as a KKK leader and is not racist?! .
I understand his remarks but someone tell me why there can be a Miss Black America and not a Miss White American also why is there a Black History Month and not a White History Month?
I wonder if Rob's mom thinks John got himself into a sticky situation this time?
I am so sick of John Mayer. Who or what does he think he is? I don't even like his music. He is vulgar, narcissitc and just plain dumbass.
He is immature, irresponsilbe, chauvinist and downright low class. If he were a "real" man with character and integrity, he would not go around divulging personal and private information about himself or his relationships. He goes beyond shock jock, he is just plain stupid.
I thought CNN was supposed to be a "real" news station. But they have proved to be the American Media Norm. Sensationalism and trying to keep up with the Jones... Disappoints me really. Expected CNN to have more dignity than to spread "N" story. Wise networks should lead and help others to rise above the chaos. Pretty good place for my favorite qoute: "Try to reel the stragglers back in (that includes you) and get the message out there that everyone on the team is part of the solution"
Who cares? Im sick of black people using that damn word as an excuse to fight with everyone else. You're right, he shouldn't have said it but that doesn't make you all innocent either. I'm sure many of you have made racial remarks at one point or another. It's ok for blacks to say "honkey" or "cracker" or even "whitey". I understand the "N" word was used in dark times of american history. From slavery to the civil rights movement. But most of the people inserted into this discussion weren't even there. What the hell right do you have to claim that this word offends you? Most of you don't even know the origin of it. Like I said, it's an excuse for people to use to "fight back". I know a lot of African-Americans personally and almost all of them are successful, thoughtful, intillectual people. I know a lot of white people, same thing. But I also know there are stero-types for a reason. Why do some black people think it's cool to run around using the "N" word towards each other? Some people need to get their own race in check before even attempting to criticize another. Wanna go after John Mayer? Then go after Dr. Dre, Snoop Dogg, NAS, Ice Cube and so on and so on.... They are musicians too. Hell they use the "N" word in their music. Show me a John Mayer song with the use of the "N" word. I've seen blacks calling Italians "guinea", mexicans "spic", whites "cracker" etc... There's no difference. People are people, treat each other the way you would want to be treated and this world would be an amazing place.
John Mayer to little too late. This is why we can't get rid of racism because of people like you. Please tell me your next move will be rehab! You have just made the biggest Jerk of the Year Award!
Definition of the "N" word for white people:
The "N" word when used by non-Blacks contextually delivers a negative connotation that suggests, directs, or implies that someone is less than they are. Most non-Blacks mean it this way – the same way the slave masters used it on the plantations towards a group of people they consistently degraded. The word is emphatically pronounced with "er" ending.
The "N" word when used by Blacks contextually delivers a positive connotation that suggests, directs, or implies "fellow Black person", commraderie, and physical similarity. Most Blacks mean it this way. The word is emphatically pronounced with "ga" ending.
This is the difference, and many whites don't or won't understand that. That's why many Blacks get pissed when a white person says it. Of course this is not an exscuse for ANYONE to say it. It's just fact. When people are educated on the historical origins of the word, maybe all will decide to not use it. Until then, deal with it. It's an abomination that some Blacks have brought upon the whole Black race by it's use, despite how they mean it.
P S Not all Black people in this country use the "N" word.
P P S Just because a white person hears a Black person use the word, does not mean that they have a "pass" to use it also. White people lump Blacks into one group – they think we all are alike. That's where they make their mistakes. They apply the media-influenced stereotype to all Black people becaue their interactions with Blacks are limited. Blacks have as much intercultural, socio-economic, and intellectual diversity as whites, Asians, Jews, and other groups.
Re: John Mayer – he can use his First Amendment rights whenever he wants to, just as the next American.
john is extremely talented/gifted musician. it appears he is respected for his quality craftmanship-esteemed by his fellows in that biz...so its too bad he was unable to not keep his grandiose. delusional, manic episode private @ WORK ON SOME OF HIS LEFT-OF-CENTER THOUGHT PROCESSES behind closed, confidential doors. jOHN'S MUSUCAL INTEGRITY is diminished per immature@ignorant act to not understand personal boundaries@ share without causing harm to another/himslf also. It is unbecoming @ appears desperate for attention. He is so gifted @ yet 'false pride' cometh before the fall...John fell; regarding character and as an 'attractive' (spirit) human being.
Does it ever occur to white men that most black women are just not attracted to them? It seems to me that white men think black women are dying to go to bed with them. Sorry guys. We loooove our black men.
I don't think its just about him using the "N" word, he said some other wrods along with it and the whole context of his statement. He definitely didn't choose his words wisely.
John Mayer needs to seriously get over himself. Bragging about how he COULD love black women but somehow his anatomy (which he likens to David Duke) won't allow that. Oh, and let's not forget how he trashed two women he shared an intimate relationship with. Dear God, how old is he? Seventeen? What a crass, stupid piece of trash. Could he be any bigger a loser if he tried? His comments read like the pathetic nerd in high school so desperate to fit in that he'll brag and pose only to make an ass out of himself. John Mayer isn't sorry about anything except the fact his own stupidity landed him into hot water. Had he gotten the "hood pass" he expected on all of this? Well, he'd be shooting his mouth off in the same way for another publication in short order.
OH Please.... you all need to grow the hell up.
I just retired from the US Navy and the last 20 yrs have heard the N word more than I ever did in my life before the Navy, and i didn't join till I was 32.
99.99 percent of the time it was said by black guys or girls that I worked with. And used inappropriately and in all cases, poor taste.
But let a white person say it, and all hell breaks loose. IF SAYING IT IS BAD, THEN IT IS BAD FOR ANY PERSON WITH ANY SKIN COLOR TO SAY IT. Just like killing someone is bad, no matter what color the skin of the person doing the killing.
Grow up. the guy made a mistake. Get irate next time peepee diddly or snoopy dug dog says it too, then.
Then I will think you mean what you are saying. Not just playing the race card.
You have gay freinds , are thet ok with being called "f_gs", f_ggots, "b_attymen"?- I doubt it . It is the same thing for those who you refer to as your dark skinned friends .
It has a very negative connotation and words are not jsust words – same reason if someone called you a wh_re or a bi_ch you may be offended . Words have the power to hurt
This is America and we have free speech. If you don't like a word get the hell out! We real Americans can say what we want!
okay, aside from him using the N word, which i think is a pretty bad word to use, he should probably not air his laundry for the world to hear/see. i mean, some stuff should really not leave people's mouths. there's something called privacy and he should take pride in that. he is truly embarrassing himself by some of his comments that he's been making about himself and women. he should also try keeping it in his pants for a while. Lord knows he's been with half of Hollywood...
Nigger Nigger Nigger Nigger Nigger Nigger Nigger Nigger Nigger. The word only has the power we assign to it. What's next? The S word for Spik, the H word for Honkey? That word represents a time when people of my race had no power, no education and no Freedom! I understand the need that some people have to end its use, but we should not keep weakening the 1st amendment so people don't have to be uncomfortable. What a bunch of politically correct wimps we have become!
None of you know him, so your comments are as dumb as his. None of you have ever said anything regrettable, huh?
The most pathetic affliction facing America is the selling of its soul to the purveyors of lame, immature, irrational, insipid, mundane and useless preoccupations with things which ultimately do nothing to add more value or substance to our lives. But it does absorb our time and keeps us distracted while we're being fooled and manipulated.
I am neither black nor white, but one thing that I have gathered in my life is that the black Americans offended by the word are not the same ones that use it. Perhaps the black drug users don't mind when their pothead friends use the n-word when greeting each other, but what many people seem to forget, is that despite the stereotype, most black people are architects, dentists, students, managers, doctors, nurses, teachers, firefighters, etc. When we stop using Snoop Dogg and Dave Chappelle as the representative of all black people, maybe we'll make some progress on the race issue.
ALICIA KEYS WOULD STILL WORK WITH HIM REGARDLESS!! That is fact. She would let it go!
I've never heard of you until now.
what an idiot
Even a fool can be deemed as wise, when he learns to keep his tongue.
Then again, when a fool opens his mouth, he gives the hearer an opportunity for wisdom, by learning to recognize stupidity.
Let him talk on.
I silently cheer when these seemingly untouchable, self absorbed jackasses finally reveal just how shallow they are.
This turd munch couldn't be cool if he were quiessentially frozen, and had a popsicle stick up his butt.
TO PEGGY: REGARDING YOUR NOT UNDERSTANDING WHY THE "N" WORD BEING USED BY WHITES IS SUCH AN ISSUE. obviously, you haven't paid much attendtion to the history of race relations in america, but since you have a computer – google lynching of blacks and see how many blacks are hung on display with that word either hung on them or white people carrying signs with the word and they are also standing around like they are at a social – most of them are smiling and posing for pictures like they are at some sort of entertainment event and not standing around looking at a HUMAN BEING who has just been murdered. and, maybe then you will begin to understand about the word and why whites can't use it. and, please don't use young blacks who have no idea of their history who continue to use the word like they can somehow lessen the impact of the word. don't compound their stupidity and make it yours.
A former coworker who is Black told me that The N word is offensive when White people use the suffix 'ER'. Black people use the suffix 'A'.
This whole politically correct thing that says if your white then you can't under any circumstances use the N word, but if you are black, then you are free to use the N word without any repercussions. Case in point, if a white says the N word, even out of context, it's in the boiling oil for you bud. However, if Jesse Jackson calls Obama the N word, then it's not ok but, what the heck, he just made a mistake and anyway, because he is a brother, then, well, it's ok.
I sure would love to hear some tape recorded conversations by blacks when they talk about whites and then have that spread all over the net.
Forget the double standard. I have heard every vile, nasty, racial, ethnic slur come out of both black and white mouths. Oh, but then again, there's that trump card, the hate crime law. Come on, I dare you to say the N word.
And he didn't call anyone a N* at all. That's the ignorance of it.
You should be mad at black rappers making a killing off charging you an arm and a leg for cheaply made clothes that make you think you're on their level just because their name is on your ass.
Be mad at that.
The following was perfectly stated and so utterly true – we are a nation who ever more loves the knee jerk reaction, the 10 second attention span and the negative, hateful response at the slightest provacation:
Not surprisingly, everyone is taking this out of context and running to the opposite end zone with it because that's what we, as Americans do. We distort whatever we can, whenever we can so that we can revel in our hatred without guilt. Hatred, the new American passtime. Used to be baseball. Those were the days. Hate on!
If the word nigger is so offensive, why is every hip-hop song out there using it every other word. I am so sick of the PC police. Here let me try it, Nigger Nigger Nigger
thats mighty white of john mayer
Any person who is literate could read the article and see that he was saying that he is not hood because he cannot use the word n*. He also said that he doesn't deserve said card because he hasn't forgone the cruel prejudices that not just black people have but all ethnic people.
So read and get your facts straight before you lash out at someone just because they are white because that makes your ass a racist also.
I grew up with black people who grew up in the 30s, 40s, 50, 60s and the 70s and NONE were as weak, simple minded and sensitive as you riot-starting people are here and on Twitter. Beating someone down to make yourself feel better. John hasn't changed your life one bit. Try telling the landlord you can't pay your rent because John Mayer said the word 'N*'... and I bet your black a* will be on the street.
Grow up, throw away the crutch...and accept responsibility for your own life. You aren't dodging no one but the collection agency.
Here is the deal as far as I can tell. I'm an old 48 almost 49 year old "honkey", "whitey" WHATEVER! I AM! So... I can't use the "n" word or I'll be banned... So what... words are words! My friends are white, black, green, brown, purple, yellow! They are also Straight, gay, Bi-sexual, addicted to dogs or WHATEVER! WORDS ARE JUST WORDS! In 2010 if we can't discuss differences than we have a problem here. If we even HAVE to use words we have a problem here.... IF using a word in a way conveying anything but disrespect WE HAVE A PROBLEM here! My "dark skinned friends"... ( I'm afraid in the PC day and age to say anything else, Maybe just saying, "My friend" without qualification would suffice!) will call me a honkey and whitey... I"ll grin and shoot back with my words.... How are we EVER to get over racial barriers if we can't even say the words or walk on eggshells like they don't exist? So incredibly silly! My "N" of a husband thinks so too BTW!
I have no problem whatsoever using the.....sssshhhhhh.....*gasp*, "N" word. Black people all over the world use derogatory wording to describe white people, and there is never an OUNCE of back lash about it. I am not sorry I use it, and I never will be sorry. Deal with it, or don't. I couldn't care less.
I keep waiting (waiting)
Waiting on John Mayer to change...
Great musician but clearly the drugs are taking there toll.... He reminds me of David Hasslehoff in a drug induced stupor.....
I think it's a double standard that he was merely saying a word. Yes it may have negative meaning behind it. Also it was originally word to say the color black. John Mayer isn't the only person in the world who says the word. Many artists whom are black say it in their lyrics. It's not like he said it to be harsh or in some backlash towards another person.
I'm half Mexican and half Danish, I've been called a nigger, wetback, and a mutt. However, words are words and can't really affect you. I feel people care too much what others think and say. Many people should try and focus on their lives and to better themselves from any situation. Even learning to be tolerant themselves. Words are just words.
Much ado about nothing!
After living in east Africa for five solid years I had become acclimated to the atmosphere of acceptance. I was white and it didn't matter to anyone. I did not have to live in a state of underlying, subtle tension, afraid that someone was going to jump to any conclusions about presumed racism. Yes, there were issues of tribalism between some groups there, but race was never an issue of contention.
When I returned to the US I discovered two things. One was that it took a long time for me to get used to being around so many white people. The second was that I had to learn once again how to be paranoid – how to deal with the state of suspicion of racism on the part of some.
A couple of years after I returned someone accused me of being a racist because I coughed when an African American was saying something. Fortunately for me, I was able to produce a magazine containing an article I had recently written on the subject of the oneness of humanity.
It is so weird to live in a place where such an atmosphere can exist.
Will everyone STOP saying black people use the N-word? I don't think all blacks use that word and it certainly doesn't justify anyone using it. That said, the man has chosen to show his true feelings. Accept it and move on.
The problem is that without , Muddy and Lightening Hopkins ,and sonny Boy the Black Delta blues artists there would be no Mayer ,he'd be an afterthought on open stage nights in N Carolina somewhere.for that matter there would have been no Stones or Clapton who are direct birthrights of the Delta Blues. So all considered a little respect is warranted and evidently been too easily forgotten by some in this day and age of nasty talk in public. When Lil Wayne does it ,he's reflecting on society and politics ,Mayer is just only out of bounds in the game.
Honestly, I never really heard what this man can do. I know he boffed Jennifer Aniston and that he has a guitar. But who is he, really?
I'm black and wasn't offended. He was making a point that the term "hood pass" is a contradiction because he can't say the N word, (just like some black people use in it everyday vernacular) without black people getting offended. Obviously he made a valid point, but it's the other way around because more white people are offended by the comment.
If I were black I would just be tired of being reminded about all this, the word should never be spoken again, because it has ties to a horrific history of slavery, unimaginable events.
I wish people would never bring up or think about racism again
John Mayer is a douche.
Sorry but people don't use certain words unless they intend to use them. His feelings are not involuntary, he was well aware of what he said and supposedly regrets it, after the fact, ala Michael RIchards.
What I find reprehensible about this guy is that he claims and falsely praises, African-American legends as inspirational figures in his life, yet, he will turn around and freely and consciously use derogatory terms towards people.
I sincerely hope that this guy just fades away. He is not an artist, he is an first class, A-List douchebag.
He's such a pig and not worth the time of day. the more he talks, the more he sounds like a jack ass.
under cover racists / biggots are the worse kind.. but the truth did come out, why am i not suprised by this JM comment... from the adundance of the heart the mouth speaks.. JM is what he is!
I'm not buying his music!
Its funny how the "n" word is used CONSISTENTLY in mainstream hip hop by racist human being who think that a little skin pigmentation allows them to denigrate other human beings
No one should use the word, so before we address Mayer and this little insignificant comment, lets address the wide use of this word by a small percentage of human beings who think that a little little skin pigmentation allows them to denigrate other human beings
As for him talking frankly about sex, good for him, he's basically doing what most women do anyways when they gossip to their friends. So if he's wrong most then women are wrong.
Definitely will support this artist by pruchasing his music and encouraging others to support his MUSIC cause thats all that really matters
In 1962, while I was serving in the U.S. Air Force, a Black airman informed me one day that the difference between a 'N' and a Negro, is the same as the difference between White Trash and a White Man.
I will never forget that conversation or the analogy.
Today, I find it interesting how it is fairly routine for Black People to use the "N word;" but, the very moment a person of another race says it, there is big trouble.
I belive that all people regardless of race should stop using terms that depict races in an uncomplimentary manner. In particular, Black people need to stop using the "N word."
I realize that is is very difficult to undo generations of racism, but peole have to start somewhere, and stopping the use of the N word would be a good start.
Did that douche bag tweet an apology to Jessica Simpson or even Jennifer Aniston for discussing their private lives very publicly to extend his 15 minutes of fame?
Deleted him from my playlist.
For God's sake people. IT IS JUST A STUPID LITTLE WORD. Grow up. Theres much more important things in this world to be all up in arms about.
@JAZZPIANIST–Sorry, but you are SO wrong. Pick up a history book. Gays and lesbians were killed in concentration camps during WW2. Look at the Stonewall Riots that took place in NY city. What do you think that was all about? It was because gays had had enough of police harassment. In the 50's & 60's being homosexual was listed as a mental disorder. The assassination of Harvey Milk? Gay bashings happen all the time. Ever heard of Matthew Shepherd?? And if you think that gay marriage doesn't affect innocent children, tell that to the gay foster parents of Florida who have their children taken away from them because they aren't allowed to adopt them simply based on their sexuality. Discrimination is discrimination, no matter which way you cut it.
You know I used to like his music, but I've lost all respect for him. He's a jerk. How can he go around sharing all his intimate secrets about his past girlfriends to the whole world? How do you think they feel? Have some empathy for God's sake. I hope he reads these comments and realize that he has a lot of growing up to do.
The N word usage is a big deal "Maria, Marcus, etc." No one should use that word in general. You definitely don't get to use that word at all if you are not black. Similar to calling a Polish person a "Polack," an Italian a "Guinea," Irish person a "Mick"etc, ethnic slurs are terrible but have been used historically by the people of that ethnicity in gest, humor etc to make light of a bad situation or stereotype. The only people who get to use the above mentioned words are people of that same background. That is the way it goes. It is not a double standard, it's the reality of taking a word that was used against you by others in a derogatory manner and trying to make light of it as best you can.
If he wants to kiss and tell abou this sex life fine, however no need to alienate non white listeners be they black, asian, hispanic by saying "my dick is like David Duke". David Duke is the ex Grand Wizard of the KKK..really John Mayer. I guess you really are "saying what you need to say"
I've used the word and I will use it again...within context and without any hatred or maligned purpose. I am not black. I'm not white either. I was born in the USA and what's interesting, is that the only forms of overt racism I've witness towards myself came from black people. Walking on the streets of NYC, I've heard "run, china man, run, give me your money chink, what you looking at chin, get out of here chinky," and more. I'm not Chinese.
Every "race" can look back in history and find some time or era where they've been persecuted to some extent. Slavery, the Holocaust, etc...should not be used as an excuse. Black people – Look at our president. Social mobility is difficult at times but you cannot use slavery and the past as an excuse anymore. Jewish people around the world – You have Israel and you have the backing of the most powerful nation in the world. Your people have risen to great ranks of success and power around the globe. The Holocaust is not an excuse for anything. There exists a double standard and educated people of all colors should realize that in this day and age. I've been privileged enough to attend high school overseas at an international school where it's been proven that everyone can rise above. I once walked into a physics class and found my best friend, a Pakistani Muslim, leaning against another close friend, a Indian Hindu, sleeping as they waited for class to start. It was an image of world peace. We would joke about cow heads being thrown into Hindu temples and pig carcasses being thrown into mosques. We would laugh it off because it was just so ridiculous.
Being a "celebrity" and always in the spotlight should make John Mayer a little more conscious of what he says because there exists this double standard. However, he is NOT a racist by any means and honestly, this little use of the "N" word should not even be an issue. Why don't you nitpickers go focus on real social issues instead.
Stop focusing on differences and look at what we all share instead. Rich folk, stop being greedy. Poor folk, don't be envious, and hang in there. Those in between, don't get lost. We're all human and goodness should and can prevail.
I am a loyal JM fan, and not his music nor his intellect lend well to sound-byte, instant-gratification media that plays to the underdeveloped teenage set (and those that do not have the ability to see beyond the out-of- context quote and into the comment's meaning.) His point was that the world is becoming not color-blind, but color-inclusive. This is one man that can help move the world to a new place regarding interracial harmony, and what does the banal media do with it? Make him the bad guy. Because it sells. And THAT is what you all should be incensed about. JM is smarter than most give him credit for.
Some of you may have seen the movie "Jungle Fever". In the very last scene, a teenage girl approaches Wesley Snipe's character and propositions him. He immediately grabs her in a protective hug and yells, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
At some point, we as Americans need to collectively, yell NOOOOOOO and move on and stop letting Satan get the upper hand by continuing to "divide and conquer" the human race. Remember Ephesians 6:12
By the way, I'm a brown-skinned "Black" man with a dark-skinned mother and a fair-skinned Creole father. I look like my grandfather on my mom's side and my dad's father could have "passed" for White. Both of my kids are multi-ethnic. I've had the pleasure of interacting with people from all over America and the world. In closing, I'll never forget what many Black Africans in East Africa (in 1994) and many White Arkansans (in 2002) said to me upon my respective arrivals. "Welcome – you have returned home!"
I don't particularly see as how his use of the word was racist, he was making a point, people need to start listening to what people mean and not just what they say. The world is filled with enough hatred without stirring up more of it just because you don't like the words a person used to make a valid point.
What do you expect from a guy who thinks so much of himself that he worships his own reflection in a mirror.
He'll be forgotton in another 2 years. Look for him in a diet commercial when he weighs 260 pounds & sings at rest stops on highway 16.
Not to take away any significance and history behind the 'n' word but isn't it time people of this century let it go? How are we to move forward if we can't let go of the past? Yes, lessons must be and have been learnt from the word, now let us focus on BIGGER problems at hand.
How ridiculous is it that you hear rappers throwing the word at each other constantly and suddenly, when someone of a different skin colour uses the word, he just spelt his own death sentence? Wake up. Grow up. It's over.
You will forever take offence to it because you ALLOW it to offend you. Words are just that – words. What matters most are the things you do as a human being. If you are going to let one word define your very existence, then it is your choice to waste what precious time you have on this earth, but don't drag people around you into your cesspool of hate and ignorance.
I always hated his crappy songs but now I love him for being so hilarious. Keep going John. I believe in you and your message.
He's sorry he used the "n" word but not sorry for calling his penis a "racist" and "david duke"?? Really? The "n" word was bad but the rest was Really bad
It's kind of funny how they post all this about what he said, but they don't post what he said. This is the first I've heard about it, and they take one word out of context and people freak out. How about listening to the inverview or posting transcripts before throwing him under the bus.
The epithet in question is taboo (i.e., grave social penalties attach) for whites, but not for blacks, for the same reason, as Mary Frances Berry put it, "Civil rights laws were not passed to protect the rights of white men and do not apply to them": the well-intentioned goal of "equal treatment" has worked out in practice to be but a halfway house to a new form of domination and discrimination, no less distasteful than the old.
If John Mayer was half the intellectual he claims to be he would have known better than to use a word that is the MOST emotionally charged word in the dictionary. No one with half a brain and with any regard for the color of their skin would not realize that using that word only dumbs you down and makes you appear as a despicable person in the public's opinion. John Mayer should focus on himself and his young immature faults and stop trying to blame other people or "the media" for his own acts of idiocy.
Insensitive ass. Anyone who would say what he said is a racist. I don't care if he was trying to be edgy or not.
I am bi-racial and I was less offended by his use of the "n" word than I was by his equating his penis to a white supremacist. He was basically saying that in his heart he loves all races, but would never "mix" with another race...sexually that is. Wow! I suppose we're to feel privilidged that he is tolerating us...sheesh!
I understand the "N' word can be hurtful, but with that said I think sometimes we need to look at the context in which its used.I hear it every day on the radio half the rap songs have it in it, people hear it used like that and it becomes a common word to some people.Im not a rap fan but my son is and theres no telling how many times I have heard it in his music.My son has friends who are black and they all use the "N" word including my son who is white when they are goofing off with each other.I have said stuff to him about it, that it may be okay when hes with that small circle of friends but not in public around just anyone because some people still are hurt by the use of it.I dont say John Mayer should be tarred and feathered but he needs to be careful what he says in the future in all interviews and apparently on all subjects....
John Mayer music sucks big time. He is a "no body" trying to act hip. I think Jennifer Aniston is too good for that LOSER!
He is such white trash.
I am SO tired of the double standard. John Mayer may be the poster child for idiocy, but if Chris Rock can use the slur 'Cracker' thousands of times . . why in the hell should John Mayer be censured fo saying the 'n' word?
How stupid is it that every respondent in this thread has to refer to it as the 'n' word?
Muslims will kill a man for drawing a cartoon of the prophet and black guys will kill a Cracker who says the 'n' word and I am supposed to see any sanity at all in any of this stupid crap?
We humans, as a race, are doomed. We are going to self-destruct in an orgy of violent, intolerant, stupidity unless we can overcome being so PETTY and so focused on trivial drivel like this article.
What an idiot! His music sucks too!
John Mayer has a single digit iq.Here is a guy who imitated every great black guitar player with some degree of success and has become proficient in the blues idiom which was created by black people and then hijacked by buffoons like John Mayer.Guys like Stevie Ray Vaughn who could play rings around the likes of John Mayer went out of his way to heap praise and acclaim from his black tutors.
Grow up John.Show some class.By the way I have never and will never buy one of your cds.
Hey John... In order to "intellectualize" something, you need to be intellectual. You're not. You're an egotistical a**. Therefore, as such, your comments do not surprise me. I would expect such ignorant musings to come from an immature idiot such as yourself. Grow up and shut up. I truly hope that Jennifer Aniston and Jessica Simpson are thanking their lucky stars that you "dumped" them. You're pathetic.
Wrong choice in using the N word but I get it as a black person in this country. No need to be overly sensitive but one does need to be conscious, especially if you wanted to be a bluesman.
I'm guessing anyone that had a problem with this didn't really read what he said. He wasn't being racist. Read what he said and if you still don't get it, that's on you!
Seriously, don't we have bigger things to worry about?
I 'm a poor grunt who has worked all his life in warehouses, driving truck for a year, installing DISH TV and more. I have heard the "N" word hundreds of times in my life. I work now in a small group with a few blacks who use it all the time and I kid them about being politically incorrect. I harass them about Obama. Kind of fun!!! I have only heard it in a hateful term a couple times ever and that was after the OJ trials.
(2 best friends I thought were going to kill each other over the OJ thing....seriously.)
Music has made it OK to say it, at least for the kids and young adults. My favorite comedians off all time are Cosby and Pryor. You want the funniest album ever, buy THAT NIGGER"S CRAZY by PRYOR-1972.
I am old now and see the "F" word, the "N" word as ignorant talk or at best lazy diction. If you can't think of proper words to say....be seen and not heard.
But for a celeb to say it in front of a microphone or a camera....that is just stupid. They are held to a higher standard. Protest him and don't buy his stuff if it bugs you.
Only 32? He's 32. And apparently really out of touch.
I had to listen to what he said before I would write this. People , especially African-Americans, need to lighten up and not be so reactionary when a caucasian uses the N-word. If other African-Americans can use it as a greeting they should not go over the deep end when a person of another race uses it in a non-derogatory way. He did not mean it as an insult nor was he trying to be derrogatory to African- Americans. Oh yeah I am an African-Americans. Now as to him being a womanizer and a jerk. The jury is still out on that one.
The more you "force" people to repress what they truly think/feel, the more it will start to boil over in time – which is what it's starting to do.
The politically correct police in this country have reduced our language to an alphabet language. ?-word has replaced all kinds of words and it's quite frankly as sick as the actual "hate" words that people use. I've seen the future "civilization" that they want and it looks like a really bad remake of "Demolition Man"!!!
It's perfectly alright for most Blacks to call each other "nigger", but if I, or another non-Black does then it's racist?! I don't hate a soul on the face of this Earth....don't have time for hatred, I have a life.....but those whom I do dislike it's not because of any group they belong to – it's because of them personally.
How about everyone try taking that chip off their shoulder, that SOME people have nailed on, off for a change. Got news for ya, small Southern town or Big Northern city, racism is alive and well in the U.S. and making us speak like 2 year olds isn't going to stop it.......it may actually exacerbate it!
John Mayer has revealed himself to be an ignorant jerk and a total cad.
One can only hope his career will suffer the same fate as his social life.
Not that anyone probably cares, but Mayer did appear multiple times on Chapelles Show, which as you might remember was quite shocking and used racism and bigotry as a form of humor. Some of this might have stemmed from his time on that show, and i personally dont beleive that the apology was necissary. He has helped a black man address the differances between the races, but i think both races find common ground in being able to laugh at the same joke, aimed at proving how ridiculous it is to get hung up on those differances. A word is a word, and John Mayer is not a racist.
HAHAHA. Kissing and telling about the naive, dumb chicks he has seduced and bedded. That's what these chicks get for hanging out with losers like John Mayer. I certainly don't feel sorry for these skanky starlets. Keep on playing.
BLACKMAYERFAN has is absolutely correct. Folks need to stop being so reactionary. Stop looking for the negative and operate with the accompany of intellect.
Ok, to the use of the "n" word, I think it should be erased from the vocabulary. I can't use it, you can't use. Nobody can use it. Do I care that he used it? No more than any other musician, actor, or comedian that may use it all the time. I'm certainly not going to boycott the guy's music because of it. As to his disclosures about his past relationships, sure it's in poor taste. Do I believe he hates women? No. He just doesn't have much of a filter on his mouth. If you REALLY think he hates women, read the explanation for why he wrote "Daughters".
I hear the N word all the time in my local Safeway. Was Mayer calling a a person the N word? Or was he discussing the word itself?
Should we ban all discussion of a word simply because it has negative connotations? I think people need more to do with themselves, maybe they will find fewer nothings to become enraged about and offended by.
Alright. No more publicity for you for at least 12 hours.
So he said the "n" word! Does any body make a big deal of all the black people calling us white folks all the slang words they can think of? No! I am not saying it was right, but there are alot worse things you can do than that! We need to quit being so politically sensitive in the country! How about making a big deal about the bad words the black people are saying about us white people for a change? That streeet goes both ways here, but not on the news I guess.
I don't see anything wrong with his comments. Are blacks the only ones that can use it? Didn't know they could copyright it.
When Dave Chapelle did a whole skit based on this same word, it was embraced. Why? because it was "funny"? ... because he is black? This word is vulger ... so regardless of "color", which should not even be an issue in the first place, it should be carried with the same weight. So I would like to talk about my issue with Dave Chapelle useing the word (and dont give me any crap about entitlment to use of the word, because I dont see color, so its a lost argument on me) ... When it comes down to it, everyone on this earth is entitled to their own oppinions ... but the media will make a big deal out of anything. I would like to know when my news transitioned into the E network ... This is a crazy world we all live in, and all we have is each other. So let's forget about petty words or names and work together towards a better tomm.
i'm a white hip hop producer- the fellas clown me, use the N-word, which they all black and aren't offended, but should i be offended? ha ha, honkies for life
Dave Chapel & Mayer are big buds. He probably that he had the liberty to use this word.; As some other notable white artist have. Robin Williams, M&M, Tarantino. Big mistake, but not racists.
Please tell me that Jennifer Aniston can clearly see that she is better off without this jerk. He used to be my favorite singer. I thought he was ridiculously immature and self-absorbed, but I was able to separate his hot air from his music. Now I just think he's disgusting (to put it nicely). His unbelievably offensive behavior completely overshadows his music now. Why would I want to listen to a man who talks about women with so little regard and is possibly racist? I'll be surprised if he doesn't end up losing his record label before it's over, because his popularity plummets with every word that comes out of his mouth. It's pathetic that he will be remembered not for his music but for being a first-rate jerk. And his comment about Jennifer Aniston not understanding him needing to be "32" because she's already 41? Um, news flash, John, 32 comes between 31 and 33 - NOT between 13 and 15. You act like a foul-mouthed out-of-control adolescent, not a 32 year old. She might have been perfectly happy with you if you had acted anywhere near your chronological age (and weren't possibly racist). What's sad is, you might mature in 10 or 15 years and then you'll be miserable with regret over what could have been. Your fans will be long gone and Jennifer Aniston will be happily married to an actual man. Good luck with that.
So what if he did. There is something called freedom of speech.
@ Peggy Sue: Stop saying ALL black people use the N word everyday. I don't use it nor does anyone that I know use it. Just because this guy said it doesn't mean I should think ALL whites say it everyday. Stop watching tv, surround yourself with better people of all races, and get an education!
Ignorant and Arrogant. There is nothing appealing about this guy. I can't even name one of his songs.
Wow, this interview was an eye opener. I thought he was a great song writer, but there are more classy singers out there than this dude. Piece of advice, John, think before you open your mouth.
People need to educate themselves. Randall Kennedy, Harvard Law Professor, wrote a wonderfully insightful book about this word and why people get so emotional about it. Mayer, a white man, used it in an interview and tried to make amends for uttering it via Twitter. Why not in a major magazine? Well, who knows. But the fury has nothing to do with the word but who says it. Mayer saying it, or anyone white saying it will forever out it in a negative context. It transforms the word into the nastiness, the unpleasantness of why it was created in the first place. It was a word that came into play by whites who wanted to make blacks feel less than human, make them lower than themselves. No matter how far we come, unfortunately this word when uttered by someone other than someone black, will always be wrong.
......John just dropped a deuce......ate ham and eggs......kissed a girl.....made a sandwich......I wish Twitter would go away.
Honestly, we Black women can go without knowing whether or not you're attracted to us. Quite frankly, John is unqualified to fully appreciate our beauty anyhow. Talk about conformity. John Mayer opinion shows just how much this "artist" conforms to that wrong and outdated way of thinking. I honestly thought he had potential. Boy, was I wrong. When will these stars realize that your personal life and professional life are intricately intertwined? In order for me to believe in you, you must believe in me with the same dose of hope. Whenever a star shows the slightest bit of negativity toward myself (I am a black woman) I remove myself from their support group and encourage others to do so as well. I am not a glutton for punishment and I found his remarks very hurtful. To all my sistahs, you're beautiful, you're beautiful, you're beautiful!
P.S. It is better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
He is DISRESPECTFUL...to not only the African-American community...but to all the women he has dated. What a jerk...!! You say things on record, yet want to retract ur statements..you are such a loser John! I'll never support him EVER again.
Are you kidding me!!! For all of you that think it is ok to use that word, you are totally ignorant and very insensitive!! Just the mere context of the word should be enough not to use it!! I am a black and an ex fan John Mayer!! He has completely lost my support and I will never listen to his music again!!
It's a shame that John Mayer is so self-obsessed that he has to spew out verbal diarrhea every where he goes. he disgusts me. i don't care how talented people think he is as a musician. he's a disgrace.
If Dave Chappelle is okay with him, then that's okay with me...
I like how everyone is riding their high horse, trying to defend against discrimination, when in the real world, whenever a racially charged phrase is used by a non-celebrity or a friend, most people say nothing.
Everyone says stupid things every once in awhile. Did he say something stupid? Yes, yes he did. However, have you ever said anything stupid? I bet you have, and you probably wanted someone to give you a break because you didn't mean it.
The media watches celebrities 24/7, why are people so shocked when someone does something stupid? The tabloids and celebrity media are complete nonsense.
The n word use was no big deal, didn't seem to be a derogatory use of it. What I was shocked was his kiss & tell regarding his girlfriends!
I'd be burning his ear for those comments if I were them.
BlackMayerFan, you should turn in your black card now, as well as any woman who stays a "fan" of this jerk after the things he said about Jessica and Jennifer. Forget his "hood pass" for a minute, how about him calling his c0ck a "white supremacist". You have no problem with THAT?
To Ryan: Do not equate the gay marriage issue in California with the civil rights struggle. They are different issues. It is NOT reverse racism on the part of black people if they DON'T support same sex marriage. Same sex marriage, although it clamors for equal civil rights in a narrow category, is an intellectual issue. There's no history of enslavement, lynching, beatings, sanctioned rape, segregation, Jim Crow treatment, discrimination in education, jobs and housing, general and specific disrespect and, most importantly, same sex marriage does NOT affect innocent children as racism does. And, what about racist and bigoted gays and lesbians? Where do they fall on your radar screen?
I love the comments from all these people who are clearly superior to everyone else. Its nice to know nobody here has ever misspoken, continue on your moral high ground where you will continue to be better than everyone. Haha
Use of the "N" word reveals what's really in Mayer's heart. Just one more reminder of how little artistic success and celebrity have to do with a person's moral character in America. For his sake, I hope Mayer grows up long before his music slides into oblivion.
Everyone acts like they would never unthinkingly say something that would piss SOMEone off if they were famous themselves. The guy doesn't have much of a filter, but hey, neither does probably your sister-in-law, your boss, or your middle school frenemy. Stop acting like he owes you something special from his image. Listen to his music or don't; that's it.
Everyone, please, go to bed and forget about it. Tomorrow is another day. There are more important issues in our world. Now breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.........good night.
It's called free speech – get used to it.
John Mayer is entitled to his testostorone enhanced opinion. Of course he regrets dropping the love of his life, but he is going to have to live on. Using the 'n' word is juvenile, but then again age is no indicator of wisdom nor intelligence. I do like his songs, but he has a lot of growing up to do.
So why don't you apologize for being an obvious woman-hater, John? You only addressed your racist remarks because you know THAT's the one thing that will ruin your pathetic "career". I suggest you keep that light turned on extra bright today, buddy, and figure out what your issues with women are.
You know what? The N word is offensive to black people and the reason white people can't say it is because it is offensive to black people who never say it. No one should say it. I am just as offended to have it thrown in my face on television, radio as I am of morons of ANY color using it. It is not a term of endearment. It is a term that means that the person who is using it thinks of me as less than they are.
Big deal. The guy can say what he wants to say. The black community uses just as harsh of slang words for other, non-Black races. They're hypocritical at best here.
No worries John, you keep doing what you do. As the Afro-Americans love to say, "Haterz gonna hate."
"Intellectualizing it"... Really John? Intellectualizing it? Well, he's no John Lennon, and that's for damned sure. This is what happens when simpletons try to act like philosophers.
No matter how much I enjoy this man's music, everytime I have seen anything printed that he has said in interviews he has either been spilling the secrets of his lovers or he has been derogatory. Some people just need to learn when to keep their mouths shut. You would think he would learn but evidently he doesnt....or just doesnt care! Which makes me MUCH LESS of a fan.
You can dress a pig up in his Sunday best but he will still be a dirty little pig. If racism is in you it will come out eventually.
Why would any woman have sex with this man ever again?????
I don't care for Mayer or his music but this is ridiculous. He's a friend of Dave Chappelle's and he's appeared on Dave's program. Certainly, Dave has used the "N" word and so has Kat Williams, Snoop Dogg, Ice T, Richard Pryor, Redd Foxx and a whole host of other Black comedians. Pryor, like Malcolm Little(X) before him, visited Africa and vowed never to use that term again. Malcolm took a hajj to Mecca and saw Muslims of all colors and there was no discrimination among them. His feelings about "the white devil" changed and he began seeking a purer faith in Islam. Personally, I don't think the "N' word should be used by anyone but there will always be the hateful among us who will disparage others for their race or some other factor that suits their predilection for hatred of their fellow human. Hatred won't be wiped out by telling people not to hate. Hateful words may not be spoken but they will still be thought and until hateful thoughts become a thing of the past there will always be a place in hearts for the "N" word and the "B" word and other code words that reflect more upon the person giving utterance than upon those targeted.
Mayer's press agent needs to reel him in. He has the potential to be an impacting performer but he loses all credibility once he starts talking. And...last month's cover of the Rolling Stone featured Mayer doing the world a favour, and featuring him chest naked on the cover. It reaked of his nepotism which only contributes to his turnoff. Get over yourself JM. You ain't all that.
Mr Mayer, you are a sociopath. Grow up, get some counseling. And leave us alone!
I believe John Meyer is a low class racist who brags and shares intimate details about the girls he sleeps with.
His music is elevator, cookie cutter crap and if we buy it we're branding ourselves complete sheepish idiots.
He's a white guy, play acting like a black guy, stealing black people's music to get rich on, but who hates black n-words.
Don't give him your money.
I haven't read the interview, however the "n" word should NOT be used by anyone, especially black people. Growing up in the mostly black and Puerto Rican projects in Brooklyn in the fifties and sixties, I can count on one hand the number of times I heard that word. It just was NOT said. Hip hop culture has change the import, impact and frequency of its usage. It's negative when black people use it and constitutes grounds for outrage when white people use it because it conjures up images of the horrors of slavery and Jim Crow days. It's that simple. All African Americans do not live in a "hood" and are repulsed when they hear it. I have watched the reactions of white people and I can honestly say they cringed MORE than I did. What I find more offensive is Mayer's statement that he isn't attracted to black women. I'd say that's a loss of 5,000 to 10,000 CD sales. I saw a segment with Mayer in a Herbie Hancock documentary. I thought he was good. Now I'll think of him differently when I watch it and, what will he say to Herbie the next time he sees him?
I'm white and I've used the word in jokes, and I'll use it again. Until everyone stops using it I'll continue to mock the double standard. Sound familiar?
Why is everybody Hatin' on John Mayer? I mean sure he said the N word but seriously black people say to eachother and don't get offended but when a white person says it they get mad and tell everyone. Besides he is a pretty good singer and he's HOT!!!
When did it become a surprise that he is an idiot?
The press asked him questions and put him on a pedastal as he is a "celebrity" he is suppose to have some higher thought process? He is an idiot what did you exepct from an idiot. Just because you have a talent does not make you intelligent. He is an idiot. This will not be the last idiotic statement from this idiot.
Yes we all know you are just apologizing now because you have offended a lot of people
I personally want to send your one and only cd that I have back for a refund. You are a sad little polished turd.......and the more you talk/tweet the stupider you sound
He should have just said moon cricket. That wouldn't have offended anyone except crickets.
Didn't a large percentage of blacks vote to support discrimination against gays on Prop. 8 in California? Don't a lot of black also often attack white people and Jews? I think actually discriminating is way worse than using a racial slur. So when black bigots stop discriminating, we can all stop saying n*****. Of course there are a lot of black people who support equality. To them I would show the same mutual respect that they show other people and would never use n***** to refer to them. People really need to stop focusing to much on the stupid, superficial things that make us all different and instead focus on the deeper things that make us all the same.
Unfortunately, based on the infrastructure of the nation, and the neighborhood barriers created during the red-lining era of the housing boom of the 1930's, there will always be ghettos, hoods, slums, underachieving schools, misguided youth, crime, poverty and racial slurs. And of those realities, we're supposed to feel that a word carries the same weight as gang violence, drug abuse, or teenage pregnancy? Mayer's comments may have been tasteless, but last time I checked, nobody died, or lost their home because he referenced the "N" word when talking about "Hood" passes, and restaurant reservations.
It's just a word. And while real issues suddenly become less important because or "news" like this, it doesn't take a genius to realize that there is a very real, profitable commercialism tied to the "n" word– which might explain why rappers continue to exploit it. Would rap still be "raw" if you replaced the "n" word with "my buddy john"?
The answer is no.
Shut up and play your guitar.
amazing that black people get away with using the word everyday especially the younger ones. just listen to rap crap!
Erika said it best man, just keep it real bro, don't listen to these haters.
The guy is a knuckle head, in my mind an OK musician and a complete train wreck. He may be 32 years old with an IQ of 32. What anyone sees in him musically or for that matter personally is beyond me. He is as an assclown.
He is worse than a pig. The things he is saying about the women he supposedly loved is disgusting. He brags about his "hand" and is so obsessed with this tool he comes off as a total pervert. If he acted this way around those women then I think I have lost a lost of respect for them by virtue of them partaking in his perversions. He is a total pig who latches on to the "hot" woman of the moment just to keep his sorry butt in the limelight.
For those of you pulling out the "black people say the 'n' word all the time, so why can't anyone else say it" card, I am a black person and an EXTREMELY offended by the use of that word. Not every African American uses or likes the "n" word. And those who do use it should not be associated with the rest of us. Just like other groups who make "racist" remarks about other racial groups do not represent everyone. John Mayer does not represent every white male in this country. He made a stupid remark and the black people that say the "n" word are stupid too. Just don't ever say it. End of discussion.
Get over it people just a word – if he was black is it then ok to say n**** ?
Why don't you just shut up? Why do some 'stars' think that because they can sing or act that they have the inside track to intlligence. You're just a guy who can sing. You're not any smarter because of that. Shut up.
I am SOOOOOOO sick of people finding this word SOOOOO offensive that no matter what the MEANING of the person's use of it is - you just respond like a pre-programmed robot. No human thought goes into it. Just boom, red flag, you used it – you're evil.
Now if someone says what's you're least favorite word in the world, I think NO ONE should say "nigger" because that will obviously have to mean that you love that word.
And why the n-word should have to mean so much to ANYONE in this day and age is beyond me. If you are such a child that someone calls you by a name that clearly has no relationship to your intellect and culture then why would you even be bothered by it. It's like someone calling ou a Martian. Whatever. Frickin crybabies make me ill. Grow up.
He just needs to stop Twittering!
I can't believe this word still holds weight anymore. This nation needs to grow up and move on already. Next.
This guy appears to have an incurable and nasty case of "diarrhea of the mouth". Stand back . . .
Say what you mean to say!
Say what you mean to say!
Words are just that, words. We can give them their own meaning. If I say from now on that the "n" word means Brother, friend, or ancient GOD, then if I say, yo John mayor whats up my "n", and he says it back...what does that mean? It means Im his brother? We give so much power to people, things and words. But they are just that, words. We are the power, we are the creators. WE GIVE LIFE TO WORDS...SO LETS CHANGE THE MEANING AND ERASE THE HATE!!!!!
How long did it take for his publicist to tell him to issue an apology? What's next, is he going to announce he's going to rehab?
People still confuse the black my n word (with a ga) with the hey you n word (er) come pick this cotton. He should have said n word (with a ga) instead Eminem says it all the time and it isn't a problem...I have heard plenty of white people use it in the hey wat up my n word (with a ga) way even with another white person...it the different connotation of which he spoke it then called his genitalia a. white supremicist that I think outraged most people...do I think he was trying to be offensive no but it was offensive and he should apologize
I have read all the comments and it amazes me of the racial tension from everyone. Truth is as a multi racial black,white and indian woman. I've seen racisim from all sides and no one can tell me about something I live with. The questions of "why is it okay for a black man to call another black man the "n" word. Well first the word is spelled and said a little different then what's in the dictionary but its the fury that a black man can and a white man can't. I remember when I heard other white guys call each other "cracker" and "peckerwood" however if a blackman were to call a white man those names in mixed company what would happen? It's a tit for tat world and yes it is either black or white and little to no grey. If you really read all these comments this should be the next CNN Special "Racial Issues in America" where is Soledad when you need her. Face it no matter what your opinion is, its going to be racist. By the way John, I don't and have NEVER dated a white man and to most I look white. So what? Its my choice to be with someone I want to be with and the truth is I've seen a few white men that were handsome but that I couldn't relate to. Thats why music is music and not a color, you hear it and it has no color. I heard John play before I knew who he was and thought he was black. Be real and be true to you. Like "Dog the bounty hunter" was forgiven and the issue of his mouth saying the wrong thing was forgotten and it will be again. After all we are all hypocrites one way or another.
Why dont you get mad when rappers use the "n" word? You people sit and wait until a white person makes a "racially sensitive " comment and jump all over them. Start commenting on on them and you people will be heard. Until the you are just as much of a racist as anyone else!
Richard Pryor made a statement on his Live at Sunset Strip Album. When he went to Africa, a life changing thought hit him like a ton of bricks. While he was in the midst of a group of Africans. he realized that there were no n?????. From that point on, he said that he would never say it again. Rappers should take a page from his experience and realize that they are only tearing themselves down. They have a chance to achieve what they parents could only dream of, and gain self-respect.
The boy is a classless gossip queen. Like a lot of people – he should just keep his mouth SHUT!
I think he is disgusting. Why in the world does he feel it necessary to talk about the women in his lie. He should have stayed a musician and not a publicity whore.
John Mayer is a fav of mine...Room for Squares love it and I love him. IF you would realize what he did say...he is a muscian a true one at that the most talented gifted artist I have been blessed to listen to. Yes he made mistakes yes he dated the "A" list who gives a crap. At least he owns it. And has grown from it. A true artist which he is will always be complete with his calling and his calling is music. So he was honest I commend him for being true. As for those who disagree look at yourself. Question you. Be happy, and if you need to then forgive and forget.
i truly feel that if he comes out and says he has found god AND that he has checked himself into a clinic for his sex addiction, it's all good!
I am black and a fan of John Mayer and I am not offended. He was trying to make a point and the frontal lobe was not working. So much for trying to be hard and edgy John. And so what, he is not into black women. Does that make him a racist, of course not. But I am sure he'll stick to the politically correct answers from now on. People need to stop being so sensitive.
If you think we are all so stupid, that you're not some "blus peacoat" wearing intern, who has made up your screen name, and workng in Mayer's record label's PR department...try again. I worked at CAA , and we did it all the time! Save the Artist, Save the money! RULE #1
the only reason they interviewed him is to show what a nincompoop he is.
It would have been VASTLY more responsible if CNN had bothered themselves to show the entire context of the quote, rather than this He Said She Said crap. Many of us have more important things to do than keep up with Tweeting, the latest techno-pointlessness obsessing an already over stimulated nation.
So of course you have this endless tirade by idiots reacting to something they OBVIOUSLY haven't fully read.
This guy is such a douchebag ...not so much for using the word as I don't know the context in which he used it (although rarely is it ever ok), but he's a complete in moron in general. Frankly, I don't know what any girl over the age of 19 would see in his developmentally challenged ass, much less Aniston.
Celebrities always think that their every word is prose. They're too insulated by money and "Yes Men"
Mayer thought that he could intellectualize.... what a joke! Does he know that one needs brain for that?
I will never buy another CD of his!
Gosh, when is everyone going to to understand that racial slurs of any type are damaging not only to the audience intended BUT everyone in America.
We must stop being limited by malicious words about one another and consider the country is hurting. We're bleeding jobs faster then hairs grow on the average American's head and we just saved a bunch of large institutions with tax payer dollars–only to turnaround and pay themselves huge bonuses. We need to get our attention off of "underclassed" entertainment stars like Kanye West and Mr. Mayer and focus on whats going on in Washington or we're all going to find ourselves as social outcast and living in a country without a solid identity.
The average teen can better quote Jennifer Aniston's newest boyfriend versus the consititution or the first African American to be appointed to an executive corporate office.
Everyone, WAKE UP!!! We'll all be living in Jersery shores soon!
He used the n word a few years ago trying to do stand up comedy and was booed off stage. This guy doesn't learn. To think, Jennifer Aniston dated a guy who used that word. Gross.
Dude, you are alright. Focus on the music, stay out of the social commentary, and press on with love, life and music making. All these naysayers that are crying out for your blood have nothing but time and regrets. Push on with the talent, and for real: don't use that word in public again.
John is such a puke!!
Since there is no mention on how he used the "N" word I'm left to assume it was said not in a racial hatred rant but simply said; otherwise the media would have included its context. That it was said at all is unfortunate, however I cannot chastise him for using a word that is still said without hesitation in black music, film and on our streets. As to his comments on the preferences of his penis, well…to each their own.
Hong: He does have an education, from Berkley School of Music...not a bad gig. Also, thank you John for being honest and forward...it is a rare day that one can actually see what people are actually thinking, it never makes you many friends, but at least you are true to yourself. You aren't racist by using a word you are racist through your actions. Live a life where you say what you mean and you mean what you say.
John Mayer needs to go away now. His attempt at socially relevant statements and the attempt to shock and awe have grown to be tiresome. His classless behavior towards women just shows his level of maturity.
After all his is only 32........
What comes out of your mouth its what"s in your heart thank you for your appoligy John.
Johnny, you have just been thrown into the snake pit. Let's hope that Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton are laying low today. But maybe, just maybe, some others should be looked at: Dr. Dre, Snoop Dog, Dave Chappelle, Cab Calloway, Abe Lincoln, Mark Twain.
he was asking for trouble the minute that particular thought passed the brain-mouth barrier. it was an insensitive thing to say, but the reaction seems to me disproportionate to the offense. he's a young man who said something insensible. there's nothing new about that, and definitely nothing new about race issues commanding media attention for foolish causes. and while recognizing that it is a different matter than run of the mill lack of thought, there needs to come a point in our society where we say enough is enough and make a change in race relations; a point at which we stop considering our interactions as race relations and start considering ourselves as a united population, indivisible by race, ethnicity, gender, or any other frivolous variable that ultimately bows to our identification as Americans. Of this sort or that, we are all Americans. And as Americans, we should be above concerning ourselves with the inconsequential mutterings of a musician who made a mistake. We have much more important things to be thinking of, like how to help our neighbors find jobs to support their families, how to rebuild our economy, and how to keep each other safe in a world fraught with danger and hatred enough to last too many lifetimes, and in which the perpetrators of such evil are completely entitled to civil rights. John Mayer using a bad word is truly inconsequential at this point in time. Shame on us for devoting so much time to it.
I think the remarks that John Mayer made was in fact very terrible and ignorant. However, the vast majority of African-American people use the N-word like it is no big deal. The majority of African-American people think that it is okay to use that word around one another but not okay for a non-black person to use the term. In fact, it should not be okay for anyone to use it. It demonstrates ignorance, regardless of racial or ethnicity.
The poor guy always has to eat his words.. He should just sing and not talk. He is very talented but a social bafoon.
Im a young black women and period point blank nobody needs to be using the "N" word! That goes for black, white, brown, yellow..whatever!! John Mayer said he is sorry.. wither he meant it or not who are we to judge...advice for him ..just dont say it again in private or public and keep it moving!
Not only black people but now Puerto Ricans use the "N" word as part of everyday language and call each other that. I guess it's a cool way of speaking to each other. BTW I'm Puerto Rican I can't stand the way
this younger generation has totally screwed up everyday language. Who will hire these people that have no vocabulary. Oh and now most other Latinos are doing it too.
Just another reason to stay relevant. Stop writing about him; you don't hear Nora Jones or Chris Botti spewing this sort of crap!
John Mayer's mouth is like an ever flowing fountain of diarrhea.
Oh how I wish the article had posted the original Tweet so we could all see the CONTEXT of the word that has everyone's panties in a twist.
CONTEXT, people. CONTEXT.
If Mayer was using the "MY N-word" use, then depending on his "pass" he may be allowed...with his close friends and NOT on Twitter because more than your close friends read your posts. Anyone you allow to 'follow' your posts is a "friend". Not a Friend.
I would say to Mayer, you can say what you want in front of people you know and who know you, but when you're talking to "the world" you have to be a little more careful.
To the haters and ignoramuses who don't know the CONTEXT of what he said: Please, move along. There's nothing for you to see here.
BTW, some of the hoop-la over this incident can definitely fall under the category of Manufactured Outrage. (Google it.)
I don't feel his remarks were as racist as they were sexist, classless, and immature. And just to set the record straight, not all black people use the "N" word. I find it offensive and degrading when "people", any people black, white, red, yellow use that word. I find it more apalling how he spoke about the women he had past realtionships with. He is certainly a guy with no class, and a very transparent moral code. Hopefully this will be a wake-up call for him and he can grow-up in to a better person.
John Mayer is a Hollywood, overpaid, big mouth, loser...be gone!
Keep your sex life to yourself buddy. You may not have much class, but at least fake it for the sake of your past relationships.
Politically correct or not, do people not want to hear what these "celebrities" have to say? That is why they are interviewed, no? BlackMayerFan said it best. The media has absolutely done what Mayer did not want. It's so frustrating in a society when all people want to be treated equally yet overreact when a word is used, ever how non-derogatory that context may be. You don't like how raw John Mayer is? DON'T READ THE INTERVIEW!
Well, it's certainly been fun going "toe-to-toe intellectually" with him, but it's good to hear that the horny hamster upstairs is finally back on it's wheel.
As ole' honest Abe said: "Better to remain silent and be thought a d*****bag, than to speak and remove all doubt". The ship has sailed on the latter, but with any luck he'll have the sense to shut his piehole and stop reminding everyone.
He continues to demonstrate what a moron he is. And the only reason he can attract women is because he has $$. Unattractive and stupid.
The interviewer stated that some say John Mayer has a "hood pass". I think that it's just another way to say "n*****", as he did, so he said it. I get so upset with people not being able to express themselves. He may have used some really raw language, but give the guy a break, he sounded cocky as hell, but it's all his opinion.
He is one of the most overrated guitar players in the last 50 years anyway. The only reason anyone knows him is because he made a song millions of 13 year old girls loved and then somehow bought his way into Eric Clapton's pocket to be paraded around like the next blues legend....all the while people who REALLY are the next blues legends like Derek Trucks and others are overlooked and under-appreciated.
Relax people. He realizes it was wrong and said so, move on , dont kick someone when they are down. John rips on the guitar! forward John!
Okay, people, the man did say he was sorry. I personally don’t like John Mayer, but whether he meant it or not, he did apologized. We cannot lynch him for using the N word when black people use it all the time. If the N word is so offensive then no one should use it at ALL!
I used to love his music. He should learn to keep his mouth shut. We all have fleeting thoughts analagous to what he spurts out, but for heaven's sake he's too old and to many years into Hollywood to use the "I'm an independent thinker" to be quoted as he has. it's just plain hypocracy at times!
Don't say things you cant take back. The tongue is very powerful. I believe people say what they mean. He revealed his true self as far as I am concerned. He should have known better.
He actually did use the N-word, but that portion of the article (oddly) isn't quoted here.
Either way, John Mayer is like any cocky D-Bag that has no perspective of setting or audience when trying to convince them that he is as funny and smart as he thinks he is. The only problem is that he has a lot of talent, and people listen because of it.
He is white America's Kanye West (assuming Kanye West doesn't already fill this role). Just as pompous, talented and ignorant, but slightly more articulate.
The first time I heard this quack sing, he sounded like he had a mouthful of oatmeal or somethig. Go back to your mush mouth singing and leave Jessica alone. John Mayer is one of the most self-important persons in this world today – go eat somemore oatmeal and shut up!
Can't wait for John to have a daughter....I bet he will change his piggish ways of talking about women. John needs to remember that what goes around, comes around.
No, it's OK John. Nobody cares who you are, carry on with whatever rawness you were experimenting with, dawg.
Are Black's only offended by the word? Better yet; are they the only target?
White's use the "N" word toward each other as well... during both negative and positive conversations.... So chalk it up
@Peggy Sue-Please do not talk when you don't know what you're talking about. The N-Word is not used on ANY radio station I have ever heard. They bleep that stuff out.
Now on to John Mayer. Me as a black male, didnt offended by the word because it was in a context of trying to point out an injustice. What I did have a problem with, was his choice of words. Totally insensitive. C'mon, "I have a Benetton heart/but a David Duke d@ck"? Seriously John? David Duke? Did you think that would've turned out well? That's like me saying "I like every race of woman, but I wont have relations with Jewish women, I have a heart of gold, but a Third Reich c#ck." Totally innappropriate.
So John, I just hope you wise up and know that everything that sounds good in your head, doesnt always translate verbally. Good luck.
I think your blues music is weak. And your pop music lame.
Try journalism or acting. No wait you will suck at those too.
So he said The N word oh my. Lets get all freaked out. So what when a black person says a white guy is a cracker. Or Spike Lee saying that if Larry Bird was black he would just be another Basketball Player.. Give me a break to all of you Politically Correct people out there. The Race card seems to always come up if it is regarding a different race.
Mayer is the definition of a dumb ass and I wish the media would ignore him. Who cares what he has to say or what he does. Let him simply disappear.
ANYBODY in my book that using the N word is ignorant. So if a white person wants to use the word I'm sure that they can be happy in their ignorance. My circle of friends DO NOT use that word. We have a black friend from North Carolina that used to used it. My husband told him that now that we have a black president you need to stop using that word. No derogatory term should be acceptable for any race. Simple common sense and respect for others.
At the end of his life this guy, like the rest of us, will have a lot of regrets but using the "N" (give me a break) word will not be among them. Letting his self-respect be dictated my others just might be. Grow some b@lls dude....
Just be lucky we live in a country where we have the freedoms to say what we want. Agree with him or not. Use the "N" word or don't use the "N" word. Hate the word in all it's meanings or love the word. Just be thankful we are able to have these kinds of discussions.
Potty mouth? When did people lose their minds and think it's normal to talk like children. So what if Mayer screwed up. In thirty-two years, this was all you could find to rip on him? He apologized and it sounds real. Leave him alone and go back to working on your own vocabulary.
If John Mayer was a black rapper, there would be no controversy. I wish he had the courage to point that out, but I don't blame him for trying to appease the mindless masses as they follow the folly of political correctness to its illogical conclusion.
This man made a mistake, and obviously regrets it. Please leave it alone!
Bleh – John Mayer – Keep on Keepin on, dude. There ya go...I just gave you your next single title...feel free to contact me and we can co-write a song about this one. Love you. Mean it. Carm
I was a huge John Mayer fan and I am so very disappointed by his statement. I dont know how a person that both writes and sings the lyrics that he does can be so unequal to the "artist". It is a real loss because his music well never have the same meaning for me ,now I will just think of a racist A & F fratboy. Its not that you cant have an opionion, its that you couldnt be respectful enough to the people that listen to your music to exercise restraint.
Ho hum. Just another young man who has far, far too much money and believes that what he says is so important. Mayer needs to grow up and get over himself. Stupidity only goes so far.
The "n" word and the "r" word are nothing more than words and unless someone directed either of them at someone specifically then it's time for the media and radicals to give it a rest!
It seems so obvious he isn't trying to be a bigot- he's telling a story and trying to relate. Granted, I wouldn't use that word in a million years. It's not fair to say "well, black people use it all the time" it's the same reasoning in that you can call your sister a bitch anytime you want, but if someones does you want to rip their face off.
Get OVER it people...it's a word; a description. Unless you are what that word describes, you shouldn't get so butthurt everytime you hear it.
What about Nazi? Do you not cringe or get pissed off at the hearing or reading of it? The atrocity was more profound in regards to that word than the other 'n' word ever was.
We can thank idiots like Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton for spreading this hypersensitivity to the word.
Heck, we can't even call you 'black' anymore as that is now degrading. I just find it odd that the black community is/are the only ones making such a fuss about their title but yet they'll call themselves those very same things.
Hmm, ignorance and bliss go hand in hand I guess.
John Mayer is the world's biggest douche lord....his music is horrible and he is an arrogant jerk.
Oh, come on! If I had a nickel for every time I heard the "B" word said on TV, I could fly first class to Jamaica. What makes the "N" word worse?
What a prince. Stay classy, Johnny.
The only person in love with John Meyer is John Meyer.
Funny how you can say these awful things about him, yet you are not articulate enough to even spell his name right? I am a 15 year old high school student and I am more intelligent. Honestly, this guilt felt by many caucasions due to the unfortunate decision of prejudice that occured about 50-150 years ago is getting old. If you were even close to intelligent enough to comprehend what John is saying, he merely states his mind. As a right we have thanks to the first amendment, he can say whatever he wishes. His band mates are African American, he performed with Alicia Keys....who is obviously African American, and one of his biggest musical influences BB King ...is B-L-A-C-K.So for any whites, blacks, asians, or whatever you are, who criticize John based on his raw uet brutally honest interviews, get a life. He's a gifted musician who gets too much criticism due to today's awful media. i love you john clayton mayer.
John Mayer is an idiot. Why is anyone listening to anything he says? (And why would ANY woman date him??) I wish he would stop talking completely.
There's a sense that white people are more offended by this than black people, or any other non-whites for that matter. White people are carrying around this guilt over an aspect of history they've personally had no part in, and it's white people who lash out first, not wanting to be reminded of past abuses associated with race and wanting the whole thing to just go away. Guilt and pain are natural reactions, but context should be considered before issuing condemnation against someone.
Isn't this the same guy that wrote a song called 'My Stupid Mouth'? Apparently, he's always been like this.
as a singer who is trying to keep a fan base, he might want to watch what comes out of his mouth!! he is very talented but it seems like he's searching for something that is missing in his life... he needs say sorry for making those awful comments about black women
Truly a tenth rate WUSS of a singer and songwriter. Yechhhhhh!!!!!!!
Ironic... we don't have to know him personally to know that he is a pig, jerk, arrogant, or ugly...he makes that perfectly clear by the way he acts on TV, radio, in concerts, or Twitter.
that is why Dave Chappelle can say the n word using any kind of text he wants because he is BLACK!!!! HELLO!!!!
I am not a Mayer fan, but who am I to reject an apology. If the repeats the behavior then people could question his sincerity, but the guy apologized. I would hope if I screwed up and apologized people would accept it.
Forgive people – life is too short!
Greg...let a white person say what's up my "n" and see what happens to them, let a black person say the same thing and nothing will happen to them.
I didn't even know he said it. Shows how important he really isn't.
Wow! People are very judgemental! I'm sure everyone who has posted a comment has said something that they have later regreted, just be happy there was no one there to broadcast it to the world when is happened to you. And calling him a jerk and pig. . . you know him personally how?
Oh, please we all know there is a difference in saying whats up my n word and saying hey you dumb n word. It's the context people. You know dave chappelle said it all the time with both connotations.
I am a black woman and based on how many black rappers, ball players, actors and others of various colors say it in interviews, John Mayer is no different. John may not be attracted to black woman and it is ok because this black woman and others have never been attracted to John Mayer. However, I do like his music, never purchased it and never will (not based on the interview), I just don't see the need to spend my money on music when everyone sounds alike these days. John, keep speaking your mind and I understand you only posted your aplogy via twitter to keep the fans and media from turning on you. But if you had not felt that way in the first place, you never would have said all that you did. Just be a man and don't aplogize for how you you really feel. You may say you'll never say the "N" word again, but what you really mean is you will never say it in public again!
oh, golly gee. A person used a bad word....maybe we should all run for the hills. Settle down people and stop feeding the machine. The only meaning a word has is what you assign to it. Stop stretching, twisting, and taking everything out of context.
QUESTION...Why can black people call each other the "N" word but white people can't? If it is that offensive to black people, why can they call each other the "N" word and it be ok? They call each other the "N" word more than anyone else does. Let one white person say the "N" word and the world knows about it!
Problem is, everyone regardless of race has made some kind of derogatory or insensitive remark about another individual or group. Also, while the 'n' word is offensive, why is it that I hear African-Americans use the 'n' word more than any other group?
Well, first off I can't stand when they say "I shouldn't have used it and will never use it again"..what? The only way that's possible is if someone cuts your tongue out. I mean I didn't see the interview but this article makes you look like a back peddling, wimp! Get a backbone dude!
I have no idea what Jennifer Aniston EVER saw in John Mayer!! His music isn't that great, he is arrogant, not the least bit attractive and he thinks he is Gods gift to everyone. At least Brad Pitt was attractive!!!
Yeah cause you guys have never said the N word right?
John Mayer is a complete jerk. He needs to grow up especially his treatment to woman. Kissing and telling about the woman he has dated shows a great deal of lack of respect.
He is totally arrogant person. Believing that he is an artist, gaves him the excuse to be "raw" in his interviews in respect to to life and disregard to people. What a waste of a human being. Get an education, get respect for woman and relationships.
Wow. And considering that he was once a guest on Dave Chappell's show...
Was he supposed to hold a press conference to apologize? Not a big deal at all IMO. Actually I wish he would get a little edge to him...his last album was kind of boring.
Who freakin cares if he used the "N" word? I am so sick and tired of the media making such a big deal out of the white folks using the "N" word. If it is so bad then NOBODY should use it and it sure in the heck should not be played everyday over the radio waves. Seriously people why does the media have to make a moutain out of a mole hill? He used the "N" word get over it! Do you think the black folk don't use derogatory slang for white people? They do every day but I HAVE NEVER EVER read anything or saw news bringing it out. PLEASE STOP YOU MAKE THE RACIAL TENSION WORSE BY BRINGING THIS STUFF UP!!!!
Not surprisingly, everyone is taking this out of context and running to the opposite end zone with it because that's what we, as Americans do. We distort whatever we can, whenever we can so that we can revel in our hatred without guilt. Hatred, the new American passtime. Used to be baseball. Those were the days. Hate on!
i clicked on the link that you had titled "racially SENSITIVE remarks" (wouldn't "insensitive" work better at getting your point across?), read the article, and saw no mention of Mayer using the "N" word... only ignorant remarks about his penis' lack of attraction to black women.
I am black and was not offended. I understood his point and I think people should stop being so reactionary. I bet people just narrow in on a word and then create gossip. I still love John! I will buy your CD and frankly, I love the raw interview. It's real. So many people talk through PR agents etc. It's nice to know who John is, love or hate him. I love you!
Not a gentleman...a jerk and will always be a jerk.
Yup, you were so sorry that you took about three minutes to address the issue via twitter. Real genuine, douche bag.
You were comfortable enough to devote more than a few trite comments to the subject. The only thing you are sorry about is the fact that your "hood pass" isn't checking out the way you thought it would.
I wonder if Alicia Keys, India.Arie and the Jackson Family would be interested in collaborating with you in the future after this.
Then why did you sy it?
John Mayer is a pig. At least he has his lily white hand.
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