October 16th, 2009
10:32 AM ET

Sad night for 'Real Housewives'

While I was prepared to be uncomfortable watching Thursday night’s episode of the “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” for me it was worse than I had imagined.

Kim and Sheree planned a surprise engagement party for Kandi and A.J. since their original party plans had been derailed due to a relative injured by a drunk driver.

It is always strange to watch a deceased person alive and well in footage, but in this case it was all the sadder because what should have been a happy time was made so incredibly stressful by the bad blood between A. J. and Kandi’s mother, Joyce.

When the three of them got together for a session with a Christian counselor, I felt torn between understanding Joyce’s desire to protect her child, and my wish that she had cut A.J. some slack – especially given the unhappy ending none of them knew was coming.

The tension at the engagement party made the rest of the show seem even more superficial to me. Who cares about Sheree’s fashion line or Kim’s wig business when watching A.J. try and get his future mother-in-law to toast her daughter’s happiness highlighted how fleeting life can be?

I hope NeNe, whose meeting with a man who may be her biological father also played out on the episode, takes a lesson from A.J. and Kandi’s situation on the importance of family ties and making peace.

What did you think of the show?


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  1. tryecrot

    Yes there should realize the opportunity to RSS commentary, quite simply, CMS is another on the blog.

    August 28, 2011 at 11:24 am | Report abuse |
  2. ariel

    first off, i am pretty sure AJ was not shot, from what i understood, blunt force to the head.. Secondly all of the housewives from all the series are fake, the show is scripted and about 10% is true reality.. and most of them are either loud, do not work, and are extra flashy.. not just the ATL women, remember the OC ladies started with their plastic surgery, disrespectful kids with drug habits, husbands leaving them for younger women and etc( please do not forget about gretchen who admited she was not attracted to that man) so what was the connection?? that's right MONEY.. my how we tend to forget things so easily... and please remember this SHOW was created to entertain, and that is what it is doing.. so if you hate it so much dont watch! its that simple..

    October 20, 2009 at 4:31 pm | Report abuse |
  3. Pat

    Kandi and AJ were not engaged at the time of his death. AJs passing is still a tragic event. He is someones son and he was loved. I love the show. It is no better or any worse than the other reality shows. Kim looks like trailer trash in ugly expensive clothes and every wig/hair piece she puts on looks the same. Sharee needs to lighten up on the exercise she is starting to look like a man in drag and she really needs to listen to Dwight. Lisa is trying to outdo everyone. Ne Ne is your average girlfriend who keeps the group together with all her dippn/drama but she has a good heart. Kandi – with her music knowledge helped Kim get her song out there but to me she is not Anita Baker, Aretha, Sade, or India Irie. I do not like her voice when she talks or sings. She is one hellofa song writer and I hope she does more of that.

    October 20, 2009 at 2:32 pm | Report abuse |
  4. Felicia

    @ Jennifer, why would you think that that black community looks at black on black murders as normal? That was a very ignorant thing to say. Any murder is tragic. You shouldn't speak on our community unless you have lived in our community as a black man or woman. And if you are black, I really am sorry that you think that way. What type of person are you?

    October 20, 2009 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  5. andrea

    It is rather boring. And i just have to say some things...NENE is very ghetto, how dare she call Kandi, whose probably the most wealthiest, most popular, and kindest one of them all, ghetto? You could hear nene's big ,mouth from a mile away. Kim needs to get a life and find her a SINGLE man. Lisa needs to be a mom and stop trying to compete with Sharee. Sharee also needs to chill a little bit and from what they have shown so far, as far as her clothes, they're not anything we all haven't seen before. Dwight is a freakin joke, who told him that he was a fashion guru? And i hope Kandi keeps her head up and gets through this tragedy.

    October 20, 2009 at 12:29 pm | Report abuse |
  6. alexandra

    Sweet lord the show is a comedy... sheree i dont know what the woman thinks she's doing with her eyes when she poses; your eyes wide n almost close them thing makes her look like a over the hill model trying to look sensusous.. please stop..
    nene is not a jone's.. not by a long shot.. she is a plus size who is she kidding. and a former stripper has no business making fun of a mistress not by a long shot..
    lisa well shes not a mother if you willingly give up your kids no matter the reason i have no use for .. she can work out for hours but when is the last time she spent hours with her kids.. the fashion show was a flop project runway people have better clothes the first elemination challenge
    kim well just eeewthe hair loks fake no matter what she does.. and she needs to get a job.. spend time with the kids.. less time at spas.. your looking worn ole girl worn
    kandi has made the show worth watching.. focus on her.. shes a mom she works hard.. n shes frugal.. she doesnt blow money for the hell of it.. muahhhhhhhh girl

    October 20, 2009 at 1:40 am | Report abuse |
  7. Jeana

    Do ANY of those women have more than a high school education? Or even a GED? I have a hard time believing that this illiterate, ignorant and uncouth group of females is the best they could find to represent beautiful Atlanta. Such a shame. The only one out of the bunch that is self made and worth her salt is Kandi. Everyone else is living off some man. These attempts at "design" and "art" and whatever is merely a silly flash in the pan attempt to try and give themselves some depth of character. I pity ALL of their children. Not one will amount to anything because they have no educated and solidly based parents to enforce it to happen. So sad.

    October 19, 2009 at 10:16 pm | Report abuse |
  8. Sue

    Obviously this girl's mother was CORRECT. This AJ was definiely NOT someone to hook up with.

    October 19, 2009 at 9:08 pm | Report abuse |
  9. Ron G.

    Well here is my opinion:

    I like Kandi best of all on this show, she just needs to open her mouth more when she talks. But at least she is an earner. The only on the show right?

    Lisa is a lil 2 faced liar.. a fine one, but a liar.

    Sheree is a golddigger trying to hold on to what she got from someone else, but she too is a liar and a fake.

    Kim is a useless hosebag, even if I were rich, I would'nt give her carte blanche to my credit cards and I damn sure would'nt marry her no class ass.

    NeNe is a ghetto troll who has the nerve to call someone else ghetto, wow! However I am glad that she finally put closure to finding the gorilla that fathered her. Now she can give thanks to the one who was responsible for passing down those BIg Primate Lips to her ugly son!
    All in the gene pool baby!

    Dwight is a confused fool who has an ego as big as Atlanta. Also confused, are all those idiots walking around in high heels and women blouses with purses. You look like jackasses personified!!
    I bet your fathers want to "F" ya'll up, but your mothers saved you!

    Other than that, the show is aight!

    October 19, 2009 at 4:08 pm | Report abuse |
  10. Margie

    Seems as though we ALL like Kandi. Not only is she pretty, real and with a great voice, but is kind in nature. I'd like to see Kandi get her own TV series.

    October 19, 2009 at 2:43 pm | Report abuse |
  11. Veronica

    The Real Housewives of Atlanta is a very entertaining show, but what irritates me the most is when some of the cast members spend so much money on such stupid pity things. I hate it when people flaunt their money, their are men & women that are overseas fighting a war w/Iraq that aren't getting paid as much money as some of the housewives are and in my opinion that is TERRIBLE.

    I really like Kandi. She is a very well rounded person and I feel so sorry for her losses. My thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family. I know A.J. had a lot of kids but her mother shouldn't have judged him for it. I don't believe in judging other people and I am sure she regrets never giving him a chance.

    NeNe needs to stop being so dang two-faced. NeNe may act like the good guy but she seriously has a problem with being "REAL", one minute she is talking so sweet to you and the next she is talking trash about you. Besides her being two-faced i do love how GHETTO she acts, she is pretty fun.

    Kim is CRAZY and just needs to get a life and get an actual job instead of living off another man who is still married....really sad how people act these days.

    Lisa & Her husband are cool, I like them!

    Sheree is another piece of work...she is way into herself and I hated it when she didn't even show up to Lisa's fashion show and talked crap about her behind her back, it really shows what kind of friend and person she really is.

    Overall like I said the show is very entertaining but reality television is TOO focused on MONEY, SEX, & DRAMA...it's sad what our world has come to...

    October 19, 2009 at 2:23 pm | Report abuse |
  12. Veonka

    We have come a long ways. Out of the huts of history shame we rose, from a past that have been rooted in pain we rose, bring the gifts that our ansestors gave we are the hope and the gift of the slaves, so we must rise! Why are we not rising to that? I feel it is a sad day when we as African Americans Women need to get on TV and LOW-RATE OURSELVES for money! NeNe is the worst one of all because she starts trouble and fights with everyone and her husband do not have a back bone because he lets her run all over him. He took her out of a strip club and tried to turn a WHORE into a house wife and she is still a classless WHORE! I would'nt buy her book to save my life because there are real nice women that really do deserve a good man and look who gets a chance a SLUT and for you'll to give her a show and think that shes all good make mr realize that monet really do run this country! NeNe husband is he GAY himself? Next Lisa stop trying to make yourself look as if you are so good because you were a drud head and Kim was right a CRACK WHORE FITS YOU WELL!!!!!!!!!!!! Kim please stop and think about your children? Sheree what goes around comes back around because you tried to pull Kim wig off but you could lose your hair one day and how would you like if someone do that to you because we never know what is going to be-fall us in life. I think that that was very small of you and very low of you. What if you daughter one day have or get cancer and lose her hair and someone dose that to her? How would you feel then? Please get NeNe off the show because she gives all women a bad name. Next take Lisa off we do not need another woman lying about themself because how are you going to help someone if you are not true to who you are Lisa? You can help someone else get off drugs by your example and seeing how you have change but if you are hiding who you are then you are not a help to society. Kandi I will be praying for you and I wish you the best I hope one day that I could meet you in person because you have a heart of love and don't be mad at your mother because she was only looking out for you, you will see that when your daughter grows up and you see the truck coming her way you to will push her out of the road. AJ reat in peace and may your children have comfort knowing that they were loved by you!

    October 19, 2009 at 2:05 am | Report abuse |
  13. Margie

    To GINA:
    You obviously have no children. If you did you would understand from where Ms. Joyce is coming. A mother's concern for her child, no matter what the age, is #1.

    October 18, 2009 at 4:58 pm | Report abuse |
  14. REALITY CHECK

    A man got into a fight at a seedy strip club, which led to his death.

    That's a is a problem that solved inself, imo.

    You're engaged, and you're working or hanging out, at a strip club?

    The mom has NOTHING to feel bad about...

    She saw trouble coming with this guy, and she was right.
    Girl should have listened to her mom MORE, not less....

    October 18, 2009 at 1:31 pm | Report abuse |
  15. stoney

    To all the people wanting to know what a family man like AJ was doing at a strip club. He was part owner of the club and just because he got into a fight that doesn't make him a thug. Kandi's mom had valid concerns but there is a right and wrong way to show your disapproval of your daughter's choice in who she wanted to marry, now if AJ was disrespectful in any way to Kandi I can see the mistreatment. Also it's disturbing to read comments by people saying that Joyce was right because he died fighting outside a strip club.

    October 18, 2009 at 7:44 am | Report abuse |
  16. Kimberly

    Very sad about AJ, regardless of the circumstances.

    Whatever is said about Atlanta housewives can be said about Housewives of New Jersey, OC, NY – Backstabbing, women spending their hubbies cash, trash talking and always one 'housewife' who truly isnt really a housewife – (Kim, Bethenny, Kelly) it happens on ALL of the others shows as well.

    Since when is flipping a table proper???? (check out the Jersey clip from last season) How come nobody called that ghetto????? Interesting – Anytime someone with a half a tan does something considered inappropriate its automatically called 'ghetto'. But the excuse for the Jersey housewife was she was only 'acting out, or 'angry'. Yeah ....O.K.

    October 18, 2009 at 3:47 am | Report abuse |
  17. UNKNOWN

    The show is stupid, not even worth watching. Who really cares about the spoiled brats of all the shows. Get in the real world......

    October 17, 2009 at 7:06 pm | Report abuse |
  18. Ed Shuherk

    Except for Kandi and Lisa, each of the other women's sense of reality is somewhat warped. This was entertaining for a season, no complaints there. However, I found the scene with Kandi's Mother doing next to nothing to promote any form of togetherness in a situation that called for at least a kind public word of encouragement for her daughter to be a "disowning" moment. Unconditional love is what family is all about. When conditions are placed on it, it is time to find a new family. I hope Kandi does.

    October 17, 2009 at 5:03 pm | Report abuse |
  19. shavonne

    My heart goes out to aj family, I understand where Kandi mom is coming from, she want the best for her daughter and with all those kids Aj has I'm sure later on it would have been some mama drama. about the show , I love that show Keep nene on get rid of that Fake ass kim please.

    October 16, 2009 at 7:42 pm | Report abuse |
  20. nikki

    Bump what everyone else is saying I love the Atlanta Housewives. My favorite is Kandi becasue she seems pretty much like the most genuine out of the bunch!! Nene is FAKE as all outdooors, loved her last year but this year she seems to be a hater, its always her way or no way! She also loves to be the center of attention and wants to be the center piece for all of the other girls but you have to learn how to be a real friend. Sharee si conceited but she still has swag and by her being stuck herself is makes it all together funny. Kim is just plain dumb and naive, get your own money and stop being a gold digger! Lisa is kind of fake but she does take care of business and i love to see a women who holds her own down.

    October 16, 2009 at 5:37 pm | Report abuse |
  21. momma1256

    Kim – I thought prostitution was illegal, isn't that what she is doing hooking up with a married man and taking his money!!! What a whore!! She claims to be 29, but looks like she is in at least her late 30's. Sheree needs to give up on a fashion line, she sucks. I think they need to cancel this show

    October 16, 2009 at 5:25 pm | Report abuse |
  22. traci

    Kim stated marriage is just a piece of paper relating to Big Poppa. If she views marriage that way, why is she pressuring him into marrying her? NeNe has changed this season for the worst. She is so self absorbed!!! So has Sheree. Her clothes looked horrible. Khandi is the only interesting one on the show this season.

    October 16, 2009 at 5:15 pm | Report abuse |
  23. shamika

    I was very sad & uneasy watching last night's episode. It was hard to watch him smile or look confused during the counseling session. My question is, how does Kandi's mom feel? Yeah he had "alot" of children, but it seems to me he loved them & wanted the best for them. Never be to quick to judge anyone & treat them unfair....

    October 16, 2009 at 5:00 pm | Report abuse |
  24. CityChic

    First, my condolences to AJ's family and to Khandi. Second, the episode that aired last night was in poor taste on Bravo's part, considering it was the "engagement party" episode. Airing it was not showing sensitivity to the families but clearly showed the need for Bravo to exploit anyone and any situation for ratings, that took reality TV to a whole new low.

    Sadly enough, even in the midst of tragedy, these women still showed their true colors and dislike for each other. Funny how Bravo has yet to show in its episodes how miserably Sheree failed at NYC Fashion Week last month, her reviews from the critics was a resounding "who is she" and that she clearly knows nothing about fashion. She was laughed at in some of the most prominant circles in NYC and she may as well forget it baby, NYC "checked ya boo"

    October 16, 2009 at 4:28 pm | Report abuse |
  25. American Pie

    To those who are calling me a racist. What I am trying to say, is that I see the despair in our American ghettos. I think we, everyone in America, needs to help these people. And it all starts with the kids. The number one major influence to the children of the ghettos are rappers. They idolize these people. Music plays a huge part of every persons life. In the beginning of rap, the songs were good, they had great messages. Then somewhere it all started to turn to rap songs about being a thug, despair in the ghettos, crime, treating women like hos. What kind of message does that give the kids in the ghettos? Now the kids want to be just like what is described in the songs. These rappers made it out of the ghettos, earning millions of dollars, mansions in very upscale neighborhoods. They have the power, thru their music, to help the kids in the ghettos realise, they can make something positive out of their lives, and that being in a gang, carrying a gun, gangs laying claim to different parts of the neighborhood, and fighting with rival gangs, is not the way to live. But instead they choose to rap about these things like they are good things. And in return, nothing gets better, it only gets worse for these kids. AND for the adults. For they have to worry if their kids will be killed by a gang, or a stray bullet. Its a shame anyone would have to live in a neighborhood like that, and expect to feel safe. These artist have a responsibility to help thier people out, for most of them are from the ghettos, but instead they are making it worse. It angers me. For what can anyone else do to help, if the most important people who can make a difference, prefer to make a negative impact. I read a story the other day of a little girl who was killed in her bed from a stray bullet that went through her wall from a gang member trying to kill another rival gang member. It is sensless. It angered me, it made me cry. For those of you who say I am a caucasian who does not understand. It does not take a black person to identify the problems and what a major root cause of the problem is. Its all education. AND belive it or not, music IS educational. For these kids are learning from these songs that it is cool to be a thug.

    October 16, 2009 at 4:22 pm | Report abuse |
  26. Jennell

    Choconet-- do you really think that proving her point was worth causing a rift between her and her daughter? You have to pick your battles and pick them wisely. I think it's safe to say that now Kandi will always hoarbour a certain amount of resentment towards her mother for having made her last moments with A.J. latent with hositility. That woman is selfish for doing that to her daughter.

    October 16, 2009 at 4:18 pm | Report abuse |
  27. Jennell

    I think you people saying that he gets what he gets for being a "THUG" is awful and you should be ashamed of yourselves! From what I gathered from the show he made his own money and so what? being outside of a strip club in a predominatly black neighborhood makes him a thug?! Your ignorance baffles me. NO ONE deserves to die the way that he did. NO ONE. As for Kandi's mother... lady, you shoulda just let go! Part of loving someone means letting them know when you disagree with a lifestyle but, its also about allowing others to make their own decisions... and being there for them if/when they fall. It's horrible to be so concerned with what SHE wanted that she'd cause her daughter such misery.

    October 16, 2009 at 4:14 pm | Report abuse |
  28. American Pie

    To I wise: Actually, yes I do know what I am talking about. The only difference is I dont bury my head in the sand, like yourself, and pretend that this does not exist. I have no sympathy when I hear a rap artist died from fueding with another rival record company. And yes, the stars of this show are just invloved in that lifestyle, they just dont see it as a "problem", they see it as normal. People like yourself do not see the thug lifestyle for what it really is... Organized crime. I have watched the show a couple of times, but cannot stand to watch more than a few minutes, to see a bunch of women with "money" acting like they still live in the ghetto. I know money doesnt buy you class, but come on... They cannot speak correct english, they cannot act like a lady, they are lazy. To those who are saying I am racist... I am going by statistics. Look up crime statistics, look at how many rappers have died from fueds with other rival rappers, look at the rap songs, they all rap about the thug life, glorifying it for the kids that listen to it, then the kids want to be like them, popping a cap in a cops a**, or slappin a ho...you know exactly what I am saying...you can deny it all you want...when rappers become famous they have a chance of helping the ghettos out by encouring the kids that live in the ghetto that there is a life outside of crime, that they can get an education and get out of the ghetto and make something of their lives... but they chose to glorify the "gansta" life. So basically people in the ghetto dont want to change, they just want to sit back and complain that this country looks down upon them, and its all our fault, and we are holding you back, when in all actuality, you are just holding yourselves back. Think for once.

    October 16, 2009 at 3:55 pm | Report abuse |
  29. Sad But True

    sad but true what most are saying about this episode and all together the series. As entertaining as this kind of series can be there comes a point of over doing it. I feel we all have gotten the point of the Real House Wives of ... series. Its no surprise that most of the show is based on petty and overdone dramatics, our media is littered with this type of entertainment, because what better way to get away form our own lives and stresses for half hour then to watch women who seem to be more out of touch with reality than we could ever imagine silly antics and high school dramatics from grown women who think very highly of themselves but yet don't carry themselves with respect and dignity or treat others with respect. If you ask me this is the exact same deal as the HILLS or Laguna Beach – ppl becoming famous and getting attention because they are in the right class. Not becasue they are hard workers and have any real talent to contribute to society nope! just because of $$

    It is sad that a man had to die in such a way. But here is the real world truth if you go looking for trouble you will find trouble. I have only watched this show a few times and im not just talking about the Atlanta show im talking about the OC and they NY and NJ. There are all the same show diffrernt rich women each with their fair share of baggage. If you don't agree with this kinda of show then its simple stop watching it – other than that it is what it is... sad, pointless, entertainment.

    October 16, 2009 at 3:39 pm | Report abuse |
  30. PG

    It's television and with television there is going to be more drama added. In the case of Housewives, the OC and NJ shows are no more/no less ghetto that Atl. Why are Blacks "ghetto" and whites not? Ignorance is ignorance no matter the color. "Ghetto" is an attitude and a behavior, not a color.
    That said, Kandi, in my opinion, is the only one with anything solid going on. She is a professional in the music business and has been for quite some time. Lisa may have some things going on for herself, but the other three, NeNe, Kim, and the god-awful Sheree only have what they have due to someone else. NeNe was some old stripper that the husband Greg picked up and made something in to. She says she went to college, but where and when? Graduate? What she has is not as a result of her college education. Kim, well...gold-digger fits her best. Sheree, the hot mess of Housewives, is no one to be envied. Dwight said it best."A fashion show with no fashions."

    October 16, 2009 at 3:33 pm | Report abuse |
  31. me

    U all so stupid! Kandi's mother's concerns were justified. What if Kandi had been there and had been shot or worse out with her child and someone wanted to hurt AJ and killed all of them.

    Please stop glorifying a man you know nothing about. Miss Joyce was right. Hang in there moms you are alright.

    Kim needs serious psychological help. Sheree is also somehow living in a world that only she exists in. Let me see... you get seven figures just because you married someone? Sign me up!

    Lisa is real... real hood and fake. Go away! Dwight Puhleez, you ain't never been in a fashion show, produced one, heard about it, or even have the talent to pull off anything more than a church fashion show. You are not Miss Jay from ANTM.

    Kandi, I wish you continued success, I am sorry for your loss. Make better choices in men. Momma was right. You got four baby mommas there is bound to be some drama.

    October 16, 2009 at 3:27 pm | Report abuse |
  32. Gina

    I am appalled that Kandi let's her mother behave disrespectful toward her and her fiance! Where are the boundaries between mother and daughter. Where does Kandi's mom get off telling her grown 30 something year old daughter on how to live her life and who should she date. I was so frustrated with Kandi for not sticking up for the man that she supposedly loves! Who's life is it MOM!!!! I would of told my mom respectfully as possible, to please respect my life and please do not make judgements or comments!

    October 16, 2009 at 3:26 pm | Report abuse |
  33. Nadine

    All of the negative thoughts posted are very disrespectful to A.J.'s family, especially his children. The fact is that no matter what a person did in their past, they do not deserved to be killed in the street like an animal. We all have done and some of us are still do things we KNOW are wrong. So those of you on your soap boxes, you need to come down. Regardless of what A.J. was someone's Son, someone's Father, and maybe a Brother, Uncle on so on. The point being HE was loved by someone and I'm sure his family is suffering right now! So stop disrespecting his family with that negative crap!

    October 16, 2009 at 3:21 pm | Report abuse |
  34. tnt in kc

    I apologize, but I forgot about Kim. And what could I say about Kim that hasn't been said already. Kim is a whore. She is a high priced whore, but a whore nonetheless. I am not saying this to be malicious; however, what do you call a woman that lies with a married man and gets paid for it. Give up? A whore. She has a nanny and don't work? She spends $12K a month on hair? Whatever.

    Sheree (He-Ree) makes me laugh. She has this self-made arrogance that does not belong. She is boring and has nothing to really do with herself. Even her fashion show appears boring.

    Lisa and her husband seem cool. Heck, he is the one of the few men on this show that is heterosexual!

    October 16, 2009 at 3:03 pm | Report abuse |
  35. Shala

    After reading a few of the comments... I truly don't understand why people choose to watch a cable paid show if they don't like it.

    Then the other thing that is truly funny is we all know this is an edited program that has been skewed to fit the image of what Bravo wants. Yes, the women and men on this show accepted the contract to allow some of their lives to be shown on TV, but what so amazing is that the same core characteristic issues of these people can be found in most of you. When I read these comments from the blogs it's like everyone in this world has something negative to say to each other and about each other… I truly don’t understand why that is. We can disagree and comment without being ugly and nasty to one another, because again we all have issues and stuggles in life.

    Then the other thing that is even funnier, when I watched the OC and New Jersey shows they are just the same as the ATL women. So why is it that the ATL women get so much of a bad rap? I just wonder??? Anyhow, all the Real Housewives people suffer from something in my opinion and guess what in some odd way you probably do too. The only difference your issues aren’t being aired on TV, so people let's not forget this show is not 100% REALITY!!! So stop the judging...if you like the show than watch it, but let us stop acting like we really know these women and men. Because you only know what Bravo wants you to know!!!

    October 16, 2009 at 2:55 pm | Report abuse |
  36. Nikkey

    I don't understand why people keep talking about thug lifestyle AJ being killed had nothing to do with being a thug, You people that keep talking about thug lifestyle and rap music are just being racsit.There was a life lost and and its not about being a thug.Cause AJ was far from being a Thug people,Look up the real meaning of a thug.AND RAPPERS are not all thugs.I tired of you white people thinking that all black men are thugs cause there not.And Housewives of Atlanta is the best. New york and NJ are wack and boring.

    October 16, 2009 at 2:43 pm | Report abuse |
  37. gail

    What has happened to Atlanta's housewives. I use to love Nene, but she has gotten dirty, and she is really showing her true side. Nene keeps saying that Kandi is ghetto, but I am finding out, that she has more since than the other women. Nene is full of herself and very messy, Sheree used to be the messy one, but the reign has been turned over to NeNe. This year's episode has turned from classy to cursing, fightings and a lower class lifestyle.

    October 16, 2009 at 2:35 pm | Report abuse |
  38. Betty

    I enjoyed the show the first season. I was truely diapointed when DeShawn was let go. I have tuned in this season and have not been pleased with this season. NeNe is still my favorite and I dislike Sheree the most. The show is too scripted now and is no longer reality.

    October 16, 2009 at 2:27 pm | Report abuse |
  39. Bong

    this episode shld have been skipped or edited.

    October 16, 2009 at 2:21 pm | Report abuse |
  40. janine

    @american pie
    you obviously are a missinformed caucasion person
    just because they are african american and live in a predominately african american community doesnt mean there living a thug life
    its funny because your being racist and u dont even know it.
    you dont know thug life and u nor i never will

    October 16, 2009 at 2:20 pm | Report abuse |
  41. JENNIFER

    I am really sick of shows showing Black women as idiots. Lisa is a phoney joke. Keith you did right by getting rid of her. NeNe is downright ghetto. Bad wig and tacky clothes. She swings her hips like she has class. NOT! She needs to get a good bra! Sheree is a big joke and that is why her husband divorced her and refuses to have anything to do with her or the children. Kim is just a w-e getting paid by a married man. How tacky can you be saying you are engaged and he is still married. Also, the make-up artist they have do not do a good job on NeNe and Kim. Kim looks like she should be standing on a street corner. The night of the party she had on the red dress that was so tight she could hardly walk and her fake boobs kept falling out! She always look cheap and trashy. Her girls are getting a poor example of women from her. I see why the father does not interact with the girls, they are just like Kim! Kandi your mother is right. You would be dealing with the drama of tacky women taking your money because of their past relationship with A. J. I am sorry he died, but the black community accepts death by another black man as normal. In closing, all I want to say is that all the Housewives shows are an embarassment to women who are decent. They are all tacky! No wonder kids are so screwed up! Poor Examples all of them!

    October 16, 2009 at 2:18 pm | Report abuse |
  42. gail

    I agree with Kandis mother, she knew what kind of things was going on. I was not sad at all. I think Kandi escaped a bullet.

    October 16, 2009 at 2:17 pm | Report abuse |
  43. Choconet

    It was sad to hear about AJ's death, but I don't blame Ms. Joyce for telling Kandi the truth of reality. She couldn't get on board with Kandi's engagement and I don't blame her. I was married to a man with several kids from different mothers. The operative word her is "was". Talk about baby mama drama. That's what Ms. Joyce was warning her daughter about. AJ was probably a very loving, caring and wonderful man (that's qualities that may have produced so many babies). But he had way too much bagage. The problems Kandi would have to endure because of all those kids' mama's is enmeasureable. Its not the kids fault they are blameless, its the adults and all their drama. Ms. Joyce didn't want that for Kandi.

    While I'm at it I'm not a fan of Kim and Sheree. What a bunch of phonies! Kim looks twice her age and spent all that money on plastic surgery to look younger. It didn't work. The fact that she is dating a married man is immoral! Get some class hillbilly!

    October 16, 2009 at 2:14 pm | Report abuse |
  44. Mini Me

    I can't believe that anyone would say that these women are not doing anything. All the HW shows are the same. They have the same format. All have single mothers or women on the shows. And most women don't have jobs and are living off their husbands.

    For those who say the HWAtl cast are broke. How about 1 of the OC wives getting an eviction notice while filming? How about another OC wife downsizing there house? How about one of the socialite NY wife and hubby remodeling their own run down Brooklyn home for years? How about Danyelle on NJ waiting on a check from her ex or she will be forced to leave her house? What about Teresa walking around with loads of cash each episode? Normally people that walk around with loads of cash are in illegal activities!

    My point is that all these shows have women with issues! Heck, we all have an issue or 2 in our own lives. If you don't like any of these shows, don't watch and don't comment!

    October 16, 2009 at 2:11 pm | Report abuse |
  45. linda

    Kandi aim very sorry for your loss and AJ kids because they are the one that need their father the most I known what they going threw cause I loss my father at a early age and I miss him deeply but girl keep your head up their going to be a long road ahead of you but god got you .I love the show and when I watch the show with you and AJ on there he was showing you how much he love you and I can tell that he was very in love with I hate that his life was taken in a short time girl the man was in love with you and been a single ladies we can't find a man that love you any more most of them or guy coming right out of ATL

    October 16, 2009 at 2:07 pm | Report abuse |
  46. Devryn

    Beach House: "Shut the hell up and get a clue" is hardly a valid arguement against what American Pie stated. Your post shows you're as ignorant as the thug masses American Pie refers to.

    October 16, 2009 at 2:05 pm | Report abuse |
  47. Beach House

    American Pie shut the hell up please and get a clue on life and stop being so judgemental; you sound like you stereo type things you have no clue about! 2- for those who hate the show soooo much tend to another cable channel. 3- Sheree GIRL PLEASE!!!! you are a complete JOKE if i have ever seen one!!! stop making a fool out of your self!! Your clothing line won't make it past TJ Maxx if that far! Never high end stores; now i said since your friend who sits there and encourage your foolishness wont tell you!! A true friend would tell you to Sheree truly sickens me!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:55 pm | Report abuse |
  48. Hello Kitty

    It is so funny how people can pass judgement and say things like why is a family man in the strip club anyway .... uh .. I am pretty sure he is not the first or last family man to be in a strip club Executives have been reported to attend .. aside from the fact that he was part owner and had other business ventures Kandi said a number of times that he does take care of all of his kids- some that were produced during a previous marriage. Sheree was married to a football player not basketball and it has been stated that he has not paid any money towards child support or their divorce settlement. I understand MsJoyce sentiment in protecting her daughter but wow .. this woman is not in high school or a little kid anymore .. Kandi has toured the world and written award winning songs .. who goes thru life always making the right choice the first time. we all want the best for our children but there comes a time when you have to let them make their own mistakes and learn from them. I dont think NeNe is ghetto .. I just think she lacks class and tact sometimes.. don't forget there ghetto's in every part of the world not just in the black community

    October 16, 2009 at 1:54 pm | Report abuse |
  49. yvonne

    WHo is Lisa referring to when she says she was a victim of domestic violence? Is she referring to Keith Sweat who has custody of her 2 children? How many times has she been married prior to ED? I take half of what these woman claim with a grain of salt. I cannot wait for the other Housewives to come back. This show needs to be dropped next season. Why do I watch? God only knows.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:51 pm | Report abuse |
  50. BMW

    This show is like 99% of all reality television.....pointless, mindless, and boring. It serves no purpose but to listen to the constant ramblings of people that most of us could care less about otherwise. Or it's the constant bickering like the most annoying show....John and Kate Plus 8. I pray that show ends SOON for the sake of those children. Whether or not they admit it, a good portion of reality TV is fake. Outside of Survirorman, I don't watch any reality TV. Scripted shows entertain me more. All these shows do is create drama so that people will watch. So like cattle to the feeders, follow your shows mindlessly. I will not be watching them. And yes, I know that most of you reality show watchers could care less about my opinion.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:45 pm | Report abuse |
  51. Rom

    How can you all watch this dreck? These are sad, deluded people who think that they are important. In the overall scheme of things, these are society's losers. AND, most of them are among nature's more unattractive to start with. Hard to watch a show full of women who think they are important.

    And don't even think about flaming me on this. People who find this sort of exploitative entertainment important enough in their lives to take any of it seriously are fooling themselves.

    I only read this article because I was hoping to see that the show had been canceled. I won't be looking back here to see if anyone of you responds, so just give it a break!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:44 pm | Report abuse |
  52. Pookie

    Wow it is amazing how we can comment on other peoples lives so easily. If we didn't like these kinds of shows don't watch them they get higher ratings when you tune in and then write long comments. These women are reality. How many women get along as friends without jealous, strife and evny. People are doing fake everything now a days becuase society is hooked on this image of we should be looking. Kim she is a realistic spoiled women who pimps men for her material world while her kids just watch it's amazing what we allow our children to go through for our selfishness and the dad? I am sure she truly doesn't want kids she spends no time with them except buying them things. All the other ladies they are boring all the money they do have or have had what are they doing for WOMEN'S EDIFICATION. There are so many organziations needing help that involve low income, uneducated young girls, women caught up in prositiution why aren't these women who have all the time in the world mentor or help raise money for awareness with other things. Breast Cancer, women or young teens fighting with AIDS, child abuse I can go on and on instead you see them spending, spending, spending, it truly is sicking. We all can make a difference if we really cared. Especially Hollywood entertainers, they have so many homes, clothes, cars, etc. If they helped one family a day would we be a better world? Instead we make them richer by supporting there records and things. We could be on welfare ourselves. We truly have things wrong in USA. All the wealthy entertainers are wealthy becuase of us not themselves but how much do they truly give back to society or their communities?

    October 16, 2009 at 1:44 pm | Report abuse |
  53. Mark

    I cant believe anybody seriously watches this tripe...a group of self absobed fools...lol.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:44 pm | Report abuse |
  54. Big "O" girl

    I'll agree with Kelsey, make a Real Gay Housewives of Atlanta show, way more interesting than this season of RHofA. Can't wait to see more of New Jersey. Drama, that's what we like. We don't care that all the ladies get along. NeNe needs to get rid of her ego as does Kim and Sheree. Lisa needs to just be her sweet self and Kandi, well god bless Kandi. And I'm sure she least expected this show to become a pity case for her. But the girl can sing.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:40 pm | Report abuse |
  55. Melissa

    I love this show.. it makes me laugh. Nene is hilarious!! Nene, Kandi, and Lisa are the only ones that don't make me want to shoot myself after ten seconds. Kim and Sheree are the most conceited, trashy women on the show – not to mention just plain stupid. Why are they even on this show? Kim is a nasty woman who has money only because her married boyfriend pays her for her services. That girl needs a serious wake up call – You're NOT good lookin'. Get over yourself! Sheree should probably repeat a few grades to get her IQ to the point where her vanity has taken her. News flash, honey: a person from another country is going to know how to say things in their native tongue. Crazy, I know, But true!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:38 pm | Report abuse |
  56. sasay

    HWOA is the best of all of the housewives' shows. People keep calling them GHETTO – what about the MAFIA acting wives of New Jersey? They are probably worse. All they do is fight just to get ratings and try to beat the ratings of HWOA – not gonna' happen.

    NENE is the best on the show, still. Kandi is a fake, she is merely on the show to get a record deal or try to get an acting deal. Plus, she has never been married and I don't understand why she and Kim are on the show; neither have been married. Kandi's mother was right to object to AJ (may he rest in peace). If I was Kandi's mom, I wouldn't want my daughter marrying a man who had six kids by four different women either. Two of his kids (twins) hurriedly moved in with Kandi because they too are looking for fame. Kandi beware!

    DeShawn should have never been kicked off the show; they needed her to balance out the rest of the crazy, lovable (except Kim) crew. Anyway, one thing Kandi is good for is calling out folks. It was great how she called out Kim for having a AMEX card w/up to $250,000 spending privileges for a person who doesn't work. And how she called out Lisa for wanting an elevator in her house for someone wanting to cut back on finances.

    ...And Kandi just wants to be liked by viewers, but she is not that "for real" in my opinion.

    NENE, DWIGHT, SHEREE and LISA should all stay on the show. Kandi and Kim should be replaced. ...And why can't you women see that Kim is a user. She doesn't care about NeNe, Kandi, etc.; she simply wants a solo record deal and for BIG Poppa to marry her. Has he left his wife, yet?

    October 16, 2009 at 1:35 pm | Report abuse |
  57. Atlanta

    It is amazing that many of you on here hate the show but know it like the back of your hand. You people are HATERS! This is called entertainment people, and if you DON'T like it DON'T watch it! It is amazing that the ATL housewives have the highest ratings out of all the Housewives and the most viewers. They are doing their job by bring in the viewers and ratings. So don't hate on ATL housewives. You may want to look in the mirror first before judging others, you selfish, racist a-holes of America. All some of you do is whine and complain. Go watch you OC, New York, and Jersey housewives but do not start calling our Black cast ghetto. They have money and belong on this show just like the others whether you like it or not!!!!!!!

    FROM A PISSED OFF AMERICAN!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:33 pm | Report abuse |
  58. Shelley Rae

    I went on vacation and happened to see the show, and I LOVED IT. That was until it got to the end of the season. Sheree is a JOKE, Kim is a JOKE, and Lisa is a JOKE!
    I like NeNe one minute, and hate her the next.
    Kandi is a GEM and needs to be promoted more and then there's Dwight.....he needs his own show!...He's the funniest gay man since Jack on Will n' Grace. Cut out Sheree, Kim and Lisa and I'd watch it every day.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:33 pm | Report abuse |
  59. Stacy from Mem, TN

    I love the show! I dont think Kandi's mom should feel bad at all. She made a valid point. Who wants their daughter to deal with that mess???? When I was young and dumb I entertained a guy in that same situation. I thank God for my family intervening. I would have made the worst step of my life. I am saddened by AJ death. But, it appears that he died the way he lived.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
  60. Asia

    I agree...if you watch the show don't complain...its entertainment folks. If it were "real" and showing positive things and with no drama-it wouldn't get the ratings that it has. Either way, AJ lost his life and like someone noted earlier, he wasn't a gang-banger or atleast at this time in his life. Everybody makes mistakes, his life shouldn't have been taken!!!!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:28 pm | Report abuse |
  61. Over this

    What is tragic is that this is NEWS.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:27 pm | Report abuse |
  62. Tea from Atlanta

    Hey everyone get a grip. This guy was just as guilty as the other guy. Stop saying poor Kandi, she broke up with him. This show was taped earlier this year. Keeping this guy with six children and four baby mamas was not exactly the ideal mate. The mother was right. And another thing as long as keep talking about this, the better the ratings for the show. i watch the show and its okay, i dont think any of it is real, remember its tv and ratings. This guy was no saint and i am not saying he deserved what happened to him but the other guy was beat up pretty bad as well.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:25 pm | Report abuse |
  63. Josh

    I can hardly believe that people put so much emotional stock in shows like this! How many of us don't even know our real neighbors?! Often we use so many excuses about our neighbors...People we've maybe only said "Hi" to a couple of times. We use excuses like "they're weird" or "they have issues," as an excuse not to talk to them, but DAY AFTER DAY millions of people tune into crap like this and get involved in these strangers lives...Strangers who, if they were next door to you, you would be ignoring.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:24 pm | Report abuse |
  64. Esin

    To Helen at the top... um I don't know who told you any of that information about their finances but Dwight is anything but broke. He has a very lucrative business... you may not like the big ole queen but he is as fab as he appears.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:22 pm | Report abuse |
  65. TeeTee

    Kandi is the only real one.. the others are fake trying to live up to the hype... NeNe is loud and ghetto... Sheree is stuck-up... Lisa is dramatic and loud.. Kim is just stupid!!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:21 pm | Report abuse |
  66. Anne Young

    I agree with the comment that the gay men are the most interesting of the group. Where's their show?

    And, I'm really tired of the camera person lingering on that nasty photo of naked Kim in Kim's bedroom. But, I'd love to see what's going on under that wig. I can't be any worse than the lip gloss, she looks like she just finished eating a pork chop.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:21 pm | Report abuse |
  67. AtlantaGuy

    Clearly Kandi's mother was right – um, shot in a shady club brawl...there is more to that story and Kandi was always too classy for him.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:20 pm | Report abuse |
  68. John

    Here is an idea...get a life of your own and stop watching TV shows.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:15 pm | Report abuse |
  69. tnt in kc

    Last night episode was sad for a number of reasons.

    First, watching AJ was hard, as most people have stated, because we all know the outcome of his fate. I am getting tired of Joyce, personally. I TRULY understand that as a mother, your job has been to protect all a child's life and it doesn't cut off when a child reaches a certain age. However, Kandi is a grown woman – well in her mid-30s. And with that has come some wisdom. For whatever reason she chose AJ, this is her own personal reason and she shouldn't have to explain this at this point. Joyce needed to let go (as parents have to do) and allow Kandi an opportunity to see her choice thru. If it would have went well, she had nothing to be worried about. If not, then she would have just had to be there when Kandi fell. Not to say I told you so, but to be that support.

    Secondly, Dwight gets on my last nerve. How dare he sit there at AJ and Kandi's big event and help create tension with Joyce. He has six children that Kandi was all aware of. It is not nice to throw stones at glass houses.

    Next, NeNe needs to go sit down and reflect on life. She is focusing on trivial things and need to grow up, in my opinion. She has found her father and many people do not have this opportunity. Yes, this is weird but at her age, deal with it! Take a chance to get to know this man after taking a DNA test.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:13 pm | Report abuse |
  70. profadrock

    I think the fact that CNN is spending any time on this pseudo-soap opera is horrific enough...

    October 16, 2009 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  71. Tee

    It's funny how one post said that Khandi mom is jealous of her daughter. How? When that's the only child she has left and wouldn't a concerned mom be concerned about her child's well-being? And by the way Ms. Joyce was right about AJ that's why Khandi and him broke off their engagement. Another post says they bet Joyce feels bad now, how? Her opinion was and probably still is her opinion now. Yes, he's deceased but the matter still remains that he had issues and Ms. Joyce didn't want her daughter apart of that. Why would any woman want a man with 6 kids, 4 baby mamas, divorced, and yet his mom was raising his twelve year old twins! Now Khandi has them! And where is their mother? Oh and by the way, DeShawn from last season leased her cars so don't say they had money because if they did why is her cars leased and why isn't her husband playing ball anymore? Boy you people are funny to me.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:10 pm | Report abuse |
  72. Glenn Freeman

    First of all, i would like to extent my thoughts and prayers to Kandi. Then I would like to remind everyone that AJ was not at a stripper club to oogle all the girls but to remind them that he was part owner of the club. The person he was arguing with and who killed him was his business partner.

    NeNe is too self centered and it was interesting to see how spoiled she was as a child. She has always been pampered. She needs to grow up and be considerate of others...and her friend Lisa is a very negative hateful person and the show would better by not having her on. Sherri is nothing special, she isn' even all that good looking. so did they bring her in and keep her to show another side to the ghetto? Kim is okay even if she is a little too much, but did they have to encourage her to sell wigs?

    Personally, I am ready for this show to stop and put OC wives back on. They are the very best.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:09 pm | Report abuse |
  73. Steve

    I clicked on this topic just surfing through the news, with all that is affecting our lives, THIS is what you spend your time on!!! I would be willing to wager you dimwits cannot name your Senators, or Congressmen, but you know all the actors on some who's doing who show. It's no wonder our country is in the shape it's in. You are sad, stupid people and the worst of it is you probably vote!!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:08 pm | Report abuse |
  74. GLAMGIRL74

    My heart goes out to Kandi, but this season of the Real Housewives of Atlanta has been the worst. I started out as a fan and , it just hasn't been very entertaining this season.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:07 pm | Report abuse |
  75. Greg in Houston

    Every night is a sad night that anyone has to watch this trainwreck of a show.

    First, who decided that Atlanta was an interesting city to begin with? It is not. CNN has tried to and continues to try and ram Atlanta down the throats of the rest of the nation like it is some glistening showplace. It is not. It is a boring mid-sized city which is economically depressed and not exactly a shining beacon of tolerance and harmony. It is still in Georgia after all. For most of us everytime the word Atlanta is mentioned the theme song from "Deliverance" starts playing in our heads.

    Second, these type of reality shows might be interesting if they focused on REAL housewives and not oversexed sluts in-between cosmetic surgeon appointments and trashy cat-fights. Even the "upper-class" ones from Dallas are horrible, shallow people to be holding up as examples to others.

    These shows have no place in the American home. Not in my house, not in front of my children, not in this lifetime. Real people don't live like that. Shame on the production companies.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:06 pm | Report abuse |
  76. Bryan Rogers

    I can't believe I wasted my time reading that article. American pop culture is like so many pieces of toilet paper. Meanwhile, real life goes on elsewhere.

    October 16, 2009 at 1:01 pm | Report abuse |
  77. ACE

    You people want to know why these stupid wanna be women are doing this show?? You want to know why they get on national television and show the stupidity, why they make fools of themselves by cursing like sailors, drinking wine like street bums, going to each other for advice but then ends up talking behind someone elses back or spreading GOSSIP about someone instead of confronting that person untils months pass, you want to know why????

    Kim is a trick, she has already shown the whole nation she is a HOMEWRECKER atleast before the show no one knew but she had to go and put it on TV, stupid bitc, LOL!! Focus on your KIDS!!!!!

    Sherre..lets see hunnie your not all that after your hubbie left you, you had to make it about yourself when actually your used goods and no man in his right man would want you your not all that hott, you have a bad attitude, your looking for handouts but then you try to fight a white woman and pull her wig off on national TV, bitc, LOL. Focus on your KIDS!!!

    Lisa....can't you make a decison without asking somsone else to make it for you, get off your husbands back if he wants to play ball let him its not liek he will die from a knee injury haha. You also liek to put all your business ouot on national TV as well and it makes you look just as the rest of the stupid housewives of ATLANTA!! Focus on your KIDS!!!!

    Nene...grow up and fine who yoru daddy is who cares...geez. Go get a job but wait your the only one on the show now who has figured out how to make more money than the rest of the bimbos..you get on radio, tv talk shows interviews you really wanna make that buck so you won't loose your house liek the rest of the bimbos have on nation TV. Focus on your KIDS!!!!

    Candy...all I got to say is I like you alot but.....tell your mama to buzz off!!! yes she is your mama and i luv mine just as much but....she is your mama and your a mama now so show your child how a mama is really supposed to be loving, understanding, considerate, thoughtful,caring the opposite of your Mom. I am so sorry about AJ i think you really loved him alot and he loved you as well just look at the sky and thank the man above your still here to see your child grow. I wish you the best Candy and please please don't ever help Kim with singing or rapping again ever!!! God she sucks!!!

    So you seee why all thse housewives people their business out there on national TV now people???? Its for the love of MONEY they do it for the 40,50, 60 or $70,000 an episode. Money controls peoples actions and when your desparate you will show out on TV for any price. Way to represent Atlanta housewives ladies.

    Oh I am a married man from South Carolina and no I dont have as much money as the rich housewives but we do pretty well and you know what we focus on our kids and our life and do just fine!!!!!

    October 16, 2009 at 1:01 pm | Report abuse |
  78. Gladys Donaldson

    My heart continues to reach out to Kandi due to her REAL loss in life. A mother gut feelings is just that. I have no ill feelings towards her mother, divine intervention has the final word. Atl's housewives was the first reality show i've watched since the first episope of Suvivor. Bravo ratings will sky rocket when the show picks up with the death of A J and the aftermath.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:58 pm | Report abuse |
  79. Christine

    I find it amazing that a few folks are making this harder on Kandi's mom as it sure it is for her. Her best interest is for her daughter and grandaughter. No one could have predicted what occured. My prayers are with his family. NeNe wanting to find her real father, that episode happens everyday, whats so wrong with that. She also has a foundation Twisted Hearts if you remember. Kim wants to design wigs for people with certain issues in their lives. Lisa is a whole person who's been through a lot herself and wants her family moving forward now that Ed is done playing ball. Sheree is all about Sheree. I don't know nor do I pretend to know what it takes to get a fashion line off the ground, but I cense it's more thatn what she's doing.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:57 pm | Report abuse |
  80. tina

    The show was very sad but NeNe is the one that seems to keep things going she is fake. I liked her last year but I hardly want to watch if she is in a scene. The only one on their that has any sense is Kandi and Lisa!!!!!! I wish the best for Kandi I can only imagine how her mother feels know.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  81. ~E

    I couldn't agree with you more Christina S. Bring back the NYC and Jersey ladies because this season of Atlanta was not all that filled with great juju; it seemed like every moment and every time one turned on an episode, it was filled with so much petty childish crap that was not entertaining, but annoying. Needless to say, I didn't stay tune for most of it because it would drive me bonkers.

    I think that it is true what the Blog article noted concerning hopefully it is a reminder of how stupid and petty it is to maintain such negative energy when one never really knows what the outcome will be long-term. Unfortunately for Kandi and his family, it was an unhappy ending and my thoughts go out to them! Best of luck to you and yours!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  82. KJ

    Joyce, I don't care what anybody says you have a right to your own opinion and I think you were right. You should NOT feel bad because of the way you felt toward AJ because he is now deceased. You never said you hated him or disliked him you said, "he wasn't for your daughter" . I am a mother of (2) daughters and I completely understanding you where doing your job!! There is nothing wrong with keeping it real and being a mom first. I'm with you Joyce:)

    October 16, 2009 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
  83. turner

    well their are a whole lot of atl housewive's hates out there. It is really to bad since these girls are any different then the all white groups of other cities and I only liked the OC crew outside of the ATL ladies. I agree with having some Latina women. That would be interesting.
    The ATL ladies are a trip and vacation but they are very entertaining...which is the key word this is all about entertainment people. Stop tripping and evaluate it for what it is. and if u don't like DON'T watch it. 'cause I am not going to stress myself out over TV. That is so stupid. Good season ATL ladies and I am looking forward to your turn again.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:54 pm | Report abuse |
  84. Shoe Fanatic

    I agree with LoveTv (hey sis) and Lori, I think they are all broke except for Kim, ironically, because I truly believe that Big Poppa is giving her money and gifts and paying her mortage. It's not good, but I think she's the only one with the money because of that. Who knows NeNe proabably is buying it, wearing it and bringing it back. umm umm umm. Shame.

    As for AJ, I think the episode was fine, it's what happened when he was alive and it is a reality show he gave the ok to do. I think it actually showed him to be a good person, wanting to the approval of his future mother in law, it showed him in a good light.

    Also I saw online that AJ had Sicke Cell which plagues mainly african-americans. The coroner deduced that because he got worked up over fighting he did not have a good capacity to have oxygen get back to vital organs and tissues which is an issue with people who suffer from Sickle Cell. Basically his body couldn't replenish oxygen fast enough to recover. I'm in no way a doctor or rn, this is based on what I read of the coroner's final analysis.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:53 pm | Report abuse |
  85. Brenda

    Halle Berry didn't have to pay David Justice a dime and Eric Benet can ask until the cows come home, he knew he was getting a damn dime and he didn't.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:53 pm | Report abuse |
  86. Erika

    I think the episode was very awkward watching A.J. and knowing he is no longer living. I feel bad especially for Kandi because you could tell she really loved him. Her mothers thoughts of him mattered alot to Kandi which is sad sometimes parents should just let go and let there child be happy. Everyone has a right to input on there childs relationship but to totally be against it and "SHOW IT", is just rude. When it came time for the mom to toast she should have just said, " If he makes you happy than I am happy for you", and left it alone. She was just so negative it was sad to watch. Then you look at A.J. being as nice and respectful as he could, clearly showing the mother he is in love with Kandi. It was just sad, some things truely are better left unsaid! My heart goes out to Kandi,out of all the wives I like her the most because she keeps it real, she does not show how flashly she can be nor is she artifical she's a "what you see, is what you get" Kind of girl and I respect that about her. Her and Lisa are my favorites everyone else seems to be focused on material things and that is not all life is about!!!Because as sure as God blessed you with it, he can take it away. I am ready for NEW JERSEY wives show,, I dont care to much for the NY girls?!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:53 pm | Report abuse |
  87. Tina

    My fav has always been the RHW OC. From the ATL cast, I like Kandi the best. The others are just a little fake to me. Kim, dont get me started on Kim, she just makes women look bad!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:52 pm | Report abuse |
  88. Tom Taylor

    I think anybody who wasted even one minute of their life watching such trash on TV should thoroughly re-evaluate their priorities and then get on with doing things that are constructive, educational, or at least reasonably entertaining. These types of shows are indicative of the base level our society now feeds in. Come on people. We as Americans can actually change this crap by refusing to watch it. Do something good for yourself and our society. Turn off this trash.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:49 pm | Report abuse |
  89. Margie

    LORI: I also noticed something on the upper back shoulder of NeNe. I thought it was a bra strap. ???

    October 16, 2009 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  90. Dale

    Let's cancel this series. I live in Atlanta and ashamed of this show. They are nothing but "ghetto" trash. It just goes to prove that money doesn't buy class, although none of them have any money. If Nene said "she is the Jones'" thank god I have no desire to take after the Jones. Shame what happened to A.J. but what is a family man with kids doing working at a strip club.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:45 pm | Report abuse |
  91. pam simpson

    Our hearts go out to Kandi and the children. I love Kandi on the show because she puts things into perspective. Things that are not that big of a deal, she will say so and try to ease the situation. She is a real person who struggled to make it in the music business and succeeded but does not flaunt that fact.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:43 pm | Report abuse |
  92. Nate

    How long does it take people to realize that actions have consequences? Kandi's mom had it right in the first place – she had every right to be weary of A.J. What was he even doing near a strip club in the first place? When you spend time in the underworld and with nightlife, bad things are bound to happen. It is too bad that A.J. waited too long to take responsibility for his life. Now he has made everyone else pay for it.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:40 pm | Report abuse |
  93. Real

    I understand what everyone is saying. This show has gotten more and more stupid each episode. Thug or no thug, I don't believe that anyone should lose their life due to senseless violence. There is always a chance that people will turn their lives around. I know several people who have done so! My question is what makes Kim, Cheree, and Kandi (who I absolutely love) housewives? Cheree is divorced now, Kandi is (was)engaged, and Kim is sleeping with someone elses husband!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:40 pm | Report abuse |
  94. Mike

    While it was uncomfortable for us all to watch, imagine what Kandi and her mother (not to mention family members) are feeling right now. This should not be a topic of conversation and no scrutiny should be placed on anyone. Let them grieve alone; everyone else butt out. Period.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:39 pm | Report abuse |
  95. Sarah

    I thought Kandi and AJ had broken up way before he died? So why would last night's show be so bad? They weren't gonna get married anyway.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:39 pm | Report abuse |
  96. charlie

    People will deny they act like this till they are blue in the face. We watch this, because it's like watching ourselves act in some poorly written drama we call life, and don't think for a minute that if given the chance any of us wouldn't do the exact same things... Just because this is 'real' and not 'scripted' we judge it as bad, when in reality, it's no different than any of the daytime soaps or any other primetime drivel on television these days. Programs such as this, are a larger-than-life version of ourselves...Horrified, disgusted, bemused, or amused, we still turn in faithfully and watch, and read articles, and of course, comment. I always say the follwing phrases: 1. Dirty laundry is always more interesting when it belongs to someone else, and 2. If you hang your dirty wash out for everyone to see, no doubt they will see the skidmarks on the underpants of your lives.. : )

    October 16, 2009 at 12:39 pm | Report abuse |
  97. Susan

    No one has commented on Kim's statement that she wears a wig a day and that she spends approximately $12,000 a month on wigs. HELLO? Her priorities are so out of whack. Did you see the slutty naked picture of herself in her bedroom? I remember that she says her kids eat Subway, Burger King, and other fast food seven nights a week. I don't care what she does with her own life but this woman should not be raising children!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  98. CD

    Lori, I saw the PRICETAGS in Nene's dress as well!!! You are not imagining things.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  99. Jeana

    It is a trashy show but we watch it. Of course it is staged. But, Kandi did love A.J. she is a big girl now. She can make up her own mind. Joyce could of said I love you and I wish you and A.J. great happiness. Keep her mouth shut. She is a smart talented saav;y woman and mom should love her and let her live her life. If she fails well that is on Kandi and A.J/ and mom could be there to support her in good and bad... Sheree success is because she married a basketball player and she received financial support. She had to rely on hubby to pay her bills. She did not buy that home with her own money. It was paid by her husband. And she has nooooooo clue on how to get a clothing line started. Dwight does have a fashion sense. Sheree listen to him. You have no clue.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
  100. boosheeone

    The Real Housewives of Atlanta is the first reality show that I have watched. While at times the show is very interesting, I find my self asking questions like...... Why is Kim on the show, she's a "mistress" not a house wife? She has set the women's movement back 100 years. She sets a bad example for her daughters, by painting a picture that it's ok to sleep with married men. I mean this women is obviously delusional. Looking for an engagement from a married man. I mean come on, this is America, you are allowed to have only one spouse, and the wedding band comes AFTER the wedding. I'm not sure what she sees when she looks into the mirror, but it's not beauty honey. That wig, that make up, those enhanced lips, and those ridiculous breasts. Poor Thing.

    And Sheree.....don't get me started. Are you doing a clothing line to show Lisa up or are you doing a clothing line for yourself? "Your opening line is, "People are Jealous of my success". That success would be??????

    The only real true people on this show are Kandi, Lisa and NeNe.

    I must say that I truly understand where Kandi's mom was coming from. Anyone who is a parent should understand where she was coming from. Parents tend to want the best for the children, while AJ wasn't a bad person, Kandi's mom, felt that her daughter could do much better and deserved much better. So there is no fault in that.

    I love the LOVE that Lisa has for her husband Ed. They are a happy couple and are still very much in love and it shows. It's not rehearsed, it's not fake.

    NeNe and Greg also has a strong foundation. I got kinda miffed at Nene when she told Greg what Kim said about his financial situation. Greg replied, just like a strong man should. He said, "I don't care what Kim says about me", and advised Nene not to confront her. But of course Nene did, because she has such a strong personality. Next time listen to your husband Nene, because you all have a strong foundation, and Kim wishes she could have what you and Greg have.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:33 pm | Report abuse |
  101. Suzanne

    REAL housewives? of ATLANTA? More like faked out women of the Atlanta suburbs. This show is so fake, just like most of these women. Get rid of Kim – she has nothing interesting to share. Fake hair, fake lips, and who knows what else. She's a nasty, conceited, smoking, shallow, money-wasting hillbilly. What a ridiculous show with a bunch of ridiculous, staged, boring stories.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:33 pm | Report abuse |
  102. Craven Moorehead

    This show is a tragedy. Can people really enjoy watching a bunch of over indulged, do-nothing housewives? What is so fascinating about women whos' only goal is to own evrey high end item they can get their hands on. One girl wants to be a singer. Have you heard her? What passes for entertainment is downright scary. Another "look at me show". I guess money can make up for clas these days.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:32 pm | Report abuse |
  103. Canopy

    I used to wonder why my grandmother called TV the "idiot box" and now I firmly see why...this is complete BS being dressed as entertainment. The money used to produce this crap should be put towards helping the homeless people in ATL.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:31 pm | Report abuse |
  104. Carol

    I personally vote for the NJ group, they are real people. NeNe is awesome, don't like Kim much because of her situation. Wigs, who buys wigs anymore. Love the rest of the cast.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:31 pm | Report abuse |
  105. Tam

    Why is this still on the air? It is amazing at how rehearsed this show is and still holds the attention of viewers.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:29 pm | Report abuse |
  106. LoveTV

    Lori, I will have to watch the episode again and look for that. Buy it, wear it, bring it back!!!! They are soooo broke.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:28 pm | Report abuse |
  107. Brenda

    Drop Kim , NeNe & Dwight. Bring back DeShawn & Kandi. They have class and don't think they are all that. DeShawn & Kandi do actually have money and class. NeNe is Ghetto!!!! She needs to go back to Athens and crawl in a hole. Anyone that lives in Athens should be offended by her judgement of Athens. Kim should be arrested for prostitution. She admitted that sometimes it is hard in school for her girls. DUH!! Where is children services. When a child says I will see you at 4:00 am and she says maybe later. Where is her Ex-husband. He should take the girls away from her A.S.A.P.!!!!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:28 pm | Report abuse |
  108. Connie

    Bravo – please,please,please get this trash off of television!!! I feel horrible for Kandi but the best thing she could do for herself and her family is to take herself off the show. The other women – you are all losers!!!! I hope Atlanta society bans you!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:26 pm | Report abuse |
  109. Luz

    I agree, it was heart breaking to watch AJ so happy and full of life. My sincere and deepest condolences to his family and friends.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:25 pm | Report abuse |
  110. tuby

    I say put some wise cracking latinas from Miami and then you'll have lots of entertainment

    October 16, 2009 at 12:23 pm | Report abuse |
  111. jacqueline

    This is to address the comments of Debra R and America Pie-

    How dare you judge these people and their life style! How dare you lable them as thugs!!! What have you based your information on??? This is the problem in the world today...people like you who sit on your high horse and look down on the rest of the world and believe that you are qualified to judge and slander as you see fit!!!!! I agree, the show is a joke but a HUMAM BEING HAS LOST HIS LIFE!!!! This could have happened to anyone no matter the situation. His business partner killed him in a fight, the business happened to be a strip club...so what!!!!! The nature of the business is not important...we should be lifting up our fellow man and not kicking him when he is down! This could have been either of you!!!!!We never know the hand that life is going to deal us, we should love more that we hate. Your comments are hurtful and heartless, I pray that when the time comes for you have to grieve the loss of someone you love or someone close to you (and the time will come), you remember the harsh words you used on this day. Remember...you have a choice, you can always change the chanel!!!!!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:21 pm | Report abuse |
  112. phyllis

    Wow, what happen. Some of the comments are so cold. A life is a life no less and its just as valuable to his family and friends as your is your family and friends. Try having a little empathy.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:21 pm | Report abuse |
  113. Love Live Life

    It's amazing. These women are no different than the women of OC, NY or NJ and yet, they're being judged upon completely different standards. It's nice to see racism rearing its ugly head.

    That aside, it was particularly difficult for me to watch last night's episode but I guess the show must go on. The lesson in the recent turn of events this season in Kandi's life should not be lost on any of us. Treasure life and each other, especially your family because tomorrow is not promised. It's just that simple.

    Also, this show needs to spice up its drama before it heads for the chopping block.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:20 pm | Report abuse |
  114. Jennifer

    I was more sad at the face Ne Ne met a man who could be father after how many years? I think she needs to talk and get to know him, make a connection. I'm sorry for the lose of AJ and the pain Kandy has to endure, wasn't her Mom kind of right? He may not have been the type of man who would have made a great husband or step-father to Kandy's daughter.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:18 pm | Report abuse |
  115. Shirley

    I forgot to include: NeNe is just too Ghetto for me. Nene has the nerve to call Kandi Ghetto, but everytime I hear Nene it's like ugh. Why do you have to be so loud, be a lady for goodness sake. Kim is nothing but total FAKE. She actually admitted to spending $430 on hair pieces EVERYDAY. Does she not have hair of her own? Sheree, it took a while before Coco Chanel became known, it took a while before anyone knew who Versace or Ralph Lauren were. So do you think in one shoot people are going to pay all that money on "She by Sheree" because you are on a REALITY show? Ummm, I don't think so. Besides Coco was a seamstress, who did in hands on, you are trying to bank off of someone elses talent.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:16 pm | Report abuse |
  116. Randy Holder

    I'm stunned that you people watch this crap. You all SEEM relatively intelligent and the only thing more puzzling is why CNN wastes any kilobytes at all on it.

    This is the kinda junk that makes me wonder if the First Amendment should be guaranteed for everyone. If you're going to squander that right with brain numbing visual poison, maybe the individual should have to get the equivalent of a press pass to prove they do have an IQ that can surpass that of a house pet.

    ...and the scariest part is that there's not just one of these bilious shows...there are two spin offs!!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:14 pm | Report abuse |
  117. rcs

    I am truly sorry for the passing of AJ Jewell. But, doesn't this mean Miss Joyce was right?

    October 16, 2009 at 12:14 pm | Report abuse |
  118. Lisa

    Sheree is a big loser. So full of herself and nothing to hang her hat on. She ought to be ashamed of herself.
    RIP AJ. Very sad.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:12 pm | Report abuse |
  119. Shirley

    It was sad to watch this episode knowing what we know. I understand Kandi's mom wanting to protect her child, what REAL MOTHER wouldn't do that but there comes a time when you have to let go and when her daughter became engaged to AJ her mom should've just express her concerns and then let Kandi make the final decision on what she wanted to do. Now her mom probably feels just as bad or even worse then her daughter because watching the episode last night to hear AJ ask Kandi's mom to make a toast for her own daughter and then there was awkard silence was heartbreaking.

    RIP AJ.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:11 pm | Report abuse |
  120. cd

    who cares that Nene even has a daddy? I was dreading every time they cut away to Athens, as she is a bigger bore than Kim and Lisa.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:08 pm | Report abuse |
  121. DP

    This show has got to be one of the worst ever, you have a bunch of no class black women acting like they are true friends, and every time you watch the show they are talking about each other like pigs, Kandi is the only true and real woman on that show. Kim you looking somebody beat your ass with your own wig, you are teaching your girls that it's cool to sleep with a married man as long as he buys you gifts. NeNe you have no class, you brings your drama to every event, please stay home and use your weighroom, it's calling ya. Sheree, get a grip of your own business and stop letting that fool Dwight steal your shine,get a clue and fast ( I have to ask ) Is your best friend single, she's hot :-) As for Lisa, stopping hanging on to NeNe and go make babies, the couple thing is working for you and your husband.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:07 pm | Report abuse |
  122. iluvtv

    I didn't watch last year so I don't know if the ladies seem genuine or not. I don't think Ms. Joyce said anything wrong. Its just like she said...its hard to watch your child get hit by a truck(analogy) and not do anything about it. She did nothing to bring about Aj's untimely death and I am sure Kandi could have stopped her mother from appearing on the show if she didn't want this problem to be known. I am a stepmother and trust me when I tell you Ms. Joyce's concerns were valid. Blended families are extremely difficult and I couldn't imagine trying to deal with more than child's mother let alone four. If I were to criticize Ms. Joyce it would only be for refusing to take the group picture at the photo shoot. Kandi didn't deserve the embarassment and AJ didn't deserve the snub. We can disagree with our grown children's decisions but it is never ok to mistreat anyone.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:07 pm | Report abuse |
  123. KO4L

    "American Pie" and "Debra R", sorry to burst the little "thug life" bubble that you are portraying as the life of AJ, but that was not the case with him. AJ, though many may not know it, was a sucessful black businessman in the Atlanta area. The fight ensued over a misunderstanding, an arguement, a disagreement- I'm sure you two either have been involved in the same or have witnessed the same in your "American" lives. Also, let's not forget the fact that this was a human life, regardless of the lifestyle they lived. When people begin justifying death by associating it with a particular lifestyle they miss the message...they miss the point. Instead of judging people by the lifestyle they live and alienating them, we need to come together as a people and fight to help change the lives of not only those who are lead astray in the African American Community, but also in the world (i.e. sex scandals, hidden drug abuse, stealing money from retired patrons of our society, portraying to be war vets, mom's smoking weed and driving drunk out of frustration with their "sucessful" husbands and disobidient children). It really kills me when people talk but don't have accurate information. Damn!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:06 pm | Report abuse |
  124. kj

    Christina NYC is boring and NJ is okay..sometimes we are tired of looking at rich snowflakes and want to see minorities because we have money too......ATL has the highest ratings of all of them duh that tells you something. Orange is back in 3 weeks and it is #2 on my list.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:03 pm | Report abuse |
  125. stephanie price

    i love Atlanta Housewives, yes their are a couple with personalities that would definitely make me not want to associate with them, but this is tv. i totally disagree that we should chalk someones death up to "o well another one bites the dust, u reap what you sow" Come on this was a human being we are talking about, he was someones son, someones brother, someones friend, and someones father, he did not deserve that. I truly feel sorry for Kandi, i understand how she was in the middle of something that really should not have been an issue, she is grown, and i totally agree with the counselor. keep ya head up kandi and shout out to all the Atlanta housewives

    October 16, 2009 at 12:03 pm | Report abuse |
  126. kj

    Personally I can see Joyce's side...you have a daughter with either no kids or just 1 and she finds a man with 6 and wait not just 1 or 2 baby mamas but, 4. I would have ran if a man had more than 2 so really you have to be carefuly when having kids. It is not cute or smart to have several and with different women/men. It was sad for me to watch him alive and no know he is gone but, that life (thug) is not a happy path to go down. Even though they were off when he passed Kandi still loved him and maybe even married him later on. I can see her wanting her mom's blessing you should because mothers always know best.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:02 pm | Report abuse |
  127. James M

    I am sooo addicted to the Real Housewives of Atlanta. The other RHW shows are a bore and do not hold a candle to Atlanta. It is just very sad about AJ and the relationship that he had with Joyce. I am sure she is full of regrets but also feels a since of relief that since Kandi and AJ were not married yet that Kandi is not Stuck supporting his 6 children. Horrible either way. Prayers and thoughts go out to them.

    PS: Please bring them all back for a 3rd season ASAP> I am already in withdrawls.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:01 pm | Report abuse |
  128. BLC

    It just highlights what these shows are all about - nothing important.

    October 16, 2009 at 12:01 pm | Report abuse |
  129. tom

    every society gets the entertainment they deserve!

    October 16, 2009 at 12:00 pm | Report abuse |
  130. xoxo

    The show is tooo Ghetto for me to watch

    October 16, 2009 at 11:56 am | Report abuse |
  131. Lori

    This was an awkward episode. I feel horrible for Kandi and AJ's family...

    Side note, when Nene was visiting her Aunt Nell, I could swear I was able to see visible pricetags peeking through the sheer of her dress (back shoulder area).... Did anyone else catch that?? Am I imagining things?

    October 16, 2009 at 11:55 am | Report abuse |
  132. JR

    All of these shoes are so incredibly boring – when will they be put out of their misery? I just wasted 60 seconds of my time writing a comment about a worthless series of shows. It shows you how broign my life is and these idiotic shows still are 10 times worse.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:54 am | Report abuse |
  133. Ralph

    I actually live down the street from the "Tap." (AJs club). What a place. Stuff happens there all the time. It's a seriously nasty strip club, so what can you expect? AJ's death was unfortunate not just because he left behind several kids, but because he let his manhood get in the way of common sense. The whole thing never should've happened. Much credit to Joyce for trying to keep her daughter out of that mess.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:53 am | Report abuse |
  134. Katie

    Bravo should have just stuck to the OC series. That was the only one I can honestly say has been entertaining. I could never get into NYC, the Jersey housewives acted like they were in high school, and the Atlanta series is about as interesting as watching paint dry. If Bravo wants to keep expanding the show, I hope they find more dynamic women to feature.

    As for the whole Kandi and AJ thing, I think (as the writer of this article said) it highlights how trivial and self-centered most of these woman are. Instead of cherishing their relationships with each other and their families, they're more interested in back-stabbing each other and trying to make more money than they could possibly need.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:52 am | Report abuse |
  135. Rachel

    This is one of the worst shows on tv. These women are all trashy. If this is the example of Atlanta women then real southern women of atlanta must be embarrased to admit thats where they are from.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:51 am | Report abuse |
  136. tina

    I just want to say to Kandi that we are all so sorry for her loss and to his children who will miss him dearly. I also would like to say that I felt that Kandi's mom was very selfish to only think of how she felt about A.J and not how he made her daughter and grandaughter feel. I just wonder how she can look Kandi in the face now that she has loss the man she loved knowing that she made his life so difficult. She should feel really bad that she made him so uncomfortable and now he is gone. It's just a sad situation.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:51 am | Report abuse |
  137. margalitza

    Couldn't you find something better to write about? The man died outside a strip club, what is so tragic about that? They weren't even engaged at the time... Who cares? He should've been home with anyone of his six kids...

    October 16, 2009 at 11:49 am | Report abuse |
  138. Kat79

    This show got me hooked on reality TV, probably because it is so NOT real! Kim staring at herself in the mirror stating how good she looks is a JOKE! OMG, she has FAKE HAIR, BOTOXED LIPS, FAKE BOOBS, AND MORE MAKEUP ON THAN ANY NORMAL WOMAN WEARS IN A MONTH!!!! Where does she get the NOTION that she looks soooooo GOOD????? Maybe only on reality TV, here in the real world she is RIDICULOUS. And SHEREE! OMG, she is probably the most conceited woman in the world! SHE HAS FAKE HAIR, TOO, AND GAWD ONLY KNOWS WHAT ELSE! LOVE, LOVE, LOVE DWIGHT!!! And NeNe tells it like it is! Wish she would snatch Sheree's WEAVE, I'd die laughing!

    October 16, 2009 at 11:47 am | Report abuse |
  139. Candace

    Well, I used to love it but now it is out of control...Yes it is sad that AJ gone and I am it don't matter how he left. He still had family and friends that loved him. I too believe Kandi was the only real one on the show. I believe everyone puts on for the camera...One thing I can say, when do these women have time for their families. I might see one or two, who are involved in their family lives and the others are worried about everybody else...

    October 16, 2009 at 11:45 am | Report abuse |
  140. lwise

    I wonder why anyone who has commented negatively watches this show. Please tune out and spare us your negativity. Especially YOU American Pie. You don't know what the heck you're talking about. Everyone that gets in a fight is not a thug. He got into a fight with a business partner. Not the first, not the last and certainly not in a gang. You're just spewing a bunch of ridiculous rhetoric about things of which you know NOTHING.

    I agree with the writer- it was sad to watch AJ. It was even more sad seeing Kandi's mom be A MOM. She wants whats best for her daughter and grand daughter. We know that Kandi and AJ broke up before the season was over so I don't get too sad over it, nor do I get mad at her mom. A good mother will not stand by in silence and watch her child self destruct in a relationship. Just my opinion.

    I also feel the rest of the show paled in comparision. Kim's story is BORING. She is not cute. She looks like the beverly hill billies. Can't shake that look no matter how much money she spends on herself.

    Nene's story about her father is the ONE interesting part of her life to me. The rest of the time, she is a backstabbing heffa. I can't imagine someone who would take a secret like that to the grave but her mother did. I know someone else like that so its familiar and interesting.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:41 am | Report abuse |
  141. Anonymous

    Anon@1130–

    NeNe is also an author now.

    I was shocked to hear about AJ's sudden passing. He acted like he genuinely cared about Kandi, although when she told him she was thinking about going back on stage he didn't seem all that excited. It seemed to me that he kinda downplayed it a little bit.

    Ms. Joyce has a right to be concerned about her daughter. Mother's have that 'feeling' when a situation isn't right. I know if my daughter was engaged to a man with 6 children, I would be concerned too becauase once you marry him, you become ONE and if one of his children's mother took him to court for an increase in child support, depending on the jurisdiction, it is most likely that Kandi would get caught up in it because she would've been his wife and they would have one income. Judges and the law is so FUNNY now a days. Look at Halle Berry; David Justice divorced her and she had to pay alimony; Eric Benet cheats on her and he requested alimony; Whitney Houston divorced Bobby Brown and he gets NO spousal support; being as though she initiated the proceedings and Bobby has no income, in some states, she would've had to pay him spousal support to live the lifestyle that he's becomed accustomed. I say that to say that a lot of things come into play and I can understand Ms. Joyce looking out for her baby girls' best interest.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:41 am | Report abuse |
  142. Anonymous

    As a mother, I can understand Ms. Joyce's apprehension, but I would've suggested to Kandi that she and I talk to her lawyers about my concerns about Kandi and her money being safe and then worked it out from there.

    I hope that NeNe comes out of all the stresses she is going thru, with writing a book and facing certain things that she has buried and has to come to terms with, and not to mention Kim acting like she did by cutting her out of the song after NeNe went to her to mend the friendship and expressed how she wanted to remain friends and was willing to work at it.

    Kim is just an old looking person who has issues that she needs to attend to STAT, like why she is upset that she isn't getting a committment from a MARRIED man, and what kind of example is she setting for her daughters??? NO MORALS AND NO DURN COMMON SENSE!!!

    Sheree, as well as Kim needs to just VANISH; 'People are jealous of my success' she says. Well BESIDES trying to get your fashion line shown for the past two years, exactly what is it that this female does AGAIN??? NeNe has a foundation, Lisa has SEVERAL businesses (real estate, jewelry, Closet Freak) , Kandi is a singer, songwriter AND music producer. Kim is a professional trick and Sheree??? My point exactly.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:30 am | Report abuse |
  143. char

    I have watched the show from the beginning and I really agree with most of what is being said. This a very sad show about people with issues that should not be on tv. The children of these people are being exploited for monetary gain. And the parents ought to be ashame of themselves. And I agree Kim needs a reality check. And her kids taken away. Where is the father of these girls? Ms Joyce should not have openly voiced her opinions. It is not her life and everybody makes at least one love mistake. It is expected. Ms Joyce as a mother myself I have empathy for the whole situation but you should not have put your daughter through this on Tv period.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:27 am | Report abuse |
  144. Kelsey

    Kandi's is the only real person on the show–the rest need to go off in the sunset somewhere. And Kandi's mother is a nightmare. She has no business trying to make Kandi's life as miserable as she can. She is jealous of her daughter and does all she can to make her unhappy. Kandi needs to break free from her and not allow her in her life the way she wants to get in it.

    Now Kandi is going to have a memory of AJ and how he did nothing to warrant the bad treatment from her mother during his last days on earth.

    And why did Kim invite her mother to the engagement party when she knew full well that Kandi's mother would only ruin it. They need to shut down Atlanta housewives. They are disgusting. Or keep Kandi and throw the rest out and get some real women on there.

    Heck turn it over to the gay guys of Atlanta–they are more interestng.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:23 am | Report abuse |
  145. Debra R

    Why is it sad that another fool lost his life outside a strip club? Act like a thug, die like a thug...sounds like a case of reaping what you sow...too bad bravo is trying to make this lifestyle look normal....

    October 16, 2009 at 11:14 am | Report abuse |
  146. Belkiss

    One word BORING!!!!

    October 16, 2009 at 11:11 am | Report abuse |
  147. American Pie

    I cannot understand how there can be so much sympathy for people who mingle in the undesirable, gun toting, thug lifestyle. Yeah it is sad a life was ended so senslessly. But we are beginning to act as if the thug life is becoming a normal lifestyle. And when there is a fight where someone dies,in that lifestyle, we are acting like...oh that is so sad...what a minute! What about saying, "Hey, we need to put a stop to gangs, and thugs?" So that this sensless killings can stop. I refuse to feel pity for people who act as if the thug lifestyle is an acceptable lifestyle and that the deaths caused by stray drive-by shootings, and bar fights, is a sad "normal" thing. Stop acting like a thug, stop living like a thug, and stop hanging with the thugs, and these things would not happen. It is not a lifestyle. It is organized crime. And when you participate in organize crime, you set yourself up for things like this happening. Rap stars make it big, and instead of getting out of the ghetto, they continue living like they are modern day mafia men. They are a bad example for our children. ANd rappinga bout the thug lifestyle is just glorifying horrible acts like this mans death. It is unacceptable, and predictable for those type of people.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:07 am | Report abuse |
  148. A

    I have zero clue why this show is even on. Each and every "cast" member should truly be embarassed that they are on national television looking like complete self serving idiots.

    October 16, 2009 at 11:03 am | Report abuse |
  149. Clarkey

    I thought it was sad. I wish Kandi's Mom would have given AJ half a chance. Bet she feels bad now. My heart goes out to Kandi, I love her, she is the best on the show. I hope NeNe makes peace with this man who may be her real father. Sheree is SICKENING. I love Lisa & Ed. Kim NEEDS TO GO AWAY. She sat in front of the mirror saying how good looking she is. NOT. I feel sorry for her children for having her as a Mom, where is their father, does he have a clue to what Kim is exposing them to.........Get rid of her, Please

    October 16, 2009 at 11:02 am | Report abuse |
  150. Helen

    "Real Housewives" is a joke I am no longer interested in laughing to. The show has "lost" something. It is so rehearse and not genuine any longer. Sheree is going to get her lines out if it "kills" her.

    Dwight, NeNe, Kim and Lisa have nothing going on in their world but yet they want us to tune in to watch them. All of them are BROKE financially. Deshawn from last season is the only one with money, unfortunately she was too boring for BRAVO only. Not me.

    The guy with the heels and purse it making his 15 minutes last for 60. He is a joke b/c he already said in a interview that bravo called him and said get over to Kim's. and he did.

    Bravo is attempting to make reality out of a group of woman and men and others that don't really know each other.

    Ed needs to let it go. Ne-Ne needs to see a dentist and replace that missing tooth. Lisa please stop faking it. And Keith Sweat got it right not to let his children be apart of this fisacal. I guess he saw what happen to Whitney/Bobby.

    Kandi is okay with me, but the child can drop a tear on que.

    AJ rest in peace and Joyce hold your head up. You did nor said anything wrong. Bravo edited the footage to create this drama around you.

    October 16, 2009 at 10:52 am | Report abuse |
  151. Maria H

    I think it's a poor example for all. The family arrangement in America already has enough problems without parading this sort of behavior as normal or acceptable. The Roman Empire fell once the family disintegrated...

    October 16, 2009 at 10:50 am | Report abuse |
  152. kIKISHAUN

    You are right. How sad it was to watch such a heart felt episode knowing that AJ's time would be cut short. I often thought about how difficult it must be for Kandi as she has had to deal with having two people she love very much alive on the television show and died during the same week. Her uncle and AJ. May God be with her sweet loving heart.

    October 16, 2009 at 10:50 am | Report abuse |
  153. Christina S

    I think its tragic what happened to A.J. – but this show was last night and has been all season – a snooze fest. Let's end the Atlanta faction of the Real Housewives! Bring back the NYC and Jersey!

    October 16, 2009 at 10:44 am | Report abuse |

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